tivta:
Hmmm. You are shaking a very big table my wife, very big table.

I am only giving words to a Behavior that’s prevalent.

QueenSekxy:

Go and die.
Yes, I said it.

That girl is fooling herself.

How this one come take be topic again?

MissRaine69:

I am only giving words to a Behavior that’s prevalent.

The unfortunate thing is that those guilty of this will never accept that they are wrong.

MissRaine69:

You still have not explained to me why a guy feels obligated or mandated to give a woman transport money. You argue it’s some sort of poverty alleviation scheme but is that not enabling the situation more?

The issue you raised might appear trivial on the surface, but it has deeper roots which governs/controls our everyday life. In a way, the practice of giving transport fare to ladies clearly reveals the patriarchal structure of our society that massages male ego to a fault. Yes, we have been culturally socialised to view the opposite sex as weaklings that deserve to be protected. Therefore, the giving of fare holds dual advantage for both male and female. If a man must be the head, both in marriage and in relationship, then he needs to assert his authority more strongly in the area of finance.

However, the democratisation of the worforce in Nigeria has seen a large number of ladies attain appreciable level of financial independency. I don't have problem with ladies who accept our prevailing ethos that distributes roles in a manner that appears seemingly unjust. It is the brazen double standard of our sisters who embrace the glib and empty campaign of feminism which, at its core, advocates complete equality of sexes, and at the same time demand to be given the privellges that are naturally attached to womanhood. To be a feminist is a be gender-blind, no privellges.

MissRaine69:

I am only giving words to a Behavior that’s prevalent.

all girls want something in return some it's transport fare others it's shopping, iPhone, rent etc. or is yours absolutely free?

MissRaine69:


Comprehension is one of those things that is not widespread on this forum especially the last two years or so it’s been painfully scarce. What’s stopping her from declining that money? Or is it just about money that annihilates all rationale?

My comment is based on your first post. Why should you give her transport money? That's a question that can have several answers.... the reason why questions were asked in my comment.
What's stopping her from declining that money? Did she ask for it?... you didn't say. If she did... tell me why she should decline it? If she didn't ask... but needed it... why should she decline it? If she didn't ask.... but wanted it.. why should she decline it?
There is not enough information in your post for anyone to come to a rational conclusion.

Sighs, here we go again. You people on NL are obsessed with feminists. What the hell has someone’s personal choice of giving and receiving taxi fare got to do with feminism?!! It’s a free world if you are a girl and you want or you don’t want taxi fare, your choice. If you are a dude and you want to pay or not pay for taxi fare, again your choice!

mrblessed:
Watch as nairaland's prententious feminists swiftly abandon their hollow and facade claim to an ideology they barely understood, for a defence of their source of livelihood. Imagine the vain, cringe-worthy, fury-laden, and knee-jerk reaction of a damsel who feels threaten about the possibility of endangering her sole source of survive.

But miss Op, don't you know that the first law of nature is geared towards self-preservation or survival? A lot of our sisters here are what is called "Situational Feminists"; that is, a disposition whereby the topic at hand determines their approach and position. And we just can't loving them for who they are. At best, erotic relationship in Nigeria is a stone-cold transaction, and at worst, a grandiose poverty alleviation scheme.

classicdessy:
I assume all of them as olosho a girl am meeting for the first time asking me money to make her hair and insisting I gave her the money and na me go meet her o mean while its barely three days we started talking over the phone I fear girls of our generation

Since you know she's an olosho cos she asked for tp fare or whatever, what does that make you for sleeping with her? A BROLOSHO, yes?

All this talk about the person who receives the money? What about the person who offers the money? Does prostitution magically happen by itself?

mrblessed:
Watch as nairaland's prententious feminists swiftly abandon their hollow and facade claim to an ideology they barely understood, for a defence of their source of livelihood. Imagine the vain, cringe-worthy, fury-laden, and knee-jerk reaction of a damsel who feels threaten about the possibility of endangering her sole source of survive.

But miss Op, don't you know that the first law of nature is geared towards self-preservation or survival? A lot of our sisters here are what is called "Situational Feminists"; that is, a disposition whereby the topic at hand determines their approach and position. And we just can't loving them for who they are. At best, erotic relationship in Nigeria is a stone-cold transaction, and at worst, a grandiose poverty alleviation scheme.

I would like to know where feminist is mentioned here, also, with all your grammar, if you're this pained because of the money you give ladies since it is a transactional relationship, I want to ask, were you held at gun point to part with your money? Was your mouth padlocked preventing you from saying NO? If you put your money back into your pocket, will you die? According to the thread, how is giving transport fare a poverty alleviation scheme?

OP, maybe because he is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants to do.

PUSSYHOE:
all girls want something in return some it's transport fare others it's shopping, iPhone, rent etc. or is yours absolutely free?

If it’s paid for then that relegates me to the very realm I am exploring.
Let me direct your mindset to a certain woman that does exist you might never come across this type in your lifetime maybe in the next one if the fates choose to be kind to you. I want for nothing. I don’t demand or expect any monetary rewards or “gifts” for my sexual prowess. If and when gifts are given it’s because that person wants to not because I expect it or demand it.
Does that answer your question?

Thank you!!

Fountainofyouth:



I would like to know where feminist is mentioned here, also, with all your grammar, if you're this pained because of the money you give ladies since it is a transactional relationship, I want to ask, were you held at gun point to part with your money? Was your mouth padlocked preventing you from saying NO? If you put your money back into your pocket, will you die? According to the thread, how is giving transport fare a poverty alleviation scheme?

liberalchick:
OP, maybe because he is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants to do.

So why are YOU angry?

Originalsly:


My comment is based on your first post. Why should you give her transport money? That's a question that can have several answers.... the reason why questions were asked in my comment.
What's stopping her from declining that money? Did she ask for it?... you didn't say. If she did... tell me why she should decline it? If she didn't ask... but needed it... why should she decline it? If she didn't ask.... but wanted it.. why should she decline it?
There is not enough information in your post for anyone to come to a rational conclusion.

A perfect and apt question, they blame the lady instead of blaming the man for giving.....

Says the person typing in caps. You asked a question, I answered. He is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants.

MissRaine69:

So why are YOU angry?

iRepNaija1:
All this talk about the person who receives the money? What about the person who offers the money? Does prostitution magically happen by itself?

I will address that later, however if you have a few minutes to spare to rustle up a post you have my full permission. Looking forward to commenting on it.

liberalchick:
Says the person typing in caps. You asked a question, I answered. He is a grown man and he can do whatever the hell he wants.

It’s for emphasis sake and why would I be perturbed? And to your response, Part of the Crew, Part of the Ship.

Originalsly:


My comment is based on your first post. Why should you give her transport money? That's a question that can have several answers.... the reason why questions were asked in my comment.
What's stopping her from declining that money? Did she ask for it?... you didn't say. If she did... tell me why she should decline it? If she didn't ask... but needed it... why should she decline it? If she didn't ask.... but wanted it.. why should she decline it?
There is not enough information in your post for anyone to come to a rational conclusion.

Being defensive does not negate the connotations of the action and what it alludes to.

mrblessed:
The issue you raised might appear trivial on the surface, but it has deeper roots which governs/controls our everyday life. In a way, the practice of giving transport fare to ladies clearly reveals the patriarchal structure of our society that massages male ego to a fault. Yes, we have been culturally socialised to view the opposite sex as weaklings that deserve to be protected. Therefore, the giving of fare holds dual advantage for both male and female. If a man must be the head, both in marriage and in relationship, then he needs to assert his authority more strongly in the area of finance.

However, the democratisation of the worforce in Nigeria has seen a large number of ladies attain appreciable level of financial independency. I don't have problem with ladies who accept our prevailing ethos that distributes roles in a manner that appears seemingly unjust. It is the brazen double standard of our sisters who embrace the glib and empty campaign of feminism which, at its core, advocates complete equality of sexes, and at the same time demand to be given the privellges that are naturally attached to womanhood. To be a feminist is a be gender-blind, no privellges.

With all you typed, you still didn't give a reasonable answer to the question, you coined your way around and arrived at feminism, you just couldn't hide your disdain and bile for feminists, the fact that it is eating you up deeply is really nice.

Jacqueline22:


My sister I Dey your back

...

Please let's start being honest with ourselves, what will it benefit you if you know, what is your problem if a girl asks for T.fare, is it your money he will give her or what?, habaa

MissRaine69:

It’s for emphasis sake and why would I be perturbed? And to your response, Part of the Crew, Part of the Ship.

Good, so do not make it a "women only" thing.

O well good for you! Do you want a cookie? Not all women have the privilege to be blessed with your exceptional qualities. Why don't you continue in your virtuous ways and let us unworthy women live our sinful ways in peace.

MissRaine69:

If it’s paid for then that relegates me to the very realm I am exploring.
Let me direct your mindset to a certain woman that does exist you might never come across this type in your lifetime maybe in the next one if the fates choose to be kind to you. I want for nothing. I don’t demand or expect any monetary rewards or “gifts” for my sexual prowess. If and when gifts are given it’s because that person wants to not because I expect it or demand it.
Does that answer your question?

MissRaine69:


Being defensive does not negate the connotations of the action and what it alludes to.

Defensive of what? And how would one know what the action alludes to without knowing the circumstances? I repeat.... one cannot come to a rational conclusion with the information posted. Indeed.... comprehension is really on the decline.

The same matter everyday... No other question about man and woman


una no dey tire....

doitforyou:
O well good for you! Do you want a cookie? Not all women have the privilege to be blessed with your exceptional qualities. Why don't you continue in your virtuous ways and let us unworthy women live our sinful ways in peace.

If the shoe fits.....

This topic has been flogged, overflogged and triple flogged, and the answer stays the same, if a lady ask you for money for t-fare or whatever and you don't want to give her, don't fvcking give her, it's not by force, learn how to say no, if you still can't, practise saying NO continuously in front of a mirror till you get used to it, keep your dough and spend it on yourself and family, simple as that.

Originalsly:


Defensive of what? And how would one know what the action alludes to without knowing the circumstances? I repeat.... one cannot come to a rational conclusion with the information posted. Indeed.... comprehension is really on the decline.

If it does not apply to you why does it bother you so much? The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

It's the guys that encourage it. When they want her to come and scratch their itch and she says she doesn't have tfare, they give her. Now it has become her right

If she doesn't have money, she should sit down at home till she has.

ImaIma1:
It's the guys that encourage it. When they want her to come and scratch their itch and she says she doesn't have tfare, they give her. Now it has become her right

If she doesn't have money, she should sit down at home till she has.

The elegance of honesty needs no adornment.

MissRaine69:


If it does not apply to you why does it bother you so much? The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

Isn't your topic up for public discussion?....or only who it applies to? Whether it bothers me or not shouldn't be your concern.

When you can't deal with the message.... attack the messenger.

Whatever be your agenda... good luck.