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Food › Re: Is It Safe To Place Your Gas Cylynder In The Kitchen by Missymassy: 5:44am On May 23, 2016

For those whonplace gas cylinders outside, How do you protect it from the heat of the sun and from rain as well? Is it safe to cover it up while it is outside and if yes, with what kind of materials please?

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Celebrities › Re: Teebillz Marriage Crisis: 18 Shocking Revelations Made By Tiwa Savage by Missymassy: 9:44am On Apr 30, 2016

Talking about her No 14 accusation, I forsee another trail øf events next week captioned: "Annie Idibia Storms Tiwa's house to accuse her of sleeping with Tuface". Lol.

Family › Re: He Wants More Children by Missymassy: 6:49am On Jan 26, 2016

Nubian113:
Wow so how do you feel... Please tell me more. Loved reading this you made me giggle, sorry

My dear it's not funny oh. Most people here saying they don't want more than two kids; I hope they will be saying the same by the time they end up having two girls or two boys. There is always that desire to want what the other person has; unfortunately.

Also, I think society has placed too much pressure on couples to "balance" their families these days, which is really almost impossible when people want just two-thirds kids nowadays. Before now it was a good thing to have many kids so it was almost impossible not to have mixed sex kids. But now every one wants 2-3kids and yet want mixed sex, sheer luck I believe. True, the economy is not good but it has never been good, ask your grandparents!

My problem with having too many kids sef goes beyond money; having an extra child just changes your life forever. It is grooming a child that is more stressful. They are your responsibility for ever, even after they are married. My mum had six of us and we are her headache till date, even when most of us are married. Head ache is the sense that you have to keep checking on your kids to be sure they are fine, they are doing well, they are enjoying their marriage, etc. If your child has no meaningful source of income, he still falls back on you to help out even as a married person. So having a child is that psychological and know why this friend of yours does not want to add more problems to her life.

There is no end to parenting until you die!

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Family › Re: He Wants More Children by Missymassy: 6:44am On Jan 25, 2016

Oops! Same situation in my family except that the tables are turned. Two girls and I want another child but hubby insistsvhe is done. What is the guarantee that the next will be a boy? He also does not want to hear of gender selection. I am the one who does all the baby and child wahala anyway and i know we can afford a third child.

I've chosen to give it some time; maybe in future he may change his mind huh

We never really agreed on the number of kids before marriage-my bad! Suddenly after our first daughter, he wants two and I want four. So maybe three will be a middle ground?

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 9:38pm On Dec 30, 2015

@janvier27, thanks for your reply but why do you envy me?

@Moon child, i've added you on wassap.

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 3:20am On Dec 30, 2015

Of course you will Sir. Our parents are well cared for by us and I really wish we could have more men like you out there. It's just the fear of the future that makes me so anxious.

Health › Re: I Can't Sleep,am In Dire Need Of Help. by Missymassy: 12:06am On Dec 12, 2015

Okay Mikkie31. Thanks so much.

Literature › Re: Streets Of Terror by Missymassy: 1:29am On Dec 05, 2015

Mikkie31:
"Dele! Dele! Dele!!!" Uche's silent whispers were loud roars in my head. I could feel the entire weight of my head rested upon my neck,seeming bipartite. I could feel blood dripping down my head,with my entire body suffering from the pains afflicted by the serious beating I received. I opened my eyes rather slowly,to see Uche standing beside me with his left eye swollen like a reformed specimen. It must have taken forever for me to reminisce the entire situation, beginning from how we got there to the moment I woke,again.
"You got beaten too?" I asked,not really demanding an answer. I managed to sit up with Uche's help, he seemed twice as cooked as i was,but he didn't appear to show weakness.
"Where is Frayo?" I asked,demanding an answer this time.
"He is lying there,unmoving. I tried to wake him but he wouldn't reply." Uche replied,with tears building up at one corner of his leveled eye.
"What?" I crawled over to where Frayo laid,tapped him with heightening sensitivity,before calling out his name.
"Frayo? Frayo?" He laid still,unmoving,with his body covered with so much blood,which sprung from open cuts littered about his body, like a shredded mouse caught in a dreadful trap.
"Frayo! Frayo! It is me,am here," i called to him again with tears dropping off my eyes like fallen embers from a razing scrapper.
"Boy,he is dead," a voice spoke from outside of our cell,rather unnoticed,until he spoke again,and this time more loudly.
"Boy! He is dead I said!" The guard spoke,trying not to show sensitivity,but I could detect remorse in his voice.
"What? He can't be,he is here because of me…"
"He struggled with us while we tried to beat the rest of you. There was nothing we could do,he didn't survive our blows." He interrupted and left as quickly as he could do.
What? Frayo can't be dead,this is all a dream,am going to wake soon. My roommate would be right on his bed by the time i wake,eating his third round of breakfast. I thought to myself as I leaned on Frayo's body,reminiscing about the last few months we had spent as neighbors back in the house. With Frayo gone,everything felt more real,and I felt more alone than a nagging granny. Frayo was unselfish in his ways,though very skilled in weed making and obviously smoking,which proved a negation of his real self,especially when he was sober. I would miss his protective aptitude, now all i was left with was Uche's optimism,which reduced as minutes passed by.

Literature › Re: Streets Of Terror by Missymassy: 12:37am On Dec 05, 2015

Mikkie31:
"Dele! Dele! Dele!!!" Uche's silent whispers were loud roars in my head. I could feel the entire weight of my head rested upon my neck,seeming bipartite. I could feel blood dripping down my head,with my entire body suffering from the pains afflicted by the serious beating I received. I opened my eyes rather slowly,to see Uche standing beside me with his left eye swollen like a reformed specimen. It must have taken forever for me to reminisce the entire situation, beginning from how we got there to the moment I woke,again.
"You got beaten too?" I asked,not really demanding an answer. I managed to sit up with Uche's help, he seemed twice as cooked as i was,but he didn't appear to show weakness.
"Where is Frayo?" I asked,demanding an answer this time.
"He is lying there,unmoving. I tried to wake him but he wouldn't reply." Uche replied,with tears building up at one corner of his leveled eye.
"What?" I crawled over to where Frayo laid,tapped him with heightening sensitivity,before calling out his name.
"Frayo? Frayo?" He laid still,unmoving,with his body covered with so much blood,which sprung from open cuts littered about his body, like a shredded mouse caught in a dreadful trap.
"Frayo! Frayo! It is me,am here," i called to him again with tears dropping off my eyes like fallen embers from a razing scrapper.
"Boy,he is dead," a voice spoke from outside of our cell,rather unnoticed,until he spoke again,and this time more loudly.
"Boy! He is dead I said!" The guard spoke,trying not to show sensitivity,but I could detect remorse in his voice.
"What? He can't be,he is here because of me…"
"He struggled with us while we tried to beat the rest of you. There was nothing we could do,he didn't survive our blows." He interrupted and left as quickly as he could do.
What? Frayo can't be dead,this is all a dream,am going to wake soon. My roommate would be right on his bed by the time i wake,eating his third round of breakfast. I thought to myself as I leaned on Frayo's body,reminiscing about the last few months we had spent as neighbors back in the house. With Frayo gone,everything felt more real,and I felt more alone than a nagging granny. Frayo was unselfish in his ways,though very skilled in weed making and obviously smoking,which proved a negation of his real self,especially when he was sober. I would miss his protective aptitude, now all i was left with was Uche's optimism,which reduced as minutes passed by.

Hello Mikkie31, I sent you a post on your thread on insomnia. Please can you reply me? Thanks oh.

Health › Re: I Can't Sleep,am In Dire Need Of Help. by Missymassy: 12:30am On Dec 05, 2015

Hello Mikkie31. Have you been able to solve your sleep issues? I'm currently going through same and will love to known what you did to solve yours.

Please your urgent reply is needed.

Thanks.

Business › Re: Tony Elumelu’s Wife Delivers Two Boys by Missymassy: 8:15am On Dec 01, 2015

Pidggin:
As educated as he is, he is still breeding like a rat because of male kids. For all who are not aware, they paid for the process.

Congrats all the same.

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Sure they did but whose business, as long as they could afford it and it makes them happy! The part that makes me uncomfy is that they will go to church and do thanksgiving of how God answered their prayers after five daughters and twenty two years of marriage. Such a testimony will then encourage people who have female children to keep birthing like rats in the hope of having their own male child.

NB:there is nothing God cannot do anyway, but I strongly believe this wasn't natural.

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Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 8:35am On Nov 30, 2015

Thanks and Amen...

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 5:31pm On Nov 27, 2015

Thanks for your replies. @ Jahblessme, I think you have already summed up all my fears in your last post. I want three kids; not more than three for now. I used to think their sex will never bother me but God will bless me with at least one of each...

I think my GD started when my mum was anxious to know if I had found out my DD2s sex. So when I did find out, I told her and I didn't know how I fell into tears at that point. She began to pray for me, say how I could always have more kids, how she had always prayed for her daughters never to go through what she went through, etc. I began to feel like I had dissapointed her, imagine. Then I began to feel like I had dissapointed myself and everyone else around me and it suddenly seemed every one else wanted to know if it was a boy for me this time. I will say back to them "No, it's a girl" and then i'll begin to get all the pitiful comments.

Well, I know I am going to have one more child but I dunno if it will be naturally or via assisted conception(leaning more towards natural). I also know that I will be very prayerful about my next conception; who knows, God may give me twin boys! The question about if u will keep going on if I have another girl; I really cannot answer that one now oh. What I really hope for is the grace to carry out my next pregnancy smoothly as I don't intend to find out the sex until baby is here; hoping that will help ease tension for me all for any one else that cares to know.

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 4:19pm On Nov 22, 2015

Thanks for your reply Jahblessme. It's good to know that someone understands me. About the constant re-assurance, it's also something my mum had to do to us all the time! I don't know if I can handle an all-girl brood but I believe God knows what I can handle and will give me just that. I'm considering GS but my DH is not party to it yet and I don't want to push him into making such a decision in a haste. Also the fact that one has to try up to twice or thrice to make a head way plus the costs involved; it's all so nerve-breaking!

Having said that, now you guys have almost all left the house how do your parents now get along?

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 9:09am On Nov 17, 2015

LadyGuinivere:
Amen o!
If anything, mu sense of humour is higher now. My trust in God is absolute and total.Another positive is that I'm an unoffical doctor now.

It will end in praise

@missymassy. I don reply u. Sorry u had to chase me to the other thread

Good morning LadyGuinivere, I hope you are doing great today.

I did not get your reply oh, do I send another PM or drop my email address?

Travel › Re: USA Visit Visa Part 2 by Missymassy: 4:22pm On Nov 16, 2015

LadyGuinivere:
That descion is now between you and God o. Grace transcends any day of the week.

Hello LadyGuinivere. I sent you a PM, pls reply. Thanks and Godlbess.

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 4:06pm On Nov 16, 2015

ManchyBabe:
Hi,

The price is between $10,000 - $12,000 (excluding medication). You can give them a call or fill the enquiry form online, they will surely get back to you on the exact cost.

My doctor insisted on India because its cheaper and they offer better services, but mind you India doesn't do gender selection as its prohibited in the country.

Thanks Manchy Babe.

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 1:33pm On Nov 14, 2015

[quote author=Richard216 post=39839962]Good day Sister

My wife and I used The Bridge Clinic for bringing in our miracle child. I was suffering from a low sperm count and by the Grace of God a family friend referred us to the Clinic where we were welcomed and accepted by the staff. I know many people always complain about the prices but can you really put a price on a child, especially if your heart is set on it? I am now living one of my dreams of being a father. I cant explain how fatherhood has changed my life and contributed to the man I am today. No two cases are ever the same but I do know that they also specialise in IVF and other treatments for both males and females.

Wishing you the very best. Blessings in abundance. [/quote

Hello Richard 216, how much will a round of IVF cost at The Bridge, drugs and all inclusive?

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 4:47pm On Nov 13, 2015

ManchyBabe:
Hi,

Am sorry for the late response.

If my memory doesn't fail me the cost for the ivf was between $2,500 to $3,000 (excluding drugs), which summed up to about $1,200 *but bear in mind drugs differ for everyone*

The name of the Hospital is called (JILLA HOSPITAL) you can google it up for more information.
I was refered by my doctor who is also Indian, and I reside in the middle-east, Dubai to be precise which is just 3hrs plus to India so ticket was very very cheap (about $280 return per person).

The accommodation is inclusive in the hospital bill buttttttttt it's in the hospital compound and it's not fancy, just like a normal hosp room, thou private room with attached toilet & bathroom and electronics.

Lastly feeding in India was a nightmare as I don't like Indian meals at all, unlike my husband so I was basically on fruits and fast food.

You might need to weigh your options well, I opted for it because of my Doctors recommendation and it was quite
close.

Wishing you your BFP soonest!

Hello ManchyBabe. I gathered from your post that you reside in Dubai. I'll like to know how much you know about Fakih IVF Centre in Dubai. This is because I'm considering using them for the process next year. Why did you chose to travel to India instead?

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 7:05pm On Nov 11, 2015

Thanks all. It's just that it's not easy, you begin to wonder if something is wrong with you and why you could not mix as others.

@ Bloomingbud, your story is really interesting buy funny enough, I know of someone whom something similar happened to.

I just pray God helps me make the best decision for me and my family, Amen.

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 9:38am On Nov 11, 2015

I understand LadyG. That's why I referred her back to then other thread. I pray God grants you and all those ttc your hears desires, Amen.

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Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 8:05am On Nov 11, 2015

kk.

Health › Re: Anyone Trying IVF/IUI/ICSI (Fertility Treatments)? by Missymassy: 4:21am On Nov 11, 2015

@ Geeneva, I spoke with two clinics that are really good in IVF about sex selection; Medical Art Cente and The Bridge clinic.

Medical Art Will fly your samples abroad as the poster above said. Bridge clinic starts the process here but you have to travel to Czech republic to complete it. However, they said they are thinking of starting and completing the program here fully from January next year, so you may want to wait till then?

Since travelling is not a problem for you, you may want to consider using fakih IVF in Dubai. I think they specialize on family balancing too.

Whatever you decide, please get back to me on my other thread on GD. Thanks.

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 4:04am On Nov 11, 2015

https://mobile.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=958947250793748&id=179903408698140&refid=17

Go through that story Geeneva, it may help you make up your mind. I thought of PGD too but it's very expensive plus no assurance of a baby at the end. Where do you intend to do yours, in Nigeria or abroad?

I don't think a woman who has two girls will be criticized by her husband's family. Besides, it's your DH who wants to stop having kids, not you. Mine says if there will be any more kids, it'll be when we are in our forties. Who is ready to wait till then? They are men and can father children even in their sixties!

Barney11, you've not been replying my emails. Meanwhile my hubby's friend just had a son after two girls so any thing is possible. I guess the only problem we have now is we wanting to go on while our partners think they don't want to.

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 11:58pm On Nov 04, 2015

Thanks RolandKen.

See the time and i'm yet to sleep. I find myself fighting sleep even when it tries to come. I really must work on my mind, no matter how long it will take. Any idea of any Psychologist in Lagos I can see?

Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 6:09pm On Nov 04, 2015*

@ estheremma, thanks for your post. It's good to know I will feel better with time. I only pray for the grace to stop after my next baby, whatever the sex is. Going beyond 3/4 will mean we may not be able to give our kids the kind of education/grooming we would have loved to. What is the range of your kids' age?

@ Barney11, I hope and pray you get a boy next. All we can do is pray and have faith right?

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Health › Re: Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 6:44pm On Nov 03, 2015

@ RolandKen, I know my desire is petty but it's something i've tried to let go off which won't go away. Yes hubby wanted just two kids but I wanted four. I always used to tease him before this baby that we should have a meeting point which will be three. So definitely I want to try again for the third but never thought I will be bothered about gender until now.

If I had got both sexes a third will not be a problem as I will be ready to accept a third no matter the gender. But with the GD I went through with number two, I feel going for a third now will be more scary to my husband because he may think i'm trying again for a boy and not for a third child. I don't want him to go through GD as well as he feels okay where he is now. I believe that somehow I will cope with having a third girl, but what I even fear most now is having twin girls as we have a history of twins in my family. My mum had five girls, the last being a set of twins!

I want to give everything some time and watch my DD2 grow into her own unique being before I try again. I want to learn to love her and be ready to give her a little one again; whether male or female, before I venture again. No child deserves this and of course even if I end up with ten girls, I won't ever want any of them to know that I felt bad about having them.

In the long run, in future I know i'll be fine because my mum loves us all and never regrets having any of us. What is dificult for me to go through is now, and today, not tomorrow.

Do people ever regret the children they have/had? I will think you can only regret the children you never had...

Health › Going Through Gender Depression, Come In Here... by Missymassy(op): 12:08pm On Nov 03, 2015

Gender Depression is the worst place to be. I was never one to take anything seriously and will always laugh off what people see as serious.

My husband wanted just two kids and I thought God will bless me with one of each, as I came from an all-girl family. Needless to say I had always desired to have a male child but thought I will be fine with whichever I got.
Fast forward to my twenty week dating scan, I was expecting my 2nd daughter! Before I got in to see the sonologist, I prayed and again listed to God all the reasons I wanted a boy this time but I also told him i'll be happy with whatever sex i got. How wrong I was.

Immediately I got into the car after my scan, I broke down into uncontrollable tears. I shared my feelings with my husband and relatives and they all thought I was being over-sensitive. The remaining part of the pregnancy was hell for me. I never slept up to three straight hours at night. People-including family- never made it any easier for me. I kept getting comments like "I hope it's a boy for you this time," "Make you born the one wey go dey piss for up now, no be for down," etc. Well, I felt I will get better when I put to bed, but how wrong I was!

The feelings of depression have only trippled since then. I told my husband I need help but he thinks i'm joking about it. I want a son so badly now that it is all I think and dream of. I won't even try to get pregnant again if it is going to be another girl. I see people everywhere around me blessed with boys and wonder why mine is different. My faith has been shaken because twice I prayed and twice it seems God did not answer. People who came to visit after I have birth kept saying how the next one will be a boy. How do they know, how can I be so sure, did I even ask their opinion? Why can't people mind their business?

I know God's delay is never denial but i am so scared of the future as it is now. I dont want to end up having six girls because i want a boy, as i feel if i am able to persuade my husband to try again and we get another girl, it may unsettle my family. And yes, I love my daughters and so does my husband. My husband still insists that he is done with child-bearing but I also know it is more of his being scared of trying again and having another girl. I'm sure he will try again if he is sure we will have a boy next. Plus, he wont want me to have to go through the torture I put myself through in my last pregnancy. If i dont try again, i'll never know what plans God has for me in future.

I'll like to know if there are people on here who had ever felt this way at some point in their lives. I'll like to know if you genuinely got over it and when you did get over it. Did you find the courage to try again or not and what was the result? Comments could also come from people who already have boys and wanted a girl.

People who are blessed with both sexes can never know how lucky they are not to have gone through this sort of depression. I know that a child is a child and many are looking for even half a child to call their own and have not seen one. I appreciate their pain. But I so know ths Nigerians like to suffer inwardly and then smile in public like all is well.

Please i do not want bashings or preaching on this thread. I only need responses from mature minds. I believe this forum will help encourage and lift the spirit of women who may be going through or may have gone through something similar and could not talk to any one about it because of how our Society may frown upon discussing things like this.

However, the truth remains that gender depression is real and gender depression is a very bad place to be. May God help us get out of thus and pretty soon, Amen.

Health › Re: Doctor In The House:Obstetrics And Gynecology by Missymassy: 3:49pm On Nov 02, 2015

Good evening Dr. I have two beautiful daughters and I tried to conceive the second on ovulation day but I guess I ovulated earlier or later in that cycle since I did not use any kits or such then. Meanwhile, my husband wanted just two kids. Now, I really want to have a boy. Someone told me I can work with a gynea to make this happen. Something about the gynea monitoring me and knowing when my egg is about to burst so I can meet with my husband that day. Is this possible? If yes, what tests was she referring to and which Doctor/GYnea can I meet to help in Lagos? This is will my last baby so I don't want to take chances at all.

Family › Re: 5 Masculine Chores I Did As A Female Child. by Missymassy: 4:19pm On Oct 27, 2015

Lol. At misspicy and ingenuity2014, I did all you guys did too, coming from an all-girls home. We fetched water keg by keg sha, no power to push barrow.

The only thing I could never do was kill anything besides cockroach. Who dash me slaughtering of chicken, I can't even hold a life chicken till date; and if i see life rat na to leave that room for the rat. But my eldest sister is a pro in slaughtering things...

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Health › Re: Doctor in the House: Free Medical Advice Available by Missymassy: 9:55am On Oct 25, 2015

RedCapChief:
Hello Missmassy,
Yes, it is possible to know when you are about to ovulate. It will involve close work with your GP and serial ultrasound scans to give the best time to meet your partner. The human sperm cell is viable for between 3 - 5 days while the the ovum is only viable for 24 hrs, so there is a narrow window to ensure success if all other factors are OK.
Secondly, there are ovulation kits that indicate when a woman has ovulated. You can purchase this and learn to use them. Remember: the ovum is viable for 24hrs only, so, once it is positive, you have to meet with your partner that day. There are other methods which are less accurate but give broader windows.
Finally, without the use of pre-conception egg selection, it is almost impossible to select a Y spermatozoon (boy) or an X spermatozoon (girl). There are some methods that are advocated but it would be unethical to discuss that here.
All the best

Thanks so much Doctor. If there is any more info you are willing to share, please email me at "prodigygirl777@yahoo.com". Thanks so much.

Health › Re: Doctor in the House: Free Medical Advice Available by Missymassy: 11:05pm On Oct 24, 2015

Good evening Dr. I have two beautiful daughters and I tried to conceive the second on ovulation day but I guess I ovulated earlier or later in that cycle since I did not use any kits or such then. Meanwhile, my husband wanted just two kids. Now, I really want to have a boy. Someone told me I can work with a gynea to make this happen. Something about the gynea monitoring me and knowing when my egg is about to burst so I can meet with my husband that day. Is this possible? If yes, what tests was she referring to and which Doctor/Gynea can I meet to help in Lagos? This is will my last baby so I don't want to take chances at all.

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