₦airaland Forum

The term referred to in this write up is more figurative than literal, There's also the saying "Eze bi ngaya" (the king lives in his house). Although the Igbos understand authority there's also limit to where that functions. The king is saddled with the role of communal decision making and also acts as a spiritual leader but has no right to make rules that impact daily living. He is not worshiped but respected. The king in igboland is a call to service.

Kobojunkie:
Explain the selfishness of it to me abeg!

Refusing to have kids because of career [b]in my opinion [b] is selfish. Imagine everyone decides not to have kids, humans will be endangered or even extinct in the near future.

My mother in law can stay with us. Mumsy will never believe you are grown and will keep treating you like a kid. Mum in law met you as an adult and will respect you if you respect her.

Get a book, write down any part of the dream you can recall, then remove every fear from your mind and try to listen to the information that the voice wants to relay.

Good decision, is it a tad selfish? yes it is, but then considering you think your parents did a poor job at giving you the attention you deserved we wouldn't want to bring another entitled selfish brat like you into the world now do we?

Its because as kids every call from nigeria is from beggi beggi uncles, aunties, cousins etc. So they grow up with the mentality that Nigerians are beggars. Their parents even pack their used clothes when going back home for people in Nigeria.

Try to keep his brain active with things he is interested in. Games are good for brain development and since that is one of the things he is interested in maybe teach him programming so he can create his own games. YouTube is one of the places you can learn such skills for free. Just know that if he is indeed gifted then bringing him to Nigeria will only limit his abilities and please [b]do not flog him into submission. [/b]With time you may also want to find an academic mentor who understands how his brain functions but will not take advantage of his skills. Good luck.

klassyguy:
Thank you very much. The funny thing is i do not even allow them to watch anything until the weekend. They know they have their school work to do each time they get home.

One issue I figured is my son gets bored easily. He gets tired of things once he has done them more than twice or thrice. When I call and tell him we would work on his homeworks when I get home, more often than not he would have done them before I get home. He is the kind of kid who can't sit still in one place for long and gets distracted, which was how I was when I was his age. That's why I decided to enroll him into the U8 soccer team he is. He has been there for a few weeks now and i hope that helps him.

Maybe your son is under stimulated hence his frustration with repetitive actions. Try giving him activities way above him and study his problem solving skills. If his school does IQ tests have him tested above his grade level. You may have a gifted kid but if care is not taken the system will label it whatever they want and place him on harmful drugs. Also check his diet, some of the dyes and preservatives used in the states are known to make kids hyperactive.