₦airaland Forum

agarawu23:
I will pay the bills her job is to fix my dicck

is it broken?

agarawu23:
for sure , but your hubby name shld b first even if your dad na dangote

not when you expect her to pay the bills in the house too

jaz:
VILLAGE WITCHES IN ACTION

are u one of the village witches

Zeddicus001:
to be candid with you AA and AS can never give birth to SS is either AA or AS so the woman sabi who get the daughter but I can assure you 1000% the baby wasn't owned by the man

so different doctors who gave the paternity tests were high on iroko tree leaves?

Your friend is idiotic! Medical report on genotype you will believe and medical report on paternity you will question? Why?

These igbo men and this vietnamese woman sef

If some of these bad belle people were to post their pics looking like bull frogs you would die from laughter. OP dont mind the bad belle people. You look lovely

After seeing this long list i can safely say water is the thing i can have then

She is lifting her butt so she can release a silent and deadly one

Looking for trouble arent we?

If some pple put in the same intelligence and determination into a legit business as they did in trafficking they would not be in these shameful situations

torontoboy:
It's clear, you don't understand how the sysyem works. After you pay your bills & mortgage etc in oyinbo man's land,you are left with little on no savings. So how could he save when most people live from paycheck to paycheck.Yeah, she's suing because that will put more money in her pocket!
In every home, expenses are not always the same monthly, some months you spend less while some you spend more. The system is souless and Godless!

if all fathers were responsible for the maintanance without having he law force them to do so, do you think there would be any need for imposing strict law?

Since everything boils down to expenses i guess the actual childrearing counts to nothing. How many kids have you actually babysitted alone before? I mean for a full day.

I think it would be rather silly for anyone to claim that child support is a form of slavery when they have never taken care of a child for a day in their lives.

Last time i checked even if you are in a common law partnership you can experessly agree not to have a duty to maintain each other or a child that is biologically not yours as long as that partnership exists.

The law has provided remedies for you but when you choose to ignore them you cannot really blame anyone else for it.

justwise:
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Do you actually read people's post before replying?

that last part you quoted was referring to F4J not you. You dont seem to read posts properly either

torontoboy:
Did you read the posted article on the guy that commited suicide at all? He had no money to fight the system. Even the Judge said he could not help him when he could not afford to pay for a lawyer. That's the way the cookie crumbles over here. I personally know of one guy who had to go borrowing a huge sum of money to pay his lawyers. At the days end, he will have to work his butt off to pay the debt, still pay the child/spousal support and not have the time to develop himself resulting in a vicious cycle of low end living! And please, please, please for the umpteenth time, understand that it's not all men who were sowing wild oats when this happened to them. Many were LEGALLY married!

Let me ask you something, when forsaw the possiblity of him not being able to pay support in the future did he try to make provisions for it before the debt was due? Or did he probably jusy expect the mother to take full responsibility for those 2months without trying to compromise with her?

So because he ended his life because of child support does it mean we should encourage every woman who has an unwanted pregnancy to commit suicide too?

Remember one thing the duty to pay child support is not terminated because the mother is capable to carry out both duties. So long your child is dependant on you you will have a duty to maintain that child and thats that!

How many African mothers take care of their children from infancy until they are majors without jobs but still survive. When a man is put in the same position the first thing he opts for its taking his own life?

A mother is never excused from her primary duty towards her child, why should a father feel he should be given any such special treatment and be excused?

That other woman could not help him pay up parts of his debt until he got back on his feet, but suddenly has all the energy in the world to sue for a person who voluntarily took his life away. Talk about setting priorities straight.

justwise:
Yes i live in western world and i'm specifically talking about how the law faviours women when marriage goes bad whether its the man's fault or not.

This is not about African man or western man issue. Have you heard about Fathers4Justice (F4J)? Was that organisation formed by an African man?

so please lets not here anymore of that the West polluted African culture because for if African men were against it there wouldnt be leaving their motherland for better living standards.

F4J was formulated for fathers who actually want to be involved in their children's lives not for men who want to complain about paying child support.

justwise:
Practically everything.

but you live in a Western country so i dont see how anything i said was false though

justwise:
I'm not, the problem is that you don't take time to read and understand any argument before rushing into conclusion.

and your problem is when i ask you a question that you know you cannot answer without contradicting yourself your shift the goal post instead.

justwise:
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Seriously do you derive pleasure from making things up or deliberately misinterpreting posts?

is there anything i said thats not true?

justwise:
Professional single motherhood is un-African because the culture does not support such family setting

are you not furthering the breakdown of the so-called African family setting by impregnating women you have no intentions of marrying?

justwise:
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The west polluted their culture already, they made a mess of family. African marriages still last longer than western one. Western culture supports single motherhood

and single motherhood is a sin in Africa because women fall pregnant for dieties? Funny enough u went to seek greener pastures in the land of those that polluted your culture okay ooo continue

justwise:
The woman suffers psychologically financially while the kids miss their daddy.

a child who misses his daddy would say, " i would rather have hitler for a father". Black men blame racism for their inability to be as successful as other races, but with this post your reasoning alone proves to be the problem.

justwise:
Google those two names Mike Holpin and Keith MacDonald, some women deserve them.

your level of maturity amazes me and who do you think suffers more psychologically the woman or the children? like i said your kind of reasoning is what the West is trying to keep from polluting society the way your guys have let if pollute Africa.
In a black mans mind that kind of behaviour is justifiable, and its really sickening.

justwise:
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The man is not solely to be blamed, women can also say no and get their eyes off his bank balance.

we are still talking about a person who wants to exploit others but doesnt want to be exploited abi?
Or are we saying a person shouldnt reap what they sow?

justwise:
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Your chances are pretty slim going through court especially if there is no evidence that the mother is unfit to look after the kids, the best you can get it an arrange visit...basically weekend daddy

if you have no faith in the legal system you cannot blame them when you simply decide not to take action. You cannot be protected by something you have no faith in. If you decided not to fight it out, the consequences will remain yours to bare its as simple as that

justwise:
I was referring to Nigerians who are so desperate for paper that they marry just anybody that can help them settle without taking time to think about the consequences

at least we agree that a man is solely to blame for his unwise actions when the result is unfavourable to him

justwise:
You are so quick to reach your own conclusion, you read the wrong meaning of my post.

okay so what did u mean by that post then?

justwise:
Many Nigerians got themselves into nightmare purely for paper, after getting the paper the reality set in

marrying a woman for papers is rational and being punished for it by the woman after finds out the truth is irrational? like i said its all about you having your cake and eating it, not the law favouring women.

justwise:
See a man as part of the child 's life and not as her cash machine or pay cheque

which is why you can go back to maintenance court when you are being exploited

justwise:
They all wrapped it up, play the good girl game until they get pregnant or married then they on leashed their true colours.

let me ask you something what is a good girl supposed to do when she falls pregnant?

justwise:
Anyway forget it, I blame men who allowed themselves to be used by professional single mothers who got no interest in marriage.

If I'm getting married tomorrow I will do that with my 4 eyes opened

and this is all you need to do instead of making unwise decisions and blaming them on others or the law later on