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Rebarobyn:
IMO have a back up.plan. if your stay becomes uncomfortable, check out!

However that being said maybe I should mention this in this forum....the way we naija people behave at times na wa...many of us stay with hosts and pretend as if those hosts are not incurring and paying additional bills having you around. They pay rent electricity power and waste at the least. I know someone who never assisted with anything with her host....not even a single grocery shopping during her almost 4 months stay! Meanwhile she was eating 3 square meal in that house. It's not fair and so if they treat you unfairly too bad!! Same with cleaning....pregnancy is not disability....you use the bathroom don't you?...if you were alone won't you clean your mess? She will even cook their food with their electricity and cook for herself only....chop and clean mouth...they carried her to all her visits follow up and even stayed with her during hospital delivery and recovery...did she fuel their cars? No! Even picked her from the airport (45 minutes away) when she arrived.

Think about this if you were to stay in a rented apartment you'd pay rent and utitlities, do grocery shopping and pay for uber/lyft...this can total up to $2500 monthly depending on location ...because you're being hosted you'll now remember dollar is 470 and US is expensive....are they the ones who impregnated you and told you to come and give birth in the US? Maybe if you spend just $200 on monthly grocery shopping and give their children $20 tokens once in a while they'll treat you with more respect...they're not hungry and they've been surviving before you came but it's just courtesy.

Now that particular person said she wont host anyone again. She don spoil ground for others.

The truth is some hosts can be overbearing and all but many of us are free loaders.....if your hosts are so bad must you stay there? But no we stay there because it is awoof and we don't pull our weight and keep complaining...

Please lets.fear God.

I don't think that is true, u only heard one side of the story, on several occasions I have heard and seen hosts starve their visitors, refuse them from using the so called electricity, refused to take them for appointments, refused them to go out like they were slaves, refused to even eat the grocery the visitors buy, refused to take care of the baby even when they know the mom is a first tym mom, says the visitor is dirty and calls her names, even go as far as saying an adult doesn't know how to wash plates!!!! When the baby was delivered, the neotal Doctor said the baby had lost weight in the last few weeks of preggy.
Meanwhile, the host actually begged the visitor to come over so she can help with her kids even after she had paid a rent somewhere else,and clean the house which they usually do. I don't believe a pregnant woman who is about to give birth should be subjected to such harshness, it's even unhealthy to go thru so much stress at the last stage of pregnancy and yes if the person is alone he/she will not spend as much as $2,500 per month like u suggested, it's way cheaper with less stress and less arguments and like someone rightly said these so called americanas don't usually do anything whatsoever whenever the come to visit in naija. And yes!! Naija isn't as rosy or comfortable as usa so it's usually better to rent a place for those looking to give birth to prevent u from being subjected to modern day slavery.
That's my 2 cents tho .... Or better still use the accommodation plan nerf suggested in part 4, at least u know ure doing this for free accommodation. The truth is that everyone has a story to tell i.e. The host and visitor.

firsttymum:
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Chanbaby
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Realdentist (assistant captain)
Lala4sure
kittana
Ayatiraj
Mom2015
Itissettled3 (captain)

our story is mother alive, baby alive, daddy happy and plenty money available
team february for supernatural delivery. it is good news for us all.
oya answer present

Present ooo....nice team plenty money, healthy family!!! We rock!!!

kilam111:
greetings to all the great sisters! i just arrived in Raleigh, North Carolina. i wonder if any of you can suggest me a good doctor/hospital in this area and also an average estimate of delivery charges? thnx

I had my first child at wakemed Raleigh and the bill was on a high side, I didn't use epidural. Your best bet is to use duke regional hosp, the bill is ant half the price of Raleigh. Please avoid other hospitals like a leach.
You don't need a doctor at duke or wakemed, u will use the midwife for ur anc and d available doctor for ur delivery. Baby passport takes any 6weeks and the process is very slow, otherwise it's a really nice and quiet place.
I hope this helps

My apologies @ladyay for the delayed response. I will send u a message soon. I hope u still rmbr that I am a feb mom.

@colouredgirl, congrats on the arrival of your LO. He/she shall be a continual source of joy to ur family.

MamaTobenna:
Hello mamas been 18 months since my LA journey. No more baby journeys for me though. For intending LA mamas , should have some good news for you soon concerning affordable accomodation. Will check in from time to time. God will provide for you all in this dollar wahala. It is well

Amen ooo...this good news will be highly appreciated. Thanks for checking on us.

firsttymum:
that's okay with me. Let's move this gist somewhere else

I have sent a pm to u...

firsttymum:
Mom2015 my teamie
How far... How are you doing... How's accommodation prep?

Lol....I'm still searching for accommodation ooo. If u have a nice apartment Abeg holla me sis. Tried to pm u, didn't get any response. No Househelp service Abeg, it have not bad reach dat one. Need all d strength and free time. Right now , I'm still considering La and Chicago. When is the best time to get a ticket. I hope I can talk to u in private tho as per preparation things, if that's ok with u.

nefertitiram:
Have you checked airbnb? Homestay? There's even a website for free accommodation for as long as 6mth to 1yr if you will provide assistance like childcare, babysitting cooking for a few hours daily. Sometimes, you may have a mansion to yourself if your host is never around.

There's another website for shorter stay, also free accommodation if your host is travelling and they have animals you may need to tend to when they are away.

Abeg Nef, if u have d names of the websites , I'll be glad. Thanks for your response.

Thanks @ijeomatobi for ur post, I have finally seen ladyG for the first tym today!

She's a beautiful woman with a beautiful heart....God bless u plenty dear....

firsttymum:
But less than 1k? In LA... Hmmmmm.
Accommodation is my determining factor too. I'm only interested in apartments I won't have to furnish or buy kitchen utensils... Nd I won't share bathroom too. And also hope the flatmate won't be a leech

i didn't want to quote u before cos I know ure a feb mom if I'm correct but not too sure of ur destination.

Let's keep watching out for apartments and be hopeful we will get a cheaper one. I plan to leave early Jan cos my visa expires in Jan. So I have enuf time to make my decision on my final destination.

Thanks for ur response.

ijeomaobi1:
Less than 1k for accommodation in LA?? Honey kindly wake up from that dream o.
And u are d person that wanted to interview LadyG. Abi? # gist mode activated# are u now utilizing the information as per ...... For others? Or ursef?

@cheldas,

Search for Dr Mbagwu, am sure u will get d details.

Madam make ur findings well before u pounce on people.
My discussion with ladyG does not have anything to do with giving birth in USA. I'm not a newbie here , already had my first child using this forum.
I got other info on rent and it's expensive just like everyone rightly said so I don't think it's a crime to seek for cheaper options since the accommodation is a determining factor as to weather I will give birth in ca or houston.
And yes, everyone else can benefit from this information.

Good morning Sabi mamas, with this dollar issue I don't mind this st Francis parole. Abey if u have an info on budget friendly apartment preferably less than $1k per month Abeg make una pm me ooo. The Good thing is dat I'm a February mom. All February moms looking to give birth in ca, pls lets hook up and look for a cheap accommodation eg 2-3bedroom dats not too expensive. We can share the costs. Biko o. Thank u

LadyGuinivere:
Shek ur PM email

Still waiting fr it. Will respond as soon as I receive it. Network issues I guess.

LadyGuinivere:
Ok mommy. If its not a visa issue. I sha pm u pronto!

No ma'am I really need to talk to u. Cheers

LadyGuinivere:
Thanks dear for that.
However polite or not, I don't o pms an I dont support indolence. People have been given the gift of a child/ren and the opportunity to give them a Life better than the one we had and they want you to do the research for them.
For example, if you are going from jibowu to sapele and ask for directions,There are 2 kinds of people you will meet.
The ist will tell you drive for 10 minutes, turn left at he tree and right when you see some okada park.
The second type will teach you how to read signs and sign posts. I am this type of person. Because if u depend on the ist type ul end up stopping again and again to ask for help.
I believe in teaching to fish and not to hand out fish. Snapping a page to send is handing out fish and the person wil come back at different stages of her journey. I wake up middle of the night to research things I need, because I WANT it badly.

Finally, I am a human being and if you meet me on my low day and give me attiude on top say I De answer ya kweshun, I doubt that the pool of politeness no go dry up.
Have a blest week,! Make I go hustle for my garri and groundnut

LadyG I sent u a pm, didn't see any response. Pls respond its personal to u and I can't post it here. I beg u in Gods name it's very important. My email is ade22_hassan@yahoo.co.uk Thanks

bissysummy:
I went for my visa interview today and this is the outcome conversation btw me and visa officer. Pls kindly help me to review why i was denied visa
@firstmun, justwice and all.
Vo: good morning
Me: good morning
Vo: why are you going to usa?
Me: to have my baby there
Vo: which state?
Me: Chicago illinois
Vo: why chicago?
Me: my brother inlaw is a doctor at cook county hospital and he advice us to have our baby there.
Vo: what is your boujet for this trip?
Me: $12000
Vo: is this your first child?
Me: my third child
Vo: what do you do?
Me: am a business woman. interior design and decoration. I have staff that works for me
Vo: sorry the visa cannot be issue because of section 12(a)·usa law. And when i review the paper given to me ot says , u must have a strong tiles like schools, company and etc.
Where did you think i got it wrong? And can i reapply.? Advice is needed pls.

I think it went well, but like ladyG rightly said, u shud work on ur ways of answering questions and most especially pray for Devine favor. Some of the VOs may not be in a good mood as at the time of interview. My take is to reapply and fine tune ur answers. Wish u all d best.

jgirl22:
hi everyone;
went for interview today and was refused, below is my transcript, will be grateful if more light and future suggestion can be said about my interview.

Vo. Whr re u going in the US
Me. Huston Texas
Vo. Reason
Me. For a youth programme and to have our baby
Vo. Is dis ur first child
Me. Yes
Vo. have you been to any other country
me. yes, Dubai
Vo. What do u do
Me. An accountant at XYZ coy bt my husband will be sponsoring the trip ( I reached out to my file to bring out my letter of introduction from office and hubby she said hold on)
Vo. Hw long have u been wrking
Me. A year ans a mnth
Vo. Hw long have you been married
Me. 6mnths
Vo. What does ur husband do
Me. Self employed,runs own company he is in2 importation and distribution of various brands of cosmetic products.( as she was typing i reached out to my file to give her the coy registration and list of directors and his passport data page, next words i heard was;
Vo. Sorry ur visa is nt approved the piece of paper will explain it to you

I had my budget sheet, hospital correspondence, invitation from the birth center, receipt of my initial deposit, airline reservation, marriage certificate bt she didnt ask for any document, whenever i tried to bring a document for her to look at she says hold on

Sorry sis for the denial, but I think the response u gave would have made the visa officer uncomfortable. It's best that u tell her u want to give birth and skip the youth programme, it makes it look like u have a divided attention or an hidden agenda. I am sure u will get it the next time if u try. U will notice that she kept on saying hold on after the ans and dats because she felt ure trying to be smart. So next time, just go straight to the point, ure there to give birth. Wish u d best in ur next interview.

priscaver:
mom2015 thank u for detailed description. Your story has wiped my tears . Being waiting for 4yrs too. I capture this anointing sharp sharp! my story shall also end in praise. Same for all other mamas here. STILL LOADING.................JUNE BFPs .............more pls!!!!!!

All d wait will come to an end soon, I'm glad my story inspired u. Just start a treatment that works, give gifts to little children during ur therapy, pray and watch God take action...baby dusts

breadplanets:
So i took my first dose of bitterleaf and garlic this morning. I dont really mind the taste. I pray God grants my efforts this cycle with success. Sisters remember me in your prayers. Its getting tiring. I'll get Epo later in the day and take too. This fertile cm must flow by fire by thunder this month in Jesus name. mom2015 congrats o. I tap into your testimony too.

Receive the anointing Sis, ur testimony is in the pipeline...baby dusts

Loisemm:
@fruitfulhome, thanks for sharing that woman's story... inspiring. Some of we ttc women dont know about giving n kindness when we can.. when I see a ttc woman being unkind or wicked, I shudder... Though there are times too one should b careful in giving so u dont give the wrong ppl who will turn round n use it against u spiritually (yes it happens).
...
mom2015 , Congrats! Thank God for u dear.. God will keep surprising u and us in this forum.
me I be mom2016 by faith.
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Happy sunday mamas & happy ramadan to my muslim sisters, the same God that did it for other mamas esp those that ported to preggy thread will certainly do it for us... n we shall join that thread too soon... preggy thread sweet no be lie... I enjoy d birth stories there esp.

Thanks Sis, Amen u will be mon2016 by Gods grace.....baby dusts to u

Graceyy83:
Congrats Mum2015. Wish you a happy n healthy pregnancy.

Amen sis, baby dusts to u too....it will all end in praise

zest4allife:
Amen @Priscaver. I pray the same for you too ma. Is Duphaston tabs or injection? Would I need to have a prescription first? I know Progesterone is needed but I felt Vitex would be sufficient.

Dusphaston is a tablet and should be taken from ur ovulation period or about 1week prior to ur ovulation till u get preggy up to end of first trimester. It will help prevent miscarriage and should be taken 10mg in d morning and night.

mumAwesom:
My people im not too happy and tired of this ttc been on this journey for 6yrs now i know and believe my redemer liveth he will not fail me pls any body that knows effective means of tackling low motility of 10% as DH ran another test and got the result i was so down since he gave me the result,as i dont know what to use cos we have used fertility aid and motility boost , Addyzoa,proviron etc yet the motility and mophology is still low pls my people any good suggestion will be highly appreciated.

Hi mama, maybe he should try proviron 1 tab daily for 3months. It takes effect about two weeks after use but for full effects u can use for 3months. In essence, use it for a month , stop for 2days then continue. Try doggy for mating so even if the motility is poor, it will help aid the sperm movement faster than other styles. Baby dusts to u.

P.s: how did u use ur last proviron?

lollyrekiat:
Amen my sister, may Almighty Allah answer our prayers dis holy month, I will testify soon Maa Sha Allahu

InshaAllah Sis, Allah has already answered ur prayers, HE knows ur pain and wants the best for u. I know it's not easy but pls take ur mind of the fertility issues, ask Allah to take control, remind HIM of ur good deeds, be happy and and Maa Sha Allah, HE will do it for u soon.Do a lot of Zakah especially to poor children(I mean something really tangible-it has always worked for me, d last time I bought some food from chicken republic for about 10 children on children's day. Someone also gave my baby clothes worth over 50k, cash of 30k when I received the gift that day, I knew what she was getting at. I wept and pray for her and she got preggy after 2WEEKS).So be happy that ur time to get preggy is near, give alms ,reduce ur stress , use ur drugs and pray like there is no tomorrow.

[quote author=4realwoman post=46480934]@mom2015, congrats and wish you stress free nine months


Amen and thanks Sis, baby dusts to u

[quote author=olamitie post=46484972]@mom2015 when does one stop the duphaston if no bfp?

Dusphaston is a synthetic progesterone that helps prepare the uterus for the baby. It makes it sticky so that the embryo can easily stick to the endometrium and also helps to prevent miscarriage. So it means u have to stop when bfn but if bfp u will continue to 12weeks or when d doctor says u shud stop.

@fvine,haryourlar,future day,cuddlemoi, olamitie.....(and all other moms in here) thanks for the prayers, Amen , I'm really grateful. I wish u all a successful cycle and I'm waiting to see ur success stories. Congrats in advance...

@peteran, twinmummy2 , emerald65. Thanks and Amen to ur prayers. I'm taking my time to mention ur names cos I pray for u before I post and I'm sure God has done it. Baby dusts to u all....

Vanny2:
Congrats Mom2015!

Thanks vanny2. God will put a smile on ur face soon. Baby dusts to u

lalabu:
Congratulations @mom2015, h and h nine month

Thanks a lot. Amen. Congratulations too and I Wish u same...lol

cherrymum1:
@mom2015 congrats. I wish u a happy and healthy stress free nine months. You will carry to term and bring forth a living child. Proceed to preggy thread to get acquainted with your other teamies. Also ask questions from senior ogbonge mamas.

@cherrymum, God has answered ur prayers. I say congratulations

Diamondn:
The GOD of Hannah is forever faithful, His Word says in Isaiah 49:15& 17 that He'll not forget us. And that our children shall make haste... Congrats to @Joyfulmoda & @Ayatiraj on ur BFP.
@Ayauche & @lalabu i sent u both pm, dnt know if u got it. I really dnt understand how it works cos i couldnt write anythg, all i saw was message by Nairaland on my behalf. Did i get it right? Did u see the message?
Congrats too @mom2015.

@diamondn thanks, it will end in praise by God's grace, pls get ready for ur baby

[quote author=mamaTB post=46470816]Congratulations dear!!! May u carry to term. Please what is wrong with sharing the full details so that all can benefit from what you did differently afterall It is based on ideas and knowledge from experienced mamas here who share without reservation that a lot have been successful in this journey to conceive. Just my thoughts..[/quote

Thanks @ mamatb, I pray this will be ur cycle. Pls claim it . U will have a positive PT Inshallah Allah.