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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Post What You Do On This Thread, Someone May Hire You. by Monben: 4:54am On Jan 25
Hello everyone,

I am an Editor. I edit written works from all genres except foreign languages.

If you need a second eye/opinion on your written material, kindly hit me up.

I have years of experience under my belt.

Thank you.
Music/Radio / Re: Naira Marley's Music Removed By MTV Base & Soundcity; Banned By Radio Stations by Monben: 10:03pm On Sep 20, 2023
What is the charge like? Is it male or female?


Breadnote:
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Nairaland / General / Re: What Are Your Bad Habits? by Monben: 7:41am On Aug 15, 2023
Yes, it's nature, but you can break it. You just need to be intentional about it. I'm currently working on it. I win some days, I lose some days.


superintendents:
been introvert...I hate it...But is nature sha.....


we moooooove..

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Nairaland / General / Re: What Are Your Bad Habits? by Monben: 7:37am On Aug 15, 2023
I feel you. We are in the same boat, but God is helping me to work on it. I am gradually coming out of my shell, though it's hard attimes, and people don't understand.


yrhuhfy113:
My bad habit is silence.


I can be quiet for days without speaking a word to anyone asides prayers and laughs when scrolling through instagram.

I think deeply about everything so I end up saying nothing because I know it may not be worth it or the person won't understand a word.
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Are You A Creative/freelancer In Aba Looking For Where To Harness Productivity? by Monben: 4:29am On Apr 24, 2023
I dream of providing this kind of service someday. Being a freelancer in Nigeria has shown me shege. The terrible power situation alone can frustrate the life out of you
Business / Re: I Started My Pos Business Today! by Monben: 3:56am On Feb 20, 2023
Congratulations. Manage it well o
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Employment Opportunity For Proficient Writers by Monben: 7:50am On Feb 09, 2023
How can one apply?
Crime / Re: Man Kills Newly-Married Woman For Jilting Him In Adamawa (Photo) by Monben: 11:42am On Sep 13, 2022
I have seen 2 cases of blood drying in peoples bodies immediately after transfusion, and those ladies eventually died. Please, what kind of sickness is that, abi na ju-ju?




madridguy:
The late wife is the cause of it all. How can you collect a whole 150k from a man knowing fully you won't marry him.

This is how one of my brother's boss younger sisters died a few years ago. Collecting money from someone that she knew she won't marry, when the guy found out na so the guy go do something wey blood dey dry for her body till she pass away. I wish i had the strength to type long story.

Religion / Re: Pastor Meets Native Doctor In His Shrine For A Charm For Her Church (Pix, Video) by Monben: 1:09pm On Aug 08, 2022
CondemnBattery:
Scripted



You were the only person that observed that this is not real. Either this is just a skit, or someone wants to bring the ministry and the woman to ridicule.
Romance / Re: Single Men & Ladies; By Faith, Pick Your Wedding Month/year & So Be It Amen(pix) by Monben: 3:35pm On May 02, 2022
October 2022
Health / Re: I’m Pregnant With A Sickle Cell Baby - Help by Monben: 5:03pm On Apr 22, 2022
Please don't abort. The mistake has already been done. There are very natural ways you can keep your baby healthy so that nobody would even suspect that he has an SS genotype. I am a living witness to this fact. You don't need drugs or herbs, just natural foods, fruits, and vegetables you can get on the market.
Family / Re: I Am Becoming A Sadist, My Life Is Full Of Regret by Monben: 4:16pm On Feb 11, 2022
God bless you for this advice. I never knew that having a loving family can heal someone. It is actually a fact that 95 percent of people in Nigeria are mentally damaged by the things they have gone through. I pray that God helps us to heal so we don't pass this hate to our children.



oldienavie:
I know you have only written just a few from what you have passed through.
Let me tell you some things.
Nigeria is an evil place, majority of people in Nigeria are evil too, therefore the average person grow up in the midst of abuse, torture, pain etc.
95% of people in Nigeria are traumatised from the pain and evil they grew up with, the worse thing is that this has now be normalised and the result is a country lacking in empathy, desensitized to pain and evil in all its fabric.
You see police men, killing people without remorse, swapping inmates for the highest bidder and allowing the guilty walk free.

I have written all this so that you know you are not alone, some people on this group have been abused by their own parents sexually for years, how do you heal that kind of trauma, no justice nothing.

Every body expects you to man up and move on.

Now this is my little advise from someone who also had a traumatic childhood like you, but in my own case, people would argue that I should be grateful cos some people have it worse.

The fact you are alive is a priviledge, try to forgive yourself, move away from anything, family, friends that triggers the thought of the past .
This might sound somehow but try to look for a lady that loves you sincerely(this might be difficult but still possible considering the average lady out there is a gold digger) and pour your love into her.

Lastly, dream of having your own family and have a plan to raise your kids and family with the opportunity that you did not have.

The joy you get from a beautiful family will make you forget the past.

I wish you all the best.
Celebrities / Re: Adesua Etomi Celebrates Zaiah, Son's 1st Birthday, Recounts Childbirth Ordeal by Monben: 12:47pm On Jan 25, 2022
The video made me so emotional. I love this couple. I cant wait to see the face of their son. This is what I want Lord; a husband I love and that loves me back and children to crown it all.


Odewaleadesoye:


https://punchng.com/video-actress-adesua-etomi-recounts-childbirth-ordeal-as-son-clocks-one/

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Health / Re: Banker, Nnamdi Godson Commits Suicide In Delta by Monben: 1:44pm On Jan 17, 2022
olaszydaruma:
I'm having this same thought lately as I'm in a lot of mess embarassed


Know that no matter what you are going through, it will always pass. Every problem has its time limit. Just hang in there. Do you know that some suicide victims regret their actions when it's already too late; when they have taken that poison or when the rope is rapidly squeezing life out of them?
Politics / Re: Soldiers Repel Boko Haram Attack In Buratai Town by Monben: 1:32pm On Jan 11, 2022
Imagine. How can you even fight a war on slippers? Be like say someone shared the slippers to all of them sef.


achymmania:
I cant imagine fighting the holy war with slippers.

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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How I Rejected N9 Million P.A. FPSO Job by Monben: 12:16pm On Dec 02, 2021
grin grin grin grin grin grin LWKM



preacherz:
Wahala for who no know him worth.

Half baked Hungry Nigerian Engineers looking at this Post like this
Politics / Re: Soludo: I Became A Professor In My 30s, Achieved Everything I Wanted In My 30s by Monben: 1:34pm On Nov 11, 2021
Very beautiful. I'm totally in love
Politics / Re: Soldiers Flee As Unknown Gunmen Enforce Sit-At-Home In Enugu, Imo by Monben: 9:15pm On Oct 04, 2021
This one resemble mad man. These talibans sef


tutudesz:
undecided
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: What Is The Highest Salary You Have Ever Received by Monben: 11:55am On Sep 07, 2021
Dialpad:
Have you not thought of working from home and earning in US dollars?

100k is just $200




Please, how can one start on that?
Business / Re: Which Business Did You Regret Starting Because It Ended Up In Huge Loss by Monben: 4:46pm On Jul 16, 2021
How are you doing it? I'm interested


Hamzaay:
Delivery business. People over here no won pay for jobs ooo and the delivery thing is risky so I have to opt into my long time business freelancing and I am making noting less than $1k in a week for a bad days and $4k in other good weeks.
Crime / Re: Mothers, Your Daughters Are Exposed To Rapists Under Any Of These Conditions by Monben: 11:09am On Jul 12, 2021
Male relations are the people to be feared most


Iliveforever:
Remove number 5 jare.

Some of the safest place ur daughter can be is with a male relation. Stop making unnecessary remarks
Romance / Re: I Impregnated My Coursemate By Mistake, What Should I Do? by Monben: 4:37pm On Jul 07, 2021
You are about to kill a child and you are telling God to bless the person that provided the advise. Think of other options apart from this. Things are not that bad yet



ChizzyBuna:

GOD GO BLESS YOU
OUT OF ALL THESE COMMENTS NA ONLY YOU DON GIVE ME BETTER ADVICE.
GOD WILL CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU
Food / Re: This Thread Is For Food Lovers ( Foodies)..upload The Foods You Eat. by Monben: 1:55pm On Jul 07, 2021
grin grin grin grin grin grin


mannasseh:

you wan see jollof rice wy no get color
Sports / Re: How Sport Bet Ruined And Destroyed Me For 7 Years by Monben: 3:16pm On Jul 05, 2021
God bless you sir for sharing your story. Thank you for giving hope to other people in similar situations. You shall rise again. I love your determination, faith and courage. Your deliverance is permanent in Jesus name.


Iovercame:
This is a lil story about my 7 years deep addiction to sport bet and in this 7 years I lost everything when I mean everything

and I beg you in whatever you hold dear, I beg you in your mother's name, I beg you in your child's innocent life, I beg you in whichever God you pray too if you're in sport bet or about to start or no matter how far you have gone you can still stop so you don't lose everything like I did before I got my salvation

I was 18 in 2014 and I had just finished from secondary school and Because I loved football so much anything about football intrigued me

I remember writing my jamb and came out in flying colors (260) and I was to proceed to take my post utme when I first found and heard about sport betting

Then it was Rapido I think and Nairabet. It started as fun, just wanting to waste that 100 in excitement of what you loved and I remembered my first winning of 14k ( I wished I never won that)

That 14k I won hooked me in till February of this year and because my close knit friends knew I won that 14k and my love for football they always asked me to "forcast" games for them

I was so hooked to sport bet that my spiritual life suffered because I stopped thinking about God all I wanted was to win that imaginary millions

I remember passing my utme and Mom was happy I passed my utme as all she wanted was for me to have a quality education

Unfortunately life happened and I couldn't proceed to school again as there was no sponsor so I had to get a job in apapa wharf

I was the quiet type, I never drank or smoked or womanize , I don't even talk much unless in my line of duty but all I did was sport bet. I was paid 85k per month because my job was high risk but before I get my salary I would have used it all on sport bet

One thing I never did was steal or lie or use someone's else's money to play sport bet but I was so addicted to this demon called sport bet

From 2016 when I started working in apapa wharf till we were made to stop working because of the pandemic last year I Lost everything I had and worked for due to sport bet

I always dressed well, even till date I still dress well with neat and good cloths so you never know but in between those clothes I was suffering, I was crying each day because I knew I was wasting away

I have never taken cocaine or no the effect it has on those addicted to it but I can tell you nothing beats that of sports bet

I would cry after each lose and say no more but the moment I got another money I was in it again

The bet9ja guy in my neighborhood could allow me play games up to 100k because he knows I would pay him when I get my salary. Each night I prayed and cried to stop this but I was never able to

I rather play sport bet than eat, I knew I was destroying my life but I couldn't stop

I was a good guy, a loyal guy, my boss loved me because I was hard working so he dashes me money but I never saved any, all I did was sport bet

I remember after the first week the pandemic was eased I went to him and told him I had a problem and he asked what's the problem and I told him you are like a father to me so I feel comfortable telling you this( I thought after 4 year's a loyal worker can see a boss as a father), I need help because I'm addicted to sport bet. Then he asked me questions upon questions and I was sincere to each of his questions and he asked me if I had any savings left I told him no that sport bet took everything, he asked if I have ever stolen from him I told him if I did Mr shonibare the auditor would have known but after that he changed drastically

It was after that incident of me telling him I needed help I lost my job.

I was told because of the effect of the pandemic I had to stop coming that I would be called back but it's More than a year I haven't been called but I blame me telling him I was addicted to sport bet

All I wanted was just help

Then I had no job again and had a mouth to feed so I decided to start working as a labourer or doing any menial Job just to survive ( one thing about me was I was hard working and never derelict in my work or hustle) but guess what I never stopped playing sport bet because I wanted that imaginary millions

I would be paid 1500 as a labourer and 1000 would surely go to sport bet that same day and I would eat with 500 and I didn't win

No one knew I was in bondage, no one knew I lost my job because each morning I would dress neat and go do labourer and come home neat like I was coming from apapa, no one knew I was dying slowly due to my addiction

I can't begin to mention in naira how much I lost but thank God today made it 4 months I last played sport bet and I remembered how I stopped

It was a game I was suppose to win 1.8M with a stake of 1500 which was my last money and Liverpool vs Fulham was the last game and I staked it over 1.5 goals and I was excited because Fulham scored in the first half and I said at Last I finally won today and would get a car to do Uber and stop this finally but guess what it ended 1-0 and oh I cried, I cried aloud, I cried and yelled and gnashed my teeth like a woman crying to bring forth a child or like when Mom died, I cried so loud my tenants came and I told them my brother died but that day was my day of salvation

I cried so much ehh and In my tears i prayed to my mother this time around to come and deliver me as I was overwhelmed and needed help and I slept hungry that day because I had no money and I had used my last money to bet and in my dream I remembered I was choking so I vomited I think 50k and a palatable food and in the dream I wanted to take the money and food to eat but I had a voice. Oh I had that voice I hadn't heard for years and she called me my native name that only she did and I looked up and I saw my Mom from afar and she said don't touch it and go back now, but I said to her I was broke and hungry and she said do you want to touch or carry back your vomit? And I said no and she said now go back and I turned and Immediately I woke up I knew I had won but I knew I still had to play my own part to win finally

I went out from all the telegram betting group I belonged too, deactivated my nairaland account because I was always in the bet section, deactivated all of my bet site account

I remembered I didn't play for 3 days and I had 3k saved for the first time in months and I got on Twitter and I saw a guy saying a game is sure and the devil wanted to play with my mind but guess what that same day I had to sale my phone so I don't think or see anything about football , I packed up my DStv and TV not to watch football and see the advert of any sport betting company and for the first time in almost 7 years I went a week without sport bet WOW I was happy. the following week passed and another and another and the money I sold my phone with I didn't touch it, I had saved like 15k from my working as a menial labourer and I got another phone and I thought I was gonna fall but this morning Made it 6 weeks that I got a new phone and I haven't played or logged in to any betting site thank you Jesus

Last night I had to go to Instagram because I was feeling sad because of everything I had lost and i saw my best friend picture, I felt so sad, I cried my eyes because we are Miles apart, he doesn't call or text again and I understand I was useless, I was the brilliant one that fell, I was the lil innocent quiet handsome one that lost his easy due to sport bet

He looked so good and I blamed my self for everything but I'm in the road to recovery

Sport bet Made me lose my job, my mom, my peace, all of my savings, my friends because I couldn't compete with them financially as I was always broke but thank God today I have a New beginning and a fresh start. I know things are so hard right now but I feel like a fresh Man, a Man born again, a Man like a new born. It's almost or More than 90 days now since i last played sport bet and oh I have peace, lol I have such peace, yes occasionally when I don't have somewhere to work or when I'm lonely and think of where I should be I sigh but I say Thank you Jesus, thank you my savior

Please I beg you, sport bet would destroy you, sport bet would end you, sport bet would make you so useless, sport bet would would take everything from you, sport bet would make you lose everything you worked for, sport bet would make you become so isolated. Please stop now. I know it's hard, very hard I have been there but if I can do it I swear you can, I have lost 300k in a day before and the next day I had 2k and lost it again. Please sport bet is devilish and a destiny destroyer. You can't win them, Come out of nairaland for a while if you have too, come out of Twitter if you have too, anything that makes you think about it I'm begging you now please come out of it. Just like yesterday I was 18, now I'm 25, broke, lost everything but it's fine I would rise again. Don't be like me ok

Thank you and God bless us all for reading
Romance / Re: How Long Is Too Long For A Relationship? by Monben: 1:38pm On Jun 28, 2021
You're so sweet wink


seunny4lif:
I had a long distance relationship for 2 years and it’s was crazy cheesy
Calling her and if she is not picking can cause a lot of 2 weeks fighting.
Mine will be online on FB and yet wouldn’t pick my calls or call me.
I was in love but it was driving me crazy angry angry

Fast forward to a 1 year later again, I promised myself, not to call her again grin and I deleted all her contacts on my phone but only for to broke my promise myself, I was calling and texting her for not picking.
It’s was hell. angry
Fast forward grin
I wicked her back by get married and having my own family angry

Wetin una dey think grin
Na her I marry oooh grin cheesy and we have 3 kids now.
God forbid I do long distance relationship again cheesy
That thing was a punishment jooor cheesy

Health / Re: Help Out Oral Infection Graphic Photo by Monben: 10:56am On Jun 21, 2021
This is the correct diagnosis. Its tonsil stones. Its very clear


whisp3r:
That white stuff isn't pus. It's tonsils stones.

Most people have it. It's nothing to be concerned about except if your mouth is smelling (halitosis) then you can have them removed through minor surgery by a doctor.

Do a Google search of this and you'll see a similar image.

Your uvula doesn't seem to be inflamed. I'm not sure if it's your phone flash but is your tongue white and hairy? If it's you might have oral thrush.

You can visit a pharmacist for ketoconazole. They'll give you the right dosage and milligram to use.
Crime / Re: 10-Year-Old Girl Killed During Reprisal Cult Clash In Osun (Graphic Photo) by Monben: 2:19pm On Jun 11, 2021
The man was right. Most Nigerian youths are just lazy. They keep complaining about no jobs but the truth of the matter is that they don't want to work.


Chummynoni:
Ooh my!!. How do some people have time for all these?? Is there more than 24hrs in a day for some people?you watch someone's movement every seconds of the day just to kill. Was bullhari really right about his perception of today's youth?

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Celebrities / Re: Nkechi Blessing & Her Husband, Falegan Opeyemi David Wedding Photo by Monben: 12:46pm On Jun 11, 2021
I am what you need. How do I get in touch?


JoeOdion:
I am still of writers. #2 per word. Please professionals, not beginners or poor writers. Please!!!
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: What's The Worst Pay You Have Ever Received As A Writer? by Monben: 3:11pm On Jun 10, 2021
I'm interested

NaijaOlosho:
I need a good writer

Asap.

You can write on any niche quote me for job
Travel / Re: Akwa Ibom Green River At Ikot Akpa, Ibesikpo (Pictures, Video) by Monben: 4:02pm On Apr 29, 2021
I totally feel this way too


Jubilancy:
I wish I can get a team we will all pick a day off our very busy lives and go on an adventure....as a team, we contribute and fund our tourism around Nigeria ��.....


My eyes hunger for breathtaking sights.....

My senses are open to capture every moment...


But alas I fear this are just wishful thoughts



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