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Jobs/VacanciesHiring Loan Officer In Onitsha by Monben(op): 1:46pm On Jun 02
WE ARE HIRING: LOAN OFFICER

Xander Direct is seeking a smart, results-driven, and experienced Loan Officer to join our growing team.

Location: Onitsha, Anambra State

Employment Type: Experienced
Salary: attractive and negotiable
Deadline : June 10

Send your cv to gracejune33@gmail.com 
Or call
07030719995
InvestmentRe: Eight Investing Lessons From The World’s Ultra-Rich by Monben: 12:10pm On Nov 03, 2025
I still maintain that long-term is still your best bet. Stocks fluctuate but still rise in the long term.

Love800:
Which future!

So you are hoping on something that fluctuates like dollar to keep you financially sound! Lol.

Anyway, i appreciate.
And sorry for my late response pls.
InvestmentRe: Eight Investing Lessons From The World’s Ultra-Rich by Monben: 10:06am On Oct 28, 2025
You say this because you only think in the short term. keep your mind in the future


Love800:
All these you listed are just for emergencies. They can't make you wealthy.
FoodRe: Spiced and Grilled Bush Meat (Monitor Lizard) by Monben: 11:26am On Jul 11, 2025
The sauce looks delicious. I wish to taste some of these meats.
CrimeRe: Identity Of Paedophile Who Married A 9 Year Old At Disneyland Is Revealed by Monben: 10:44pm On Jun 25, 2025
The guy seems to be living his best life. Organising one crazy illegal event every year and making sure he gets into trouble. No dull moment for him
CareerRe: Loyalty Vs Incompetence; Competence Vs Disloyalty: Who Would You Fire? by Monben: 9:52pm On Jun 23, 2025
I will fire both of them. I hate incompetence, and I also hate backstabbers. I didn't spend money and time to build a company only to start managing inefficient staff. The job market is full of talent biko
HealthRe: Man Shares How He Witnessed Two Maternal Deaths At The Hospital Where He Was Adm by Monben: 8:07am On Jun 20, 2025
Acidosis:
This can't be true. Unless it is a case of an emergency where the wife is unconscious and unable to hold a pen, a woman has the right to choose what she wants for herself and her baby.
Women are emasculated a lot in Africa. She is not bold enough to take decisions for herself. She is afraid signing the form will mean going against her husband. The society, even her family, will blame her if something goes wrong. Even if nothing goes wrong, they can tag her as insubordinate. Besides, its the husband that will foot the bill as she doesnt have the money.
PetsRe: I Lost My Precious Bird(pictures) by Monben: 1:05pm On Jun 17, 2025
AerialMapper:
Precious bird yet you kept it in a cage that small!

Next time you get another bird, which you shouldn't, put it in a bigger cage or just admire them as they fly by.

Now imagine you and imagine the guy up on the beanstalk. He comes down to earth and somehow captures you. He calls you "my precious", build a tiny room, puts a bowl of water which he may forget to change some days and food he thinks you like...let's say corn seeds cos this bird didn't tell you what it liked.
He locks you in this room 24 hours a day ...what would you do? Wouldn't you rather die?
LOL. I love the way you think.

They want to pressure somebody unnecessarily with this their 40 characters law.
Jokes EtcRe: Let’s Play A Riddle Game: Who’s Got The Cleanest Dirty Mind? by Monben: 1:49pm On Jun 09, 2025
sponge
CelebritiesRe: Mike Ejeagha Buried Within 24 Hours In Line With His Wish - Son (Burial Video) by Monben: 12:16pm On Jun 09, 2025
victorazyvictor:
THOSE SAYING "HE SAVED HIS FAMILY THE STRESS & MONEY" MAKE I BURST UNA BUBBLE, HE ONLY DENNIED MORG PPL THEIR FOOD. HE IS AN IGBO MAN, OMENA-ALA is OMENA-ALA, ALL THE RITES FOR BURIAL WILL BE OBSERVED AND ATTENDED TO, NO ESCAPE. IS CALLED "IKWA OZU".
The only sensible comment so far. I want to believe that other people commenting above are not Igbo people. As a titled man, all the traditional rites MUST be observed.
HealthRe: World Cancer Day 2025 by Monben: 4:15pm On Feb 04, 2025
I miss my sis too, so much. Rest on Jenny. I still wish you can reach out


ashala:
I remember my lovely sister whose life was cut short by this terrible disease.

A part of me died with you

I miss you so terribly
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Marketers Needed In Owerri, Imo State by Monben: 12:39pm On Nov 08, 2024
Interested
AgricultureRe: Rate My Farm Produce Guys by Monben: 3:02pm On Aug 28, 2024
20,000 cobs


ActiveFarms:
I need anyone to guess the approximate range of the number of cobs in the picture below. I will give the top ten closest winners Half bag of Maize in November, any part of the country you are based.
PoliticsRe: Video Of Ifeanyi Ubah & His Family In London UK Shortly Before His Death (Video) by Monben: 12:01pm On Jul 29, 2024
I really do hope so, but how do you know that the dead have eternal peace?


CyrusVI:
Death is the realest thing on earth

It's the only occurrence that, when it happens to you, you have to abandon everything else and attend to it

Not even your work, family or your "Problem no dey finish" mentality can make u put it aside


But the Good news is that even the Dead doesn't know he's dead.... It's eternal peace from there on
CrimeRe: Hajj: Kwara Pilgrim Allegedly Commits Suicide In Saudi Arabia by Monben: 11:07am On Jun 11, 2024
I am a Christian. Please narrate the experience, I would really appreciate it. Again, do people of different beliefs have different experiences in the afterlife? Is everybody not supposed to be going one place?

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CrimeRe: Hajj: Kwara Pilgrim Allegedly Commits Suicide In Saudi Arabia by Monben: 10:14am On Jun 10, 2024
Can you explain more about what you call "the benefits of death and a happy life after"? I lost a loved one some weeks ago and the pain is almost unbearable. I keep wondering if she is fine, if she is scared, if she is in pain, if we failed her, etc. So, I really want to hear about these benefits you are talking about



YoungLionken:
RIP, after all, "ashawo die toto rest" She just couldn't no more. Many people are afraid to die, that's why they continue to endure those things causing them severe pains (especially pains they can't talk about). Only if men knew that the Creator conceals from men, the benefits of death and a happy life after, devoid of greed and wickedness, so that they can continue to endure their pains while living..

Anything is better than a life standing still...
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Post What You Do On This Thread, Someone May Hire You. by Monben: 4:54am On Jan 25, 2024
Hello everyone,

I am an Editor. I edit written works from all genres except foreign languages.

If you need a second eye/opinion on your written material, kindly hit me up.

I have years of experience under my belt.

Thank you.
Music/RadioRe: Naira Marley's Music Removed By MTV Base & Soundcity; Banned By Radio Stations by Monben: 10:03pm On Sep 20, 2023
What is the charge like? Is it male or female?


Breadnote:
Talk to a psychologist.(for counselling). Depression. addiction.low self esteem. how to be focused in life. how to find a life partner.how to recover from heartbreak.how to be successful in life. Phone-08063261018.whatsapp-07062106186.
Nairaland GeneralRe: What Are Your Bad Habits? by Monben: 7:41am On Aug 15, 2023
Yes, it's nature, but you can break it. You just need to be intentional about it. I'm currently working on it. I win some days, I lose some days.


superintendents:
been introvert...I hate it...But is nature sha.....


we moooooove..
Nairaland GeneralRe: What Are Your Bad Habits? by Monben: 7:37am On Aug 15, 2023
I feel you. We are in the same boat, but God is helping me to work on it. I am gradually coming out of my shell, though it's hard attimes, and people don't understand.


yrhuhfy113:
My bad habit is silence.


I can be quiet for days without speaking a word to anyone asides prayers and laughs when scrolling through instagram.

I think deeply about everything so I end up saying nothing because I know it may not be worth it or the person won't understand a word.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Are You A Creative/freelancer In Aba Looking For Where To Harness Productivity? by Monben: 4:29am On Apr 24, 2023
I dream of providing this kind of service someday. Being a freelancer in Nigeria has shown me shege. The terrible power situation alone can frustrate the life out of you
BusinessRe: I Started My Pos Business Today! by Monben: 3:56am On Feb 20, 2023
Congratulations. Manage it well o
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Employment Opportunity For Proficient Writers by Monben: 7:50am On Feb 09, 2023
How can one apply?
CrimeRe: Man Kills Newly-Married Woman For Jilting Him In Adamawa (Photo) by Monben: 11:42am On Sep 13, 2022
I have seen 2 cases of blood drying in peoples bodies immediately after transfusion, and those ladies eventually died. Please, what kind of sickness is that, abi na ju-ju?




madridguy:
The late wife is the cause of it all. How can you collect a whole 150k from a man knowing fully you won't marry him.

This is how one of my brother's boss younger sisters died a few years ago. Collecting money from someone that she knew she won't marry, when the guy found out na so the guy go do something wey blood dey dry for her body till she pass away. I wish i had the strength to type long story.
Christianity EtcRe: Pastor Meets Native Doctor In His Shrine For A Charm For Her Church (Pix, Video) by Monben: 1:09pm On Aug 08, 2022
CondemnBattery:
Scripted
You were the only person that observed that this is not real. Either this is just a skit, or someone wants to bring the ministry and the woman to ridicule.
RomanceRe: Single Men & Ladies; By Faith, Pick Your Wedding Month/year & So Be It Amen(pix) by Monben: 3:35pm On May 02, 2022
October 2022
HealthRe: I’m Pregnant With A Sickle Cell Baby - Help by Monben: 5:03pm On Apr 22, 2022
Please don't abort. The mistake has already been done. There are very natural ways you can keep your baby healthy so that nobody would even suspect that he has an SS genotype. I am a living witness to this fact. You don't need drugs or herbs, just natural foods, fruits, and vegetables you can get on the market.
FamilyRe: I Am Becoming A Sadist, My Life Is Full Of Regret by Monben: 4:16pm On Feb 11, 2022
God bless you for this advice. I never knew that having a loving family can heal someone. It is actually a fact that 95 percent of people in Nigeria are mentally damaged by the things they have gone through. I pray that God helps us to heal so we don't pass this hate to our children.



oldienavie:
I know you have only written just a few from what you have passed through.
Let me tell you some things.
Nigeria is an evil place, majority of people in Nigeria are evil too, therefore the average person grow up in the midst of abuse, torture, pain etc.
95% of people in Nigeria are traumatised from the pain and evil they grew up with, the worse thing is that this has now be normalised and the result is a country lacking in empathy, desensitized to pain and evil in all its fabric.
You see police men, killing people without remorse, swapping inmates for the highest bidder and allowing the guilty walk free.

I have written all this so that you know you are not alone, some people on this group have been abused by their own parents sexually for years, how do you heal that kind of trauma, no justice nothing.

Every body expects you to man up and move on.

Now this is my little advise from someone who also had a traumatic childhood like you, but in my own case, people would argue that I should be grateful cos some people have it worse.

The fact you are alive is a priviledge, try to forgive yourself, move away from anything, family, friends that triggers the thought of the past .
This might sound somehow but try to look for a lady that loves you sincerely(this might be difficult but still possible considering the average lady out there is a gold digger) and pour your love into her.

Lastly, dream of having your own family and have a plan to raise your kids and family with the opportunity that you did not have.

The joy you get from a beautiful family will make you forget the past.

I wish you all the best.
CelebritiesRe: Adesua Etomi Celebrates Zaiah, Son's 1st Birthday, Recounts Childbirth Ordeal by Monben: 12:47pm On Jan 25, 2022
The video made me so emotional. I love this couple. I cant wait to see the face of their son. This is what I want Lord; a husband I love and that loves me back and children to crown it all.


Odewaleadesoye:
https://punchng.com/video-actress-adesua-etomi-recounts-childbirth-ordeal-as-son-clocks-one/
HealthRe: Banker, Nnamdi Godson Commits Suicide In Delta by Monben: 1:44pm On Jan 17, 2022
olaszydaruma:
I'm having this same thought lately as I'm in a lot of mess embarassed
Know that no matter what you are going through, it will always pass. Every problem has its time limit. Just hang in there. Do you know that some suicide victims regret their actions when it's already too late; when they have taken that poison or when the rope is rapidly squeezing life out of them?

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