₦airaland Forum

Hamachi:
Start your own restaurants

Lol start with which capital?

Nice2023:
How many children have u?

Just one

UyaiIncomparabl:
What's there not to believe? She looks exactly her age if not older.

I'll pass though. Me like some flesh. But, whatever rocks her boat.

Hmmmm she looks younger than me and I'm in my 20s

ThothHermes:
Oh.
Sorry.
Life doesn't always go in a straight line. Sometimes, people who say "damn it" to life and take what others call crazy risks get the best outcomes.
Hope you find something positive soon.

Thanks alot for your understanding.

God bless.

Congratulations

Mosdiii:
Can u move to Portharcourt? If u can please send me a message to kaladajumbo74@gmail.com

I can't move to Port Harcourt for now because of some unforseen Circumstances sadly, but i appreciate your concern. God bless.

Onyedikachi231:
OK. But you never start to dey regret and suffer, more on the way if you continue on this pedestal.

Truth is bitter but must be said irrespective.

Good news is that you are not my God and will never be. Abeg rest

UjuJoan2:
You’ve not learnt from your mistakes, otherwise you will not be comparing yourself to a hook up girl.

You are raising a daughter for God’s sake, is this what you are planning to teach her?

Nobody is above mistakes, but expecting people to pity you because you made a mistake is irresponsible.

Okay i have heard you.. thanks for the advice. As for my daughter, I'm training her in the ways of the Lord

But a father figure is still needed anyway. God made it so but I'm trying my possible best as her mum and Dad.

ThothHermes:
Can't you get in touch with her for assistance. Or were you judging her life choices then?

No o i cannot ask her for anything as i was a self righteous person back then like soo many nairalanders . As u rightly said I judged her back then.

Honestly sha, I don't have her current international number just the old one which is no longer going.

I sent her a DM on Instagram last year but I'm not even sure she saw it not to talk of replying.

She has more than 100k followers on Instagram right now!

Nollywood really needs spiritual cleansing

The deaths this days in the industry is just too much no jokes

Sapasenator:
Also you have to be careful not to regret too much about the past.
Regret is a negative emotion that will not allow you move forward.

For me, I seldom regret, I learn quickly from the past and move on. You need to have a solid plan for today and the future. You will need support from families, friends and your community.

Also this is 2024, you can learn a new digital skill and make money online. Academic qualifications are a tad bit overrated and does not provide any skill to survive in real life.

Also, it's not too late to learn a trade as your location does not have many lucrative jobs available.

Thank you very much for the kind words of encouragement and advice. God bless you real good.

But sadly, I can't leave Imo state at the moment cos my mum is not too strong. She needs me around for now.

shortgun:
Love exists!
Where many miss it is in compatibility, love without compatibility is bound to be full of struggles, endless messy conflicts and ultimately separation.
A woman who's an introvert should avoid a man who lives his life for the party.
A man who has high libido should stay away from a woman who will ask him "is sex food?"

Truth is that after all said n done, no man runs away from a good woman and no woman runs away from a good man if they are compatible.

Honestly love may exists anywhere else but definitely not Nigeria. I give up

Jflex07:
I remember trying to get acquainted with you some time ago,but you were forming for me ,even as single mum.. Maybe ,we would have gone a long way now and your life would have been much more better.

Sorry not sorry about that but i don't trust men anymore.

Will need a life time of healing unless God intervenes.

Elzazzi:
Is that you @dp

Yea, I'm the one.

UjuJoan2:
Blame yourself for your bad choices.

Why do girls think their success has to come from men?

Do you know how many countries I’ve visited, all on my own? No sugar daddy funding my trip? Even my husband has not travelled as much as I have.

I chose not to do hook up in the university, I had a boyfriend. But after school we both went out way and I went ahead to have an amazing career and life. I can beat my chest and say that NO MAN contributed to my success in life, and I am so proud of myself.

Do you think my school boyfriend didn’t want to trap me with pregnancy? He even proposed marriage to me but wouldn’t wait for me to find my path first, so I left him because I didn’t want to rely on a man all my life.

You might think your friend is having fun, but you don’t know what she does to get her money. I’ve seen videos of girls eating poo, sleeping with animals, engaging in disgusting s3xual acts. At your age you should know that social media is all lies.

Focus on yourself and cater for your daughter. Stop allowing yourself to get distracted!!!

I never crave for perfection from anyone because nobody is perfect except Jesus. I have learnt from my mistakes but i learnt the hard way and have become wiser.

You are also not above mistakes or perfect. Are you?

Sapasenator:
The world has changed a lot and you need to be real smart to get to the top.

Love is just a fleeting emotion akin to jealousy and hate, it may come and go and not enough to sustain a relationship in the long run.

I have seen good ladies who kept themselves, good Christians, married as virgins to follow Christian's, two of them are divorced now and had horrible marriages.

That you kept yourself and look for love may mean nothing in the long run.

I have seen ladies who were run girls in the school, slept with different people who are today very successful with even great marriages as we speak. They are fulfilled and living happily.

So life is not black and white and you have made the following mistakes;

1. You dated a broke student.
2. You got pregnant for him.
3. You refused to do hookup on the process.

You should have done it when you were young and fresh expecially if you are from a poor home with no support system.

You made a big mistake in school my dear, hookup is not all about sex, it's also about getting connected to move on to the next stage in life in an environment like Nigeria. Love is just a mere emotional feeling that comes and goes.

I am a man who has studied the world carefully and will give you a pragmatic advice by telling you that you made a very big mistake.

Try your best to succeed in life and if you can break a few rules without getting caught, do it.

Also you said this in one of your post

"I'm separated from my partner ( My daughters Dad) because of his gambling problem and many other things too numerous to mention"

Now, he is abroad and no longer an habitual gambler.

I suspect that boy also does YAHOO and other illegal stuff but I just lock up. Any way he is past tense and I'm all about giving my daughter the best of training rich or poor by the grace of God.

Thanks for your advice. Very much appreciated.

Love is officially dead

Sapasenator:
Why the insult?

Why will he be calling me lazy and without focus? Does he know me or live with me?

This Chinese people and their excesses is becoming too much. Like WTF is really going on.

FRANCISTOWN:
If this story is true.

One thing people don't understand is that success is on people, and not on what they do.

Let's flip your lifestyle.
If your friend had been the decent one and you had been the immoral one. Your friend would still have been "successful" and you'd still be broke up till this day.

If you realized I put the word "successful" in quotes. It means, your friend may appear successful, but is she really successful? Do you know whether she has any sicknesses or diseases that she's battling?
But fines pictures at fine spots are your own criteria for a successful lifestyle.

It's too early to determine who is truly successful.
My people go talk say "Person wey never die never know the kind death wey go kill am".

The end justifies the means.

Very well noted. Thanks alot dear.

There was a country

Onyedikachi231:
When I am going to work in the morning, na your mates I dey see dey sweep road and are paid, no matter how small, there is dignity in labour.

You just want who will foot your lifestyle, you are just lazy and without focus in life.

Start there first.

You are really crazy. Pls get out of my mention.

Nonsense.

Chioma4eva:
Baby girl move on with your life okay. Men are not worth the stress. I just sent you an email pls reply.

Thanks alot sis.

Seen and replied accordingly.

shortgun:
Anybody can make money through prostitution and other vices,this is where you'll find the most morally bankrupt people.
People with character, integrity, and self-respect will always depend on legal means to wealth.

I will spit on a woman who's flying around the world opening her legs for any lowlifer that brings cash.
I will pick a girl who doesn't have 1 kobo over her

The guy who abandoned you is also a morally bankrupt person..I will also spit on him.
In life people will betray you, lie to you and hurt you .
All these is supposed to make you stronger and more experienced..help you make better decisions in the future.

So "Love" really doesn't exist at the end of the day.

Thanks for the comment and i have learnt the hard way indeed.

Kemadealadire:
You were both sinning differently, lol. You just chose the poor sin, nothing like that though, sin is sin.

If you are a Christian, avoiding pre-marital sex would have saved you from a lot of this and forget about your roommate, you could have followed her footsteps and it would have turned out worse for you. Dust yourself and keep moving.

Thanks dear.

I guess i have learnt the hard way "in VDM voice"

Hathor5:
You were not foolish, you still are for asking very stewpid questions. Who asked you to get pregnant out of wedlock and without resources to care for a child? It`s only a rich husband that can give you a comfortable life? You can`t do it for yourself? Maybe if you had been reading your books instead of following boyfriends, we would read something sensible today.

I don`t particulary enjoy being hard on people but I don`t believe you are who you say you are. I think you want a thread that creates some heat. You`re welcome.

Who told you i didn't focus on my books? I graduated with a strong second class upper since 2020 and haven't been able to secure a job since then. Even posted about my predicament here on NL. So what gives?.

Your first paragraph is very hypocritical to be honest!

Beremx:
Greatest Imo Star, it's a pity you got pregnant out of wedlock. I see no reason why you wished you wanted to be like your roommate. Everyone's destiny cannot be the same. Just keep praying that it gets better now that you have a child. It is well

Thanks very much. I appreciate

fyzaila:
Doing bad things and getting away with it doesn't mean it's good. I don't see any difference between the two of you. One is high-class olosho and the other low class olosho so all is olosho. You should have just focus on what you were sent to school to do, face your studies alone. You wouldn't have been in this predicament you're in now.

And who told you i didn't focus on my studies?

I graduated with a strong 2:1 my dear but I haven't been able to get a Job since graduation and service. I even posted about my predicament here on NL so what gives?

Nigeria is full of self righteous hypocrites no lie about that

bolseas:
@OP

You don't have to regret your actions and decisions.

Maybe if you were into hookups back then, they would have used you for rituals and you will not have this beautiful daughter you have right now.

You don't have to wallow in self pity now. Don't look at the past. The fact that you are still alive is enough to show that you can still achieve your heart desires.

My 2k

Thanks alot for the uplifting comment sis. God bless you.

But you are basically saying same thing with the previous commenter and my response remains same

theenchanter:
let's assume u followed ur friend's footsteps and ritualists used u nko? Why the unnecessary regrets?

Madam, the deed has been done, improve urself, better days and guys are coming.

My dear that is exactly what i was thinking back then now I'm left all alone to myself. Job I no see, money I never get since graduation few years back. Posted about needing a Job here on NL. No reasonable response. I'm just tired of everything.

Namaster:
Not being a hookup girl when she was younger.

I am not old my dear. I just turned 26.

theenchanter:
What exactly are u regretting?

The Good Life I could have been living now if i followed my roommate and not Love.

I hope she is found alive and untempered with