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kellylicious: Let me start by introducing myself my name is kelechi,i'll be 27 by next month and i promised myself that i must settle down b4 the end of dis year.Here is my story; am not from a wealthy family so i've been through a lot in my life,i started having suitors from the age of 14 which i believe is due to my stature.At first my parent saw those guys who came seeking for my hand in marriage as crazy but when i clocked 15 my dad started pressurising me to accept. I turned them all down cos i believe in love.Am a highly emotional person,i believe i should date and be inlove with a man b4 speaking of marriage. I've been through so many things that i can not write here but it made me went exile,nobody knew where i was for so many years and so many painful things happened to me while i was away also cos i was tooo young to be alone. I suffered,i got help,got disppointed,made friends and enemies,learn different kind of things,violence,anger,pains,kindness i also learnt different kinds of tricks men uses on girls. While i was passing trough that phase of life i never give up on myself,i had every opportunities to live a wayward live but i didn't cos i no it will all bounce on my mother,just like u all no(when a child is bad he/she becomes mother's child) so i tried not to make my mom suffer for my problems.I tried to work and school at thesame time though i met girls and guys who liked and assisted me but i did not marry any of the guys for different reasons.To cut the long story short,i reconciled with my family but yet living with stranger and pursing to be someone in life till i met a guy,he's my spec of guy,he is like everything i described in my prayer request 3 weeks b4 i met him when i accompanied my sister to her church crusade,he was like a dream come true,i did not even wait for him to say "i love u" or propose b4 i called and told my sis that i have found the man i want to marry(crazy isn't it?) Yes i guess that is how it is when u fall in love.He prays and fast a lot,he's that type that doesn't stay out late cos he has to pray every 9pm.He does not go to clubs,does not smoke and drinks accasionally (red wine only).seriously i can say aside his apperance his prayer life is the main reason i fell inlove with him without control.He was very fond of me too and we see each other everday.I asked him a lots of questions about his relationships cos am the talking type while he is the taciturn type so he really liked my person,he told me he has no girlfriend but later i discovered he lied to me about his affairs cos i found out about some girls,we quarrelled so much that i almost left him cos as much as am faithful so am jealous.He gradually left those girls to be with me but since then i've not been able to trust him again. I had problem in school which kinda take me to a squre one,i thought he was going to leave me then but he still stood by me. Now here is my problem... He took me to meet his parent last November and they did not approve of me. His father said am not as educated as he want,am not tall and am from a poor background.His mother did not really say anything just that she asked him to listen to his father.All his brothers are friendly with me and he has no sister. Every member of my family loves and accept him ,though he has not met my mom but they spoke over the phone when my father and uncle arranged another Abuja based guy for me to marry and lied to me to come home that my father was very ill and needed my attention,when i got home and the battle started he begged my mom to be on my side when i turn down the marriage proposal that he loves and wants to be my husband.My mom did as he said and i ran away as usual. Finally he said he's paying for my dowry after August,the relationship has not been as sweet as it used to be since the time he took me to his parent or should i say 2 months b4 he took me to his parents yet he still says he wants to marry me.We quarrel a lot this days but he still claims he loves me. I was with some of my friends and their friends that i've not met b4 and they started gisting about love and marriage,two of the ladies are marrie,d one is about to then myself and one other lady are still in a relationship.They said a lot of things about men which scares the shit out of me,they said the man u think u no so well that loves u like mad,that never lets u cry,that carries u like an egg when u are dating him will turn to ur worst nightmare when u finally marries him. They said if a woman wants to marry and be happy she should marry a man who loves her not who she loves,cos if she marries who she loves she will end up crying for the rest of her married life but if she marries a man who loves her instead then he'll always try to please her but if he eventually turns to be the opposite of what he was b4 marriage then the woman will be strong to deal with him cos she's not inlove with him.They also said if she happens to be the type that cares so much and probably the selfless type also the type that makes her husband her friend by so doing not keeping friends out there that means she's totally doomed. trust me people everything these ladies mentioned above is who i am that's why i hurt easily.The question i never stopped asking myself since that day is "if he's already hurting me now that we are not married and does not care how i feel since the day i met his parent till now is it when i marry him that he'll begin to? Everything i do these days to please him turns out pissing him off and hurting me,we easily quarrel and he uses words that kills me! But despite all this he still claims he wants me,he refused to say it's over! But his doings kinda wants to make me run .... Pls people should i run or should i wait to see the end of this? What if he never says it's over? What if he marries me and make my life misrable? I don't want to try divorce,nobody in my family has ever tried that. Pls i need help me! Am helpless!! Am really thinking a lot this days and it's making me sick!!!

kellylicious: Let me start by introducing myself my name is kelechi,i'll be 27 by next month and i promised myself that i must settle down b4 the end of dis year.Here is my story; am not from a wealthy family so i've been through a lot in my life,i started having suitors from the age of 14 which i believe is due to my stature.At first my parent saw those guys who came seeking for my hand in marriage as crazy but when i clocked 15 my dad started pressurising me to accept. I turned them all down cos i believe in love.Am a highly emotional person,i believe i should date and be inlove with a man b4 speaking of marriage. I've been through so many things that i can not write here but it made me went exile,nobody knew where i was for so many years and so many painful things happened to me while i was away also cos i was tooo young to be alone. I suffered,i got help,got disppointed,made friends and enemies,learn different kind of things,violence,anger,pains,kindness i also learnt different kinds of tricks men uses on girls. While i was passing trough that phase of life i never give up on myself,i had every opportunities to live a wayward live but i didn't cos i no it will all bounce on my mother,just like u all no(when a child is bad he/she becomes mother's child) so i tried not to make my mom suffer for my problems.I tried to work and school at thesame time though i met girls and guys who liked and assisted me but i did not marry any of the guys for different reasons.To cut the long story short,i reconciled with my family but yet living with stranger and pursing to be someone in life till i met a guy,he's my spec of guy,he is like everything i described in my prayer request 3 weeks b4 i met him when i accompanied my sister to her church crusade,he was like a dream come true,i did not even wait for him to say "i love u" or propose b4 i called and told my sis that i have found the man i want to marry(crazy isn't it?) Yes i guess that is how it is when u fall in love.He prays and fast a lot,he's that type that doesn't stay out late cos he has to pray every 9pm.He does not go to clubs,does not smoke and drinks accasionally (red wine only).seriously i can say aside his apperance his prayer life is the main reason i fell inlove with him without control.He was very fond of me too and we see each other everday.I asked him a lots of questions about his relationships cos am the talking type while he is the taciturn type so he really liked my person,he told me he has no girlfriend but later i discovered he lied to me about his affairs cos i found out about some girls,we quarrelled so much that i almost left him cos as much as am faithful so am jealous.He gradually left those girls to be with me but since then i've not been able to trust him again. I had problem in school which kinda take me to a squre one,i thought he was going to leave me then but he still stood by me. Now here is my problem... He took me to meet his parent last November and they did not approve of me. His father said am not as educated as he want,am not tall and am from a poor background.His mother did not really say anything just that she asked him to listen to his father.All his brothers are friendly with me and he has no sister. Every member of my family loves and accept him ,though he has not met my mom but they spoke over the phone when my father and uncle arranged another Abuja based guy for me to marry and lied to me to come home that my father was very ill and needed my attention,when i got home and the battle started he begged my mom to be on my side when i turn down the marriage proposal that he loves and wants to be my husband.My mom did as he said and i ran away as usual. Finally he said he's paying for my dowry after August,the relationship has not been as sweet as it used to be since the time he took me to his parent or should i say 2 months b4 he took me to his parents yet he still says he wants to marry me.We quarrel a lot this days but he still claims he loves me. I was with some of my friends and their friends that i've not met b4 and they started gisting about love and marriage,two of the ladies are marrie,d one is about to then myself and one other lady are still in a relationship.They said a lot of things about men which scares the shit out of me,they said the man u think u no so well that loves u like mad,that never lets u cry,that carries u like an egg when u are dating him will turn to ur worst nightmare when u finally marries him. They said if a woman wants to marry and be happy she should marry a man who loves her not who she loves,cos if she marries who she loves she will end up crying for the rest of her married life but if she marries a man who loves her instead then he'll always try to please her but if he eventually turns to be the opposite of what he was b4 marriage then the woman will be strong to deal with him cos she's not inlove with him.They also said if she happens to be the type that cares so much and probably the selfless type also the type that makes her husband her friend by so doing not keeping friends out there that means she's totally doomed. trust me people everything these ladies mentioned above is who i am that's why i hurt easily.The question i never stopped asking myself since that day is "if he's already hurting me now that we are not married and does not care how i feel since the day i met his parent till now is it when i marry him that he'll begin to? Everything i do these days to please him turns out pissing him off and hurting me,we easily quarrel and he uses words that kills me! But despite all this he still claims he wants me,he refused to say it's over! But his doings kinda wants to make me run .... Pls people should i run or should i wait to see the end of this? What if he never says it's over? What if he marries me and make my life misrable? I don't want to try divorce,nobody in my family has ever tried that. Pls i need help me! Am helpless!! Am really thinking a lot this days and it's making me sick!!!

mechummy: I'm slim but not straight

nelie: Have been a nairalander 4 couple of years now but have never created a post of my own. I consider it pretty much necessary right now as I can't continue living ds way & need u guys to help me out. I am 27yrs old, a banker in one of d leading banks in Nigeria, also own a buisness of my own, but am seemingly addicted to sleeping wt prostitutes. U might like to call it aristo's, rungirls, olosho's or wat av u. I'd always lived in Abj, & in Abj u'd rather pay than keep. But ds is killing me right now as I cannot even save reasonably. Ds ill habit started about 11yrs ago when I was about writing waec, my friend & I went to a neuboring brothel pretending we wanted to buy ice cream as we both knew pretty well such is neva sold in a place like that. We just wanted to satisfy our curiousity about prostitutes, see them & stuffs like that. But here I am today av graduated to d highest class of prostitutes "aristos",is has bad as sleeping wt a girl 4 30k per night & ds I do almost once in every week. I can hardly save 200k in my acct, as I have parents that still gives me money, so I particularly don't do anything wt my salary. Worse still I av a Gf & my Gf says we can't have sex until we get married. She dosent know I patronise aristo's though. My greatest fear at d moment is if I don't desist from this I might never get a life of my own. Am good looking, drives a good car, very caring, energetic, down to earth, wt good sense of humour yet I keep patronizing aristos. Nairalanders pls help me out!!!. N:B pls pardon all grammatical mistakes in the course of this write up.

mechummy: Hell to d NO! What exactly is your problem

mechummy: *laughs in swahili*

mechummy: U cut our light now or have u forgotten?

cherryurch: I hav small bossoms but my boyfrnd prefer medium sized one,he wants me 2 do smtin 2 make mine bigger but d problem is dat i dont knw wht 2 do,anyone wit good advice dat wil help me,i'l realy appreciate it

mechummy: lyk seriously? who asked u? who cares? Well, I dont give 2 fu.cks

mechummy: sweeery u didnt have to check my pic...its just one of my ways BTW

Divepen: many people have been falling in and out of relationships and the problem in many are not always resolved because everybody blames one another
WHO IS TO BE BLAMED

mechummy: Hmm... I dunno! It just happens I can't really tell what attracts me

Profemmy001: What attracts u to d opposite sex?
Is it their financial prowess?, physical appearance?, charisma nd personality?, fame?....
Let uz knw...!!!

luvjesus: Why is d accusing finger always pointing to d woman and not d man. There is dis man who always go to clubs, guest houses, hotels all in d name of boardmeetins etc. playing around with gals.There is dis fateful day, he went to a club and saw his wife who just went to cool off, he quickly drove home and threw d wife's belongings out. Please what is your take on this as dis concerns everyone of us being a man or woman.

maxxx: Pls fellow nairalanders,I need ur sincere advice on how to tackle this issue that just came up.I knw there are smart guys nd ladies here.
I got acall frm my fiancee who is doing her final yr in one of our tertiary inst.she wz weeping profusely nd after calming her down she proceeded to tell me what she is presently going thru.she told me aparticular lecturer inher departmnt hz been making advances at her nd she stonewalled him.Recently d man upped d ante by obtaining her number frm an unknown source nd making d poor girls life unbearable,calling her incessantly,trying to fix appointments with her so they can hangout.when she refused to play ball,d man started issueing threats like her failing her exams and also making sure she doesn't graduate.that's when she decided to tell me.Guys I've never been ina situation like this.I'm caught flat footed.that's why I come to you for piece of brain to deal with d situation.thanx ya all for ur time.

stev007: Pardon my language Mr Cork but you are either plain stupid or simply retarded. So what if we ve never being to london. Does it make us less human or less successful? I ve being to Paris in France, I ve being to Andalucian region in Spain, and Naples, Milan and the island of Sicily in Italy. I could mention other places that I ve visited but I fear I might start sounding like you. Your not the first to leave the shores of Nigeria and you definitely won't be the last. After experiencing racism from foreigners abroad, should I or kemi or others be subjected to another round of it from you, our own flesh and blood? Am happy for you if you are really in London but don't rub it to our faces like its a trophy. Once again sir, apologies if you find my choice of words abusive. I hope your slavery-induced inferior mentality leaves you. This thread is for beyonce and her baby, not about talks of London from an arrogant self deluded street urchin living in The Smoke..Ciao