SAD Wun wu is gone!! my favourite giant.

this girl is pained. lmfao

thanks everyone!!! i appreciate.
i will be giving her till friday to get back to me when she intend paying.
i will involve the police if she insist she wont pay.

there was this 23 years old girl i was dating in my lodge but i broke up with her February this years because i did not have the intention of marrying her. i called her and spoke to her about all these and gave her my reasons which of cause she did not like. she begged and said she is not ready for marriage yet and she did not say i must marry her but i insisted on quitting cause i didnt want to waste more years on a courtship that will lead no where.

she quite her job some time last year october and another job was not forthcoming so i was the one feeding and taking care of her and giving her kid sis nothing less than 5k whenever she comes home for holiday. till she got a job and her first pay in may, i was the one making sure she lacks nothing. my girlfriend complained but i assured her she will soon be on her(ex) feet and i will stop then. God being faithful, she was able to secure a job may 2016 but to my dismay i found out she didnt have any certificate that she wrote in her CV, not even the common WAEC or Birth Cert. ( during the time we were dating she disclosed to me that she didnt finish her higher education cause she lost her mum who was responsible for her fees). trying to be the good friend, i gave her money to go forge about four documents which she sent to the HR of the organization.

in April, she sent me a text that i should lend her 50k for her to complete her rent that she has ran out of excuses to tell her caretaker that she was going to pay it back mid may. that someone promised her some money. out of the 50k she asked for, i gave her 45k cause that was what i was having then to spare. since mid may she has been telling me different stories.

there is this good for nothing boy she is now dating in the lodge, all he does is smoke weed and drink with his friends. of a truth, i dont really know which among them she is dating so i advised her to do better that the boy will only succeed in pulling her back. we do have sex on few occasions though.

just yesterday, 7/6/16 around past 9pm, i saw her returning from an outing, after exchanging pleasantries, i then asked her if she has heard from her friend who promised her some cash and she replied she will get back to me. she has told me this same line several times on phone which she has failed to even update me on the issue so i insisted she gives a definite day and time i should be expecting her feedback and she started shouting that i am embarrassing her that i should get out from her room. i was shocked because it was just the two of us that was in the room so i dont know who i was embarrassing her to. moreover, even if someone was there, there is no way the person will even know what we were discussing. she kept shouting that i should leave her room i got angry and gave her a light shove on her shoulder and started walking out. to my dismay, she followed me behind and gave a me a slap on my face. i was stunned and was just staring at her, next she gave me another 2. lolxxx. to God who made me, i dont know where i got strength from not to give her swollen eyes. i controlled myself as difficult as it was. she said to tell me the truth, she didnt plan on paying me back my money that i should do my worse. her boyfriends (i dont know who exactly she is dating among them) came and started threatening me that it is because of cult case that they are here(in town) and i should not make them descend on me. i just laughed and told them we will start the case tomorrow.

now, i intend going to the police to help recover the money cause i do not want to take laws into my own hand and i am so resisting the temptation to make her lose her job which i worked over 50% to help her secure.

this is so damn...

as bad as it is...they seem to have made all plans. NLC will do nothing. forget that press release. its just for face value

your questions provokes deep thoughts and frankly i've been unable to provide satisfactory answers to most of them. i have rethought my steps and would see if i can put some necessary things in place which will make life easier...if i cant i will have to stay back.thanks.

omega25red:
Poster here are some questions for you

1. who do you know in America that can help support you seeing as you want to be illegal
2. where are you planning to stay while making your way if you do decide to disappear
3. how long do you think your savings can carry you? as in do you think you can stay in a cheap hotel for 3 months?
4. after you disappear, what is your plan?
5. where do you think you will start looking for a job
6. what are your plans to get document to work legally?
7. have you decided on the city you plan to go stay?
8. how long are you willing to go if things are hard before you leave? (what is your escape plan?)
9. Are you hoping to find someone to put you up in their home? and how long do you think you will be staying before you wear out your welcome?
10. what type of work experience do you have?
11. how much are you willing to collect as pay being an illegal immigrant with no employee rights?
12. can you take a leave of absence from work to try?
13. why didn't you consider what your parents advised?

i have many more but these are some questions to seriously ask yourself. I am not discouraging or encouraging you i am just asking that you ask yourself these questions and if you have concrete answers to them then...........

nice legs

Kbuddie:


Sorry to burst ur bubble bro, u are on d wrong thread. This thread is only for legit visitors to d US.

i will be a legit visitor. im not using fake papers bro

seyewest:
@mrego You're on your own... Hopefully they will send you home at POE. That's my best opinion.

not possible!! my papers will be legit

imperiouxx:


Nope, he/she is not just recognized here. To make life easy for yourself, yea, you need contact(s). @2 to 3 jobs.... men, you will understand when you get here. Just know that you have to search, pay and work on another person's paper before you can even get 1 menial job. You might want to remove NYC from your list if you don't want to suffer more than necessary.

aight bro. thanks for the headsup

dont save it for another day pls.. share!!
i want it.

mikkyangel:


Bro,u are absolutely correct!,I live here and I know how the system works..

Bi/b2 can be adjusted. ..weda visa expired or not so long can find tru love..

Those who came as students too can get married and adjust ur status. ..yanky is so so wellcoming and accommodating...it's not dose yeye countries in Europe whereby b4 u get papers ehhhh,u go sweat die! I have lived in both worlds.

And another solid way u can find a lady is thru (be it in n9ja or wen one lands here is tru online dating )..


I heard d visa lottery will be open to NIGERIANS from 2018,let's keep our fingers cross eyoooo

lolz. no be my fault o. na watin the country cause

kingsilly:


Mrego wanna fall in love with an Americana..
You go live chioma for Lagos go, you no do well ooo

imperiouxx:


But wait a minute. If you have multiple entry you can always reenter US many times after the first time. Even if your visa is not multiple entry, your first time can be the time for you to build reputation, make contacts and explore the possibilities of remaining in US legally. I know people who messed up their opportunities by doing this one time sharp man stuffs. Being illegal on B1/B2 is one hell situation you don't want to experience. You don't won't to be crying while hustling and paying your bills. It's your call bro.

so far my eyes have been opened to the dangers of absconding. i will go and come back. thanks

TWoods:


Fraud, misrepresentation and breaking the law is just as wrong, that loophole, if it exists, will soon be closed for good.

bros, before they adjust that law... i will use it lawfully. thanks

wow!!! this has increased my hope. i intend finding love... i must hustle for the love. what i will do go and make some connections before going back finally. thanks

jt2010:


You citizenship status in usa is not an important factor in this discussion but your knowledge of the usa immigration laws. And please stop the assumption that every individual that comments are hustling to travel to America.

First what is important when a visitor with B1 or B2 or overstayer want to adjust status to Green card through marriage in America is the I-94 (Landing Card). (my submission is not in anyway supporting any Shame marriages to gain immigration benenfits but real marriage base on love).

The alien must not have entered the United States illegally. Aliens must have been inspected and lawfully admitted into the U.S. The USCIS considers that you have been "inspected" when you present yourself to an immigration officer at a U.S. port of entry. You are considered admitted when an officer informs you of such and you are allowed to enter the U.S. As a rule, your I-94 and/or the Immigration and Naturalization Stamp in your passport is an indication that you have been admitted legally. Check the page 2 of this USCIS document to confirm my statement.

See link from Visa Journey below:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/593860-aos-of-a-b2-visa-with-i-94-about-to-expire/

See other link to tell you that the eligibility to adjust status for anybody that is already in the usa with visitor visa or overstay is been lawfully/legally admitted which can only be prove by including your 1-94 card in your application and a copy of your visa.
http://www.hooyou.com/i-485/eligible.html

NOTE: While I do respect your opinion but we (individually) cannot know everything, so my aim is just to point out the fact to any members of this forum that may ever need such type of information to make their decision.

are you saying as long as one doesn't over stay his visa, he can get married and be eligible for green card or u saying as long as the it is B1/B2, one is automatically not eligible ?

TWoods:


You are absolutely free to try. I do not require a visa so do not find it useful to argue with you... however you should note that a B1/B2 is NOT a dual intent visa (that is why the vast majority of folks allowed AOS in the us are H, L etc. visa holders - these visas are dual intent and you do not have to prove no motive to immigrate). Also note that the whole point of a visa interview is to get on record what the purpose of your use of the visa would be. Should you have been found to have lied about the purpose of your visa, you will not be able to adjust status.

With regard to overstaying your visa... again feel free to try, don't say you were not warned. Not sure why people bother to go through the hassle of being banned and having to deal with ineligibility waivers.

Having gone through the entire immigration process from B1/B2 to H to green card, i found your response rather amusing. But to each his own.

TWoods:


No. If you came in as a visitor B1/B2, you are automatically ineligible to adjust status to green card in the US. You must go back to your home country to do so . If you had overstayed your visa for >180 days, you would be ineligible for a green card anyway unless you apply for a waiver of inadmissibility. Its not totally impossible but its a long shot.

really!!! you mean even after being legally married they can still depot me?

jwillng:



Bros seize the opportunity. Nothing good in life comes easy. Everything that you want in life and is good is outside your comfort zone. If you visa is guaranteed because the Federal Government is guaranteeing it-take it as an opportunity. It will be on your record.

But I dont advise you abscond. For what purpose? Keep your job.

Calculate how much money you need for the trip? And do your Maths. If for example-total is N500,000-try and figure out how to make that back. It will take a lot of brain work and focus-but you can come up with a good idea. Maybe one of the Oga's in your Ministry needs a new macbook laptop or iphone-that can be almost 100k profit for you.

As for accommodation-consider the following:

1) Combine with 2 other people and share an Hotel room. At $50 a night paid weekly-thats roughly $17 per person. $17 is about 5k a night.
2) Check Craigslist for vacation apartments or people looking to sub let. You may be lucky to get something for $100 a week
3) As around -there's always someone who knows someone who knows someone who has a relative in the USA that can house for a 3 weeks or so. Just be neat, polite and bring some gratitude.

Use the trip to build bridges, make contacts, form relationships, be in good standing with the Embassy.

And please dont do dasukigate-they are the people that have ruined Nigeria and there are curses on all of them already .

that is a new dimension entirely... i didn't think of that. making the money i use in funding my trip back would a grt idea. maybe i will look for things to buy and resell here but would that be possible? i mean wont they charge for import and all that?

i am still trying to make contacts on someone i can stay with over there. hopefully i would find one and if i dont see, i will explore the other option.

i am seriously praying that God should take me away from temptation because it wont be easy not to dasukigate. lolz
thanks for this advice.. it has brought another angle to this journey

let the blood bath begin... i wont be in this crazy country

gunther6:


Who will hire an illegal Actually I know a few, drug lords do not really care about visa status, get caught and you will experience true American 'hospitality', another group will hire you and pay you below minimum wage under the table, if they refuse to pay or pay below what was agreed, are you going to call the police? As MsNas will say take off your rose colored glasses. Get down to work, write exams, get into good programs (VIU, Uni of Phoenix not included) and get your Visa. Long cut get sweat, short cut get blood naso dem talk am

hmm. all these is just scary. seems this school route is way better though tougher. thanks for ur input.

i have read all this with apt attention and its quite educative. i will surely put all you have said into consideration before taking that step (either to cut the yam leave it entirely ). there is a chance of me growing in my job but you know how civil service is in Nigeria. there is practically no civil servant that doesn't complain and i don't want to ever start feeling that way in years to come. thanks for this.

bigfrancis21:


First off, life in America is not all beds of roses. Now, I am going to be plain and direct with you about life in America and tell it to you as it is. I am not wont to give off the impression of America as heaven on earth while actually the reality in the same 'heaven' is the opposite for many people living here. As a new immigrant to this country, basically you are starting life afresh and you would need between 2 to 5 years to be able to stand on your feet in this country and this includes sorting out your permanent residency status (many people get married to a PRdent or citizen, join the US army and become a citizen immediately thereby bypassing the green card step but joining the army requires signing about 6 years of contract with them, or obtain their PR by doing business and investing up to $500,000 or $1,000,000 depending on the type of business or by refugee/asylum status etc.) and this could take about a year or two to achieve, going back to school here in the US to obtain a US degree (our Nigerian degrees are not usually recognized here and to land well-paying jobs in corporate america, as an immigrant you would need to obtain a US degree and any attendant certifications where and when necessary - be prepared to go back to school again here in the US, establishing a credit history for yourself (I cannot overemphasize the importance of starting early as soon as one gets to America to start building one's credit history as this is the key to so many doors of opportunity in this country) etc. and it takes at least a year or 2 to have satisfactory credit history and a good score, adapting to the American culture, learning Americans and their ways of thinking and doing things etc. America has a high taxation rate, especially for employees. The tax rate can be very high especially if you're single. To give you an example, from a paycheck of $1,500 for 2 weeks of work (here you are paid biweekly and not once every month end like in Nigeria), about $400 is deducted in form of federal taxes, state taxes etc. leaving you with about $1,100. Or out of an annual yearly salary of $70,000, your actual take home pay would be about $46,000 as a single individual, with about $24,000 paid to Uncle Sam as taxes. Now, if you're married or you have kids, the tax rate is lower.

America is a beautiful country with an efficiently working system and well advanced technology in almost every facet of life. The weather is adorable such that within a year of staying here you begin to notice changes on your skin (with sunshine for only about 3 to 4 months of the entire year and cold/rain/snow for the remainder of the year, your skin begins to produce less and less of melanin pigment). The economy is robust such that without a university degree, there are lots of jobs for you to survive on but there is only an extent to how much you can make compared to having a US university degree. Food here is cheap and with $100 you can eat comfortably per month, especially if you cook at home. There is constant electricity 24/7 and you never have to worry about there being no light when you get home at night after a long stressful day. Water runs steadily at home - both hot and cold, and the choice is yours to use depending on the weather. Almost all homes are equipped with heaters and ACs such that you enjoy the best of summer and winter weathers. The system here works in so many ways. Depending on the state, there is often a minimum wage that is paid, and this ensures that nobody is unfairly underpaid in any work they do. Oh, did I forget the yearly tax returns? Did you know that every year you are required to file what they call a tax return, which is basically Uncle Sam's (nickname for the IRS) way of ensuring that everyone is paying their fair share of taxes and you are refunded some or all of Federal or/and state taxes you paid for the previous year which could amount to $1,000s? The internet service here is very fast with wi-fi in almost every house, on campus, some restaurants and fast food joints etc. There is much more enforced security and you can be sure of police arriving at your house in less than 5 minutes when you dial 911. The United States Postal Services works such that you barely have the need to use courier services except for international packages. The roads are all well-built with very few potholes here and there to ensure that your car lasts you quite a while. Needless to say, life in America is very comfortable but this comfort comes at a huge price. It is not for free neither is it cheap.

On the flip side, nothing in America is free. Every freebie you enjoy is accounted for in this country. You pay for every social amenity you enjoy down to the very little of it. Out of your biweekly paychecks per month you pay for your rent (or mortgage if you bought the house), light bill, water bill, gas bill (for cooking and for the house heater depending on the house type), internet bill, cable TV bill, monthly phone bill (phone service in this country is based on month to month subscription and for any month you do not pay or renew your subscription, your line is totally cut off and you're disconnected from friends and family. This is in reverse to what we have in Nigeria whereby if you don't have money to recharge credit on your phone, your line still remains connected for as long as 6 months and you don't have to worry about any monthly subscription fees whatsoever), bus transportation fares or car loan monthly payments (if you purchased your car on loan), gas/fuel for your car, feeding, miscellaneous etc. With little or nothing left after paying all these bills per month, you'd realize that you need to savings of your own. Then you have your relatives and friends back home asking you to send them dollars that afterall you're picking dollars from the streets.

To sum it up, you must have to work or be hardworking at whatever that you do to keep enjoying the social amenities that you enjoy. The system has been designed in such a way with several avenues that take the money away from you as you earn it, thus keeping you entrenched in the system.

Now, who are those I strongly recommend to come to the US? Those people who have very little or nothing going for them in Nigeria. People who work quite hard but have very little or no hopes of making it in Nigeria, people who have very little hopes of achieving, at least, a middle class life - a house, a nice car, a good job etc. in Nigeria. For such people, I strongly recommend them to come to the US. Please come over with any opportunity that you can get. Perhaps with hard work, you would get to live in a middle class style home that you've always wanted, drive new cars and models of your choice (most times on car auto loan with payment plan to pay back the bank or loan lender), have an above-average income job, enjoy the social amenities of America, etc. That is just about it, nothing more nothing less.

For those who already have a system working for them in Nigeria such as a successful business or a well-paying job with huge benefits today or sometime down the line, packing up your bags, abandoning a system already working for you and coming to the US would be your greatest folly. For this set of people, I would not recommend abandoning a system already working greatly for you just for the sake of going to obodo oyibo. With such system working for you, you could comfortably afford to visit the US at your leisure, come shopping in the US, etc. and still get to have a taste of American life while still having your system back home running for you.

With all of these said, it is left to you to evaluate your situation and see where you stand. The ball is in your court and the decision is yours. I ji ji, jide mma (you hold the yam and also the knife, meaning you how you choose to cut the yam is your decision to make). Cheers.

DeeTus:
That's alright! Just look for scholarship and be happy.

Life abroad is tough as well. Infact, there's no free lunch anywhere in the world, if you're lucky to find someone who will accomodate you for free for a period of time, you have to take up his other bills too, to show compassion.

thanks for the encouragement.

TWoods:
Why don't you try applying to go to school? That really is your only sane option.

people seem to be saying that a lot

LadyGuinivere:

Hissssssssssssssss

ah!! madam, wat i do?

TWoods:


Questions in highlights answered in order:

1. It is not wise at all and infact this may be reason enough to deny you the visa if the VO feels the cost of the trip is not commensurate with what you earn. But you may be lucky. If the trip is all expenses paid, then go and have fun!

2. Your parents are wise indeed. Going to "disappear" in the US is a fool's errand. Most likely there will be a new immigration law in the next 2 years that will require all employers to run an I-9 verification of lawful status for anyone seeking employment. That means you cannot work. You will never be able to obtain an SSN - which means no ability to buy a car, a house, an ID of any kind, own a bank account etc. You will never be eligible to adjust to legal status and if caught, you will be barred from the states for life. So really, what's the point of a life lived mainly in fear and in hiding?

My best advice for those who wish to emigrate to the US - consider the school route and start EARLY!

thanks... seems the school route is way better. just that the opportunity came and i didnt want it to slide. but wont i get green card if i am fortunate to fall in love with a citizen and we get married?

imperiouxx:


Who is that in bold? About U.S, well, the choice is yours. No contact or whatsoever will make this journey extra hard for you to survive. Best of luck.

lol. any beef with the person behind the name?

if i can get shelter...the rest shouldn't be much of a problem. i can hustle my way to make some cash. i heard i can do 2 to 3 jobs and make good money.

Mayflowa:



Seriously! You want lalasticlala to put you out to the world? There is everything wrong with your intentions. Begin to take that thought from your heart.

You wanna abandon your job and become a fugitive here? People that come here legally find life hard at the start let alone you with no housing and job. The cold will finish you.

If you are interested in coming to America. Go apply for cheap school. Read and pass your GRE and take study leave. You may even qualify for scholarship. If you like America you could then work your paper to stay legally.

Why does all Nigerians want to become mega rich. Most people don't aspire to be mega rich in America. They just live a simple life and pay their tax. I have to take my time to talk to you so u won't face so much regret by ur decision.

bro, i am really confused... some testify of the goodness of america while others say it is not asa easy as portrayed. i don't really care about being mega rich though i wont reject it if opportunity to be presents itself. i just want a comfy life where i can afford anything i and would be family desire

DeeTus:
LOL, firstly, your organization is corrupt and are into fraudulant activities and should be investigated.

Secondly, there's no point of seeking for advice here because you already taken a decision within your heart. Unless you're looking for someone to accomodate you free of charge for a certain period of time. But if you've been working for couple of years and had plans in life, you ought to be somewhat comfortable with them.

Why not look for scholarship and travel happily? Do not gamble with your future.

i dont think this has anything to do with corruption.. they said Buhari has reduced the revenue they use to get and the TSA affected their finances as well. therefore the individual sponsorship.

i am yet to take a decision as i am still confused on the best that would make life better. if i can get someone that will accommodate me, i will be very happy... i would not mind paying.

this is my third year with them and its not about being comfy with them but myself. the delays before the money comes and the future plans doesnt look all that bright with that kindda money.

looking for scholarship? i will think about that.. thanks for your input

im just imagining how her veegee will look and feel like

i will go straight to the point and not bore you guys with unnecessary details. i had to open a new account so not to draw unnecessary attention from those that know me with my username either from the office or otherwise

i work in a federal establishment earning about 100k per month. my establishment is about to send some people to the US for a convention though they wont be footing the bills. All they will do is make you get your papers easily by presenting you as their own. fortunately, i am among the few selected interested ones.

now my dilemma is that i think it is not wise to use my years savings in footing a trip which i wont benefit from economically considering my financial status. using all my savings in going to the State just to stay for about a month and come back to the country broke. i am actually interested in going and disappearing and try to make a life there. but my parents have advised me that it is not wise to leave my job to an uncertain future. To make matters worse i don't know anyone there who can accommodate me and put me through. No contact whatsoever to take shelter with.

i am torn between taking the risk and staying back entirely and hustling it out in Nigeria as a civil servant but i don't see myself making it big in civil service except i get the opportunity to dasukigate some funds from our government. lol

please i need the best advice i can get and i trust my nairaland family.
lalasticlala and the mod here abeg help my ministry

Bisiebae:





Nigeria is a lot better. No matter what, ur family is here, u still av people u can trust. I've been abroad its not a bed of rose. Especially with all ur savings, u can start something productive with it.

sis, this family dont respect you except you have got some money to throw around. so its not about family... i just want to make it big and start my own family too.

are u saying Nigeria is a better option to yankee?