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SuyaEater: Inferior complex?

I don't see africans with that mentality especially nigerians. What is so attractive about a woman with fat tissues on her body, hell skinny white women hardly want to date black men but you will see a black dude with a fat white chick.

The same reasons why I see African men with fat white women.

I feel sorry for the younger generation.

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Rocktation: Misfiring signals can be done knowingly and unintentionally as well. So saying that it is always latched with insecurity wouldn't exactly be correct. Take for instance, we women place a high value on communication. A woman can get really riled up when a lover doesn't call as much as is expected of a person that supposedly loves her to bits. Whereas, he and a lot of men may view the call as functional rather than emotional, and would rather call only when there's a reason to call.

But of cos, insecurity is chief where the signals sent, were mixed intentionally. Women on the one hand, are really insecure by nature. We are risk adverse for the most part and by sending mixed signals, we want our men to demonstrate their level of interest in us.
Take for example; a lady who gives a certain kind of green light to some guy across the hall, can instantaneously turn her attention to some other, when he crosses over to start a conversation. To us, it seems to be less appealing to be an overly enthusiastic single person, who appears to be excited to meet someone. Cos it might come across the communication channel as overly desperate, which doesn't exactly make a great first impression.

Men on the other hand, rarely say or do opposite to their intentions, but still show insecurities all thesame.....to lesser degrees i believe. They can go as far as to bully a girl they're interested in, to garner her attention, or can pretend to have complete interest in some stupid conversation with some chick in a gathering, thereby ignoring their girlfriend, just to get her jealous and seek her attentiveness.

Dealing with mixed signals doesn't require much though. Except taking your time to figure them out, approach your partner about them, and then reassuring them as to why they never should have been sent....if they were sent intentionally.

Really, it would be better if people demonstrated more confidence and decisiveness in their actions and body language and avoided misfiring signals. But then again, the peril of it adds to some of the excitement of the 'hunt' and builds intrigue for male and female relationships. It would be so soo uncoool, if we always knew what the other person was thinking or what they meant by a certain action.

That's true regarding insecurities sending mixed messages. I feel that when people aren't sure of their relationship they tend to send messages that is confusing and dishonest because it is not their true thoughts.

Often time when I see men attempt to court a girl but act a different way around their male friends it is in my opinion sending mixed messages. It is like saying I am a gentlemen when I am alone with you but an arsehole when I am with my friends.

cindyrella: Ewwwwwwww!

Shattap!

looplat: she be winsh she don pursue all suitable men comot. na person baby mama be that. mtcheww.

Don't confuse me with your mother. Just saying.

Chrisbenogor: Yeah women, two faced bytches

And the men aren't two faced bastards?

Serpentine: I call when I have something to discuss. I think it is childish to expect someone to call and text all the time.It annoys and irritates me when I feel someone is expecting me to check in with them every few hours. There is only so much you can say once the relationship is established before you are just calling to boost the phone company's profits.

However did we manage to maintain relationships before we had mobile Phones? Yet somehow we did, and people loved just as much.

It is a difference between dating and marriage. If you are dating then it is a moot point but if you are married and have an issue with your spouse expecting a call or text from you even if it is everyday then something is wrong with the relationship.

Even if you are dating exclusively and your partner feel like you are interested elsewhere.....communication sucks.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Never heard of him[/quote]this is him.
[quote author=James-dman]'Gal i dey wish say, i fit say, u too fyn pass my mama, but that is IMPOSSIBLE'. . . Mum over fine dey worry you. RIP our mummy (Mrs Josephine Okoye)[/quote]now u know him?

[quote author=Mynd_44]Who died?[/quote]Someone the postet James D man buried on this thread. I was just paying my respects for the dead.

LesbianBoy: I would like to cheat on the poster above me!

You wouldn't even had to do that suga....I would gladly pay for a room and two of the fattest ashyho in Nigeria.

Enjoy!

(throwing flowers, a bra, and a blackberry in the grave) RIP and be with God.

Call me and let me know if you see where Van Vickers at from Heaven.

[quote author=Lord_Reed]Your nyansh must be mighty tempting. Can we get a picture? [/quote]I thought you said you aren't attracted to Oyinbo chicks and their features. According to my manbitches...I am Oyimbo.

Okay....what do you want Nairaland to do?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]I dey fine, how your side?
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I am still investigating strange spot, Chima smiling strangely, and Chimas gurgling.

Freiburger: Share your opinion with us here.

With tact....yes.

There is nothing wrong with a couple kissing and hugging. If they are about to have sex standing there then I would simply direct them to the nearest hotel because I do not view live nor still pornography.

gst101: pls you opinion. Also what and what do you talk about? How do you deal with the fear of disappointing her?

Depending on what type of chick you are courting.....

Intellectual
Naive
Illiterate
Easy going
Rolling stone

You have to know her dislikes and likes simply by making small talks and if you are a conversationalist like me....you can expand small talks into hours long diatribes.

I would suggest asking her basic questions such as her favorite book and what she likes to do for fun. The type of books she read determine her intellectual ability. Someone who is illiterate may not read Charles Dickens or Shakespeare.

The level of her activities would expound on her health....if she has physical limitated it would show in her level of activities or if she is a homebody....

Simply ask questions that will gauge whom she is.

Good luck!

I am at Western Union!

sexkillz:

Wetin I dey?

[quote author=Lord_Reed]So you fall mugu every time? [/quote]May your nuts slap you.

How do you expect me to keep my nyansh in a tub when I have to bend over to wash my legs? I believe in a full bath suga.

kandiikane: Aha, e painful? Or has it become enjoyable? Is it messy?

Just asking for project.

The results isn't in yet.

ms pookie: ur husband isnt cute and boring, u said hes sexy and fun so why do u support that cute guys r boring?

the cute guys i know r very sweet and interesting.

My definition of cute boys are the geeky and silent ones. Sexy men are the fun and wild ones.

I rate beauty on a different scope but I am referring to personality and social skills.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]How the hell did this thread get 8posts and just 3views?
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It is not the views that matter but the posts suga.

ms pookie: i havent met a cute boring guy

Awww. My husband is sexy and fun.

kandiikane: Lol!

You have suffered but why do you keep on sticking your nyash out?

LMAO! He get me every time!

I must check and see if my husband is okay even if he goes to the mailbox. If he is gone for extended time...anything can happen and I will check up on my husband.

I guess everybody have different expectations in relationship......when you care about someone..your actions will follow suit.

Ladies...

Never stick out your nyansh when you are showering.


If he EVER SAY...CAN HE JUST PUT THE HEAD IN.....just excuse yourself and run!

Why did I woke up this morning with a strange spot by my side of the bed and Chima grinning like a Somalian male winning a visa lottery?

kitty kat: And MRs. Chima has spoken. Her word is final!!!


Pookie d pix is gone

Yes!!