Pls i' d like to ask ladies and experienced guys this, can a lady love someone without making efforts on her own to call her boyfriend? I mean d lady only replies to texts and missed calls but rarely make efforts to call on her own and claims she is like that. Are there people who are like that really? cos i know if u love someone you will really want to check on the person to know how that person is doing. Sometimes i stop calling and she will till like two or three days before sending a text or a flash. She isnt working yet so i dont really expect much from her only but just d willingnes or a sign she loves me me. Tried tawking to her severally about that and all i get is "that's the way i am". Is ds normal or a dangerous signal? No abuses pls!

my candid advice: concentrate on your studies now, when the time is right, she/they will call and you will get tired of recieving there call...

ondo_boi: my candid advice: concentrate on your studies now, when the time is right, she/they will call and you will get tired of recieving there call...

Im not a student pls

She might really be like that. Some people are not just interested in calling.

Answer (For Ladies): NO

If a woman is not making any unprompted contact with you, SHE DOES NOT LIKE YOU AND IS NOT THAT INTERESTED.

I must check and see if my husband is okay even if he goes to the mailbox. If he is gone for extended time...anything can happen and I will check up on my husband.

I guess everybody have different expectations in relationship......when you care about someone..your actions will follow suit.

ondo_boi: my candid advice: concentrate on your studies now, when the time is right, she/they will call and you will get tired of recieving there call...

what a dumb post!
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@op...i don't understand how you can love someone and not want to be in touch with them most of the time...but then people are different..
I guess in time you'd really find out if she really does love you...in time!

I agree with Mrs. Chima. Same here

sexkillz: How the hell did this thread get 8posts and just 3views?

It is not the views that matter but the posts suga.

I appreciate all your candid advice an will still welcome more pls

sexkillz: How the hell did this thread get 8posts and just 3views?

That's almost impossible, a post is almost 2 views

@Slimyem, how do i find out

I call when I have something to discuss. I think it is childish to expect someone to call and text all the time.It annoys and irritates me when I feel someone is expecting me to check in with them every few hours. There is only so much you can say once the relationship is established before you are just calling to boost the phone company's profits.

However did we manage to maintain relationships before we had mobile Phones? Yet somehow we did, and people loved just as much.

Serpentine: I call when I have something to discuss. I think it is childish to expect someone to call and text all the time.It annoys and irritates me when I feel someone is expecting me to check in with them every few hours. There is only so much you can say once the relationship is established before you are just calling to boost the phone company's profits.

However did we manage to maintain relationships before we had mobile Phones? Yet somehow we did, and people loved just as much.

It is a difference between dating and marriage. If you are dating then it is a moot point but if you are married and have an issue with your spouse expecting a call or text from you even if it is everyday then something is wrong with the relationship.

Even if you are dating exclusively and your partner feel like you are interested elsewhere.....communication sucks.

*singing! If you ask me, na who i go ask* lolzzz. Honestly! I've been into such relationship b4 where my guy calls just twice in a month, i culdnt help but quit. i keep wondering why a person would claim to love his/her partner bt hardly calls to check on em.

incanto: @Slimyem, how do i find out

i'm not the one in the relationship so i can't say per se!
I'm sure there'd be tell-tale signs if she doesnt really love you sometime along the line..
People whose partners do not love them in relationships know it most times but choose to ignore it!
You'd know which it is in time and act accordingly as u like it!

@ Serpentine,I gbadun your reply
I also believe the guy can also try to find out if monetary
Issues are involved.
What I mean is that you need money to
Buy recharge cards and if the girl in question isn't working
Then pray,where will the money come from for the cards?
I noticed he didn't say the girl disturbs him for money.
Op try sending her cards sometimes since you know she's not working.
Then watch if the situation improves or not.
Blessed day.

cog1: @ Serpentine,I gbadun your reply
I also believe the guy can also try to find out if monetary
Issues are involved.
What I mean is that you need money to
Buy recharge cards and if the girl in question isn't working
Then pray,where will the money come from for the cards?
I noticed he didn't say the girl disturbs him for money.
Op try sending her cards sometimes since you know she's not working.
Then watch if the situation improves or not.
Blessed day.

hmm. I think u have a point here but then, he has asked her and she never said money was her problem, she says thats the way she is. So i think if thats the fact and she truely loves the guy, then she should adjust nah haba. Personaly, i can neither do, nor take such. But OP, How sure are u that she loves u? It might be a sign that she doesnt o

Op, if she doesn't call you to check on you, then believe me she doesn't love you, it's that simple. U'll be surprised she's just hanging on cos of what she gets from you. I bet you the moment someone better off (i.e in her summation) comes around, she'll dump your sorry a_ss, that is if she's not secretly seeing someone else already.

Assignment: try to establish if she has another boyfriend(i bet she does)

My advice: summon the courage to quit, it may seem difficult esp if you love her, but i bet it's not worth it wasting time and energy on who doesn't care about you. It could be tough to let go but you'll be glad you did if you eventaully take a bow. Good luck to you!

kemiola89: *singing! If you ask me, na who i go ask* lolzzz. Honestly! I've been into such relationship b4 where my guy calls just twice in a month, i culdnt help but quit. i keep wondering why a person would claim to love his/her partner bt hardly calls to check on em.

Beats the hell out of me too and especially if it is a spouse/partner!


Thank God for good communication skills and common sense!

Thanks all for your reply. Why i put this up here is cos the whole thing beats my imagination too. I tried the recharge card thing but things didnt improve. I had made up my mind after exploring every avenue to make d relationship work to quit but just wanted to be sure im not doing the wrong thing. Its kinda painful though but like someone said, i guess i will be happier on the long run i did this... I appreciate once again

Eya sorry, am also on it now. I do everything to let her know that I love her and willing to marry her without not finish her secondary school. She told me is the lack money from his father but still yet,I told her I will pay her school fee if she feel like continue but she collected one term money and die it down. Until her sister told me that their father pay for her school fees, Nowadays she don't even come to check me or call again but still yet am still try everyday to call her. Whenever I call her is the second that noormally pick it, idea they told she not around even I call 8 am, I will still hear that she not around but whenever I saw her,she will tell me she think everyday about me till I heard from one of her sister that am the one dying for her not she. I don't know may be I should sit her down and tell her how I wish she Could be the one I wish to marry. Don't forget I do everything to care for her,phone,card,cloth,and also feeding money. But the only thing she normally say is go and rent ur own house. Plz ur advice is needed,I don't know may be I should forget about her or still hold till she change.

bab-tunde:
Eya sorry, am also on it now. I do everything to let her know that I love her and willing to marry her without not finish her secondary school. She told me is the lack money from his father but still yet,I told her I will pay her school fee if she feel like continue but she collected one term money and die it down. Until her sister told me that their father pay for her school fees, Nowadays she don't even come to check me or call again but still yet am still try everyday to call her. Whenever I call her is the second that noormally pick it, idea they told she not around even I call 8 am, I will still hear that she not around but whenever I saw her,she will tell me she think everyday about me till I heard from one of her sister that am the one dying for her not she. I don't know may be I should sit her down and tell her how I wish she Could be the one I wish to marry. Don't forget I do everything to care for her,phone,card,cloth,and also feeding money. But the only thing she normally say is go and rent ur own house. Plz ur advice is needed,I don't know may be I should forget about her or still hold till she change.

Forget about her

how can she say she is like that. Dont she cal her friends, family? That is not an excuse, or beter stil she shud do withot handset.

There's no way i wont call if i like sombdy nt to talk of luv.

S2

She might actually like you

Have u relayed to her that her telephone "apathy" is affecting ur feelings?
Are there other reasons for these.... ie financial: as she is not asking for money??


She may simply be BUSY and just settling into the relationship.

Give her a little more time.

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sosoluv:
Lol shame on u

Are you not supposed to be sticking to some agreement you made up which is for us to avoid one another?
Abeg find another lane ooooooo

doe-eyed:
Have u relayed to her that her telephone "apathy" is affecting ur feelings?
Are there other reasons for these.... ie financial: as she is not asking for money??


She may simply be BUSY and just settling into the relationship.

Give her a little more time.

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How are you doing?