Spleasure:

How did you conclude that she doesn't suck well? Is she always crying? How is her poop like?

tyhgfrdeswscbhf:


Abidec should b a compulsory drug given to each
new born baby ....pls get it ASAP

Limahgirl:
Mama please you can't be doing everything alone o else, you will kill yourself. What I did that worked for me during preggy days was that I stylishly ask my dh to do things for me since his instinct did not tell him to do so. Babe please could you help with so so and so while I do so so and so. Na so he look for help for me and was paying her. If he cannot help, talk to him to get a help while he pays. My help is not a live in if wouldn't support a live in help. If this does not work, wake up one day and form sickness, when he does the work alone he will know how stressful it can be.
Please find what works for you, lots of women has been sent to early graves cos of stress from household chores and care of children. I don't form super woman for anybody,I will even be telling you that shey you know I'm lazy, I cannot do this alone.
May we live long to reap the fruits of our labours.

tatacherie:

Ndo ma, this phase can over be easy for you if you cry out
That was exactly how I felt instincts should tell mine that I needed help. until I acted up fainting, then his thoughts returned to factory setting and he started doing most chores including bathing my toddler. So pls speak up. If his not the type that take words serious then act drama shikena. If he doesn't have the time to help out due to his work he will definitely look out for support for you immediately

Kudos to mothers o we dey over try, there was a time I almost ran away lolz omo motherhood is not bread and tea. My mother didn't tell me this is how the full package is o I was busy swimming at the surface and sweetly in love while dating. Marriage is the real deal. Speak up biko don't goan kill yoursef afteral there's no gold medal for most busy mothers lol

Limahgirl:
Mama please you can't be doing everything alone o else, you will kill yourself. What I did that worked for me during preggy days was that I stylishly ask my dh to do things for me since his instinct did not tell him to do so. Babe please could you help with so so and so while I do so so and so. Na so he look for help for me and was paying her. If he cannot help, talk to him to get a help while he pays. My help is not a live in if wouldn't support a live in help. If this does not work, wake up one day and form sickness, when he does the work alone he will know how stressful it can be.
Please find what works for you, lots of women has been sent to early graves cos of stress from household chores and care of children. I don't form super woman for anybody,I will even be telling you that shey you know I'm lazy, I cannot do this alone.
May we live long to reap the fruits of our labours.

angeltolly:


Hubby should support you. Talk to him or get someone to come support you. The person might be coming to help during the day alone so you can rest that period. I understand your situation, i gave birth during lockdown so it was just me and my husband taking care of baby and my toddler... Not so easy but hubby was very helpful. We were able to pull through. So please stop forming superwoman from today, let your husband know you need help. No go wound yourself o

blex444:


I can relate

Take it easy on yourself mama....House work/ chores no dey finish.Do the ones you can per day and rest. Or you can get a live- in-help if you are capable..

Ubiero:


It can be very upsetting to find out that you're not getting the kind of support you need, especially if you deem the person capable.

However, we are women and are somehow resilient. Women have been doing this and they came out strong.


Tips to manage them while taking care of your newborn are;

Now, the first thing is to know if you have a strong support system. Your mum, sister, neighbors, etc. These are people you call who can assist you from time to time. A boss once told me that what helped her a lot while she was having her kids was her support system.

Toddlers need to release the excess energy they have in their bodies. Forcing them to sit still is very unfair to them. Get footballs, basket balls, table tennis, bicycles, drums, etc. If you have a small yard, just ensure that it's safe, let the toddler go out to play. Please ensure that the area is safe, maybe inside your compound. Once it is 5pm, dd or ds should be back inside the house. Discourage too much television.

Also, don't ignore dd or ds when they come seeking attention because they become whiny and start crying at the drop of a hat. The feeling of being replaced will make them act naughty in a bid to get your attention and then you have more work on your hands.

Involve them in the chores, put baby's diapers in the dustbin, bring baby's clothes, etc. They will be so eager to please that you will even start begging them to stop.

While your dd or ds are playing, do your cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc.

For the sake of sanity and your health, if you do not feel up to doing household chores, please leave it. A lot of women have mortgaged their tomorrow with heavy debts for their kids because they have stressed themselves to the extent that they will be looking 70 at 50. Meanwhile, dh will be looking chocolatey.

Tomblessings:
Hello sabi mothers.
My 3mths old baby is coughing seriously, please what do you recommend? I've given her cough syrup for 3days now but no significant difference. What should I do? I'm worried as a first mum

Pearl05:



Ycan start with your hospital requirements, diapers, toiletries, sort the older baby's clothes to know the ones you can still use and what to add too.

zaynie:



I think someone has a baby list here.
If you don't get one, post your email address and I'll forward a list to you if you don't mind.



Anyone that needs should post their email and mention me.
I'll send it toni

It's with the old prices ó, so don't go to the market and be arguing make dem for no give yoh slap. Lol

mayluv:
Cc Mumaraoluwa . This is a list I shared a long time ago. If you are patient in searching this thread, you will see other ones.

19CannyMum:


Vagin.al birth after CS

serendipityF:
Vaginl birth after Cs

serendipityF:
Sincerely don't be scared momma, yours is very much better since you ve had aVD b4

omavicky:
lol, I understand ur fear, am also going for a Vbac by September, I joined a group on Vbac and their positive story has lifted my spirit..truth be told no two pregnancies are the same, that's why am positive this one will work in my favour.. keeping my fingers crossed and fervently praying to God to let his will be done.

Nimi22:


081eight 3 four four 14 three eight

Let me know when you get it.

Nimi22:

Hello mum. For the first visit you go on a Wednesday, you will be told to go do scan then they will give you a date which is on a Friday when you will come with your partner for registration finally you will now be given an appointment for any day of the week.

Nimi22:


You better make up your mind now. If you born in Abuja will you get help think am well o. I use Gwarinpa GH and my anc is Monday I even like am like that I get to skip Monday wahala but I have one more anc before we close.

Mumaraoluwa:
Good afternoon Mama's, pls.any mother using gwarinpa hospital Abuja here? I need to make enquires about there registration date

Mumaraoluwa:
Good afternoon Mama's, pls.any mother using gwarinpa hospital Abuja here? I need to make enquires about there registration date.