Good day nairalanders

I had my surgery 3weeks ago, my mom was with before and after surgery, but she is diabetic and sick as well ...so my hubby asked her to go and rest, it's been 7 days she left, my hubby is trying his best to take care of me.

Today he complained bitterly about how he feels that he feeling single and not married, he is tired and he feels he will break down, I understand it is overwhelming for him because I have been d one doing everything before I fell sick, he is not used to chores.

Yesterday I forced myself to wash some clothes d outcome was crazy, I was shaking and dizzy and d pains just came back.

After his complain today I just feel worthless since I'm not doing anything, d doctors said I shouldn't do anything for 2months.

Having a house help is not even easy in our location, pls what can I do to help my husband, I don't like d way he complained and he is having body pains already.

Has anyone been in dis kinda situation, if I help do chores and take pain killer , what will be d consiquences of my action?

Pls help

Doctors in d house, pls help

Hello nairalanders

D last time I was at d hospital 15k vanish without any solution to see doctor alone don dey cut throat for my area, abeg i know I have fibroid, but these days I can't hold my wee, don't know if its d fibroid causing it. Children school fee dey come soon, money no too dey hand so I need una help. Whatever that can help till I operate it out

IconicR:
It depends on the sin you committed, if it's against someone, you go directly to the person to confess and ask for forgiveness but if it's against God you don't need to tell anyone about it, just ask for forgiveness from God and move on

Are all sins not against God, pls help me differentiate

Hello nlanders,

I want to ask if someone commits sin and doesn't confess, will God still forgive you if u ask for forgiveness from God?

Or if you confess to another person like a pastor or an unknown person, and not directly to who you offend, will God count it against you?

I want to learn

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Nairalander248:


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But it didn't show me deleted contacts

Hello nlanders,

I saved my contacts in my email but got deleted in another phone that has my email, can the contacts be retrieved, pls help

phemmyfour:
Kill my enemies ...
Fall n Die Die Die

Such prayers come from the place of ignorance

When they pray for enemies to die, I thought is the evil spirit, not humans

Pls explain ur point

Cadillac15:


Just confirmed that you still dont have sense. Good luck with your marriage

Y d insult, my marriage is fine

candyguyofficia:
I didn't want to comment earlier on but you the wife you are the one that has brought disrespect and great dishonour to your family. You should be glad if your husband finds it in his heart to forgive you for having a poor sense of judgement and for been overly naive.

Now that you have testify and corrected that wrong impression of the pastor before that congregation (which is the right thing to do ALTHOUGH it depends on what you said and how you do it because your type might still praise the pastor again in the testimony and downplay that your pastor was wrong to discuss your private matter without consent and for lying also).

I would advise you leave that church ASAP. Don't meet the pastor again either alone or with your husband, disassociate your household from that church. Do not allow the pastor pray for you or anoint your head with any oil (somethings you may not understand and from how I see you that you can't ever understand so i wont bother going deeper) .

Find a bible believing church and join, for where you currently worship is a den of wolves. I won't be surprised if the church is a one man church.

Leave that church and find another (not one man church) that truly preach the word.

A word is enough for the wise.
Mummytoo

Sincerely you too naive for a wife. I pray God give your husband the wisdom to handle his home and you because one needs more wisdom when interacting with you. May God help your husband

Even my mother was advised by church elders when she was passing through maltreatment from my father, that was cherubim and seraphim, the church was a place to run to for comfort, advice and many more, nobody is a graduate in d institute of marriage, have u been the one managing my marriage, or u didn't read where I wrote I went to pray at the alter before he called me and started counseling me, even old people seek counsel

VIPAFRICAN:
Stay in your house U say no. Now Pastor don use ur Family matter shine for Public

U are funny, no man is an island, we humans need each other

Analyst7:
No it’s not, but always make sure u have good intentions not just for show off or to be seen as a tackler

Thank u dear, I corrected everything while testifying today

DavSagacity:
What you have resolved to do is the best. Use the guise that u want to testify to explain what happened and politely correct the wrong things he said about your family before the congregation. . That Pastor cannot be trusted with family issues and secrets
The main point is that other families will learn from you not to involve him in all their family matter.

Thank u dear, I did that while testifying today, but I didn't say I told him some of the things he said because if I talk somehow they will remove the mic and correct u, its that bad, I have forgiven him, I pray my husband heals too

WhisperedNoise:
Very wrong, what the pastor did.
Pastors must learn how to control their mouths. Making someone the point of reference while preaching is wrong. Very wrong. Too much talk leads to lie, that's why pastor even added jara to the story.

What is your hubby saying about it?

He got upset, I begged him and did damage control today while testifying I corrected everything

Nebes:
Regardless of the spiritual blessings and possibilities resident in some pastors they are still humans. If there is any sense at all, just take the 'sense' out of the 'nonsense'.

You now know your pastor's weakness - poor human relationship. Be careful the next time you open up to him/her.

Thank u dear

Natbrowny:
There are always a good 3rd party to tell these things but we instead tell our religious leaders who would wanna take credit for solving problems.

I advise you confront the pastor and tell him not to publicize your matter in public when next you come to him for advice or to settle matters.

Your husband? How wonder how he'll feel when he walks by and members say
. Na dat yeye man dey beat him wife.
The courage u had to even tell him, hey husband, pastor has tarnished ur image in church for what u didnt do.
Pastor got the information he used from you and added spices to it.

Ur reply sounded funny, I first him down and told him not to be angry that something serious happened he got upset, I did damage control when testifying that my husband is the best man

Ever8090:
I quoted you directly so that you will get my message clear and make sure you act on it.

First, that man is not even a man of God, he just used that event to upgrade his trade of merchandising the word of God.

Remember that your husband's image us at stake her to the glory of one con man's business, do you need to redeem the innocent man's image by making the correction publicly to hearing of the congregation that there was a misunderstanding to that story.

If the pastor do not like your action or even pray f he likes it, ..still quit the B/center and look for a church and start attending rather than following such a being

Thank u dear, today as I came out for testimony I declared how loving my husband is, and that I'll marry him again even in my next life.
I can't even look my pastor in d face again, God will help us

bong4:


Someone attacked your family like that and you are talking of approaching him politely?
Someone you would have confronted right there in church the moment he called you out. Dey there dey play!

Immediately I started objecting they quickly removed the mic from my mouth. God is seeing all of us including the pastors

WantsandMore:
as it should be but the Bible teaches us to respect authority, going through the elders would mean you r a person of wisdom, but pethaps you could discard this & escalate it via confrontation, cos we always don't have the full answer, whatever happens next would be the consequences of your actions or inaction, don't forget, you brought this reality upon yourself & your household which you admitted it greatly helped. Well pray to God to guide your steps though.

Thank u dear

dnawah:
run from that church.u remain there u miss heaven.

I will but not urgently ...after few months I have forgiven him already, but what he did is giving me doubts about other prophecies, so I'll leave to a non - prophetic church

alizma:

Save that energy, use the energy to go to your husband and discuss with him. I mean let him know that you love him and never expected you guys issue to be discussed outside the marriage, let both of you see how you can learn from this and 3nsure it never repeat itself again. Then if you have some energy left, get some elders in the church and tell express your displeasure.

I discussed with my husband immediately I got home, i pray no serious issue comes again, we learn everyday, God help us
Thank u dear

TOPMAN4LIFE:

Some pastors use human feelings and sentiments to deal with their members, some don't allow Holy Spirit to guide their actions but want to show off as miracle workers instead of allowing God takes the glory.
I'm very careful with pastor since they are also human being like me and not God .
As christians, develop serious and personal relationship with God in prayers, reading and obeying the Bible and you will have less or no private issues to run after pastors.
I was embarrassed for a mature guy one Sunday when pastor called him out and asked church to pray for him after pastor has shared part of his secret story to the church.
Some pastors don't know how people are feeling ashamed of their situations but share it with them on trust

The trust keeps breaking and breaking, the church is supposed to be a place of solace, comfort, counsel, joy, a place of meat, and many more but now, no way they are ready to even expose that u are a beggar.

God will help us

Kukutenla:

This is obviously the effect of going to mushroom churches lacking strong doctrine and administration.
I can bet you no Catholic, Baptist, Anglican, Methodist or doctrinal sound pentecostal Church pastor will do this.
They are taught this kind of things in the seminary

That is what I know too, that whatever is being counseled or confessed stays within them...so u can imagine the shock, I refused to get up till he pointed me direct

treatise:

The Bible says Ye are gods ; we have equal accesses to God if you know it and believe.

U know nobody is a graduate in the institution of marriage, sometimes counseling is needed, I speak to God directly because God is my father

WantsandMore:
don't confront him, report him to the elders of the church and demand an Apology from specifically he should apologize to your husband in a congregation so as to remove the stigma of battery he has artificially created, if he refuses & the eldrs have refused to do anything about it, do not wary, go to God in prayers but most especially apologize to your husband and mean it in action, meanwhile, now you understand the type of person your pastor is, share anything with him in cauton.

Every one is scared of him, u know those kind of pastors that what they speaks comes to pass so nobody dare correct him or confronts him, he usually teaches us that confronting a man of God is a sin that comes with great punishment, but I don't believe it because I haven't seen it in the bible, the bible is my manual for life

Tutu82:

That you added “politely” speaks to your character as a decent and good hearted person.
This pastor is a human like you and his actions were disrespectful and not necessary putting your family affairs out there without your permission.
What happened to there is a sister here who had problems with her husband and i solved it why call you?.
I feel very upset on your behalf and you need to think about if you want to remain a member of that church.Confronting him is a waste of your precious time he will spew nonsense and upset you more…The effrontery of these so called men of God and religion as a whole in Africa is ridiculous and we give them the power.

Thank you dear, on the judgment day we shall answer to everything we have done

tfelicityk:


If he is actually called as claimed, he wouldn't have used your matter as a topic to preach in the church.
He needs more wisdom, understanding and application of knowledge in handling matters. He didn't not seek you and your husband consent before he broadcasted it to the congregation.
Confront him politely and let him know that you and your households are not happy with him for bringing your matter out to the congregation with the lies he added to it. If he apologizes immediately, kindly forgives him. If he does otherwise leave him for God to handle him in His own way.
Have a pleasant day

Thank you dear, I have forgiven him in my heart, let God be the judge

bakobenjamin198:
Are you saying, you had never experienced him exhibiting such attitude on someone else's case that you should have learnt from that, to make you distance your family problems from him? Well, that is what you get when you come in contact with pastors that sees themselves as God. They always want to take the glory for every act, did or favour they render to people.

I don't go close to him so I wouldn't know, its last night I started suspecting, I have learnt my lessons

superCleanworks:

someone called your husband a violent sadistic woman beater in public and you could not silence him on the spot.

Bloody sheep.

They removed the mic from my mouth when I started talking

Good morning nlanders

Happy Sunday to u all

I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.

He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.

Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)

Is it wrong to confront him....
Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband

Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this

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