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ManuelNate1:
Oga, yhu seem too weak for my liking. Yhu stand advantaged in this matter... This is the ryt time to let those ingrates (fiancee plus her parents) knw dah yhu re a man and not a fucking weak ass niqqa dey ve taken yhu to be all along. Fucking tell dem No... yhu cant take them along in ur car. Tell dem ur car is faulty... Dah d shock absorbers are very very bad... ur vehicle cant accomodate more dan one person which is yhu, d driver. Let dem fucking find their way out to the venue. Those kinda ppl dun deserve anitin nice from anibody. Let those fucking deir daughter make provision for a vehicle for them to use.

Manuelnate you too much a million handshake for you jare, I don't know why I am too soft minded,but someone too has just given me this same advise you give here,I swear I no go carry them and I go tell her as she is coming she should come with my daughters belongings cos she won't live with her in school again,rather she will stay with her grandmother.

Hedonisst:
Eeya, sorry.

It's your cross, carry it.

That's why some of us have always been dictators and absolutists with women. It didn't fail us then and it is not failing us now. If one party has to be the submissive, docile 'mumu' in the Union, it has to be the woman. And we compensate her in our own way for being a good girl, for knowing her place. We blow hot and cold and keep ourselves happy, keep them happy, and make the world a happy place for us.

In everything, we keep at the back of our minds that these species are dispensable. Never give them a sense of utmost security and impunity. Even with the children, be ready to leave them all and burn the house down. Mean it. And make sure she knows it, from the beginning. It's not a 'trick' you learn at your old age. It has to be from Day 1. If you mumu from the beginning, then you are destined to be mumu to the end or to die in the process of liberation. No two ways.

When you decide to become a 'good' and 'patient' man who overlooks a lot and puts females on a pedestal, you're guaranteed to have a miserable life.

Nuff said.

You too much brotherly, bible even said it better live in the corner of a roof top than with a nagging woman.

Sonfethopia:
Good move

Thanks brother

Lalasticlala
Obinoscopy
Mynd44

Pls do the needful for me.

Situation report the mum of my wife called me to ask why I did not send the money of my 4yrs old daughters school fees as my wife demanded this morning,I told her that I will be changing my daughters school,or probably if I will pay will transfer it to the school account directly.
She then said while I am coming for the meeting at the village this weekend I should carry them along in my car,this is what my wife refused when I was suggesting to do so,but now the mum is pleading I come along with them in my ride. Should I adhere? Thanks all.

JasonBoss:
Although it's been years back. But after i broke up with a disrespectful she leech( Wasn't easy) but with time i healed

Now I'm more better, stronger nd wiser. Emotional feelings or any of that shiit don't affect me anymore. I can be all lovey dubby wit u now nd if u wanna change by thinking u got me, trying to manipulate me with feelings, hahahahaha, I'll kick u to the curve and tell u it was a scam from the beginning. You self ain't gonna know wat hit u.

And if you wanna come rip were u don't fucking sow by coming to ask me for cash, fucck it, u gonna be wasting your time cos not even a shitttty dime is gonna touch ya hands.

It's a big shame the only thing them Redpill lady got to offer is sex, which they use as a tool for manipulation. Same seeex u enjoyed.


Buddy count your losses and get the fucck out Asap.. You got nothing to loose but she does.

Be emotionally secured and free and i tell u, a lady will neva hurt u no more.

Jasonboss you are really a boss indeed,a million thumbs up for you.in fact when I noticed the change in her character I told her she was manipulating me.

boxer022:
My brother before I proceed with my advice, I have an important question to ask you. Are you the person training her in school? If yes then you made a nasty mistake. She has been influenced by her friends who are not yet married to forget about you and move on with her life. How is your work or business going, are you making enough money or not. My reason for asking is that her friends may have told her to leave you since you don't have steady income and go with another guy who according to them has more money than you and may also be younger or older than you. You said you have done the traditional wedding and awaiting white wedding. I need you to do something. I need you to discuss this issue with your family and kindred telling them everything, standing your ground that if the lady is insisting on leaving the union, they should collect back the dowry paid on her head from the family and also collect your child from her. Look for another beautiful girl that will love you for who you are and not what you are.

Bravo my senior colleague,thanks for you superb counsel,sincerely it is her friends that are unmarried that deceived her.but after all my spendings and she did this to me,she must regret the tears I shed pleading to her.Thanks once again.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Wonderful move. Don't back down on this.

Thumbs up brotherly.

Lamanii22:
Someone is already deceiving her.... I'm not saying you're perfect o... But with all of the sending of money and provision you're doing..., you're really trying oo... Yoruba people would say " ori e fe je iko"(she wants to receive knocks on her head)... Which means she wants to embrace suffering...

Boss I no doubt you,thanks I even saw one guy as I stated.

Situation report house,the mum of my wife called me that why am I not sending the school fees of my daughter as my wife have told her,I replied by saying I will change my daughters school or probably transfer the money to the school account directly.She said OK. Meanwhile the meeting for this weekend scheduled between i, herself and her parents. her mum pleaded with me to go and carry them with my car down to the villa.But initially my wife said I should go on my own but now her mum said I should bring them along.Should I adhere knowing fully well my wife said she has no business with me again.

Pls do the needful,thanks.

Davash222:
So, you still need Ifa to come and tell you that your ‘supposed’ wife is getting the Dicck from a better source
To beg a woman to be your responsibility is the height of stupidity!!!

Thanks a lot my brother,was only begging cos of my 4yrs old daughter but your advise has reformatted my brain.

I mean your advises are lowering my BP because your advises are wonderful.

Triniti:
Will you die if you don’t end up marrying this woman? She doesn’t want you anymore, why are you forcing it dude? Pay what you have to monthly for your child upkeep, and move on with your life. Stop stressing yourself

I had my BP increased,but all your candid and wonderful advise are working thing out.

Sonfethopia:
The best thing u can do is forget her, focus on ur daughter,if possible. Pay the daughter bills yourself . don't send her money. Buy provision and foodstuff. Let her come back to her senses.

I hear you able boss,I have started it already,this morning she called demanding I send her my daughters fees but I told her I will send the money directly to the school,I even told her I will change the girls school,by taking her to her grandmother to school over there before she will influence her negatively.

mamajj17:
Reasonable people up there has left you so much thoughtful Comments my dear, am a Woman and l will certainly tell you the same Bros. Move on, forget about the Money, Energies been spent on her, she has made up her mind already, take gudcare of yr Daughter and play yr role as a Father in her Life. Someone meant for you would surely find and locate you. I know its hard, but l tell you who laughs Last, laugh Best. All the very Best dear .

Mammaj you are a woman among many women in nairaland I salute you immensely, remain blessed ma.

RUDEBOYY:
My brother I know you want to make things work with maybe because of your daughter and the money already spent on her.but I will not relent to tell you to leave that lady alone she have shown you in different ways that there is no love between you two
One thing I promise myself is that I will never marry a lady that the love I have for her is bigger than the one she has for me
Marriage is more than just girlfriend and boyfriend stuff.
Sorry for your heart break thogh

Thank you able boss,I heed your candid advise, Godbless.

Illuminated993:
My guy, I know how you feel, I know what it means to love a woman who doesn't think you're important enough for her, it's a very sad feeling indeed. I can only advise you, it's your decision to heed to my advice or not to. Your relationship is over. Her mind is stuck on some other guy. You just have to bear the inevitable pain that comes with a heart break, and grow stronger from such pain. Since she says she's no more interested, grant her her wishes. For any relationship to work, both persons have to be on the same page. When one person wants out of the relationship, what then is the basis for the relationship? Forcing, cajoling, begging her to continue with you would depict you as a selfish person who only cares about what he wants. Let her go, there are many women better than her who would be happy to build something lasting with you, I think you deserve those kind of women. I experienced a terrible heartbreak, so I think I'm very qualified to advise you on the steps I think would serve you best. Stay strong!

I salute your one in a million advice,Godbless.

Ahuitzotl:
[color=#1980BC] We are moved to tears reading your postings, tis just sad that a man can trade his best years for cow dung and yet receives no just benefits for his efforts.It is instances like these that we advocate men to stop beings simps and become redpillers.... Boss, you are at advantage but you don't know that, I guess, it is true when they say knowledge is power or my people suffer because they lack knowledge....You have means of livelihood and can support a family plus the fact that you are a MAN...Detach yourself from that shrew, change your mindset where it comes to women as you see them as expendables and grow a pair of balls... Now you're free to start afresh and select fresh blood. Be thankful because most guys don't have that chance anymore.[/color]

Boss you are just too much,I really appreciate your over wiseness

piroux:
Op seems like a good guy, soft and humble. That can also be seen as weak by some women/girls. I don't know her age so i can't tell. This is Nigeria where a 28-year-old lady could still be in School.

She might not have cheated on you but could be intensely bored. That's the problem with long courtships and relationships. My advice is to give her space. Don't report her, don't try to control, don't monitor her. Stop doing those things, she might be feeling choked, tired or angry, especially if she doesn't do the same to you. Just leave her be for now and do you. Focus on yourself. In fact, if her family calls you, just greet them well. Tell them the wedding has been paused.

If in that time, she doesn't sit up and realize the gem she has in you, kindly let her go. Work out custody arrangements for your child, collect your bride price and move on. Life is too short for anyone to stay unhappy.

Didn't you read my facts why will she be intensely bored when I have paid her dowry as my wife.I have sat her one on one even at midnight to let her adjust her ways since the traditional rites this year and waiting for the white.I did said that I noticed her with bad influence including male and female.so why do you think she is not cheating on me,must I leave my work and be with her in school 24hrs before I will know she is not cheating on me? I think that all that happened is the handiwork of God.

desvi:
would advise you to leave her to her fuulishness but you two have daughters
all I can say is this, make sure you and your daughters are well
show her the cold shoulder though
do not take care her of her, don't show her love or your pain
make her feel your absence
and if she comes back, let her beg wella
let her come for you several times until you give her another chance
we don't know what we have until it's gone

Thanks brotherly you are just too much.

MissJoy29:
No need stressing yourself sir. She's no longer into you.

Thanks you said it all,but my little girl cant be allowed to stay under her present situation.

Thanks brotherly to all your contributions so far I am learning from them.

Dear Nairalander I greet you all.Pls I need candid advice,I have dated my wife for over six years with an issue,and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school. Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested. She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it,only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees.I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her parents,promising not to do so again,a guy knocked the door,and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend,I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.when we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.after a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.pls no insult just help out.Thanks

Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

@Flamingreed,pls where and when did this happened, I know his family very well at Rumurolu near railway crossing.

flamingREED:
It happened close to where I live.

Now I know that Nairaland members can fill up the front page without any one stating anything near a cause.

He was factually mentally challenged.
He was unable to marry.
He could have burnt a tenant as well but for others' intervention.
It seems he had no church.

My Good God,is this not Nsirimovu? Of Rumurolu community near woji,in Obio Akpor Local Govt?

Yes this country don kpafuka finish,na only revolution or restructuring fit save this nation

Which kind sleep person wey dey calculate him next move politically na him una wan try.DAT guy na badt guy him no dey sleep o him dey on guard

Dear all, this girl my brother wants to marry is requesting that my brother takes her to the girl he have dated lastly to confirm his break with the girl before she will agree to marry my brother. Please is this necessary.Your good counsel is appreciated.

This Jinx must be broken,we all must arise in Abia State and ensure that we demonstrate in front of the government house on the 19th of April.Am convening the protest,incompetencies and levity in governance in Abia state must stop.Salaries and all allowances must be paid,other states have utilised their Paris fund to offset all arrears of salaries,Enugu state even went to the extent of paying 13th Month last December. Its because they take abians for a ride due to the 1k they share to them to buy their consciences,but this must stop.Avians arise and stop selling the future of your children into the hands of this occultic politician. Join me as we protest in front of Government house on Thursday 19th day of April.

Gburugburu is working o,this I know,haters cannot stop Enugu state,cos its in the HAND OF GOD

Dear Nairalanders I was transferred in my place of work to go help build up a new branch,having resumed this new branch,my salary was slashed by 30% owing to the fact that its a new branch.I called the head office to cry out,but they told me to hold my peace that they will look into it and pay me in arrears when the time comes.However my family still resides in the former place I was transferred from because of my wife government job.
Recently I just came to my senses that I cannot leave our little children upbringing for my wife alone who also has been complaining most times.I then called on our head office to relocate me to another new branch nearer where my family resides but they told me that since it was a new branch I can't maintain my management position that except I will have to be demoted,I refuse going initially due to fear of demotion, but now am willing to accept demotion for the sake of my family,PLEASE AM I TAKING THE RIGHT DECISION? thanks for all your positive inputs