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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MissJoy29(f): 9:05am On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve:Her ship has sailed... |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by healthserve(m): 9:09am On Sep 23, 2019 |
MissJoy29: We know. Check the complains of relationships and start counting the culprit/party at fualt from today. You the defender of all women If it isn't madness, should ship sail in a sealed relationship? We're asking you ladies of the present age. I was with a friends mother Twp weeks back and was gisting with the old woman almost 70. The husband just died last year, but I saw the confidence in her husband still standing strong in her like he was present. That's loyalty. Its what folks are complaining about these days. Make una dey follow una selves dey talk o. Even you Aweleawkaetiti 14 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by sisisioge: 9:21am On Sep 23, 2019 |
But your own wahala sef is too much. You went to apologize about reporting her to her parents about her "bad" dress sense. Then you decided to report her again about keeping male friends. Whew! I won't want you around me too. Meanwhile, the girl isn't feeling you anymore...part of the dangers of nurturing babes through school. You mentioned having daughters together, wow...please go and see her parents as requested. Hopefully, she would respect them enough to tell you her mind. Good luck. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by desvi: 9:23am On Sep 23, 2019 |
would advise you to leave her to her fuulishness but you two have daughters all I can say is this, make sure you and your daughters are well show her the cold shoulder though do not take care her of her, don't show her love or your pain make her feel your absence and if she comes back, let her beg wella let her come for you several times until you give her another chance we don't know what we have until it's gone 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MissJoy29(f): 9:51am On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve:You know eh, these complaints go both ways. Stop making it look like it's only ladies that misbehave these days. Las las, una go marry unaselves. I no follow. You know I'm different That woman with her confidence ENJOYED her marriage. That's why she is proud & confident in him even in death. How many people enjoy their relationship/marriage nowadays? Everything is now fake, endures, forced & all for the gram. There's actually no need for comparison between our generation now (male & female alike) & our mothers/fathers. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 10:57am On Sep 23, 2019 |
MissJoy29: Thanks you said it all,but my little girl cant be allowed to stay under her present situation. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 11:02am On Sep 23, 2019 |
desvi: Thanks brotherly you are just too much. |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by nlPoster: 11:25am On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve: @ bolded But you wouldn't like to be tagged criminal based on the activities of your Nigerian brethren if you're not one? In addition, it's stupid of you to reference internet spamming as fact. I was with a friends mother Twp weeks back and was hosting with the old woman almost 70. The husband just died last year, but I saw the confidence in her husband still standing strong in her like he was present. That's loyalty. Its what folks are complaining about these days. Same story everytime. You people dont understand you need to get your act together, everyone sees through your lies and smokescreens. Why do you insist on eating the younger (female) generation and swallowing their destiny by vilifying them constantly while glorifying the older generation who raised them? Do you not see how contradictory that is? 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by piroux(f): 11:25am On Sep 23, 2019 |
Op seems like a good guy, soft and humble. That can also be seen as weak by some women/girls. I don't know her age so i can't tell. This is Nigeria where a 28-year-old lady could still be in School. She might not have cheated on you but could be intensely bored. That's the problem with long courtships and relationships. My advice is to give her space. Don't report her, don't try to control, don't monitor her. Stop doing those things, she might be feeling choked, tired or angry, especially if she doesn't do the same to you. Just leave her be for now and do you. Focus on yourself. In fact, if her family calls you, just greet them well. Tell them the wedding has been paused. If in that time, she doesn't sit up and realize the gem she has in you, kindly let her go. Work out custody arrangements for your child, collect your bride price and move on. Life is too short for anyone to stay unhappy. 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by nlPoster: 11:28am On Sep 23, 2019 |
piroux: I dont know that and neither did I read the story. The OP might even be female. |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by OutfitSystems: 11:41am On Sep 23, 2019 |
Have you tried talking to her personally rather than reporting her to her parent at all times? not everyone can do with the third party thing I advise the two of you sit to talk and that's going to be real... unlike the family gather where others decision can be imposed. BTW I need help with putting up educating content about healthy and staying fit on Nairaland but each time I put up a post fully researched and written, Nairaland Mods find it in the greatest HIGH PEDESTALS to ban the content without even giving any reason why? Please, you can help by contributing on what I need to do right so I can put up content that will benefit a lot of people. Thank you as you do so. https://www.nairaland.com/5407094/why-does-posts-get-banned 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 12:31pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
piroux: Didn't you read my facts why will she be intensely bored when I have paid her dowry as my wife.I have sat her one on one even at midnight to let her adjust her ways since the traditional rites this year and waiting for the white.I did said that I noticed her with bad influence including male and female.so why do you think she is not cheating on me,must I leave my work and be with her in school 24hrs before I will know she is not cheating on me? I think that all that happened is the handiwork of God. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by healthserve(m): 1:35pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
nairalandposter: Shior |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by nlPoster: 1:43pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by healthserve(m): 1:57pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MissJoy29: Hahaha. There's something called loyalty. Something ladies these days lack. You'll see them married yet flirthy, you'll see them with a gvy, yet imagining Ben with another at the same time. You no how many side affairs this year alone I don turn down? Don't let me blow ladies open o If you knew the crisis the family of your so-called enjoyed woman's marriage faced, you self go run. Its stability inspire of external crisis. Pure loyalty. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by pocohantas(f): 2:47pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Nairaland males goes beyond Romance section. MOST of the guys in that section are the most inconsequential elements on NL. No sane lady should aim for their love- most ladies they loved have deactivated or gone inactive. Tough love Their beef? They can't take just very little of what they dish out to ladies daily. Useless pricks 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by nlPoster: 2:58pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve: Just stick to your misery and stop whining everywhere. Do you feel you sound happier than married folks? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 3:13pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Davash222: Thanks a lot my brother,was only begging cos of my 4yrs old daughter but your advise has reformatted my brain. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 3:32pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Situation report house,the mum of my wife called me that why am I not sending the school fees of my daughter as my wife have told her,I replied by saying I will change my daughters school or probably transfer the money to the school account directly.She said OK. Meanwhile the meeting for this weekend scheduled between i, herself and her parents. her mum pleaded with me to go and carry them with my car down to the villa.But initially my wife said I should go on my own but now her mum said I should bring them along.Should I adhere knowing fully well my wife said she has no business with me again. Pls do the needful,thanks. |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Nobody: 5:13pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by zeestone99(m): 5:42pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
Never ever date a young girl for marriage. Her sense is not open yet. She still wanna explore. If you want to marry look for one that has gone to and fro. Her head is now calm. I pity you. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by yeyeosoronga: 5:49pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MYDEBBY: Where are your own family members (parents, sisters, uncles ) in this equation? Abi you no get family? Why are you meeting with her people without your own people present? When going for the meeting, bring your family along, including your elders, parents or siblings. Tell her parents that your car is filled up as you are bringing your people along too in the car. Finalise whatever is between you people there and then. Are you moving forward or you're breaking up. If breaking up, finalise there and then how you will be responsible towards your child together and custody arrangements between your families. Life is not that hard, and only as hard as we make it. Go prepared for the meeting, especially if things cannot continue between you two. Have your points ready, and no need for drama. Just state facts on how to move forward 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by mank1234(m): 7:17pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MYDEBBY: Next time report her to your village council of chiefs, Mr reporter. Try two games and her brain will reset. 1) Get any female friend of yours to act lovy lovy and jealousy go reset her brain. 2) Ignore her, and behave as if she doesn't matter and her curiosity will bring her back. Never ever report her to a third party including her parents, siblings and friends. That only portrays you as a weak man who can't handle domestic affairs. She's now sophiscated - reporting is so old school. If those two is not working, mr reporter try Usain Bolt strategy: Run run run and never look back. But then be sure to carry your daughter with you. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MissJoy29(f): 7:26pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
healthserve:We still saying the same thing honey. It goes both ways...ladies and guys now misbehave tok much....period! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MissJoy29(f): 7:30pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MYDEBBY:Do you plan to take her? Will she let go without a fight? Btw, how old is your little girl? |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 9:01pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Thanks a million brotherly,my own parents are late,but I have five siblings on ground maybe I should go with them or take like two along. Sorry.I could remember the dad said both of us should come alone without any other party should I obey him? All the time her dad believes in me and do much to correct her but she would channel the grievances towards me and label her father a bad man. |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 9:09pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MissJoy29: I planned taking my little girl of 4yrs to her grandmother to look after her.if I live her with that evil woman,she may influence her negatively and use her to siphon money from me. |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by amaham(m): 9:56pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
MYDEBBY: I hope this will be the last meeting between you and them. Halt every white marriage plans and show her you can thrive without her. I think you want to marry her because she's the mother of your child, this doesn't always go well. Just allow her complete this hoeing phase, or else, she'll continue it from your matrimonial home. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 10:59pm On Sep 23, 2019 |
amaham: Done deed,thanks Amaham 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by pocohantas(f): 1:06am On Sep 24, 2019 |
MYDEBBY: Why can't you take care of your child yourself, since you feel the mother is "evil". You want to go drop the innocent child with grandmother. You want her to become a victim of all sorts of abuse? Seems you want that child to grow up hating you (both). 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by baby124: 2:31am On Sep 24, 2019 |
Hmmm.... how old is she? I would be highly irritated too if someone was policing my life, reporting every move to my parents and generally more obnoxious than usual just after the traditional marriage. Don’t forget, you are both married traditionally now. It’s you who decided to go for someone who was young for relationship and marriage, I am sure you must have also thought to figure out how to deal with any surprising behavior. You also need to be careful about this jealousy you hold in your heart. What if that guy is a school friend? Yes, she obviously confides in him because you have shown that you have an unstable character. It may just be a simple friendship. Because she went outside to talk to him, you have concluded that they are sleeping together. If she talked to him in your presence, you would have also taken offense. Well I think you need to give this relationship time before concluding the court wedding. I think you need to step back and reassess your reason for marrying a lady who you cannot trust or refuse to trust. Try to examine why you have trust issues and control issues. You also need to grow up and stop reporting all over the place. Just as she’s trying to forgive you and reconcile, you go on a reporting spree. Whew! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by yeyeosoronga: 3:06am On Sep 24, 2019 |
healthserve: Nobody owes you loyalty dear. It's earned and should be deserving. Once you understand that, life would be a walk in the park. 3 Likes |
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