I and my gf started a new relationship and it's been going well, two weeks ago which was her birthday, we both came to lagos to spend quality time and have fun for two weeks.

while on the vacation, I checked her phone and noticed there was a guy who wished her happy birthday and told her he had a gift for her, she responded and deleted the message

The next day I checked her phone, I didn't see the chat with the guy and I was sure my eyes saw an unread message the previous day.

Four days ago she told me she wants to go she a female.friend, when I confronted her she then mentioned that she wants to go pick up the gift from her male friend, the same guy that she earlier told me about that he is just a friend.

I'm sad cos with all the love I'm beginning to show towards her she isn't satisfied but thinking about another guys gift and attention.

We both quarreled over the issue and I made it clear that if she ever goes to see the guy and I find out it will be the end of our relationship.


Women are truly strange.

I’m currently undergoing my NYSC, at first I meet a lady in camp, due to relocation and long distance, the relationship didn’t work as I caught her having sex on the phone while talking with her, one night few month ago. For more context kindly read about on it under this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6549314/doing-right-thing-not

After breaking up with the lady, I meet another lady, in my current state, Abuja, she and I really bonded and we both feel in love, she is also a corper too.

She made me happy and I felt loved again After my past experience, we were compatible in lots of ways. Everything was going so well, her ppa is in a school while mine is in an office.

After school went to long term holidays, she travelled to her hometown in Asaba, we keep communication going as we did both video calls and voice calls, but just yesterday, while we were having a video call I noticed she used her hands to cover her phone camera and in a low tune, told the girl to leave the room until she tells her to come in.

I wanted to ignore but my first instinct which is always right, took note of it, mind you the last born in their family is in ss2, while talking i noticed the small girl came back and this time she muted the call and after a few minutes unmuted it.

While I was getting worried, I hurriedly told her I will call her back, I went to begin proper investigation and where else to check if not her Facebook.

Am not a social media person, while we dated I didn’t take time to properly check her Facebook as I’m not active, but this observations made me go check things out.

Getting to her Facebook, I started looking at her pictures she posted for clues, recent pictures were not the center of attention, I Went to older pictures taken years ago, and while checking tagged images and mutual friends I found the information I was looking for and I was dumbfounded.

One of her brother posted a picture of him and a baby and wrote”Am so happy to be an uncle”. Another image I saw while digging had another image of him and he wrote”You look like your mother”

Note that the only person he tagged in this pictures was his sister who is the senior, I looked at both pictures and they looked liked my girlfriend, two pretty female kids.

My head was spinning and my heart beating I started putting all the pieces together, the signs were there and she used idoms in saying some things and her behavior around children(never smiling always shouting) and also the fact that she sends her mother money every month from her allowie were the signs I saw but stupid to understand cause of love.

I haven't broken up with her, am so confused and I need advise, this is not how I planned my love life in 2021, been thinking since yesterday.

Update

She just called me to apologize, she confessed she meet another guy whom they recently started dating.

I asked why didn't she tell me, lol she said she was scared of losing me.

She cried and cried on the phone, she underestimated my smartness and observations

I told her, to take care I would never see her again, she should live happily ever after with the new guy.

I won't call her again, would block her numbers, she should not even try contacting me

While the crying on her end increased I kept telling her things I won't do and I meant all

I have done some and would do all, I was honest and loyal, I loved and have lost, am in pains but in the end I will be fine

talk2hb1:

Bro, just ignore her side and focus on making money. Women Don't love, they only love you for something of benefit to them.
Move on, she will deny and even beg as much as she has something to gain (Money, attention, influence, etc)

Thanks to everyone that contributed, life goes on

One love

larryking540:


and I doubt if this lady has invested any of these in the relationship ,,from my little past experiences ,when a lady doesn't invest time , financial aid In a relationship ,she takes it for granted,same goes with a guy and in your situation u have done it higher ,don't feel bad Bec most individuals are ready to trade 5mins sex for a relationship that has blossom ,,I have seen it over and over again ....just go to gym and keep fit by the time you are back you will be alright .

You are right people are ready to forgo long term goals for short term enjoyment

We all learn, and I would begin my healing stage, it would not be easy, love is a facade and I will be fine last last.

Learn from my experience, ladies are amazing but don't know what they truly want

I hope I end up a married man someday, cos I have doubts

talk2hb1:

You Should Have Confronted Her Instantly,
Guys Should Learn To Break Their Heart From Day 0 When You Are In A Relationship.
Take Heart Bro, I guess you have invested too much in the relationship

I did and she denied, that's what fueled my rage, even this morning she is still denying.

I invested, time, my heart, money, and much more, in the end all I get is this!!!

Funny thing is I know her she would deny on the premise that an not there, but as a guy man that I am, I have lots of experience and know how those type of things goes

I’m currently serving, I meet this beautiful, lady while in camp, We served together till my relocation worked, we were in love or so I thought.

Things has been going well, even when it's a long distance relationship, up until yesterday night I called her and while we were talking the following was happening:

She wasn't paying attention while responding awkwardly

She was trying hard not to moan loud.

She was telling me to go to bed that it's late in a moaning tune.

While I was still trying to listen more closely, I could hear a guy spitting, I'm sure on her pussy and giving her head which even made her not talk back for some split seconds.

As a guy man I coded, but still kept the conversation going even with the responses from her �


But while all that, I was losing my mind, my heart racing like someone who just got news about Jesus coming in 5mis and hasn't repented �

I couldn't take it anymore and told her that why is there someone there with her and she couldn't tell me.

It was like boom, next thing I heard was a guy wishper, meaning she had the phone on speaker, and she also immediately regained her senses and responded like a normal person saying things like

Ah, me noooo
Dear am alone in the room no one with me
Don't you trust me

Me already filled with rage ended the call and here I am it's 5am and I still cant sleep well

Fear ladies

Maskofff:
My babe is going next month am really scared

I’m currently serving, I meet this beautiful, lady while in camp, We served together till my relocation worked, we were in love or so I thought.

Things has been going well, even when it's a long distance relationship, up until yesterday night I called her and while we were talking the following was happening:

She wasn't paying attention while responding awkwardly

She was trying hard not to moan loud.

She was telling me to go to bed that it's late in a moaning tune.

While I was still trying to listen more closely, I could hear a guy spitting, I'm sure on her pussy and giving her head which even made her not talk back for some split seconds.

As a guy man I coded, but still kept the conversation going even with the responses from her �


But while all that, I was losing my mind, my heart racing like someone who just got news about Jesus coming in 5mis and hasn't repented �

I couldn't take it anymore and told her that why is there someone there with her and she couldn't tell me.

It was like boom, next thing I heard was a guy wishper, meaning she had the phone on speaker, and she also immediately regained her senses and responded like a normal person saying things like

Ah, me noooo
Dear am alone in the room no one with me
Don't you trust me

Me already filled with rage ended the call and here I am it's 5am and I still cant sleep well

Fear ladies and don't do long distance relationship

where can I find junior developers in the country?

Thanks for this as well

As you pointed out also business is though, in as much as we want to charge plenty millions for projects,

We also need to consider the budget of the client and try to be accommodating.

We are trying to grow and at the same time trying to keep the startup running, but to be honest getting high paying contracts is not easy, we believe we will get there, but we need to build the portfolio which will get us there as well

Thanks for your feedback

Thanks for this information,

I have been worried recently because for example a project of 600,000 for a mobile app, my friends would be saying I should pay them 500,000

How much would then be used for running the startup, offsetting bills, marketing for more clients, etc

I don't know if this is how it's done, maybe am wrong, but with your information I can look for developers who would understand that we are just a startup, but as we grow their salaries would also grow

Once again thanks for your feedback

Good evening, I need professional advise

I just started a startup, its just three months old, its a software development company.

I want to know the salaries to pay my staff, cause am presently running it with my two friends whom I don't pay salaries, how I pay them is via negotiations on the projects we get.


I notice that they want to collect so much from the project, not even thinking about the growth of the company

Am thinking of hiring developers, please advise on the salary range so I can be guided to plan and raise money


Thanks and God bless

Don't joke with the girls mother threats, be prayerful

This story reminds me of what happened to me.

I had a girlfriend who I dated for three years ,we had alot of good memories together, I tried my best to provide almost everything she wanted, the sex was great and all that I was close to her family cause I planned a future with her.

She had this guy who she always claim he is just her friend . Unknown to me each time she will go to his house and spend time with him, cooking together, and having sex, she got pregnant and pinned it on me I refused cos I suspected she was cheating the signs were faint but I noticed and I on my part made sure she always took the pills each time after sex

I was right she had been fucking this guy and cos the guy is poor and still a student she wanted me to take the responsibility

I felt sad cos this is a girl I wanted to marry and all but she could be so wicked to cheat on me and still have the guts to pin the pregnancy on me

I don't think I can love again, I fear women now and I have learnt my lessons the hard way