BirtherOfKings:
Confront her as a man with balls ..if she is honest ..tell her u forgive her and put a ring on it .wat a privilege to become a father to those children..enjoy the blessings of God and the eternal love of ur woman

Mylife89:
I’m currently undergoing my NYSC, at first I meet a lady in camp, due to relocation and long distance, the relationship didn’t work as I caught her having sex on the phone while talking with her, one night few month ago. For more context kindly read about on it under this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6549314/doing-right-thing-not

After breaking up with the lady, I meet another lady, in my current state, Abuja, she and I really bonded and we both feel in love, she is also a corper too.

She made me happy and I felt loved again After my past experience, we were compatible in lots of ways. Everything was going so well, her ppa is in a school while mine is in an office.

After school went to long term holidays, she travelled to her hometown in Asaba, we keep communication going as we did both video calls and voice calls, but just yesterday, while we were having a video call I noticed she used her hands to cover her phone camera and in a low tune, told the girl to leave the room until she tells her to come in.

I wanted to ignore but my first instinct which is always right, took note of it, mind you the last born in their family is in ss2, while talking i noticed the small girl came back and this time she muted the call and after a few minutes unmuted it.

While I was getting worried, I hurriedly told her I will call her back, I went to begin proper investigation and where else to check if not her Facebook.

Am not a social media person, while we dated I didn’t take time to properly check her Facebook as I’m not active, but this observations made me go check things out.

Getting to her Facebook, I started looking at her pictures she posted for clues, recent pictures were not the center of attention, I Went to older pictures taken years ago, and while checking tagged images and mutual friends I found the information I was looking for and I was dumbfounded.

One of her brother posted a picture of him and a baby and wrote”Am so happy to be an uncle”. Another image I saw while digging had another image of him and he wrote”You look like your mother”

Note that the only person he tagged in this pictures was his sister who is the senior, I looked at both pictures and they looked liked my girlfriend, two pretty female kids.

My head was spinning and my heart beating I started putting all the pieces together, the signs were there and she used idoms in saying some things and her behavior around children(never smiling always shouting) and also the fact that she sends her mother money every month from her allowie were the signs I saw but stupid to understand cause of love.

I haven't broken up with her, am so confused and I need advise, this is not how I planned my love life in 2021, been thinking since yesterday.

BirtherOfKings:
Confront her as a man with balls ..if she is honest ..tell her u forgive her and put a ring on it .wat a privilege to become a father to those children..enjoy the blessings of God and the eternal love of ur woman

Mylife89:
I’m currently undergoing my NYSC, at first I meet a lady in camp, due to relocation and long distance, the relationship didn’t work as I caught her having sex on the phone while talking with her, one night few month ago. For more context kindly read about on it under this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6549314/doing-right-thing-not

After breaking up with the lady, I meet another lady, in my current state, Abuja, she and I really bonded and we both feel in love, she is also a corper too.

She made me happy and I felt loved again After my past experience, we were compatible in lots of ways. Everything was going so well, her ppa is in a school while mine is in an office.

After school went to long term holidays, she travelled to her hometown in Asaba, we keep communication going as we did both video calls and voice calls, but just yesterday, while we were having a video call I noticed she used her hands to cover her phone camera and in a low tune, told the girl to leave the room until she tells her to come in.

I wanted to ignore but my first instinct which is always right, took note of it, mind you the last born in their family is in ss2, while talking i noticed the small girl came back and this time she muted the call and after a few minutes unmuted it.

While I was getting worried, I hurriedly told her I will call her back, I went to begin proper investigation and where else to check if not her Facebook.

Am not a social media person, while we dated I didn’t take time to properly check her Facebook as I’m not active, but this observations made me go check things out.

Getting to her Facebook, I started looking at her pictures she posted for clues, recent pictures were not the center of attention, I Went to older pictures taken years ago, and while checking tagged images and mutual friends I found the information I was looking for and I was dumbfounded.

One of her brother posted a picture of him and a baby and wrote”Am so happy to be an uncle”. Another image I saw while digging had another image of him and he wrote”You look like your mother”

Note that the only person he tagged in this pictures was his sister who is the senior, I looked at both pictures and they looked liked my girlfriend, two pretty female kids.

My head was spinning and my heart beating I started putting all the pieces together, the signs were there and she used idoms in saying some things and her behavior around children(never smiling always shouting) and also the fact that she sends her mother money every month from her allowie were the signs I saw but stupid to understand cause of love.

I haven't broken up with her, am so confused and I need advise, [b][/b]this is not how I planned my love life in 2021[b][but been thinking since yesterday.

BarrSly:


I keep saying it over and over bro!! Man should not have any reason to get involved in relationships cause the women are out there to simply use y’all!!

Actually one can get Into relationships with them but you must go In with your Sword, Shield & Armor And Use your brain. These days what I'm actually doing Is "BILLING" them before they do so. I'do bring up some sort of Business Proposals & Investments and It Is a must for them to Support & Join me. Afterwards then we will Knack, I'm very good looking and have a nice body. I'm out here and there to Fleece these Hoes, "The SIMPS" will always be there to Refill their purses and bank Accounts. Mind you, It's those who have Values and Something upstairs I deal with. I always avoid the Broke Ones no matter how pretty they are. At this Stage of my life, Pvssy Is not and can never be my Problem. I'm currently building an Empire.....

BirtherOfKings:
Confront her as a man with balls ..if she is honest ..tell her u forgive her and put a ring on it .wat a privilege to become a father to those children..enjoy the blessings of God and the eternal love of ur woman

Yusufisraelj:
Guy, your findings are good, however, ask her directly, it's not a crime to have a child when not married, even though it's not ideal.

Mylife89:
I’m currently undergoing my NYSC, at first I meet a lady in camp, due to relocation and long distance, the relationship didn’t work as I caught her having sex on the phone while talking with her, one night few month ago. For more context kindly read about on it under this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6549314/doing-right-thing-not

After breaking up with the lady, I meet another lady, in my current state, Abuja, she and I really bonded and we both feel in love, she is also a corper too.

She made me happy and I felt loved again After my past experience, we were compatible in lots of ways. Everything was going so well, her ppa is in a school while mine is in an office.

After school went to long term holidays, she travelled to her hometown in Asaba, we keep communication going as we did both video calls and voice calls, but just yesterday, while we were having a video call I noticed she used her hands to cover her phone camera and in a low tune, told the girl to leave the room until she tells her to come in.

I wanted to ignore but my first instinct which is always right, took note of it, mind you the last born in their family is in ss2, while talking i noticed the small girl came back and this time she muted the call and after a few minutes unmuted it.

While I was getting worried, I hurriedly told her I will call her back, I went to begin proper investigation and where else to check if not her Facebook.

Am not a social media person, while we dated I didn’t take time to properly check her Facebook as I’m not active, but this observations made me go check things out.

Getting to her Facebook, I started looking at her pictures she posted for clues, recent pictures were not the center of attention, I Went to older pictures taken years ago, and while checking tagged images and mutual friends I found the information I was looking for and I was dumbfounded.

One of her brother posted a picture of him and a baby and wrote”Am so happy to be an uncle”. Another image I saw while digging had another image of him and he wrote”You look like your mother”

Note that the only person he tagged in this pictures was his sister who is the senior, I looked at both pictures and they looked liked my girlfriend, two pretty female kids.

My head was spinning and my heart beating I started putting all the pieces together, the signs were there and she used idoms in saying some things and her behavior around children(never smiling always shouting) and also the fact that she sends her mother money every month from her allowie were the signs I saw but stupid to understand cause of love.

I haven't broken up with her, am so confused and I need advise, this is not how I planned my love life in 2021, been thinking since yesterday.