I haven't found any yet! If you know any please tell me where to find them.

Hey are there any fellow Nigerians out here in Montreal, QC? I am here for the summer and looking to meet some fellow Nigerians. Thanks!

omega25red:

poor guy omo olomo do bale lol

i wonder which part of lagos you are going to that you expect him to prostrate and junk.

Omega25, we are going to Ikoyi which is where my family lives. We (male and female alike) all still prostrate in my family, so yes I am going to make sure he does the same! 

,mama-gee:

I hate Lagos.

Mama-gee, sometimes I feel the same truth be told. Lagos is too much sometimes. Still, there is nowhere like home, despite all the wahala invovled. 

Yes Ikeyman00, because asking for honest advice from my Naija brothers and sisters on bringing home a foreigner is the very definition of "showing off" 

Well to each his own. I hope you have a pleasant day!

Thanks PittBaby! Trust me the "respect" issue has been very much drummed into his head. As I said earlier, my parents are very Westernized (they've lived here too long -  ) or I think "casual" is a better word and in that sense he hasn't had to tread too carefully with them!

Since he has been so very casual with them, I have made sure to impress upon him that just because my parents are so casual, doesn't mean the rest of my family is. And that there are some formalities he'll have to learn. We plan to move back to Nigeria for a little while, and I have seen firsthand how extended family can put serious stress on a marriage 

Definitely not telling him NOT be himself, just want to make sure he is aware of our cultural habits.

Thanks again for the advice PittBaby!

Kellorah, I think perhaps there is a misunderstanding  

It's not a matter of my extended family in Lagos "accepting him". He is already accepted and loved by my parents, and that's the most important thing. I would just like for him to be "welcomed" by the extended family and I believe a great way to go about this is to be familiar with our cultural quirks.

Bottom line, I want more than just "acceptance" for him (which he already has from my parents), I want him to also be welcomed in the same way a Nigerian son would be welcomed. Hope that clears things up

Hello Fellow Naijas!

I was hoping I could get some cute and creative ways for my fiancé to endear himself to extended family and friends, while visiting Nigeria? I should note that he is Italian-American, and I myself am Nigerian, so I suppose that makes us a multi-cultural couple.

He has met my immediate family (parents and siblings) but they are all rather Westernized. However, he will be visiting Lagos for the first time and I know it is very important that he make a good impression to all! So far he has been learning pidgin and v-e-r-y basic Yoruba, knows how to prostrate, knows he should address all elders as "Aunty" and "Uncle" etc.

I would just really like him to make a good impression and show that he is open to our culture as well. So I would greatly appreciate any tips, ideas and suggestions. Thank you all very much in advance and have a blessed day!

There are many different reasons to cohabitate and they may not be suitable for everyone.

- Some people cohabitate because it makes economical/financial sense at the time (especially if they are saving)
- Some people cohabitate because they need to learn how to share their space (many people don't do this well!)
- Some people cohabitate because they don't believe that they need a piece of paper to bind them together

It's a rather pointless discussion. Cohabitation is neither bad or good, it's simply a preference or not. And might I add that responding with "It is just bad!" is plain silly and adds nothing to the discussion. If you think it's bad you are welcome to that opinion, but at least share an explanation of why you think it's so bad.

The most important lesson here folks, that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do! Yay for freedom of choice :-)

I think it is important to sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Ask him to be honest with you and explain why all of a sudden he is concerned about your weight. The truth may sting but it's better than lies. If you can do that, then you can decide how to proceed.

Would it benefit YOU to lose weight? Would it make you feel better, up your self esteem etc?!? If so, go ahead and take steps to lose weight. You will win and so will he. Would it NOT benfit you to lose weight?!? If there are no obvious benefits to you losing weight, then weigh (no pun intended) how important your husband's desires are. If you want to make him happy and he's going to be happy if you drop some weight then do that. If nothing is going to make him happy, do nothing and let that be.

Hope this helps!

Yes, both my partner and I are aware of exactly how much the other earns.

I plan to model my marriage finances the same way my parents did i.e. 75% of each of their salaries went into the marriage/joint account. Everything from buying a car, paying school fees, paying for the help etc all came from that account. The remaining 25% of their salaries went into their own personal accounts for them to do with as they pleased.

I think it would be somewhat unhealthy to not disclose this information in a marriage. How can you then plan, budget, invest accordingly if you don't know how much each person is bringing to the table?!?

Blissful

Yes. It's a matter of common courtesy. If two people share a home and life, it's common courtesy to let the other person know of your coming and goings. Not because one is insecure/nosey, it's just the polite thing to do. If I am stuck in traffic on my way home, I'll let my husband know so that he doesn't worry. If my husband is coming home late, he will let me know so I can adjust dinner time or even just have peace of mind.