For those who keep up with research on social issues, it is well-known that high rates of cohabitation and longer periods of cohabitation are highly correlated with higher divorce rates.

This does not mean that every cohabiting couple will end up in divorce, but just means that they are more likely to end up in divorce, if they eventually get married, than another couple that did not cohabitate.

Any person with basic reasoning skills will easily see why cohabitation is generally a bad idea.

tensor777:

We should explore further what cohabitation really is so that women in particular know what they are letting themselves in for.

1)It is an experimental non-legal co-residential union. This union is not recognised by the courts.

2)The union does not require or imply a lifetime commitment to stay together

3)There is no responsiblity  for financial support of the co-partner and most do not pool financial resources(joint accounts) In other words the relationship is like "going dutch"

4)There should be no expectation that the partners would socialise together.

5)Clearly the man would expect the woman to commit fornication with him, but there should be no expectation that the relationship would be mutually exclusive.

Solid analysis!

Banderas:

Oga, are you really in the UK? Use abuse and dump? Doesn't the woman have a say in the matter? I find this statement unbelievably chauvinistic and unenlightened. You really, really need to open your eyes.

Sex requires two people to consent. Why is it the woman that is "used" and not the man?

Banderas??
Is this you?

follypimpi:

@Sauron

Who do u Co-Habit ?

I don't see anything wrong with co-habitation.

follypimpi:


Am quite surprised u r ok with it.

U are not okay with it?
I need to know who i get hitched to inside out. . . . .
We are talking about a life partner here, not someone you can kick out after 5 hours.

co-habiting is wrong. period

follypimpi:


I am 50-50 with it,I love my space alot ya know i would prefer Looking forward to living with my lady,i prefer the ancticipation.

Everyone loves his space but i also love the comfort a woman brings to the table.
Timely meals, regular sex and the sneak preview of life after marriage would be like.

TOPE2000!:

co-habiting is wrong. period

Wetin u sabi?
Co-habiting is crisp. . . . . .

follypimpi:


I am 50-50 with it,Ilove my space alot ya know i would prefer Looking forward to living with my lady,i[b] prefer the ancticipation[/b]

Amen

~Sauron~:

Wetin u sabi?
Co-habiting is crisp. . . . . .

Marriage is already boring , why bore myself even more by living with him without being married huh?

TOPE2000!:

Marriage is already boring , why bore myself even more by living with him without being married huh?

Marriage is boring? Christ!!!!

~Sauron~:

Everyone loves his space but i also love the comfort a woman brings to the table.
Timely meals, regular sex and the sneak preview of life after marriage would be like.

Sexism in the 21st century. Kai o ma se oooo.

follypimpi:


Oluwa mi ooooo TOOOOOPEEEEEEEEEE Le nu e !! Sorry Owo eeee

~Sauron~:

Marriage is boring? Christ!!!!

The devil typed that, not me

~Sauron~:

Everyone loves his space but i also love the comfort a woman brings to the table.
Timely meals, regular sex and the sneak preview of life after marriage would be like.

You dont have to co-habit to get all those abeg

TOPE2000!:

You dont have to co-habit to get all those abeg

I don't patronise Naija prostitutes.

~Sauron~:

I don't patronise Naija prostitutes.

Sharrap
So are you telling me ur woman have to live with u in-order for you to know her better?
or u want her to move in to save money?

TOPE2000!:

Sharrap
So are you telling me your woman have to live with u in-order for you to know her better?
or u want her to move in to save money?

All of the above. . . . .

follypimpi:


Like you treat your man dem huh ?

Lol . . . i dont mind spending wknds with my man but co-habit . . . . . .Hell nah

Oya start Fasting 40 days and 40 nights.

Im ON IT

~Sauron~:

All of the above. . . . .

shior . . . , another money saving scheme from u guys. kai

errr wats the topic again?
oh yeah co-habitation. . . .
hmmm lemme clock the big 25, ill come back


btw im with tope on this

TOPE2000!:

shior . . . , another money saving scheme from u guys. kai

Prudence is the watch word. . . . .

~Sauron~:

Prudence is the watch word. . . . .

Yeah . . . .

bluespice:

errr wats the topic again?
oh yeah co-habitation. . . .
hmmm lemme clock the big 25, ill come back


btw im with tope on this

25 or no 25 darl, if u wnt it put a ring on it

~Sauron~:

Prudence is the watch word. . . . .

credit crunch affecting relationships too . . .

tope, 25 being when i intend to get married or atleast get serious

There are many different reasons to cohabitate and they may not be suitable for everyone.

- Some people cohabitate because it makes economical/financial sense at the time (especially if they are saving)
- Some people cohabitate because they need to learn how to share their space (many people don't do this well!)
- Some people cohabitate because they don't believe that they need a piece of paper to bind them together

It's a rather pointless discussion. Cohabitation is neither bad or good, it's simply a preference or not. And might I add that responding with "It is just bad!" is plain silly and adds nothing to the discussion. If you think it's bad you are welcome to that opinion, but at least share an explanation of why you think it's so bad.

The most important lesson here folks, that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do! Yay for freedom of choice :-)

well, according to very reliable sources, statistics show that couples who practice cohabitation are more likely to get a divorce when they get married than ones that don't!


reason being that people who don't see anything wrong with living together before marriage usually don't see anything wrong in divorce and separation as well and are very liberal and "modern" in love affairs
or it might be a financial reason and we know money issues break relationships.
otherwise, really just do what u wish keeping these information in mind.

@ OP, I think RichyBlack said it best when he analysed it in the following terms:
It is an experimental non-legal co-residential union. This union is not recognised by the courts.

The union does not require or imply a lifetime commitment to stay together

There is no responsiblity for financial support of the co-partner and most do not pool financial resources(joint accounts) In other words the relationship is like "going dutch"

There should be no expectation that the partners would socialise together.

Clearly the man would expect the woman to commit fornication with him, but there should be no expectation that the relationship would be mutually exclusive.

Legally, co-habitation as a term shouldn't be confused with the "lighter shade" of a hopeful girlfriend moving in with her bf for a time with the hope that it would lead to marriage. But co-habitation is like a finalistic stage where there is no realistic hope on the side of either party and they are merely living, sleeping and in essence, co-habiting. Neither one is advisable for any man or woman, though. But how is it that it's the women everyone claims is losing her dignity? I'm sure the men lose something too when they succumb to such a pact. It lessens their urge to take responsibility, to make their final choice. It makes them less of a man if they can settle for so little instead of taking the plunge and making a wife out of someone. Food for thought, is all.

good words there

^^Thanks - though half the credit has to go to RichyBlack for his insightful post .

ok. all the same.

Very interesting topic,