He also tells me that I should use me youth as an advantage to get young guys to come to church. He doesn't want me to have a boyfriend but he wants me to in his words "turn what the devil wants for evil into something good". Yeah he touches my but he doesn't have sex with me. I think that had I not known him there would be no way in this world I would have read a bible or started to go to church three times a week or learn how to pray for others,or learn how to fast or consider myself worthy of heaven. He made me see that I have something to look forward to and that Jesus reallly does love me. I have tried church before and it never really did much for me,he took me so close to him that I felt like I was special.I remember thinking to myself.why is this man of God putting so much effort into my life.When I met him I had three boyfriends,two I was sleeping with,one I was living with,I was smoking weed like ten times a day,I wasn't going to any church and I dressed like a harlot,or what I know consider to be dressed like a harlot,at that time I thought my clothes were just cute.After he came close to me I moved out of my "boyfriends" apartment,I stopped having sex,I stopped smoking weed,I stopped hanging out with bad friends,I started working and providing for myself,I started school and I feel in love with the Lord.I began to read my bible and pray and fast and desire spiritual gifts.All this in about four to six monts of being close to him. It's been over a year and I have substained from sex up until the present time.

I am not alone I guess.

I think all things are possible under the sun,but I think people who are in the United Stated and have papers or are born citizens should be careful.PEOPLE REALLY WANT TO COME TO THE STATES BY ALL MEANS INCLUDING BY USING OTHERS.

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@ Nameless,
Seriously though, do you have a family? Where is your mom or dad? Are you pretty young? I am sorry you feel that way. Try to have someone at that church to adopt you into their family. Make friends with young women or mothers of the church. He(she) who has friends must show themselves friendly. I wonder if there is someone in that church that would be willing to take you in and keep you accountable. Just pray about it specifically and someone will take you under their wings. If you want to continue going to that church, you have got to make a way to stay away from the guy. Keep your eyes fixed on God. If that situation leaks out among that church, you certainly will not have that church to go to then. Besides, God will not leave you comfortless. He will never leave you or forsake you anyway.

I'm I going to hell? I'm scared,all I have ever wanted was to know God. I don't have family to run to,no one loves me. all I have is my church.There aren't any women there who are so connected to God that I could learn from them.Everyone has there issues. Yeah what's been going on myay be wrong but I never ask him or flirt with him.I make sure to always dress appropriatly and not intince him but he still touches me. I don't want to do anything that will be disrepectful to him because I have been told not to get on a man ofGod's bad side and I don't want to find out the bad way what can happen to me. I was told that even though Saul was considerd bad David still killed the man who killed Saul.David then said that his blood was on his on head and who was he to touch or harm the man that God had annointed. So getting on a man that God has chosen bad side may hurt me even more. He doesn't always touch me and most of the time he makes me pray alot and fast alot with him.I have become a prayer warrior and I didn't even know how to pray at first but he kept praying with me like almost everday until I got better,he also doesn't allow me to date,or have boyfriends.He said that he is protecting me from bad things so that I can be pure.I guess he wants to help me because I have nothing.

I think it's not who is better really because we are kind of the same.I guess the culture is different.

I can't disrespect a man of God.I son't wan God to punish me. I have not had sex with him. I just want to keep going to my church. It's the first time in my life I have felt like I have a family. I love my congregation and I think without them I would be lost in the world again. I don't have anyone elese all I have is them.I don't want to be alone again. I have been alone all my life,I have tried other churches in the past and none of them made me feel like this one does. I never felt like it was a family so I would just go back into the world and party.I like having people to tell me they love me,I've never been loved by people.God's love is great.but when people love you you just feel happy inside. I am scared of being alone again.

It's o.k if he touches me as long as we don't have sex.What do you think?

Did you read my post?

I know a guy who spoke of doing an oath before he came to the states.I liked him and for a while he actec like he liked me but when we were getting close he said that we had to stop because he took an oath.I'm american so I didn't know what he meant.Then he explained it,I was like wow! It seemed crazy to me.

I see alot of my sistas have tried white men!WOW! I have never tried one in my life but now that I have read this I am considering it. How do you deal with the sex? I know they are smaller than black men.I'm not into that gentle stuff,how can my husband give me flowers and chocolates but can't lay the "pipe".I think I would lose respect for him,cause of my needs not being met in the bedroom.

You can not!Which way will you raise the children?Would you risk your children receiving false doctrines and go to hell! GOD FORBID!

didn't someone in the bible take a protitute as a wife?Go get tested withthe girl and then go from there.

You didn't understand the story? Just make a comment.

I can't just talk to him any kind of way. He is a man of God and I don't know how to say things like that.A part of me likes the way he treats me,no man has ever been able to do me how he does.I'm black american and it's hard to control us.I don't know what it is about him.I'm22 his is 26 or 27 so we are both young.I have been avoinding him for the past one month but I miss my church and him.I don't know what to do.I'm trying to avoid him but it's making my life totally change because my life revolves around my church.He got me a cell phone so that I could talk to him and when the contract was over he wanted me to get another one but I told him no and he was upset.Since the contract is up,he has no phone to call me on and I didn't give him my other number.This is really hard on me.

If she was a serious girlfriend and you showed her off then your friend is not a good friend,but if she was just a chick you "knocked off" for a while and she didn't even meet your family as your gilrfriend then "charge it to the game".That means don't sweat it,just let it go.If your friend has found true happiness in your trash then let himgo ahead.Did you reject her or did you reject you?If you rejected her then don't trip.She's your leftovers anyway.

If your truely love her you will use a condem until you marry her.That way she doesn't get pregnant and embarrasses her family.

I gave my life to the Lord a short whilw ago and I started going to this small,african church.I was met by this young man at a store and he gave me a flyer to come to church.I said o.k not knowing that my life was about to change.

I went to the church and right after service the pastor cut off all converations to come and meet me.I was trying to leave pretty fast because I wasn't use to the church environment. He asked me if I want to go to the movies with him and his wife.I said o.k.That's how it all started.

He started calling me everyday,I told him my life story and all my problems.He started to pick me up and just talk to me about my life. One day he asked me to go swimming with him and after saying no a few times he insisted that I go so I did.We went alone.He played with me then he started bring me closer and closer to his body.Next thing I know is I could feel his hard penis againct my butt! I didn't say anything because he acted like he didn't notice it himself.

Over the next month he became like a boyfriend only without sex and kissing and touching.He was always in my business. He told me that I should marry my boyfriend of four years or move out on my own so I decided to move out.

He started coming to myapartment everyday and he started to "play" with me.he would touch me everywhere and I wouldn't touch him back.I started to have feelings for him,he had just gotten married a couple of months before and he told me that if he knew me that he would have married me.I was blown away that a man of God like me.I began to see him as my boyfriend in a way. I didn't date anyone or allow guys to even appraoch me.

After a few months,I thought he would never try to kiss or have sex with me I just thought he like to be close to me.So one day he told me to come to his job and sit with him.He use to always tell me to come and sit with him at night because he didn't want me to feel lonely or start thinking about a boyfriend.So I was use to going to see him and nothing happening. This time was different.

There was a guy at my job who like me alot and he was sending me poetry all of the time.This time he sent it while I was with me pastor.I read the text and amiled and my pastor was like what is that that is making you smile.He grabbed the phone and read the text.He was quite for a minute then he said,why are you doing this?I was like doing what?he was like tallking to men.I was like,well I'm single and I can't stay single.He got very quite.Then he drove to a quite location and then he KISSED ME! I didn't kiss him back,then I did kidd him back and I couldn't believe he was kissing me.I thought that it could never happen because he has be alone with me in my apartment and slept on my bed and never done it before.

He didn't kiss me again for months,but we stayed close.I told a friend and she asked him about it,he got so mad at me that he stopped visiting me for a while.Recently I was at his house as usual and out of no where he kissed me again!!!I wasn't expecting it almost ten months since the last time. I son't want to have feelings for him but I do.He laid me down and began to unbotton my clothes.

In my mind I was like this is sooo wrong,but my body was so hot for him that I didn't know what to do!He began to stick his finger inside me and since he had kept me from guys and I had feelings for him I stayed away from guys,it had been a long time since I had been touched,let alone fingerd.I came and I feel asleep.I love him but I don't want to.He has just been so good to me since he brought Jesus into my life. He is a young man in his late to mid twenties.I don't know how to totally stop,we have not had sex,but I wonder if it's wrong what has happend.I love my church and I don't want to give people the wrong impression so this is s secret I will take to the grave,who is wrong me?Him?Or both of us?I forgot to say that he has become someone of a spiritual father to me and ever since I have known him my life has changed dramatically,he says that I am connectted to his annointting and I believe it.I have never lived so good. what do you think?

I gave my life to the Lord a short while ago and I started going to this small,African church.I was met by this young man at a store and he gave me a flyer to come to church.I said o.k not knowing that my life was about to change.

I went to the church and right after service the pastor cut off all conversations to come and meet me.I was trying to leave pretty fast because I wasn't use to the church environment. He asked me if I want to go to the movies with him and his wife.I said o.k.That's how it all started.

He started calling me everyday,I told him my life story and all my problems.He started to pick me up and just talk to me about my life. One day he asked me to go swimming with him and after saying no a few times he insisted that I go so I did.We went alone.He played with me then he started bring me closer and closer to his body.Next thing I know is I could feel his hard penis against my butt! I didn't say anything because he acted like he didn't notice it himself.

Over the next month he became like a boyfriend only without sex and kissing and touching.He was always in my business. He told me that I should marry my boyfriend of four years or move out on my own so I decided to move out.

He started coming to my apartment everyday and he started to "play" with me.he would touch me everywhere and I wouldn't touch him back.I started to have feelings for him,he had just gotten married a couple of months before and he told me that if he knew me that he would have married me.I was blown away that a man of God like me.I began to see him as my boyfriend in a way. I didn't date anyone or allow guys to even approach me.

After a few months,I thought he would never try to kiss or have sex with me I just thought he like to be close to me.So one day he told me to come to his job and sit with him.He use to always tell me to come and sit with him at night because he didn't want me to feel lonely or start thinking about a boyfriend.So I was use to going to see him and nothing happening. This time was different.

There was a guy at my job who like me a lot and he was sending me poetry all of the time.This time he sent it while I was with me pastor.I read the text and smiled and my pastor was like what is that that is making you smile.He grabbed the phone and read the text.He was quite for a minute then he said,why are you doing this?I was like doing what?he was like tallking to men.I was like,well I'm single and I can't stay single.He got very quite.Then he drove to a quite location and then he KISSED ME! I didn't kiss him back,then I did kiss him back and I couldn't believe he was kissing me.I thought that it could never happen because he has be alone with me in my apartment and slept on my bed and never done it before.

He didn't kiss me again for months,but we stayed close.I told a friend and she asked him about it,he got so mad at me that he stopped visiting me for a while.Recently I was at his house as usual and out of no where he kissed me again!!!I wasn't expecting it almost ten months since the last time. I don't want to have feelings for him but I do.He laid me down and began to unbutton my clothes.

In my mind I was like this is so wrong,but my body was so hot for him that I didn't know what to do!He began to stick his finger inside me and since he had kept me from guys and I had feelings for him I stayed away from guys,it had been a long time since I had been touched,let alone fingered.I came and I feel asleep.I love him but I don't want to.He has just been so good to me since he brought Jesus into my life. He is a young man in his late to mid twenties.I don't know how to totally stop,we have not had sex,but I wonder if it's wrong what has happend.I love my church and I don't want to give people the wrong impression so this is s secret I will take to the grave,who is wrong me?Him?Or both of us?I forgot to say that he has become someone of a spiritual father to me and ever since I have known him my life has changed dramatically,he says that I am connected to his anointing and I believe it.I have never lived so good. what do you think?