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Yes I still pay my tithe and offerings. As a matter of fact I just transferred my tithe to my church's account this morning.

Tithe is God's money (10% of your earnings) so it's not subject to debate as it is mandatory for every Christian believer who doesn't want to enjoy a life of hardship. I don't care who quotes me to say nonsense but this is just the plain truth.

It's either you honour God's word and pay or you enjoy the hardship in the land. And for those who think otherwise your opinion is not necessary as God has been blessing me and right now I have more than enough.... So God's word works!

Godlovesyou28:
Thanks, I appreciate your concern but I don't have a problem that requires a life coach like you said earlier. Am sure you are a fantastic life coach, but this is just an ugly incidence that will soon pass like other ugly incidences I have faced; except that am having to face it alone. I will be fine. Thanks.

Alright... I believe you'd make it out of this challenge. Try to learn from your past experience as you are moving to this new place you found. Limit your conversation with your neighbours at your new place and mind your own business strictly so the former occurrence doesn't play out again. It's well with you.

Frankicent:
Bro, bro, broooo. Calm down I know how love feel.. It's difficult letting out on love... You just have to smart to make wise choice. Since she told you she's engaged it's not your fault. Even though she's joking. Over move on.. Don't because of her stop chatting with other ladies.

Because you will later regret .. Trust me.. No matter how close she comes. Keep searching for other ladies and ask others out. She's having a wonderful time at home with her fiance. While, you go home sober, single and no lady to comfort you.. Bro move on .. If she like she should remold her face with anger... It's none of your biz.


Incase she comes around tell her you can't continue because she's engaged and you might get really close to her and you don't want that because it's addicting and such attention could destroy her relationship. That you don't want..

Bros flow with other ladies, or you'll later regret you didn't. She's getting D* from her fiance.


She's using you bro.. Don't be her puppet.

That's the same thing that's been going through my mind. This set of people called women can be manipulative. I will just shun her straight and try out other ladies. I think its better that way than to allow her hold me ransom. Thanks bro

Godlovesyou28:
Thanks. I call my friends and family, but I can't understand how I feel Ndeoma; its a cocktail of anger, disappointment, regret, fear, pity, helplessness, bullied and so on , Very bad feeling.

Hmmm... You really having a tough time now. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now but I know there a solution to every problem in life.

Like I said... Send me an email with your contact let's discuss solutions to your problem. Don't die in silence please.

Godlovesyou28:
Thanks. I call my friends and family, but I can't understand how I feel Ndeoma; its a cocktail of anger, disappointment, regret, fear, pity, helplessness, bullied and so on , Very bad feeling.

Hmmm... You really having a tough time now. I can only imagine what you are feeling right now but I know there a solution to every problem in life.

Like I said... Send me a an email with your contact let's discuss solutions to your problem. Don't die in silence please.

dukeprince50:
If u truly love the babe and want something with her u shouldn't have any problem trying the second time but with a different approach. If u feel embarrassed asking the second time, U can just ask her how about her fiancee in a friendly manner, if she replied with "he's cool, he's fine etc" then u should just give up but if she doesn't have any fiancee, she will tell u the truth this time cos she also want something with u. Women always use this strategy to find out if their male crush has a gf. They will be like "how ur babe na" or "Abeg free me o, I no want ur babe to come break my head,i no get strength", u should use this method to start, from there I think u can take things on all by urself

Thanks bro... I'd do as you said and see how it plays out.

dukeprince50:
U don't need a sorcerer to tell u she thought about what u told her and she's now into u, I think u should try ur luck one more time, if she's truly engaged and love the other guy,she will give u the red light again, this time move on for good, find another girl but biko do not be a second guy and have a secret affair with her, cos there's only two things that could happen if u do that. 1. U will destroy someone's else relationship or u will regret at the end wen u are already into her and then still loose her to her fiancee, I've been in such situation where I loved the babe but didn't know she was engaged and pregnant for her fiancee.

Bro you don't know how much your advise means to me since you've been in the same situation before. Even to try again sef my mind dey shake. Getting the red light twice from a lady is a no no for me ooo

I know women can be very cunning that's why I threw this to the house so you guys can shed more light on it for me. My head is full right now

VicM6:
once lady fine na marraige b d next tin... after marriage now, Op go say him don tire. bro marry a girl full of wisdom nd not the beautiful types...na dem dem o

She seems sensible bro... She is also a graduate and I know it might sound weird but I love fair pretty ladies.

xendra:
She wants to check if you are a better option.

Afterall she is engaged not married, So......

Are you saying there a possibility she might still be interested in my proposal? You are a lady you'd be in a better position to tell me how you guys operate because am not understanding again. Lol

omoiyamayor:
Dont ruin others happiness for your feelings,that's bein selfish.

I haven't ruined anybody's happiness neither do I intend to do so. Try and read my post well and my reply to other comments.

dukeprince50:
she told you she's engaged, Oga move on with ur life, u will be glad u did.
no be say next year January, u go come create a thread explaining how ur long time crush send u a wedding invitation card and disturbing lalasticlala to move it to front page. Just move on, If things with her guy goes south and u are worthy to replace him, she will come for u if otherwise u will be glad ur not hurt.

See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

Look you have to pack out of that place and you have to do that fast. The world we live in is evil and even more deadly been surrounded with hungry, poor and ungrateful neighbors who will stop at nothing to destroy you. And when you want to pack out... Do it quietly at night before the even know what's up... You are far gone from their reach so they can't hurt you.

As for depression, you definitely need to talk to someone and thanks to your neighbors who gave you the cold shoulder you've got no one around you to speak with. You are lonely and that's one of the major catalysts for depression. Seriously you need to distract yourself a bit so you can cool off from the stress you feel within you.

Most importantly pray... I repeat pray! God is always there when we seem to be alone to protect and guide us. Be strong!

This is a very serious issue especially here in PH. In my own little experience most of the pretty ladies I've dealt with are either double-dating or doing straight runz (No kidding). I now beg to ask whether the beauty is for sale... It's well ooo

Please I didn't generalize it before the ladies eat me raw... Remember I said "most" not all. Guys who can relate to what an saying you can add your 2 cents to the topic.

For me I simply called it quit. I can't come and kill myself over one bi***ch. It's not worth the trouble abeg.

OP I've been in your shoes before though am a guy so I understand perfectly what you are going through.

It has nothing to do with whether you are rich. In this part of the world been "NICE" to some set of people( not everybody) is dangerous and why? Because the heart of man is decietful and desperately wicked, who can decern it?

I once lived in a one room (though not face me I slap you lol) but the compound was very big because it was a family house in a community setting. Some of my neighbors (Including my landlord and the wife) envied and hated me just because I always look good and on gen at night. The hatred grew so much that I became a topic... One night like that I had an issue with one of the most dreaded cult guy in the neighborhood. I fought him that night and in the process both our phones fell off our pockets. His men picked up his own and went away with it while I took mine and went inside.

The following day he can back with his cult gang to my house demanding I pay 25k for his supposed missing phone threatening to deal with me. I told him am not paying a dime and straightly to his face told him I will pick him up with SARS and he called my bluff. I simply prayed to my God against him and sowed a seed in my church as to that regards.

Long story short, the following night SARS raided their hideout in the neighborhood and he narrowly escaped with his life while his other gang members where caught. Ever since then all the cult boys in that my area became scared of me including their leader that I fought with. When the guy sees me coming he diverts to another route and I didn't pay him any Kobo till God blessed me and I packed out of that 1 room to a much bigger and nicer apartment in another area.

Here in my new place I don't talk to my neighbors except the landlords son and his wife that lives closeby and that's if I need something from them. I don't keep friends (both male and female) so no one visits me. I maintain a very mean posture towards my neighbors, I don't even greet them. I mind my business very much here because of my past experience from the former place I was staying. There is something I learnt... Try to be a mystery to people around you. If people don't understand you they can't attack you. Also try to curtail the way you help people. Even Bible said wisdom is profitable to direct. Above all be very prayerful and careful at the same time. God will help you!

Modified: Since you are a lady... Just give the guy and not your neighbour like 500. Tell him you didn't have money on you the day he came that's why you didn't come out of your room again. Don't ever fidget while talking to him... I repeat don't fidget if not you don turn office be that ooo. Touts and cultists have one thing in common... They prey on fear to exploit weak people.

Bone your face henceforth, no more smiling with those evil neighbor of yours. Don't give them the room to get close to you again. I would said you should stand your ground but you are a woman and I don't want to hear stories that touch the heart. If na me dem no born that tout well...