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AfroKnight:
I pity you when she finds out you posted the conversation here.

What do you think she meant by "I pity you"?

Thanks

Kalashnikov102:
I level the fvck upp!

How do you mean?

HARDDON:
The ish ish here was your first foot forward. Wrong. Once we step out on the wrong foot and lace that with Seriousness, it kills vibes. Make gurls withdraw.

Learn to always take deep breaths and relax bro.

@ first emphasized ,
That statement is a total blow off. Only wimps let that out.


When a lady is dating enough to send you that thrash, though u are to blame for asking her out, you let the dragon out.
That was a freaking test, and you failed it woefully!

Compare your forat statement to this:

" Yea, thought same. Asking you out when I haven't given you the privilege of impressing me was a huge mistake. BYE. "

You cut it off.

@2nd emphasized, wonder why ladies don't give two pence whether guys get upset or not but guys make it a point of duty Not to upset them and back down when they come across upset.
MEN would usually drop a bomb and take a walk.

SENSE PILL:
Never get to that point where are are scared of losing anyone! If they have the guts to shake the table, make sure you break it and take a Royal now. We no mean Men.

SENSE PILL:
Never engage in war of words with women! Just like playing poker with a witch, you always gonno lose!

You last paragraph is just so PuSsified. I wouldn't dignify it with a response.

My Thoughts?

Take a Royal walk.
Most times, it's easier to start aright, afresh than trying to patch some wrong honeycombs.

But first, develope your mind; pay the sacrifice and read this thread from scratch. I promise you that it's going to be one of your best investments this year.

Hi Don.

I have been on your thread for four days now and I decided to apply what I have learnt today.

Attached is the screenshot of our chat. I am not sure if I'm doing well.

She's this I don't care person.

I noticed she read and didn't respond for hours, then I typed the last message. But she hasn't seen it.

Do you think she's evil? Like satanic agent?

Modified: I'm thinking of trashing the "I pity you," what do you think?

for the fun

NeedAdvice00:
omokoginimi, SteveOfu, veeveanO, partnerbizn5, ddaammyy, liztop2012, Alexaonfleek, lala247, hecatee, Shandelzy, Shugargal, Pettyprincess, vikizig, virgoquin, Mzstephii, Funmisticqueen, RedCreme2, redcreme21 Phenomenal16 Starlight16 loveyP WhiteLavender LilMissFavvy frenzyduchess, Benbisco, Hapigirl1, Vikkioshio, switkera.

can you ladies advise me too?

I wouldn't have fallen flat for her tactics, she gave me this kind of impression that made her different from any female in the world, that was our first two meetings, including the first time she came to my house. We even held hands while walking on the street. Then, she just changed suddenly. The last time was a big mess. She just came to my house to make me sad.

Thank you

NeedAdvice00:
omokoginimi, SteveOfu, veeveanO, partnerbizn5, ddaammyy, liztop2012, Alexaonfleek, lala247, hecatee, Shandelzy, Shugargal, Pettyprincess, vikizig, virgoquin, Mzstephii, Funmisticqueen, RedCreme2, redcreme21 Phenomenal16 Starlight16 loveyP WhiteLavender LilMissFavvy frenzyduchess.

can you ladies advise me too?

Thank you, all. I will follow your suggestions.

Dimples0303:
Grow a pair and ask her out on a date... Remind her to bring your hat with her as you feel self conscious without it on... Blah blah whatever it takes for her to bring the hat.

Meet at the date point: sit her down real quick, ask for the hat, then tell her that you really like her but obviously her head isn't right at the moment. Tell her to call you when she gets back to herself, and then get up and leave.

Delete her number and move on with your life. She's not coming back because she wasn't for you.

Confidence is a magnet, you really need to build yours and never ask someone to be in your life more than ONCE. shi even if they never heard you, you can not repeat it.

Alright. I will do just that. Thank you very much! Nairalanders are really helping me recover.

If just a simple disappointment made me feel this way, I wonder how breaking up would have been. Thank you again.

She has been the first person to view my WhatsApp status since yesterday. Although my status is nothing about her but just my picture and birthday wishes of friends and families.

Again, she promised the last time we met to come back on Friday, which is today, to make me sad the more. What should I do if she should show up? If she doesn't, how do I get my cap back? Cap is not important but I don't want her to have it.

Dimples0303:
Never date someone who has come out of a relationship in the past 6 months. You're a rebound, your job is to distract her from the pain her ex has caused her. You and the next 5 or 6 niggaz are all rebound until she heals from the ex.

Get your cap back on Friday, and wish her the best in life and bounce!

I repeat you are only the rebound dude...

Thank you very much. How do you think I should get it? Like, I don't want to text or reply her.

nuelsam:
Well u sound needy, emotionally drained and obviously shes trying to manipulate your emotions....op, u gats wake up......all these cock and bull story over who? A girl? Seriously? U obviosly new in these game and as someone up here as said....u need to be drillled for real.
Follow Harddons thread asap.........
Shes tryna play mind games with u,judging from your write up...these is what i deduced
1 she hasnt gotten over her ex(forget all those "i cant go back to my ex" bullshit...shes tryna weigh her options and prolly use u as a back up plan.
2 your neediness caused u all these shii.......even if u love her, act like u dont fvcking care cos thats what will surely bring her close....it aint rocket science"act needy,she dumps u.....care less,she loves u".
3 give her the fvcking space....dont text her no more,dont tell her nada......just cut communications, that way she starts thinking like "what happened? This dude changed all of a sudden"...trust me, she would wanna know why hence throwing herself at u but my niqqa u gats care less.
3 read harddons thread.

Thank you very much. You are correct, I think I'm an option.

I will not respond to her again, as you and others said.

Update

Thank you!

Alexaonfleek:
you know,it also depends on what you asked her that made her to give you one word replies.
Talking from personal experience,I feel that it was when you showed indication that you had feelings for her that was when she started acting all closed off.

I feel that you should give her sometime on her own,then if she's sensible she will apologize

After recovering from the pain she caused me last night, she still texted me this afternoon, maybe to cause me more.

I have even cleared my chat with her and believed it's over. Now she just texted me again, maybe to create more pain than yesterday.

Is it okay the way I responded to her? Because I'm even scared of talking to her again. Only God knows the pain I passed through yesternight.

Breezysdesign:
https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only

Thank you very much. I will read it.

MedicH:
ask her for her account number

Lol. It's not about money, on both sides.

Breezysdesign:
Brother go read harddons thread, make u fit get sense small, for women the way forward is always the way backward

I'm finding it hard to locate it. Can you post the link?

Valwezzy:
Is your friend a relationship expert?

Don't get me wrong, I'm no relationship expert myself, but your move was f**king wrong.
And to think she even asked if you're always this nice caps it all. She's already getting her defense mechanism high because she feels you have a motive behind your being Nice every time.

Leave that girl alone for now, she seems not to be over her Ex yet and to me, she'only using you as her back up plan(she doesn't wanna feel lonely).

I also thought of that. Thank you very much. I will.

Valwezzy:
In hardon's voice "Hit yourself with the pitch of a book".

You're f"**ing needy bro, and that screenshot up there says it all.
How dare you tell her you Need her in your Life? Who does that?
Like Dude, you can't breathe without her or what?
Omo, give her a long vacation kinda break.

You fall my hand seriously.

My friend advised me to tell her how much I love her, since I haven't really said that to her before. I only showed it. The day we came back from Zoo, she asked if I'm always this nice. Even that day, we were not lively, I was only trying to make her happy.

ddaammyy:
give her some more time, she’ll come around.

Thank you very much.

Shugargal:
Please ignore her for now, she wanna make you feel guilty of the offense you never committed, she's taking advantage of your love,dont call nor chat her up for now and watch what she will do next.some people enjoy this dramatic relationship most especially when they have seen you love them.

Thank you very much. She saw I love her and I really do. Funny enough, I've never imagined sex or anything of such. I just loved her like that.

ddaammyy:
But she told you she’s going through a breakup. Have you thought of the best way to help her pass through this phase? Pls allow her heal then you’ll get to enjoy her company more. And just so you know; she likes you if not she won’t even come around you at all. so it’s up to you to fill the vacuum of that breakup.

I have asked her countless times about what the issue was. I even asked her yesterday, "apart from this cattarr, is there anything else?" She said "no, I'm fine." Honestly, it was as if she came to my house to make me sad.

She broke up two weeks ago, we had nice time in the first two times we met, she was even the one that suggested I show her my house, which I did. Just the second day after that day, our chat was terrible. After meeting her the third time to visit the Zoo, it wasn't lively between us as well.

Cuccitini:
Op maybe she is trying to play hard to get on you

She could have done that in the first two times we met. We were good the first two times we met together, I was even the one that told her I have to go.

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can you ladies advise me too?

mascot87:
Please do. My one cent

Before leaving, she said we will meet on Friday, then she took my Cap, and I told her to return it on Friday.

Maybe I should just just forget about it, and don't message her on Friday?

Maybe I should even delete her number?

shortgun:
Nothing is happening..you are boring her.
Look at the kind of activities u engage her in when she has clearly shown u that she wants to explore
You begging her will also do u no good.
Ignore her and act like she doesn't exist, she will try to find out why..keep her guessing
If u finally met with her again be creative a do something that will make her moan

I don't think that's what she wanted. Because I tried to put my hand around her neck while seeing the movie and she gave me this kind of look that made me remove my hand within a second, yes, within a second.

I felt really sad, especially when she told me I can stop here, while escorting her.

AfroKnight:
OP, don’t wound yourself because of babe. She is gradually conditioning you to beg her and possibly pay for her attention.

Take it slow. If she acts like she needs space, give her plenty.

Once girls start their monosyllabic response nonsense, give them space and enjoy your life. Don’t let her “moods” bring you down. She is probably weighing her options and it appears you don’t weigh that much on her rubbish scale.

Don’t give yourself headache because of woman.

Thank you very much. I couldn't sleep throughout yesterday night. Honestly, I just wonder what the sudden change is about.

mascot87:
Girls that are unintelligent and lack communication skill hide under being "moody"
The problem isn't you but her. Don't bother or kill yourself

Thank you very much.
Do you think I should ignore her for sometime?

Thank you