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Been searching for the purpose of life all through my existence.
What do you think it is? Enlightenment? Nirvana? Heaven? Hell? Accomplishments? Reincarnation?

Well. Look around you. Everything you've ever worked for will sometime become irrelevant.
Hard truth. Life is survival. Nothing more.
We Humans are complex beings, hence the curious search for a redeeming purpose and all. We're all caught up in the matrix of survival.

Yes, you're not special. We're nothing more than energy.
Energy conserved for what the human brain cannot comprehend.

Gracias!

solidmyk:
It's very usual to find people have different reaction after realizing they've been fed with false teachings, esp after realizing they've been conditioned to fall prey into people's manipulations all these years.
The result to that will always be negative they'll be bittered and unhappy and again you should always understand that these knowledge also comes in phases, so you've got to be understanding bruh.
That's why you shouldn't be surprised when people sounds somehow here online, if you're intelligent enough you'll understand where they're coming from.
In as much as this is a manosphere, expect to come across different opinions and ideas, pick those ones you find useful and you're good to go.

The bitterness is too much bruv

Kobojunkie:
Yet you embrace Whiteman education, technology, textiles, clothing etc?

You sure say wetin you carry so na commonsense?

Yoi wey you dey talk, you for no embrace nairaland. Nairaland na your ancestors doing?

heniford2:
two things going on in your head right know sex and stress you need a friend

She never know as dey do am.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I'll politely decline your request

Fear fear

Furcko:
it pisses me off to read or hear shit that ppl argue of when they have no fvcking clue what even happened then but just simply hear say...

This useless argument been metted out happened even bfor your grandfather was even born but yet the moronic girl wants to take up shit she absolutely has no clue about but only what she reads in newspapers, Wikipedia and journals


News flash....this is the 21st century
Articles get whitewashed overtime and such speculations holds no water bcus none of you and I repeat none of you have any clue of what happened then only those who experienced what it was like would give you a full detail of the pros and cons and not an 18yr old girl with no prospect about life coming online to tap shit

There no point arguing with someone who believes they can never be incorrect. Before the colonialism and shi, we basically don't know anything about our history. Our oldest references are the slave trade and folklore stories.

HenryDion:
A lot of female nairalanders have one mental disorder or the other. Now you see ...

Before nko? If not why would they be on nairaland. Na abnormal people full here.

FengChui:
Wait till better gbola handle you. All these feelings for girls and uncertainty about sexual orientation will evaporate at once. That day, you will know and appreciate your femininity and sexual attraction to men.

I fit bet my money say she be lesbo.

MrSly:
Just because you could afford data you come internet to spew trash. Stay clear from your inferiority complex and let the young girl be in peace. You feel inferior because at her age you have ravaged yourself sexually and now you could not imagine how possible it is to be virgin till l8. Many young girls remain virgins till marriage or at least till they are able to bear the responsibilities that may arise. PLEASE STOP DECEIVING HER. BOTH OF YOUR LIVES ARE NOT THE SAME. YOU CHOSE YOUR LIFE ALLOW HER CHOOSE HERS. STOP SPOILING THE SOCIETY. SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE ACCOUNTS FOR MORE THAN 90% OF MARITAL INFIDELITY.

Bro you be mumu. Who dey feel inferior. Had sex for the first time when i was 14. Which one kon be ravage wey you dey talk. I dey tell the babe say she be child abuse to me. What do you mean by deceiving. I'm not a perv like ya'll that can't handle or date women within their age range or category. I'm 25 by the way, goan jump inside well.

Broda wey mumu

Datboredberry:
Yes! I've nearly had sex with one too... I like boys...

I'm dating one...

I'm not bi... I'm not a lesbian... I like boys in a romantic way... I usually just lust after girls...

My boyfriend, he's the sweetest person ever! He's cute... Like a teddy...

But the Egyptian girl I once dated, she was a cop... Very tough but cute too...

First Moroccan dude was wayward... Naughty... He's an atheist... A drunk.... Smokes hashish... We would talk about sex... He was fun... He was like me too... So I loved the recklessness... The other Moroccan was shy... I had to bring him outta his shell...

I can like anyone! Depending on my mood, I can favour a certain gender or sexuality... I just need to love your personality...

There gave been many others... But those stories are for my diary on Nairaland...

Goodnight...

At 18? Sey na online dating abi na something else? Are you even in this country?

Datboredberry:
No... Because I'm not a lesbian... I like a boy... Extremely... And I wanna have sex with him...

I like everyone... That's it...

You did not answer the question. Dick dey turn you on or not?

Datboredberry:
No... Because I'm not a lesbian... I like a boy... Extremely... And I wanna have sex with him...

I like everyone... That's it...

The sams way my friend likes Lee min ho lol.

Datboredberry:
Not at all!

I like men... I'm FLUID...

It doesn't matter your gender nor sexuality.. if I like you, I like you... There shouldn't be a barrier against love...

I'm gender-fluid also... Meaning I can be a boy or a girl depending on my mood... I feel that way...

It's all messed up... But what's more messed up than the heart and mind, huh?

I don't think it is. You're learning about yourself everyday. I laugh at folks who say they are bi. Let's all be honest with ourselves. I have a very good friend who is openly lesbian, she's some few years older than you. She is very intelligent too and we spend time together a lot. There was a time she confided in me she didn't know if she was bi. Have you ever been in a relationship with a man abi na boy we go call am?

Datboredberry:
Not really... I'm fluid... My sexuality and gender...

Sometimes I like girls... Sometimes I feel more like a boy... I change... Depending on my mood, and who I'm with... Fluid.

When I was younger, I thought I was messed up... Born in the wrong body... I still feel it now... I wish I could hold a girl the way a man does... Make love to her... Other times, I can't imagine not being a girl!

I've learnt to accept that my water flows different... I just float...

I couldn't care what Nairalanders think...

Let me ask you this.
Do you get excited or feel uneasy anytime you see gbola?

Datboredberry:
Not really... I'm fluid... My sexuality and gender...

Sometimes I like girls... Sometimes I feel more like a boy... I change... Depending on my mood, and who I'm with... Fluid.

When I was younger, I thought I was messed up... Born in the wrong body... I still feel it now... I wish I could hold a girl the way a man does... Make love to her... Other times, I can't imagine not being a girl!

I've learnt to accept that my water flows different... I just float...

I couldn't care what Nairalanders think...

You're clearly a lesbian. And there's nothing wrong with it.

Datboredberry:
Are we willing to put in the effort? I doubt... Africa and mediocrity... Like 5 and 6...

But I can only dream... If I had a single wish, I'll ask for this, that Africa rises up back again.

Thank you!

The western world have also had their own share of mediocrity too.
We will rise.

Datboredberry:
I totally forgot... I like girls... But now, I like a boy.. but he's very far away.

As for sex... I just don't feel like doing it...

*Shrugs.

God knows I'm a pervert... And I'm nearly always Hot (blame my hormones)... But I've never felt that extra push to be with anyone...

I like being alone... Maybe not with the boy I like, I hope.

Only he... He's the only one I want!

Anyways i asked because you seem to be intelligent and awake. For you to have opened your 3rd eye at this age, it tells a lot. Either you're homo, went through a trauma that got you questioning the meaning of life or you're someone who questions everything around you.

Datboredberry:
I totally forgot... I like girls... But now, I like a boy.. but he's very far away.

As for sex... I just don't feel like doing it...

*Shrugs.

God knows I'm a pervert... And I'm nearly always Hot (blame my hormones)... But I've never felt that extra push to be with anyone...

I like being alone... Maybe not with the boy I like, I hope.

Only he... He's the only one I want!

So you're bi?
Abi you don't want people to yab you if you say you're lesbian?

Datboredberry:
I'm an Atheist... It's better than any religion... I still love my culture... It only Africans can find a way to balance the scales... Sometimes I get mad why we can't get our sh** together... Other times, I'm considerate to what Africa has been through and I rightfully blame the west.... It's a love-hate relationship between my sweet continent and I...

Africa isn't recovering... We'll simply strive to be a poor imitation of the West... And we would fair woefully... Because we can't even be good second-hand.

Was formerly Atheist. Now Agnostic.
Africa will rise from it ruins don't worry. It will just take a long time. The western world you see today didn't just sprout from nowhere, these guys have been doing their homework well for a very long time.

Datboredberry:
18

You want to dodge the question abi?
I'll ask again, are you a lesbian?

Datboredberry:
the psychological fight I had with myself...

Oooh. Disappointed ke. You're human. Even thief wey carry gun dey get doubts at times.

Datboredberry:
Me too! I attended a foreign school... First time I was flogged... Jss1...

I thought there was an iron rod in the wooden cane... It hurt alot... Later on, I took it like a pro... I ended up being defiant... But my home was great... School however... I missed classes delibrately... Didn't care to arrive early...

It's weird I still had an amazing reputation... Plus, my grades never suffered!

Looking innocent had its perks...

You sef chop pankere

Datboredberry:
Pros and cons...

You don't seem to have a type... Neither did you highlight your qualities... Say more!!!

The way this goes, we relate here first.

This is scary... This December period...

He's not even supposed to upload his picture

Datboredberry:
A few African tribes do not represent Africa... The Europeans try to justify their actions by saying, 'Africans sold Africans'... But with their guns, what choice did these Africans have? We need to remember, there wasn't exactly an option... There were so many Kings and Queens who fought these invaders... Why are they not remembered as the bad ones? It's all white-washed history... Remember how the Ethiopians had fought the Italians and won, and how Europe spread the lie that the monarch of Ethiopia was white?

Slavery was practiced everywhere in the world... So because a few Africans did it, I'm not going to crucify my people... The Europeans sold and bought themselves... So did the South Americans and even the Jews, their God even gave them rules on how to treat their slaves... I won't hold Africans to impossibly high standards...

The difference is this:: in Africa, slaves were made into servants... They were mostly prisoners of war... Survivors... They still lived amongst the tribe they served, married the people and had children... Sometimes, they were set free, given lands... They were treated with respect... There was no campaign to make them inferior, or to torture and rape, or to condemn their culture and way of life...

The Americans however, after the slave trade, then came segregation and Jim Crow... It never ended... The slaves were treated worse than animals and don't forget the rest of us back home who had to suffer colonialism...

As for Civilization... What society did you put on a pedestal? What did you judge Africa with? Europe? Every land is uniquely different... The Europeans wore ball gowns and wigs and discovered gunpowder... Good... I still consider Africans civilized... In our own way... Creating objects of mass destruction is anything but progressive... If not for the whites, other countries wouldnt need to spend so much on their military... What's your definition of civilization? Abandoning your culture for another? Africa did so, look at us now? Compare this entire continent to China which is still so beautifully traditional... You can embrace technology without forfeiting your identity.

The whites didn't take advantage of our greed or anything like that... The Africans then mostly didn't have a choice... Like the Americans... We would have fought against them with bows and arrows? Risking our lives and our families? It wasn't an easy decision... I believe... You think they could have said no and the whites would have left?

Africans didn't bother to invent weapons... You might mistake their consideration for human life to be weakness... Yeah, we had some nasty beliefs... Compare that to the Whites who burnt hundreds out of their superstition...(a mole being the teat the devil suckles from and that kinda crap)... or the crucifixions... Beheadings... Hangings... Blood eagle... Hanging, drawing and quartering... Not to mention the million more ways they tortured themselves... Brazen bull...etc

Barbarians... More than my people who's only crimes, I can count with the fingers of a single hand...

I didn't want to argue tonight...

Thank God you know already that slavery existed before they came.
Let me be frank with you. Africa is past it's glory days. We're slowly recovering.
As for the traditional thing, it will go extinct in most parts of Nigeria except for the indigenous ones who practice it solemnly.
Atheism and Agnosticism are fast building beliefs raging the country like this.

You need a serious job instead bro

Datboredberry:
I usually don't run away from a fight... But I couldn't help myself... I tried, I know you're a bit disappointed...

What fight

Datboredberry:
I completely disagree.. but this is an argument for another day.. I am still upset after discovering the account of one racist scum here... Not to mention this night's terror...

I am shaken..

Do your research.
Check wikipedia too

luwiizy:
If you don't have anything important to say please young girl go and wash plate

Lol this comment burst my head.

We were never whipped in my house.
It has it benefits. The self confidence i have ehn. Also we're all outspoken and can discuss anything amongst ourselves.

Datboredberry:
18

You be child abuse lol.
At your age, i was no longer a virgin.

Are you a lesbian?

Datboredberry:
I thought so too... But I'm sticking with my guts... Probably a man... God knows there's a lot of weird sh** going on in my neighbourhood... Crazy sex sounds... I know something bad is brewing...

Sex sounds ke. Abeg oooo. Sey you can see what you're washing like this?

Datboredberry:
we would have dropped those... Eventually...

I can't stand the Europeans...

I despise them as well. Our fore fathers fumbled by not advancing in terms of weapons and civilisation. Lemme burst your bubbles. Was shocked when i discovered the slave trade wasn't forced on us, we actually sold ourselves. Victims were captured from other tribes and forcefully enslaved. Oyibo man took advantage of out greediness and naivety.