2buffagain: So if NO children exist yet, why are you using this as justification to stay home?
You are obviously just a manipulative slave driver, and he resents you for it. Go and work and stop being lazy.
What is in laundry? cooking? etc? Are single people not already doing that and working already? In a world of washine machines, dishwashers and vacuum cleaners...
Your By-force Housewife logic has no freaking point
when you single you have freedom also. im not a room mate I'm his wife.
pacificman: smh you cage a man and you expect him to be happy..i swear hes just counting the days when hes gonna leave you and move on with his life..you are not smart at all and you are truly not intelligent..just imagine you made the situation benefit you and not him..how about 50-50...this is so selfish of you.am done
zexy2030: my suggestions: since all you wanted was intimacy and u want a family: 1. prepare him an aphrodisiac meal. 2. use Love Machine or intimacy gadget to entice while u r bare nude. ensure no clothes on, then oils on the essential parts of ur body that stimulates his brain: your boobs, laps, bum, ur lips. 3. suck his dick while he is asleep about the early hours of the morning. 4. encourage him that u know what he needs and that u r praying for him to get the visa after sucking his dick he will definitely wants to sex. 5. massage his body, stroke his dick with virgin oil. 6. invite a nephew to hang around, but entice him every night for sex. Like magic, he will avoid the beer, come home early, he will be jealous. warning: having a broken home is not the solution, he might be testing you, due to reports he hears about u then you will affirm his suspicion by having sex outside your legal marriage, then he will gladly divorce for another woman, who has promised him visa based on marrying her..so guard ur man..so many hungry girls out there in Britain dolling out free sex in return for a benefit...seduce him more, actively seduce him, suck his penis.
he would need to successfully divorce me before bringing anyone else or getting citizenship from another woman.
2buffagain: Well there you go. So you already know your problem.
Like I said, You are just here looking for pointless validation. You won't get any.
This thread title might as well be "Why is my slave not working fast enough?!!"
And you still haven't answered my earlier question of WHOSE child that is that you were using as an argument point in savings i.e childcare fees. I'm guessing the child isn't even his.
Now I don't know what arrangement you 2 had before engaging each other in this manner, but it is clear the whole thing is like a business deal. So I don't get why you still feel this same slave individual would want to have sex with you...
being submissive does not mean slavery and that is what many Nigerian and black women living abroad do not understand. the reason why some couple went 40 years in marriage is that the woman submitted.
the problem i have with this op is her spreading of some youtube videos done by a woman, it is funny that women watch some youtube videos about men and believe it is true. even though i hate marriage, marriage is not a bed of roses, a woman has to relax for a man to lead.
simple, you demean your husband and still expects him to be sexually attracted to you. if a man says he needs a submissive woman,it means he needs a woman he can talk to and listens, a woman who will act like a woman and be feminine
i hate all these muscular black women in western societies who do not understand what is it to act feminine. damn. enjoy your blessed marriage and do not kill my man for me, he won't Bleep you as long as you are behaving like a man.
from wetdick
if all men fully provided women could focus on been feminine.
you will be masculine if you doing masculine role such as helping with finances.
habsydiamond: I can not come and go and marry a girl that will use salt kill me like say na sheep she dey feed ooo... It good for a lady to know how to cook, what will be her secret to keeping her husband or guy's head straight in other not to eat out...
I cook all dishes Nigerian also other foods so he has variety
slimany: Hmmmn. No wonder . Sorry about ur ordeal Mrs Nene. But to be frank with you. An average Nigeria wife would go to work every weekdays and still prepare breakfast for families. U keep talking about who will take care of the house. Is ur house a dustbin site or garage that u can't take care of it when ure back from work and moreover, u guys gat no kids ,so ,am kinda confused with the talk of who is gonna take care of the house bladderdash.
he should find that type of woman I have always been me.
Most of these "women" will have masculine energy and probably over weight with not a calm spirit as they will be too tired.
Go and look for a job and stop lazying about on nairaland, your husband is at work whilst you are here doing aproko on nairaland, if you have a problem with Nigerian men, are we the only guys on earth? There is Ghana to choose from, Liberia, Mali and so on You can even try Jamaican guys. Aproko.
wetdick: you have been the perfect woman, i thought you were those muscular black women, just do what you planned for a romantic time with your husband and get to his heart, from there, if he is opened you can know his mind and decide on the next action to take.
2buffagain: So if NO children exist yet, why are you using this as justification to stay home?
You are obviously just a manipulative slave driver, and he resents you for it. Go and work and stop being lazy.
What is in laundry? cooking? etc? Are single people not already doing that and working already? In a world of washine machines, dishwashers and vacuum cleaners...
Your By-force Housewife logic has no freaking point
I /we are traditional also I work from home not outside the house nothing wrong with that. These are my values.
pacificman: this exact same thing happened to a guy i know and the woman finally kicked him out of the house after 3yrs and he was finally a free man.she put him through hell,but hes a citizen now and free
I won't kick him out he's the head of the house. We work things out or I leave.
You are a somebody my brother for that comment. In her previous comments, she said she doesn't want to work so that they'll only live on one income. This is very selfish and the reason she's doing this is so that the man won't be able to send money to his folks in Nigeria. She can even do a part-time job, for say, 20 hours a week or work weekends, but no Mr African must provide because he has no choice, because without me he'll be deported. I'm talking from experience, those nairalanders taking sides with the op have no experience. My ex wife refused to work for three solid years, she could not even cook so no matter what time of the day I came back home, I had to cook for myself. She also expected me to bath the baby and clean the house too. If I send any money home, oh that one na world war III. Even if at first you loved the woman, I can assure you that love will die a natural death--and a fast one too! Every time there's an argument she'll threaten to kick me out of the house--on top my own house wen I dey pay rent!
Sorry about your ordeal and your ex wife lack of doing the things at home cooking cleaning etc. ...
Like if you not working outside the house pull your weight in the House so your partner has relaxed environment.
wetdick: you have an attitude problem, instead of you to calm down and settle your problem, you bust been defensive, you never learn
i am sure, you feel in control of his destiny because you brought him to the UK, you are acting unreliable.
Apologies if it's coming across that way. Me and my husband don't argue I don't shout only tried talking calmly about the situation as I genuinely love him.
You are a somebody my brother for that comment. In her previous comments, she said she doesn't want to work so that they'll only live on one income. This is very selfish and the reason she's doing this is so that the man won't be able to send money to his folks in Nigeria. She can even do a part-time job, for say, 20 hours a week or work weekends, but no Mr African must provide because he has no choice, because without me he'll be deported. I'm talking from experience, those nairalanders taking sides with the op have no experience. My ex wife refused to work for three solid years, she could not even cook so no matter what time of the day I came back home, I had to cook for myself. She also expected me to bath the baby and clean the house too. If I send any money home, oh that one na world war III. Even if at first you loved the woman, I can assure you that love will die a natural death--and a fast one too! Every time there's an argument she'll threaten to kick me out of the house--on top my own house wen I dey pay rent!
I work self employed from home sometimes make more than him.
the problem i have with this op is her spreading of some youtube videos done by a woman, it is funny that women watch some youtube videos about men and believe it is true. even though i hate marriage, marriage is not a bed of roses, a woman has to relax for a man to lead.
simple, you demean your husband and still expects him to be sexually attracted to you. if a man says he needs a submissive woman,it means he needs a woman he can talk to and listens, a woman who will act like a woman and be feminine
i hate all these muscular black women in western societies who do not understand what is it to act feminine. damn. enjoy your blessed marriage and do not kill my man for me, he won't Bleep you as long as you are behaving like a man.
from wetdick
Reason some women are this way is because men want to be woman and want a woman to go out and work like them. Then expect you to come home and do everything and still be nice and submissive type.
I get what you're trying to say, sir, but please try to read the op's original post and her subsequent replies to see how many times she's mentioned the word 'visa.' Maybe then you'll have a better understanding of what I'm saying. White people get divorced every day, I have even known white men who haven't slept with their wives for much longer than the op's husband hasn't slept with her, but do they go about saying, 'Oh my husband is not sleeping with me because he married me for papers?' White men cheat on their wives, in fact, they sire children without the knowledge of their wives. But if an African does this, heaven will fall. The instant conclusion would be that he married her for papers. The op seems somewhat controlling, that is why perhaps she couldn't find a Black British guy to marry her so she settled for someone she can control: an African. After all, it is no hidden secret that Black British people tend to look down on Africans. They feel superior to Africans, they mock our accents. They complain of racism but they are racist towards Africans. That is why they say, 'oh I'm British,' 'I'm American.' And though they be as black as soot, if you call them Africans they take umbrage at it.
Why would I work twice as hard if the man sends most his wages home? ? the income is not the problem.
Triniti: Op knows where the problem is coming from, she’s just looking for validation on a faceless forum,go back to your job and stop all this I cook,clean and iron for him. Those shits ain’t going to pay the bills, you have to support that man financially before he can ever think of having any intimacy with you, go sort your problem yourself, you planned all this out from the word go, all you wanted was a slave
slimany: Hmmmn. No wonder . Sorry about ur ordeal Mrs Nene. But to be frank with you. An average Nigeria wife would go to work every weekdays and still prepare breakfast for families. U keep talking about who will take care of the house. Is ur house a dustbin site or garage that u can't take care of it when ure back from work and moreover, u guys gat no kids ,so ,am kinda confused with the talk of who is gonna take care of the house bladderdash.
I'm not begging to be with no man not going to do everything PLUS work if he wants that can find another woman- I'm ok with open marriage or if he wants to leave fine also.
I want children but we not sleeping together. can't go any quicker.
pacificman: smh you cage a man and you expect him to be happy..i swear hes just counting the days when hes gonna leave you and move on with his life..you are not smart at all and you are truly not intelligent..just imagine you made the situation benefit you and not him..how about 50-50...this is so selfish of you.am done
pacificman: the middle already itching youwhy not get a maid and then the both of you can work..look you have the answers to all your questions..why are you disturbing us...get ajob and work and make him happy or go and cheat like your already doing
I am the "maid" lol also have at home business I am his wife not his mother or his boss and certainly NOT his room mate.
If a man wants a woman to share bills he should get a house mate or even better another man to both work work work.
Triniti: Op knows where the problem is coming from, she’s just looking for validation on a faceless forum,go back to your job and stop all this I cook,clean and iron for him. Those shits ain’t going to pay the bills, you have to support that man financially before he can ever think of having any intimacy with you, go sort your problem yourself, you planned all this out from the word go, all you wanted was a slave
who's going to keep the home together? He refuses to do any house work says this is woman's job -refuses to cook etc
If it's just left he's not happy with unorganised house. And buy the way there is money left over each month.
If I have to do the man's job AND women's Job may as well be single.
It's a team- you provide and I do everything I'm not like one of those over weight women who's house is a mess no food on table no exercise etc. ..
2buffagain: Well there you go. So you already know your problem.
Like I said, You are just here looking for pointless validation. You won't get any.
This thread title might as well be "Why is my slave not working fast enough?!!"
And you still haven't answered my earlier question of WHOSE child that is that you were using as an argument point in savings i.e childcare fees. I'm guessing the child isn't even his.
Now I don't know what arrangement you 2 had before engaging each other in this manner, but it is clear the whole thing is like a business deal. So I don't get why you still feel this same slave individual would want to have sex with you...
[quote author=2buffagain post=75021929]Looks like you know exactly what the problem is but you are just being an undisciplined woman looking for validation from either social media or faceless forums without doing the hard work of addressing the actual issue on ground with your husband.
We Also haven't heard his side of the story. But I've heard enough to know that he is feeling used. Making him go and slave for you outside to bring money to you comfortable sitting down at home.
Your talk of Visa means you are in a country where the cost of living has inflated to accommodate feminism. These countries have things set up in such a way that both couples have to work as opposed to back in the day when one person could take that helm. Being that he has a temp Visa, I doubt he has a high career paying job and can only work for nuggets... So you are basically being a slave driver if you want to leave all financial burdens to him.
Remember he's getting his visa and a supportive wife. This is give and take.
Why should I work work work then he leaves once it comes through? ?
If he wanted me to work he'd ask. Also he is aware our home would be neglected no laundry, lunches prepared for work, breakfast on table, vacuum cleaning etc. ..
It would all be stopping if I ever returned back to work. So would say to him I can support financially but do nothing else or do everything expect contribute to finances.
I'm hoping for us to start a family and I could work as a baby sitter from home.
Romance › Re: Husbands Lack Of Sex And Intimacy In Our Marriage by Nene05(op): 9:18am On Nov 01, 2019
