emmyblackky:
If the Nigerian educational system is allowed to continue this way will there ever be hope for the child of an average or poor Nigerian parent gto have access to quality education??

What exactly are they learning?
Can you also post the content of their curriculum?
We as parents really need to ask questions and think critically.
What and how can we define quality education when almost all schools in nigeria are international and private schools.
Its about time we dont or rather stop believing that the more you pay the best quality you get.

#justsaying

Not all gynae are fertility specialist
#justsaying
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Errrm me thinks that for a gynae to be able to send a letter there has to be some issue that requires a referral. But i may be wrong though.

The requester can try any of the doctors mentioned here for birthing. They are all obgyn's and if the request is possible they will help process the letter.

All the best. God bless your plans[/quote]

Hi dear.
Am sorry about your baby and congrats on your new one on the way.
If hubby wants to go through the legal route I personally think it is a good idea given the situation and the possibility of negligence on the part of the health professionals.
We should remember they are all humans as us and they make mistakes but then it will help to put a check on carelessness etc.

However you will need to prepare and be ready emotionally, psychologically, physically, mentally and even the exposure for you and baby.

As for your file, with court order the investigative team will be able to pull it and team of professionals will review it for any loopholes.

Remember in the file doctors make note of all the agreement/disagreement, suggestions accepted/decline ETC between them and patients. So technically what ever proof will be in black and white.

I read somewhere that CP is caused by different stuff and about 70% is during brain development, 20% during birthing and 10% after birth. And further if forceps were used to speed up delivery you may have grounds for a birth injury lawsuit (medical negligence).
Finally remember that God will never give you a shoulder small enough to carry your burden. Call on him, look up to him and hold unto him for grace/favour/blessings etc because he knows you are strong enough for this journey.
Be strong and trust Baba God




My main problem now is my husband wants to sue the dr/hosp more so in light of what the new dr said as per querying the use of a forceps......me I really don't know as I am doing everything humanly possible not to put additional stress on my body/mind. I explained the situation to my friend who's the nl guru and she's like ask here and give a summary of the situation- perhaps someone might have being in the same situation .....and how they went about it.
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Hollicom:
This is to ladies who always say i cant marry a poor man
this pic was taken like 20years ago when Barrack Obama was nothing infact thats Obama's village in Kenya the Village is called Kogello but Michelle stick by her all this while until he became one of the most powerful,Rich and famous person around the world
Quiz to ladies Would you date a poor man?

You need to understand and appreciate that there are different levels and category of poor men.

You can't just say one can marry a poor man.

Instead they are poor men with potentials and poor, lazy men. Which one are you talking about?

I guess is poor man with potentials because if you end up with a poor and lazy man you will not just become the bread winner, you will even go and do his fights for him as well as protecting him instead of him doing that for you.

Na wahooo.

#cause #effect!!!
Am a stronger supporter of respect unto #feminisit.....
However we cannot parade ourselves on #fight against abuse while we might have a bigger blame or be the cause of it.

What did you do?
Was your kid brother #mad or #drunk or #underdrug?
Of course no sane man will do this to anyone how much more blood.

Yes with all these awareness on abuse of female folks we need to understand that there is never fire without a smoke.
As women most times our power in a tense situation might be the most valuable weapons we have, which is our tongue but we should constantly remember the wise saying about the tongue.
While with the men their most valuable assets in an untstable situation is probably their strenght to constantly show their are in control which is likely to be expressed through beatings.

The question is?
What do we do when we find ourselves in a tense or unstable situation that will bring out the beast in us?
Is there a rule that says it must be the man or woman should take a bow.


Its about time we stop blaming and start taking actions.....and responsibilities...........
It can NEVER make sense while some either blame the man or the woman when they can both ...........

Again where are your parents? They should have a greater say........abie you don join the celebr...........to have and live an open life.
Wetine be your name self?

Sweetuzy01:
Good evening Mamas. Any preggie bound for SFO via Emirates early June? Final bustop is Dr. M in LAX but need to see family first in SFO. So preggie to LAX or SFO? Pls lets hook up. Thanks.

@Sweetuzy01 I see you are heading to LAX. Abeg how you carry do accommodation? I just wan compare.......

Egonne1:
Good morning house, please I have an urgent question. I got a naija visa for my daughter last year, on arrival in naija, she was stamped in for one month. I was hoping to get her a naija passport before traveling but the doctor just advised that I travel as soon as possible for health reasons and I would be unable to get her the naija passport before we leave. Hope this won't be an issue with naija immigration since we do not have naija passport for her and her us passport has only one month stamped on it. I would really appreciate response from the house. Thanks in advance.

She was stamped in for one month on the blue passport.
You need to find out what the law is with regards to blue passport.
Google list of countries us citizens can vist with or without visas as well as visa on entry.
Check what they have on Nigeria, if she over stayed they might play the immigration rule on her.

njidekachi:
Finally my transcript goes thus. want to thank all the sabi mamas, really got all the info I needed.

Flew united airline via houston to lax at 35 weeks plus.
Houston poe was smooth, far from what i ve heard. Probably I was well informed ( cudos again to all that answered my pm and sami mums)may God grant us all out heart desires. Amen

CBP: why are u here?
Me: To have my Baby
CBP: did u tell them at the interview ?
Me: yes
CBP: How long will u be here?
Me: 2 months
CBP: Your four finger ma
Me: sure
CBP: move forward as someone will come get u soon
Me: Ok thanks

A CBP came right after and took my passport, off to secondary inspection, i sat for about 30 mins and I was called.

CBP: hi ma'am
Me: Hello
CBP: same question was reapeted, why are u here
Me: for child birth
CBP: How much do u have
Me: 9k , also with my card in case of emergency
CBP: can I confirm the cash
Me: sure
CBP: ensure u got all ur payment receipt and don't accept any aid
Me: Oh thanks, i've already been informed .

off to agric, wish i learnt earlier to cut off the head and slice my yam into 2. Any ways i actually carried one just to gamble with, yam was seized and my chicken seasoning.

Bought compression sock that really helped cos my leg usually swell up if sited for long, I was good.

Didn't book for wheel chair. As a preg mum, just carried my long belle straight to the front.

Not to forget to mention. met a preg women at the secondary inspection, I over head the CBP asking her why didn't she declare she was pregnant . She said she was never asked. Cbp: u weRe asked, is on the system. The lady still insist she was never asked. Another Cbp called her again for an interview.

I left before her didn't know what eventually happened. Pray it went tru for her.

Lesson: always declare ur status during interview.

Just had my first appointment with Dr m.
Dr is very friendly. I am glad I made the choice.
As for accomodation, na God sent. U can pm if instrested.

LA is cool.

Wishing my self and every other mum to be safe delivery .
May his name be praise.

Congrats on your progress. Abeg info on accommodation. I sent you private message.
Thanks

Kemo88:
Hi everyone,
My hubby and I are about to sign the consent letter for ETC/Nigerian Visa. I used my maiden name on the letter as as All my documents and passport(don't have a new passport yet) still bear my maiden name.
1) I would like to know if it's going to be an issue to the Nigerian embassy that my surname/last name isn't the same as my husband's name on the letter of consent
2) I would also like to know if using my new surname on the US birth certificate would be acceptable since all my documents still bear my maiden name. Should I just go ahead and use my maiden name on the birth certificate? Or should I use my new name? or is it ok to hyphenate my maiden name and new name (e.g: smith - Coker (maiden-new)

Please this may sound silly but I'm really confused. Thanks

I personally think you should avoid a double barre surname if you are not going to keep it on your new passport

In my experience travelling with my kids when I was still on maiden name. I had to show proof using
1.unabridged birth certificate,
2.marriage certificate,
3. Letter from hubby.
This is in line with the immigration rules.
You should check what the law is presently due to the changes that had to do with same sex marriages etc
Remember what ever you finally decide to do, you will and must always show proofs I the names differs

@uju
Can you kindly private me on nenna4@yahoo.com with regards to mr Ojei

Cheers

chloe7:
I thought it was the uk that had really stiff penalties for overstayers, America sef no carry last for the matter

No its not.
You will be amased on what immigration law is as it applies to everyone and country.
Thats what different countries are adopting.
Dont be suprised that Nigeria immigration had given people who came from SA for prayers ban for over staying

veleta:
@ Nenya,am interested in St Francis California and Dr M,and would be travelling very early September,looking for a partner too.
@ Nef,so sorry about your loss.Life is just so unpredictable and value of life in this country is not appreciated. May God grant them eternal rest

@Veleta very much interested?
Did you speak and made arrangements with Dr Mbagwu? Can you private me on nenna4@yahoo.com

bims87:
@Nenya, read the post u quoted, she already mentioned the hospital,Dr and the bill. Its in California.

Dear I was not asking for bills she gave the details well which got me interested.
I was asking for doctors details name, email, phone number and address.
For me dr m.......does not make sense in any way as it can mean anything.

tipsyjules:
Nenya please can we keep in touch because I should be traveling around that time too.

That will be great!!! Looking forward to that......but

I was dead sure as at last week I will be going to el paso cos I felt it was well planned out in terms of payment, accommodation etc.

I had made reservation with inland suites and got numbers for taxi,

then I read the post from mom that had twin with regards to accommodation recommending airbnb. I tried it out and it turned about $600+- a month.

Also another mom that used dr mbagwu at st Francis and I feel he is more cost effective.
Am yet to give him a call to discuss on one and one. Once I speak with him then I will be able to say where exactly I will go to.

tipsyjules:
Please can anyone help me here! Abeg am confused where in USA to give birth o.Heard about elpaso but I need someone that av been there to share her experience wit me.My hubby sister gave birth to her 2kids in houston Texas but I wan try another city plus say I need place wey dey a bit cheaper and accommodation wey dey close to the hospital. Please I will really appreciate if una go answer my question because I be new person here o.I don check google tire bfor I discover dis forum.

If you want to use el paso doctorsparati you can check out their website. All info is there bills, accommodation etc.

Their total bill for vb invluding ob package, hospital and pediatrician as well as a 2 day stay is 5450
while 4 cs ob package, hospital and pediatrician as well as a 3day stay is 7125

With regards to the accommodation they recommend, the cheapest is inland suites from $179 per week but when you add tax, weekly tech fee, deposit it comes to about
$266 roughly and its about 9.5miles to sierra medical center which they use.
But if you go to airbnb you will get accommodation not just much more cheaper but about 30minutes WALK to the hosipital if its still available.

But if you read up people have talked about where they had paid much more cheaper bills than doctorsparati

zeejam:

Hello dear Mums and Mums to be. please. i need information about birthing in wisconsin or chicago, the Costs, etc. Can't seem to find any information on chicago and wisconsin. I got my visa yesterday B1/B2, we only filled that we are going on vacation. The interviewer only ask us where we work n if we have travelled before. She didn't check doc and that was all. I intend going next month. Do I send doc to the embassy to declare my intention or I should just say am on vacation n to have my baby at the airport. Pls it's urgent help a sister.

Big thanks.

Are you pregant already?
Or you just want to enquire?
Which ever is the case you should have informed them on intentions.
You intend to travel next month if you are long gone get all the necessary requirments but just be ready for anything.
However honesty is the key.
You read up and understand why mamas are snapping off at you

mamamj:
Good morning all,
Please am travelling in 2weeks with emirate to Dallas
Does anyone have any info about emirate flight for a pregnant woman?
Has anyone used Dallas POE?
Can anyone please help with hospital in Dallas?

Google emirates pregancy, infants and children travel policy.
Or
go straight to this page
http:/www.kidsonaplane.com/emirates-flying-with-kids-policy/.

You will find headings such as
Expectant mothers
Infants (under 2years)
Baggage allowance
Child age (2-12yrs)
Strollers, child restraints devices
Special servcies

Then you can click and read.

On the expectant mom you will see the requirements, git to travel as well as formats for letters.

I hope this helps

[quote author=temyb post=45554026]Hello house,my husband just told me that it's likely i&my mother in law use Qatar airways which is kind of cheap. Please anyone have an idea what their POE at Doha is like. Heard it's not so friendly,I actually wanted Emirate but since we are 2 going it's not.possible again. Plus please is their seat

@tempb
I was on cheapest ticket and I saw that Qatar airways was not just the cheapest but their seat is 84cm ........
Maybe you go to cheapest ticket, put in dates for travelling to have a fill of each flights details. You will also be able to see how long you will wait on each stop etc

[quote author=cutelass post=45384936]Guess I've rested enough. Here's my story. About 10 days before my travel date, swelling on my legs which had always been minimal increased so much. Even after raising the legs up at night, the moment my feet touches ground in the morning the swelling returns. 3 days before my travel, I used the home bp monitor to check my bp and it was ranging btw 140/80 and 145/85. I immediately drove to hospital. Nurse on duty checked with the manual bp monitor and another young dr checked and it was still high. They had to call my consultant. He ordered they check my urine for protein and nothing came up...he eventually came himself, checked the bp and said it was normal.

3 days later I travelled with Lufthansa on a united ticket at 34 weeks + some days. Requested for wheelchair and they said since I brought fit to fly I can't use wheel chair. I was shocked cos several pple here have used wheelchair. They agreed to book for my mum cos of her arthritis yet we didn't see any wheelchair neither at Frankfurt nor LAX. We flew to Frankfurt and had a 4 hrs layover b4 we flew to LAX. All the while, my mum was so worried about the swelling.

POE was a breeze.
Cbp: what are you here for?
Me: childbirth
Cbp: ok. How long are u here for?
Me: 2 months
Cbp: sorry, what did u say u are here for again?
Me: childbirth, delivery, to have my baby (lol...that's d type of confidence saying the truth at the embassy gives u)
Took our finger prints and stamps us in for 6 months.

We went to agriculture...the officer was busy shouting to the guy scanning the bags...Nigeria, Nigeria, lol...our bags were scanned but we weren't asked to open it.

When we got to my aunty's house...the legs had tripled in size and she insisted I see the dr immediately ( my appt wasn't till another 4 days). We called his office and luckily he was still around...said they close at 5pm. It was already 4pm...so without eating or anything...they drove us to the dr office. My relations went in to greet him (they had known him for a long time) I had no idea, while I filled out the forms. When I saw the dr, my bp had shot up to 159/100. He told me point blank to head straight to the hospital as I had developed pre-eclampsia and baby had to be induced immediately. He said the financial dept would have closed for the day and they don't open weekends...so we had only the next day to pay and sign the contract...cos if I deliver without signing it...I would be left with a bill of over $40k. Got to the hospital and was admitted. Was placed on magnesium IV to prevent seizure...while they ran tests...the same ones I would have done with the doctor's office.

Next day my mum sorted the bills...while they brought the papers for me to fill...despite the induction starting Thursday night...i didn't deliver till almost mid day Saturday...cervix no gree dilate till...was almost heading to OR for c-section b4 LO came forth...I hadn't eaten in almost 48 hrs...day said no food, no water...was just allowed to chew ice...where the strength to push came from...I don't know.

The main testimony is that LO didn't need to go to NICU...was almost peeing in my pant when the thought of it came to my mind...cos of bills...she was just in the nursery...they did hearing test...checked for jaundice...was later discharged. LO is 3 weeks old currently.

Used st Francis medical center and dr. Mb---u. Hospital bill $2700 for vag. Delivery (includes paediatrician, epidural (the thing wore off towards the actual delivery). Stayed an extra day which cost $900 (covers both me and baby). Hospital gives free stroller. I've gotten zero balance.

Dr fees had always been 1500 and 2500 for vag and csection respectively. When I got here...saw it was now 1000 and 1300...was told the dr considered the current economic situation in Nigeria and decided to slash his self-pay fees. Hmmm...Angels still dey dis earth Shaa.

Since baby came early, wanted to shift my date but United wants an arm and a leg just to change date...I'm chilling (mum is here with me, hubby is coming, wonderful

Hi dear thank God for your miracle and congrats on the arrival of your cutie.
Please can you kindly provide more detailed info on the hospital and doctor you used?
For instance
1. Where the hospital is located? As in the city.
2. Doctors details such as phone number, email address.
Am very much interested to try this option instead of el paso I was thinking of.

Thank you for your anticipated assistance.

Dabira19:
Good morning NLanders. Pls any July bound mummy for Elpaso? Pm me for further discussion on accommodation.

July no.
Am only coming in by his grace end of August, just in case.........

Maggie0133:
intending my dear. Not gone for visa interview yet. Plan to be in elpaso early july

Ok am dead sure I will be there keep me posted if you finally decide.

Anyone going to El paso in August?