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relocationhub:
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kiddaz:
You slo.ww sha. So it took you 4 years to know she no send you? A girl who respects you will not do the things she did while with you. In fact you were the real problem, trying to wife an OS. Go and run a comprehensive health check before you infect the next girl please

I’m perfectly fine.

One Saturday afternoon on the 24th of October, this lady came to my place.

Usually she comes to my place during weekends. But this time around she came with a different intention.

So few minutes after she came, she started asking me random questions. She said “if a guy knows he can’t properly fends for all the needs of a lady isn’t it better the guy let the lady leaves?”
I was shocked and asked her where is the question coming from. She smiled and said that it’s not related to us that she just wanted to know.

I already got the message clearly. She was passing an indirect message to me that she wants to leave. However, I wanted her to say it directly with her own mouth.

So I confronted her on why she decided to use an indirect means to pass a message to me rather than come straight as an adult that she is. That was when she started voicing out everything. She said she doesn’t want to be a burden to me that she just think it’s better she leaves since she really can’t help me and I need some sort of help.

Apparently a few weeks earlier I told her I needed to clear some bills but it’s nothing serious. So I believe that was the moment she made up her mind that she was leaving the relationship as she believed I was financially handicapped. She didn’t cared that she has spent over 4 years in a relationship. What mattered to her then was that “I can barely survive” in her own words.

That moment taught me you may be living with someone that doesn’t care or love you but only available for what they stand to benefit. She didn’t cared if breaking up with me at that time will add more emotional stress and burden to my current state. All that did not matter to her. To her I’m no longer useful. That was how four years of deceit ended in just a moment.

Lot of lessons for every young men to unpack from my story.

Shalom!

Yeah, it’s over. I will find time and drop the details of how it happened.

Ladies and gentlemen. It’s over!

somtoto:
do you know about the pathway for ireland

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MightySparrow:
I am not doubting or discouraging you. You have a good relationship with your uncle now. You should look at the wife's, children factor also. Put everything in black and white in case of the unforeseen future. Best of luck.

I will definitely do that. So that issues don't show up later

MightySparrow:
Working for yourself could be better. Joint venture is equally good but what I fear is what I call,' Nigerian Factor'. If the terms are carefully spelled out with legal backing and severance clauses when necessary, go ahead. Otherwise, start small where you are, give yourself a target and try to invest out of your salary and influence.
Anyway you know better with the partner.

Thank you for your contribution. Actually the partner is my uncle and the agreement is 33% to him, 33% to me and reinvest 34% back into the business to grow it. So he will be a life partner in the business unless if he decides to leave it for me.
This sharing formula is after the overhead cost have being deducted.

I have been working as a Pharmacist in a private hospital for about a year now. Lately I have become bored of the job due to it routine nature and something deep down in me does not want to continue the job for too long. I love something more dynamic and flexible so that I can effectively be in charge of my own time. I have worked as a community Pharmacist during my service and i enjoyed it better than the hospital practice. I have always nurtured a dream to set up my own Pharmacy soon. So recently, I got pledge from a family relative to set up a community Pharmacy for me so that we can run a joint partnership with him. I will bring the license and the manpower why he brings the capital for the setting up.
Now I'm considering resigning from my work place to pursue that process squarely. What do you guys think?

The location in mind rn is somewhere in Kogi State however we are open to other options, especially areas with better purchasing power and a high population.

Augustine2244:
Lol! My brother, forget her pretentious attitude.If she really wants to forget those men, she knows what to do.
She should block them everywhere on SM, block their numbers and delete.
Please do your consultations very well with family and friends and if they stand with booting her out, please don't hesitate.
This kind of woman can't be trusted at all in marriage.
She's the kind that would birth four children for her husband and only one would be biologically his.

That is my fear,.

Flows001:
Bro, I agree it's difficult to move away from someone you're emotional attached to, but then, think about your future.

Imagine yourself already married to her and she's still doing this. Let me be Frank with you, marriage CAN NEVER change this her lifestyle or stop her from seeing that same guy and several other guys she rode and enjoyed their dicksons, Okafor's Law will always apply as the dudes in question already holds her mumu button and can still knack her even if she's married. The abortion you found out is the one you know, she must have done countless times for different other guys which you are unaware of, is that the kind of lady you wish to call your wife??

Remember paternity fraud and how rampant it is these days, ladies like this wouldn't hesitate to sleep around even with their wedding rings on their fingers (Remember how Balthazar Egonga was able to mercilessly knack people's wives).

It's not about the way you currently feel about her, it's about your future!!

Taking her to your father or being fond of her mum and sister doesn't mean anything! People even break up hours before wedding and Heaven never fell down!

If you are okay with becoming insecure in marriage and continuously playing FBI on your own wife's movement and activities, then go ahead and marry such a lady, but be reminded that an exposed lady like that can outsmart you in the game and also be knacking different under your own roof without you ever finding out!💯💯.

Marriage is not relationship ooo. Make that bold decision now and be free!!

She is NOT the only lady in the world, you obviously seem to be a nice guy, so you deserve better, not someone like this!!

Thank you very much. This is the motivation I needed. Once again thank you!

gerizzim:
youngman, did you say you don't know how to move on?
let me tell you this about yourself that you don't know. By true assumption

1. You are older than her by age
2. You are more logical than her
3. You are morally upright than her
4 You are more sound academically than her
5. There are better gals you should take focus to but you don't want to

But ironically you don't talk and look like sm1 that posses all these features.

If you are asking the qtn of weda to move on or not then the education you received should be questioned.

Thank you for this. I will have to do the needful.

Augustine2244:
True, the abortion issue should be disturbing to you because you don't know if that is the only abortion she has done and whether her womb is still intact.
Though it's difficult,try to forget her and move on.Since she is unwilling to change, you have to leave her and move on.
You can't put your life on hold because of her.
You will definitely meet a better person.

Exactly why I am really disturbed. Anytime I confront her with this issue she always cry her eyes out and apologize remorsefully. My major concern now is the issue of the abortion in the past.

While the comments were pouring in here, she came to my house to talk things through. I asked her if she cares about herself why is she going back to the people that caused her pain. She keeps begging that I should forgive her that she doesn’t chat them up except they message her. I asked why she still has their contact even after 4 years, she tried to give one excuse or the other. My final comment to her was, I don’t have any response for her that I will have to do my own consultations from family and friends before I know the next line of action.

Desusi:
Sorry my friend, how old are you? Are you currently doing something? This will help me to advice you better.By my age, l have long experienced in life, as an elderly person.

I’m 27 years old. Yes, I’m currently employed.

flames007:
Please permit me to ask this question. Are you in your right senses?

Bro sometimes I ask myself that too.
Those were things she did before I met her.

2cribz:
Weak fool u hate the truth,thats why u are old snd dumb,thats why shez lying to u.hahahahaha
Big fool inside a small pot.
No worry,u go take sniper las las.u don cry tire.shameless simp

Go take your meds.

2cribz:
Dont worry fool,las las she fo gove u free hiv. Hahahaha.u got stuck. Fool
She dey come naked,no worry,u go still nack am beg am.weak foo l

Like the one your mother gave to your father abi. Ode! Gtf outta here.

2cribz:
Ode,on top one slimy disgusting pekus.no how u go dey skin dive am raw.better go for tests then from there take sniper.u are a rapist.
Idiot.u used her weakness to chop her then u felt you are in control.ode carry okpo go fam house,dey happy.
Ode

Your parents could have avoided this nuisance they birthed to world with just a condom! Nonsense!

Amsickindahead:
But the bitch ain't ready to change or be loyal to ya.why waste ur precious time trying to be mr nice guy.You deserve someone better nigga,don't dull.

Yeah it’s obvious. This last time makes it the 3rd time I have told her to cut ties with these people. She keeps claiming they’re the ones that check up on her. I told her to block them. But it seems she still have unfinished business with them. Me I am mentally out of the relationship.

Augustine2244:
Brother, the truth is this: You can take a horse to the water but you can't force it to drink.
Obviously the girl is completely unwilling to turn a new leaf and be a better person.
So you have to leave her and focus on your life.
For her to be still seeing different men and sexting with them even while you both are together,speaks ocean volumes about her level of promiscuity.
Better leave her now for your mental health and peace of mind.
One of these days, she would get pregnant by one of her lovers and pin it on you.
But she won't be able to do so if you haven't slept with her.
Brother, leave the shameless unrepentant scarlet women now.
For your own good.

To be fair to her, the nude sharing and sexting happened before we started dating but we already knew each other. Didn’t get to know this deeper secrets else won’t have taken things the way I did with her.

DarkLover:
She can never be loyal to him, girl wey don dey smoke with other boys, that has tasted different dick sizes in highness. I wasn't expecting him to even plan a thing with her, 'cos they're worlds apart, got nothing in common.

We are truly worlds apart. But foolish me thought she was going to turn a new leaf, at least that was what she made me believe.

Amsickindahead:
That bitch belongs to the street bro,she ought to be ur sex slave by banging the shit outta dat hoe instead u thinking bout wifey her..U got a very low street OT.

To be honest before I got to know about her shitty past, my intention was to hit and run. But I became stuck with her and now it’s difficult to leave.

phorget:
Girls of her age always want to explore, there's no amount of advice you can give her that will make her slow down. Keep your fingers crossed and watch her wall into her doom or perhaps she might be lucky to understand the true meaning of life before it becomes too late for her.
Personally, I dont advice any girl between the ages of 18 and 25, they always feel they are on top of the world somehow.

True. But she has cried her eyes out in regret for her past actions. It still baffles me why she is still in contact with the same people responsible for her woes. 😪

Olachase:
if we study case of things very well this girl is more intelligent than you,

Like you won marry public hotspot 🤣🤣

So mumu men till plenty for this Life na WA hoo

Easy for you to talk when you’re not directly involved.

Augustine2244:
Brother, the truth is this: You can take a horse to the water but you can't force it to drink.
Obviously the girl is completely unwilling to turn a new leaf and be a better person.
So you have to leave her and focus on your life.
For her to be still seeing different men and sexting with them even while you both are together,speaks ocean volumes about her level of promiscuity.
Better leave her now for your mental health and peace of mind.
One of these days, she would get pregnant by one of her lovers and pin it on you.
But she won't be able to do so if you haven't slept with her.
Brother, leave the shameless unrepentant scarlet women now.
For your own good.

I’m trying to move on but it’s difficult. Her mom and sisters know me very well and we have come a long way. I wanted to 4get her past life and move on with her but she is not helping matters. The chat I read about the abortion she did in the past is the most disturbing thing to me now.

Pennywise2:
was waiting for you to say this. I will not advice you. But everything I read now tells me she is not your wife. W hat happen to helping and moving on?

Red flags everywhere.

Hmmm! I want to move on but I don’t know how to. But anytime I remember those things she did my heart break.

zed7:
All this grammar for someone not your daughter or sister? If you want to go far in life, focus on more important things. It's 2025, a perfect time to set useless things aside.

This is someone I wish to marry. If I can’t be assured of her loyalty shouldn’t I be worried?

I make sure I use every chance I get to counsel and advise her not to make same kind of mistakes that brought her back in her new school and she also felt she will never do such again considering what she has passed through.
But yesterday as I was going through her phone I was shocked to see that this girl still occasionally chat with one of her exes. I could remember it was the same person she lied to me to go and see in another state while she was battling her probation issue in school. I was so furious and felt stupid. I decided to dig deeper into her Facebook chat history and what I saw break me so bad. Since yesterday I haven’t felt okay. Apparently she was seeing different men and exchanging nudes with them, sex chatting with one. I also learnt she was pregnant at some point and aborted for one from the chat. Some of these things happened while we were already friends while some happened before I met her. I didn’t want to judge her but this new information I discovered about her past life is killing me. This is the same person I took to see my dad last week. I’m in such a dilemma right now, either to end things with her and move on or to bullshit those things and continue dating her.

Please guys I need your contributions