In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Let the other guy come in

If it is true, I must say he is not looking like a 15-year-old.

GenBuhari:
She is only 19 is probably very trusting.

I concur

Things fall apart

Can't she switch them?

jmoore:
Ike Ekweremadu said Igbo people should not waste their votes on Peter Obi. Weeks later, he is arrested for organ trafficking in UK.

Anyone telling you that you are wasting your votes on Peter Obi is obviously benefitting from the lawlessness in Nigeria.

The money Ike Ekweremadu got from Atiku and other PDP aspirants is enough to buy Kidney from an adult. Many adults are willing to sell their kidney for 35,000-50,000 dollars. But Ike Ekweremadu who is among the selfish politicians decided to look for an underage that he can cheat and pay peanuts, same way they pay peanuts to buy votes from poor voters.

UK is not a lawless nation. May Justice be served!!!

Amen

harmargedon:
they do, I guess you ain't.

Guys are generous to both fellow guys and ladies

For sell? Marketing?

harmargedon:
I thought you were literate

Literate people don't ask this kind of question

Legendforte:

They rarely bite.

Hit them hard on the head.

God said we should strike their head before they strike our heel.


Hit them hard!

Utanisco:


Mehn

Actor bit the cow sotey him emaciate
Comot all the milk from am

Haaaaaaaaa
Funny whyte men

Hahahhahahhahahah

I pray for safe delivery and also a quality baby

I watch this movie as a kid.

Jubal01:
Thank you all. I'm very humbled honestly.
for those asking about the pay, it's not much o! Just #110k.
about the experience, i have been teaching since 2011. It was just last year that i resigned to take care of my ailing parents. I remember asking for help here but many people ridiculed me and called me a fake arse. Thank God both of them are hale and hearty now and they both blessed me 4 all my sacrifices towards them.
My advice, if u have the opportunity to offer help to someone on nairaland, pls do it. Not all pple here are faking it. I will do my own giveaway when i get my first full salary to the first 5 people that will quote this my comment. IT'S A PROMISE.

Ok na

paulolee:

ur opinion bt I think his style also affected d way united played...ragnick last interview before palace game said cr7 isnt a pressing master, dt he doesn't expect cr7 to press opponets without the ball n he have to switch his layout to suit cr7 n it didn't work..
it simply means, cr7 not joining n he have players like martial, rashford n sancho, dey would be no need to switch pattern, he would stick to his gen gen pressing dt would be more effective..


it was obvious dt big teams like city n Liverpool playing against united seems like a man down bcoz of cr7 jus standing waiting in d box..
city first leg was like a training practice, city finished dt game without doing any sub n also Liverpool first leg was too easy..
pressing united with cr7 doing less pressing mks it too easy for teams unlike d previous season dt d younger attackers do defend n play fast counter immediately...

True sha

War is not good.

All these excuses self

Though he scored goals his coming coincided with their loss in form.

Wait till the end

alkines:
So my colleague was leaving work at about 7pm from the island, unkowning to her that she had boarded a onechance cab!

Before she knew what was happening gun was pointed at her and was instructed to start dropping all her belongings, her laptop, ipad, gold necklace, her android and some cash at hand.

They further asked her to log into her bank account funnily just a day preceding that day she had been sent 1.2 million by her mother to keep. Luckily for her i was there when the money came in. I just told her to save it in piggyvest and she will even be paid intrest. She agreed and i helped her in setting it up, she even added some of her own money from her bank account.

Now back to the scene, while they told her to log into a bank acct what she had left was just about 30k which was transferred to them in which after that, she was kicked out of the car. She almost cried her eyes out for the lost gadgets but also thankful as she could have lost almost ₦1.5m if she hadn't locked up the money in piggyvest!

I just felt like sharing this, so please try not leave all your money in your bank accts.

You can use Akinsolaa as refferal code if you don't have piggyvest too .

Ok may God bring referrals your way

She did well

People tend to look ugly when they do something bad

Scammers are wicked people. Quote me anywhere

Enjoy

Do they want to say no before?

The insurance company must pay o.
Lol

I love the fact that he submitted to a higher authority.

It is cool

brosom:
Just like I said, a myth.

Is alright. I understand

brosom:
yeah, one demi-god like that according to Greek myth

Ok na

Will he assist after you exit this world?

Zeus?

Ok