I fell in love with this young man, but we're not in a relationship. He is a christian. Moreover, we're living in separates states. Even though we are in touch, sometimes I feel that the thoughts of him are driving me crazy. I mean crazy! It's like he is taking over my head. However, if I send a text msg to him he will confirm that he's thinking about me.

Last week, while I was studying I experienced this same strange feeling. Few minutes later, He sent a text msg to me about my body, and I realized that he was Hot. Recently, I even ask him to leave my mind alone, but he told me that he can't and he won't.

People, how can I explain this?

you mean to tell me he's holding your head from 2000 miles afar?
Must have the longest arms ever.

I mean it's like he's taking control of my mind. During this time, I don't know what to think; I can't think. I'm just loosing it. It's make me very uncomfortable, and scared me.

mito:

I fell in love with this young man, but we're not in a relationship. He is a christian. Moreover, we're living in separates states. Even though we are in touch, sometimes I feel that the thoughts of him are driving me crazy. I mean crazy! It's like he is taking over my head. However, if I send a text msg to him he will confirm that he's thinking about me.

Last week, while I was studying I experienced this same strange feeling. Few minutes later, He sent a text msg to me about my body, and I realized that he was Hot. Recently, I even ask him to leave my mind alone, but he told me that he can't and he won't.

People, how can I explain this?

Simple. Easy Connection. Chemistry

Two Hot xtians. I think its time to go pay him a wknd visit.

@OP: Happens to everyone, only in varying proportions, and some know how to hide it better than others

@Mavenb0x
I'm just hoping that there's nothing wrong with me.

@mito: There's nothing wrong with you. I think you need to talk to him. Ask him "What exactly do you want from me?" and see his response. That will be a good starter. Lighten up, girl!

@Mavenb0x

I did, but he told me  he doesn't know what he wants from me.

Topic:This Guy Is Killing Me! - Nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-366007.0.html#msg5107401

Kill the nigga back.
I tell you what, if a nigga's into you he will be on your arse like a hawk.
Nigga ain't all that into you, IMHO.

@OP: Does the guy show any signs of shyness or low self esteem? If he does, and you really like him, you may need to be patient with him.

If he's not like that kinda guy, he's just playing around. There's no use going into a relationship with a guy who doesn't know what he wants or where he is going.

@Mavenb0x

I even asked him if it's sex that he really wants. He replied: "lol, if you say so" . I'm so confused. I'm not sure if he's shy or not.

I won't tell you what to do, but he's obviously an aimless lover, he is working on your psyche without yielding any commitment, so it is obvious that when he gets whatever he wants, he will leave you in the dust and seek another prey. It's your call, go for it if you like him.

@Mavenb0x

Thank you!

You are welcome mito. [redacted]

_{@mito from dat ur last comment he sounds pretty much like a player 2 me don't fall him abeg well dat's if u care about urself. .} .

@poster: If I were you I wouldn't bother myself. From everything you've said about the guy, I have come into a conclusion that we have some characteristics in common(maybe i'm even him). I also do that to girls(though I don't know why). I let them feel i'm interested in them(you know a little flirting won't kill) and they get so confused that they won't know where i'm heading. So take my advice and ignore the slimy bas.tard. (I just insulted myself)

He is your Meth right now. . . .you are hooked on him. . .you have a Huge crush . . .accept it

@Hanoobaba

What can I do to take control of myself again? He does this so often, I feel like I'm losing myself. He is disturbing me.

@Hanoobaba
I went to visit him last summer even though I did not want to at the first place. When I got there he told me that he was the one that made me come. What can I do?

well you are in love with him, accept it, put your differences aside and commit to him.

@rokiatu

what if he doesn't love me?

mito:

@rokiatu

what if he doesn't love me?

use your head lady read what you wrote, now tell me is him not in love with you?

mito:

if I send a text msg to him he will confirm that he's thinking about me.
I experienced this same strange feeling. Few minutes later, He sent a text msg to me about my body, and I realized that he was Hot. Recently, I even ask him to leave my mind alone, but he told me that he can't and he won't.
People, how can I explain this?

Oh you are asking for a tutorial, okay no problem. From what I can see, you sound too plain. You will have to flirt back with him, sweet talk him. He is toying with your feelings then toy with him back there is no sin in that. Forget that christian crap. Play him with his own cards. Then you'll see, little by little you will take back your life. The grip he's gotten on you will loosen. Then you can thank me later and let me drive you crazy my own way.

@rokiatu: I guess you don't know much about guys.

@Hanoobaba

It's easier for me to try to ignore him because I don't play games.

Lols. U making it sound like he's using voodoo, or is that the case?

My advice:

Ignore him, including his calls,text. . .
But you seriously need to get laid, get incontact with a random or new guy with no strings attached. . better still use ya fingers, wa.nk the bagga outta ya senses (no joke) else he'll control you like he would mario if you allow him into ya pants

These would do.

Hanoobaba:

@rokiatu: I guess you don't know much about guys.

ya playa I don't care to enlighten me more

Babes he is playing you like a fiddle. He is preping you up for the midnight activity very soon.

@steve49ja

I had an affair with someone but that change nothing. I had to leave him because every time I was with him I was thinking about the other guy or expecting his text/call.

There's more to this than just the ordinary.

Has he touched you before? told you things he wants to do to you? had phone seks?

I'm trying to figure why you got hotpants for him. . . U sure it aint voodoo?

U need to space him that includes cut every contact, he aint good for you. Trust me.