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| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by makky(f): 12:19am On Dec 19, 2011 |
@ Ivynwa, thanks so much for being so positive n I will surely do as u say. Ive been a member of nairaland for years now but fear putting up anytn or even comment for the fear of being insulted & most ppl here just do it for d fun of it even if d poster is close to death n just needs advice. Maclatunji created a wonderful but delicate thread, he means well. I fear that genuine ppl with suicidal intents may come to seek help here n as usual, d fun seekers may just give d person a one way ticket by making jest or insulting them. Though I pray that won't be the case here. Thanks dear, I appreciate! @ Negro_Ntns, thanks dear, ur point is well noted and i will relay the message to the importer. I guess because it is their own brand, he didnt really put that into consideration but rather tried to get the franchise first & its just the first importation. Their adherence to change the pack of the ones imported here will strongly depend on high sales turn out & demand for the product but nonetheless, its a welcome idea, thank you! |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by emiye(m): 2:13am On Dec 19, 2011 |
If you are contemplating suicide, hear this: It takes A DAY for that your bad situation to change for GOOD. To the jobless, it takes just a day to land that job that will exceed your dream job. To those with no partners,it takes just a day for that wonderful partner to cross your path and chemistry reactions begin. , No matter how bad your situation seems, it takes a day for things to take a turning point. HANG ON. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Ochlux(f): 4:58am On Dec 19, 2011 |
Ths thread brought tears to my eyes. U never knw wht it feels like till it hits u,after all isnt d first cut the deepest? plz stay alive for those u loves u and need u in their life. Cheers. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by maclatunji: 9:50am On Dec 19, 2011 |
Ochlux: Your story is touching and my heart goes out to you too. I am not going to say that you should not feel the pain of losing your son because a parent never forgets the loss of a child particularly a mother. However, I hope that you are able to manage it and that hurt does not remain as depression. I want you to know that it is not your fault that your son died and you have not failed him- it is only that the will of God has prevailed on the matter. You can take steps to make his memory a positive one by continually showing love to your other children (if you don't have them yet- God will open the door soon, just have faith). You can also help indigent children with whatever you have in such a way that anytime you see other children that are in your late son's age bracket you are not always reminded of the pain of losing him but see an opportunity to lend a helping hand to someone. The smiles and sincere thank yous they will give should act like a balm to soothe your pain. I wish you the best and lots of happiness. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Ochlux(f): 10:39am On Dec 19, 2011 |
Thanks 4 the advice. I do the litle i can evn though am so lonely. I hate being an object of pity thus i wear a mask pretending to b stronge. Thnks 4 ur geniue concern. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by charles79: 11:27am On Dec 19, 2011 |
Can u console someone who all her life has abstained from all forms of youthful exoberance, women, wine, weed. Concentrated on serviving God truthfully. Worked hard in life, sacrifised consistently and always strife to be good to people and not take offence. Full of life and vigour with a very good heart. When her mates were busy going to night club, she went to nigth vigil, when they were hanging around with boys, he was there preaching to them, when they were feasting, she was fasting. She spend plenty of his years in denial and sacrifise for bright future. Suddenly the future came, she got a good job and settle down to enjoy her fruits of his labour, suddenly, the bubble bursted, she was diagnosed with an incurable liver disease. To add salt to the wound, they tagged the disease is sexually transmitted. So the whole sacrifise she made is rubbished. She will face the shame and stigmatisation of acquiring a infection from an act she has refrained from for years when indeed for years he has lived a chaste life. Now she cannot even enjoy the marriage she has lived and dreamt of. Why is it that the she was not prevented or protected her from the having this. Please give her reason why she should not consider leaving this world. If she has lost a son, she would wait to get another. If she has no job she will hope to get one day, if she lost a job, she will wish she gets another. This challenge she was told has no expiry date. True life story here. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Tem01(f): 11:30am On Dec 19, 2011 |
I dont have any reason to live again. My whole life is in a great mess and i just feel like ending it all. A young girl like me have no single day of happiness. I sleep with the hope of not waking up to see my problems again. I feel if i die it will all end. How do you feel when you dont have anybody to share your sorrows with? How do you feel when the people to encourage you are the one against you? I've been married for just 4years but it has been the worst years out of my entire like. People are always looking for my troubles so that they can have the oppourtunity to call me barren. Even as i've never aborted in my life before they will still say i've aborted all the children that i'm suppose to have in my life. I once wrote on this site to seek for peoples opinion about going for adoption and some people say a lot of negative words to me. Some say i dont know God, if only they can have idea of what i'm passing through. It seems God has forgotten about me. Nobody seems to care about my condition so what i'm i living for. I just hope i'll have the courage to carry out my plans. I want to end it all. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 11:52am On Dec 19, 2011 |
@ BB I don't know for a fact what happend to Ivy personally but there's no denying the fact that there's a lot truth in what she's saying. I personally have been a victim of the something similar. Someone, (a married woman on NL) even went to the extent to saying that she was placing a 'curse' on me that I'll never get married and even if I do, I'll never be happy. Just because I disagreed with her on a post. This was after she resurrected a thread I opened sometime ago and went ahead to mock the living daylight out of me. These things happen on NL everyday and Ivy is just trying to point out how insensitive they are. I don't think she intended to bring up her issues with Jenny.  |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by really: 11:57am On Dec 19, 2011 |
I don't know if pple do really talj abt but honestly, have been thére n twice more likely twice, at point when I and things were sooooooo down and out of life was the only solution, looking back it is interesting that I thought abt it, I felt pills wld so it and I felt since ♍Ɣ bday fell on a 17, 17 pills of vailum was the answer. One stop though was all I stopped- what would I tell God when I stand b4 him! That I killed myself and that was it, so anytime it crosses ♍Ɣ mind again, I replay the question n get on ♍Ɣ kneels. It always works!!!! |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by ENZOSCIFO1: 12:00pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Well I guess suicide is not the best and at times I wish I can help out (no that I dont have my own issues) . A very close friend of mine as been giving us serious concern recently, he lost his job like two years back and wife just put to bed months back (after seven years of marriage) the chap is by far my most intelligent friend even has a Mastres in Finance from a british school. And its just unfortunate that no job is forth coming.Myself and a couple of family friends has tried by extending money gift et al to him most times but he's just so down cos he feels bad that he needs to collect from pple around him before he can feed his family. I will try and direct him here perhaps he will find help or even read about worst case possible that may give him the courage and determination to strive on. God bless u Mac for starting this thread. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 12:03pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Tem01: My dear . . . I can't say that I know how you feel cos I honestly dont . . . I can only imagine! But just this morning, the sermon at my morning mass was about Elizabeth and Zachariah (the parents of John the Baptist). When we got home, my husband and I took some time to really think about how their lives must have been. How terrible Elizabeth must have felt all her life cos even the bible said she was 'barren'. But one thing that was outstanding about them was that in all that, they remained faithful to God. They were upright and upstanding. This did not make God to take pity on her and give her a child when her mates were having children. Instead, God left her childless because she was destined to have a remarkable son. One son that will be greater that those with 10 sons. On son that will be called 'blessed'! This son didn't come untill she was 80 . . . 30 years after meanopause. This tell me that with God, NOTHING is hopeless. Like I said earlier, I can only imagine what you've been passing through. I've only been married for about 6months but people call my husband everyd other day to ask him if his wife has taken in. People see me and the first place they look at is my stomach! If I wasn't pregnant, I'd be at my wits end right now because the pressure is just too much. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by solomon111(m): 12:43pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Ujujoan:You are very correct.It seems every woman that was termed 'barren' in the bible later gave birth to great men.It is like their womb was preserved or something.A son can be worth more than 100 sons.Indeed,Even Jesus said John was the greatest prophet ever born. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by NegroNtns(m): 12:57pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
What a surprise  So, Jenny you are still around? Long time no hear, how ya family dem? |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by perx(f): 1:01pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
its so easy 4 some pple to say y feel suicidal or actually do it? if things r going well or great 4 u dont mean everyone is d same some problems pple go thru are worse than others so DUH!!! i 1st came here looking for help but no one cared or replied for over one month one so called doc balogun on nl asked me to send him my xrays, tests, etc thru email, i did and then he implied that i am a liar i did not even ask him for money but his advice. pple can be so cruelllll i had to delete my post and just keep posting about what i googled about my condition/illness and how to manage it in case there was any1 out there going thru d same thing. this is my story. . . Hip Surgery & Rsd/crps - Complex regional pain syndrome/reflex sympathetic dystrophy I live in Nigeria and I’m in my early 30s. I was watching TV August 2007 and when I got up from where I was sitting, I felt a cramp in my left foot. I was limping and had pains in my left foot till December 2007 and I was given 1 crutch for support The doctors here had no idea what was wrong. The blood test, MRI scan and x-rays done showed no abnormality but Only a slight inflammation in the left foot AND I WAS ONLY GIVEN PAIN KILLERS WHICH DID NOT HELP MUCH In December 2007, I couldn’t use the leg to walk or limp again. It was so painful and would not let me bend at the knee The vein at the back of the knee felt like it was always going to pop out. My leg felt heavy, stiff and when I try to bend my knee, I feel a very sharp pain, the leg straightens out by itself always and my hip felt strained. I was carried around by arms/hands or wheelchair (I couldn’t even use 2 crutches to walk or support myself). i could not sleep, i was losing weight fast More x-rays were done of the spinal cord, I went for physiotherapy both traditional (HELL) and clinics since February 08 and did MRI scan of the pelvis but they still showed nothing wrong or much improvement. MRI is so expensive in LUTH TO BE CONTINUED |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by perx(f): 1:18pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
concluding part/part 2 which d yeye bot took off in April 2009 I had a terrible attack in my left leg, I went to bed at 10 pm, my Left leg started to jerk badly at the hip from 10 pm to 4 am, I felt like my leg was about to be pulled out of my body. I was screaming and crying. The next day I observed a shortness of my left leg so I went for x-ray and it showed that I have a fracture and a dislocation in my hip! doctors say i have a problem with my nervous system and i have tight muscles, veins in my left leg and spasm but they are not sure what the cause is I am running out of options, wasting money and I don’t know what else to do. I would like to travel for the above reasons My right leg is starting to get affected too, I cannot walk and recently I think I have a phobia for falling. Doctors could not fix my hip in Nigeria , they said the spasms & muscle stiffness in my leg were too much that is why I have to go abroad . where d money  My affected leg is now about 8 cm shorter than the right leg. Can the length of my leg be corrected? I take lyrical (very expensive for an unemployed person and weight gain is one of its side effect), prednisolone, piroxicam, metacarbamol, tramadol but they do not help much, physical therapist is hard to get here. i've been to churches, even synagogue and redeem. lol. funny/conning pple My family seems tired of taking care of me, I can’t really blame them because I have been sick and cannot walk for 4 years and I’m getting tired too. Using a wheelchair, crutches and Zimmer frame is hard now. I have been praying to die but death won’t come and I’m not brave enough to commit suicide even though I do think about it almost everyday. guess what? my right leg femur had a fracture in october (not as bad as d left leg) and since then i have been in bed. doctors here said stay in bed for 2 months. "it will heal or go abroad" and i say WTF I DON TIRE JOR |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 1:49pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
perx:i cant even begin to imagine what u re going through |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 1:51pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Jenny darling i understand ur point but at this point she needs a friend, she needs to unburden her mind, not everyone is strong willed, some pple re more emotional dan others. I cant imagine anyone finding ya trouble, lol. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 2:08pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Ujujoan:Uju u re right, i have been called a damaged Vjay and so many other names here, but after what i have gone thru and come out of no name calling can shake me, even though it still hurst sometimes. I know so many women living in hell and hanging on just so they can remain married, i know so many women who like me have attempted to end thier lives at one point or d other, but the society we live in makes u ashamed to share ur burden, u smile and bare it. Worse off is d role d church has played, no more real caring just christainesses, "it is well" u re blessed" no one really cares how u re really doing, if they know they just wanna gossip or thank God that they re better than u |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by perx(f): 3:00pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
debrief08: no i dont think any1 can, unless they have been thru d same thing or worse i posted d concluding part which is worse than d 1st one u read but d silly bot banned me and removed my post hopefully they will put it back but its still in my post (profile) tho i posted it at 1.18 pm. i might repost it if they'll let me cos i dont c anything wrong in my post |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by perx(f): 3:09pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
at last d concluding part/part 2 which d yeye bot took off is above |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 3:30pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
perx: OMG that's terrible . . . . I dont even know what to say to you!  |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by agiboma(f): 4:27pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
great thread OP! my family was recently touched by suicide, my brother who is 18 years old had a friend who immegrated fron Nigeria to live in Canada with his family. The young man had a fight with his parents then left the house a killed himself he was also only 18. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by charles79: 4:47pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
I am reposting here the story of my life, All my life I have abstained from all forms of youthful exoberance, women, wine, weed. Concentrated on serviving God truthfully. Worked hard in life, sacrifised consistently and always strife to be good to people and not take offence. Full of life and vigour with a very good heart. When my mates were busy going to night club, i went to nigth vigil, when they were hanging around with boys, i was there preaching to them, when they were feasting, i was fasting. i spend plenty of my years in denial and sacrifise for bright future. Suddenly the future came, i moved on in life and settle down to enjoy her fruits of my labour, suddenly, the bubble bursted, i was diagnosed with an incurable liver disease. To add salt to the wound, they tagged the disease is likely to be sexually transmitted (and people view it so). So the whole sacrifise i made is rubbished. I will face the shame and stigmatisation of acquiring a infection from an act I have refrained from for years when indeed for years he has lived a chaste life. Now i cannot even enjoy the relatioship I have lived and dreamt of. Why is it that the i was not prevented or protected from the having this. Please give me reason why I should not consider leaving this world. If I have lost a son, I would wait to get another. If I has no job I will hope to get one day, if I lost a job, I will wish she gets another. This challenge I was told there no expiry date for the problem. My problem, nobody will believe my story and innocence and those who do will make jest that I am foolish. True life story here. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by ceasyc(f): 7:10pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
perx: 9ce topic spambots and moderators - its about time u put perx's post that was deleted. d story is very sensitive, heartbreaking, pitiful, jaw dropping, hellish, etc, people needs to see that concluding or 2nd part here, NOT ONLY IN HER PROFILE what was wrong with that post anyway? the 1st part is here, the 2nd one is not. POST THAT ONE HERE JARE those of u going through rough and hellish things/experience(s), abeg make una take am easy. dont really know what to write or say to all of u but God dey!!! |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by perx2: 8:03pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
perx: concluding part/part 2 which d yeye bot took off. https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=826801.msg9796234#msg9796234R |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by tlops(m): 8:10pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
charles79: Sometime, the race is not to the swift (Ecc9:11). Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain (1cor15:58). but Isaiah 41:21 says, “present your case before the Lord, set forth your arguments.” Therefore, when you’re faced with the trials of life, take your trial to what I like to call the “heavenly court.” Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. (Isaiah 1:18) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” -Ephesians 2:8,9 I know its difficult to keep ones faith in the storm, but you must try, because when faith is gone, then suicidal thoughts sets in. Eph6:10-18 10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by purplelady: 8:27pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
For everyone going thru difficult times, please don't give up.After all I went thru one my favourite sayings has been 'this also shall pass'. No matter what it is, it will surely pass. Keep looking for solution and pray. It won't go away in one day. You did not get to this stage in one day. It will take time but it will pass. Who I am today, was just a wish a couple of years ago. Please also seek medical advice it is very important. Don't mind what people will say when they see you or hear you are seeking medical help. When you recover you will be of great to your family, your workplace and your community at large, because you will become more productive and a happier person. For those being harsh on people in distress, they don't need that kind of love. You need to be reasured that they can make it in a very nice way. If my doc had talked to me the way some people address others here, I never would have completed my therapy. The world has been harsh enough on them, their defence is weak, please don't pull down what is left. You will only end up making them go into a shell. Am sure this thread was not meant to send people to their shell,rather its to help them come out and discussion their issue. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by Nobody: 8:47pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
charles79: This test is your storm, but it won't be long . . . Just hold on, go through it. Hold on. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by meeofall: 8:55pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
[quote][/quote] You should go through the book of Job 38-42, I pray you derive strength from there. Actually, the Lord is your strength, hang on.weeping may last through the night but joy comes with the morning. God never lies, He sees our works. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by maclatunji: 9:25pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
charles79: Sorry to read your story. The first thing you need to do is to stop caring about what people think about your ailment. Think of how to take care of your self and maintain the best health under the circumstances. It is difficult to manage a chronic disease but you owe it to yourself to think positively. Killing yourself will only compound your misery as God and all his creatures will despise you for taking the gift of life that he has given you- the fact that you can complain about your problems is a blessing in itself- because some people are suffering and cannot communicate- yet they are not dead. Hold-on, an incurable disease today may get a cure tomorrow. Try natural products to maintain at least some better health if you can manage it. Even as dire as your case seems to be, I am sure that there are still people who care and still love you- don't push them away with anger and bitterness, let them help you. |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by maclatunji: 9:55pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
@Perx, don't try re-posting the 2nd part because the spam bot will ban you again. It should release your post soon and know that nobody but the (spam bot) programme mistakenly banned and held your post because it thinks it is spam. I guess that you use the internet as a means to get your mind if the dire situation- May God strengthen and heal you. However, I will be blunt about 'spiritual healers.' Your case is a medical condition- seek medical help. It is okay to have faith in God and pray but don't waste your money, time and resources with this so-called 'spiritual healers'. No doubt, your situation is dire but you are showing tremendous fortitude. Can you please tell me the exact diagnosis of this your condition? I want to do some research about it and see if I can forward information to you that you may find useful. It may not be immediate but I will strive to get back to you on it. Please kindly send the name of the condition to maclatunji@yahoo.com . I am not a doctor O but my research skills are not bad at all. Keep hope alive and think positive, things can still get better! |
| Re: Are You Feeling Suicidal? Come Here First! by maclatunji: 10:20pm On Dec 19, 2011 |
Tem01: Do not kill yourself my dear. If your husband is among those condemning you, then walk-out as soon as you can because you are already on the edge. Now, you need to know that your purpose in life goes beyond just having children and as for the wicked people making fun of you I say don't let them win- if you kill yourself, they have won. Seek appropriate medical diagnosis. Find out, if your not getting pregnant is actually due to a problem with you or your husband. There may not be a problem, maybe the time is not just right. I don't know if you have these answers but if you don't I suggest you get them. When you get them, don't despair if you find-out that a problem is found with you (I pray it is not the case) but if it does happen- find out what the solution will entail. If you have nobody to talk to. Post it here on this thread. If someone says something that hurts you, know that some of us will say something that will encourage you. Please just be patient, prayerful and seek strength from within yourself! |
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