While Chelsea is producing presidents like George Weah. There is a team producing alcohol ambassadors like Thierry Henrry.They are just Hovering around in Africa drinking Guinness. It is the truth, don't attack me.

James is a toddler who is very adventurous. He loves to play and most times takes things for granted. Everyday as he explores his environment and from his interactions with others coupled with their various reactions, he is learning to distinguish right from wrong.

One day, he is at school and his teacher asks “After letter E comes what?”
James lifts up his finger enthusiastically to answer the question. His teacher gives him a cue to answer.
He stands up and answers “G”.
His teacher begins to laugh and shouts
“Shame?
Shame?
Shame?”
The entire class responds “Shame!!!!” throwing their hands in James’ direction.
James seats down shamefully. His enthusiasm is killed.

After school, the driver comes to pick James up. As he carries him up, he notices that James has peed on his trousers.
He immediately dumps him on the ground singing “Pee pee pee pee baby. How are you? Shame!!!!” He bends down low to shout the 'shame' loudly into James’ ears.
James bursts out crying. His self-esteem is reduced.

At home, the nanny is helping James with his homework. She tries to hold his hand to help him grip the pencil properly. He refuses to allow her hold his hand. She gives him a knock on his head. He begins to cry.
She yells at him and tells him “If you cry now, I'll call 'ojuju' to come and bite you”. She makes a scary sound in James’ face. He gets frightened and wants to cry, but he remembers what the nanny just said and keeps quiet, sobbing instead. He feels scared and insecure.

What do you think is happening to James?
He's being emotionally abused.

*Emotional abuse* is very common with children and anyone can be the abuser, knowingly or unknowingly. We need to ensure that as parents, grand parents, siblings, aunties, uncles, teachers or caregivers our children experience healthy emotional growths.

A child is a holistic being therefore all aspects of development should be looked out for. Unfortunately, this aspect tends to be overlooked in child upbringing. In as much as we are interested in nuturing our children’s cognitive (reasoning and calculating skills), physical (movement), language (speech) , spiritual (relationship with God) and social developments (interactions with people, learning to greet adults etc), we should not overlook their emotional developments.

Some tips to help support healthy emotional child growth:

Play with your children. It drives positive energy into them. This helps shape their perception. It also helps them build better relationships with others.

Hug your children several times in a day, even for no reason at all. It gives them a sense of belonging. You can give a kiss too.

Constantly tell your children words like
*" I love you",
"I'm proud of you",
"I believe in you_ ".*
It's never too much. It makes them know that they are valued and boosts their self-esteem.

Don't compare your children with others, even their siblings. If you do this, you are silently teaching them that they can only be validated by other people’s opinion of them. They will always measure their progress by that of others. They will never appreciate their uniqueness and will always want to copy others. This breeds attitudes like envy, jealousy and strive.

Keep your children's secret secret. Children are human beings and are entitled to private lives too. Don't publicise their private life. In a case whereby the opinion of a third party is required, let them know why and encourage them that you'll be with them every step of the way.

Be open to your children. Tell them real life stories about how you made mistakes and learnt from them. It helps them to know that no one is perfect.

Don't scold, insult or talk your children down in public. Don't try to correct them in a humiliating manner or by way of ridicule. It makes them loose their self-confidence and self-worth.

No matter how your children perform, let them know that you are proud of them and you are their number one cheerleader. This will push them to perform better next time.

Listen to your children. Maintain eye-contact when they talk to you. This makes them open and helps you know when they are experiencing any problems.

Make your children understand that their problems are important and not irrelevant. Sometimes children make obnoxious demands but if you pay attention when they come with a ‘foolish’ demand, they'll still come running when there's something more serious.

Don't tell your children off. Instead, explain to them in a calm manner why they cannot always have their way.

Do not terrorize or threaten your children with police, soldiers, 'ojuju calabar' etc. It instils fear and insecurities in them.

When you make a promise to your children, no matter how insignificant, ensure that you keep it. This helps them develop trust and integrity.

Be the biggest fan of your children. Applaud and affirm them when they do what is right. Encourage them to keep on doing what they know how to do best. It boosts their self-confidence.

Give your children some space. Give them opportunities to make some decisions on their own. Even if you think they'll make mistakes, give them some benefits of doubt. And when they fail, show them that there's a better way to do it. You'll be raising independent and self-reliant children.

Let your children know that their opinions count. Once a while, get into their minds by throwing questions back at them using words like
“What do you think?”,
“What's your opinion about this?”
When you don't take their suggestions, let them know why. You'll be raising children that can think critically through problems and make intelligent decisions.

Let them know it's okay to fail and when they fail, it's not because they are incompetent but because they need to try other ways until they get it. You are silently teaching them perseverance and never to give up.

Control your own emotions as a parent. Children learn by mimicking and modeling what they see.

The list is inexhaustible.

May God help us as we raise balanced children.

http://www.streav.com/docs/to-all-caring-parents/

Instant infidelity. Done.

Emma was stunned. She asked if the admirer emails were a joke. She couldn’t believe I’d sent them; she’d really bought my I-can’t-stand-you act.

I countered by cataloging every time we’d seen each other, what she’d worn, what we’d spoken about. I told her I didn’t know why but since the day we’d been introduced, I hadn’t been able to stop thinking about her. Emma confessed how moved she was, and how surprised she was by her own reaction. After a few days of increasingly fervent exchanges, she hit me again: “Can I see you?”

Kelly was going out of town for a week — a week when Emma was coming to town to work at the university. The prospect of physical infidelity suddenly became very real. A part of me, albeit a tiny part, hoped that seeing Emma would ruin everything, that if we so much as kissed it’d be terrible.
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“Yes,” I said, “you can see me whenever you want.”

I should have asked myself “What am I doing?” But I didn’t. I’d convinced myself that this had nothing to do with Kelly. I know how ridiculous that sounds, but at the time it made sense.

When Emma arrived, we laughed and embraced awkwardly. She pushed into me with such force that I had to brace myself. The chemistry was unimaginable. I could smell the sweetness of her skin and hair, feel the wetness of her breath against my neck and the warmth of her breasts against my chest. She and I had barely even touched before. And now here she was, pressing the length of her beautiful, trembling body against mine. And for a moment that silent embrace was enough.

She stayed into the middle of the night; our ease with each other was profound and immediate. On Monday, Emma asked if she could see me Tuesday. We spent the entire day talking. She rang my bell early Wednesday morning, less than six hours after she’d left. I was overjoyed. By the end of that night it was clear we’d spend every minute possible together.

We finally made love on Friday, and spent the last two days in constant fervor. Being with Emma was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. My attraction to her was absolute, and I realized that my desire for her was inexhaustible.

To this point I had convinced myself that the only reason I’d been able to cheat so easily was that Kelly was out of town. It felt as though Emma and I had created another reality, where only she and I existed. The infidelity, as long as it lasted, would be a physical extension of that. Nothing more.........
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Fantasy becomes reality

Meanwhile, Emma still haunted me. I was sure my attraction was more than simply physical. It was, for whatever reason, deep and profound. I told no one, not even my closest friends.

Finally, after a couple of years, I could no longer suppress my feelings for Emma. I was compelled, despite all logical sense, to reach out to her. How could I reveal myself without hurting Kelly and risking our marriage?

I decided to send Emma secret-admirer emails. At the very least, I’d be able to vent some feelings. I emailed her once a week for a month, rerouting the messages through an anonymous remailer. They were simple notes laden with excerpts from poems and declarations about her beauty. If she kept the letters a secret, I decided, I might be able to confess without fear of exposure.

But she didn’t. She told Kelly, and Kelly told me: Emma had a secret admirer. No one could figure out who it was. I stopped sending the emails immediately.

Then, in the spring of 1999, I found a legitimate reason to contact Emma, who had by this time moved with her husband to another town. I had a question about a book I was reviewing, and it was on a subject I knew she’d studied extensively. Soon I managed to turn that single question into an ongoing correspondence. On the surface it seemed innocent, but eventually Emma asked, “I guess I wonder why we’re writing like this.” I took a breath and wrote back, “I don’t know, but I have to confess that I haven’t told Kelly.” Emma admitted that she hadn’t told her husband, either.

Our messages became longer and more philosophical. One day Emma wrote, “Can I ask you an odd question?”

“Go ahead,” I replied.

She wrote: “This may sound stupid, but…a few years ago I received a couple of anonymous secret-admirer emails. I never discovered who sent them. Thing is, a phrasing in one of your recent emails was almost exactly the same as in one of the anonymous ones. Was it you who sent them?”

I thought about it all day. Finally, at 2am, I wrote, “Yes. It was me.”

http://www.streav.com/groups/romance/forum/topic/why-i-cheated-inside-the-mind-of-the-male-adulterer/

Kelly and I had been together for 12 years, married for eight. We complemented each other in all the important ways. Neither the happiest nor the unhappiest couple we knew, we believed we’d be together forever.

The problems began the day her friend Emma entered our lives. When we met, about seven years ago, I was overwhelmed by a sense of familiarity, as though we already knew each other.

I was drawn in equal measure to Emma’s dark-haired beauty and striking style — two parts British Vogue, one part Frida Kahlo — and to her wit and intelligence. I thought of her constantly and dreamed of her with alarming frequency. Emma, however, didn’t seem overly impressed with me. She was also, apparently, happily married. That I was too, or thought I was, seemed almost irrelevant.

She and Kelly weren’t actually that different. They shared an area of study — both taught literature — and even looked alike. If someone had told me at the beginning of my marriage that someday I would feel equally drawn to another woman, I would not have believed it. And even now I had not stopped loving Kelly. The problem was simple: I was deeply drawn to both women.

The solution was also simple: I’d cut off all contact with Emma. I avoided situations where we might run into each other. When we did, I’d excuse myself and not return. People assumed I disliked her. I felt I was acting honorably, sacrificing a part of myself for my marriage. But nothing I did alleviated my shame, nor did it enhance the marriage I was trying to protect.

Thinking about Emma made me feel guilty, which, absurdly, made me resent Kelly — and that made me feel even more guilty. Something was clearly wrong with my marriage. Or was it just me?

I began to look at parts of our life I’d never taken the time to analyze. There were problems in the marriage. When we were first together, we used to fight passionately about the things we disagreed on — careers, money. Over time, though, we’d stopped arguing. Fights that had lasted hours or days condensed themselves into brutal one-line battles. Instead of facing our conflicts, we chose to ignore them and hope they’d go away.

http://www.streav.com/groups/romance/forum/topic/why-i-cheated-inside-the-mind-of-the-male-adulterer/

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Evil can be defined, but it’s hard to pin down. Simply put: an evil person is someone who engages in malevolent behaviors. Some argue that they’re immoral, sick, depraved, or wicked, but those words are hard to define. Immorality to one is normalcy to another.

But when you meet an evil person, no amount of questioning definitions will change your mind. The truth is, you will know it when you see it.

Evil people come from all sorts of places, often ones you wouldn’t expect. We find them at our schools, at our churches and places of worship, in the homes of our friends; everywhere we look.

These are the warning signs a person is evil. Spot these characteristics in someone and you can be sure that whatever good is left in them, they will use it against you. There is only one solution for the evil people in our lives.

1. They enjoy the misfortune of others.

The malevolent ways of evil people often leave them so twisted and turned around on the inside that they feel good when they see misfortunate. It might be a disaster on the news or a dramatic situation in front of them. They seem to delight in misfortune, to relish the bad feelings of other people.

All the times that an evil person has been hurt in their life falls away when bad things happen to other people. The real danger here is that they could create bad situations for you and others in their life in order to be able to enjoy the misfortunate that they create.

It is important to recognize who they are before terrible things happen to you and the people they love. If horrible things happening is all that can help them feel better, you can’t salvage or save them.

2. They have control issues.

Evil people have this in common: they’re controlling. But it’s not all about controlling you. They often feel downright uncomfortable and powerless if they aren’t in control of every aspect of their lives.

Malevolent people are often so cruel to the world and to the people around them that they can’t entrust any part of their lives to another person. Because of this obsession, they can come off as polite, concise, and punctual. But when you let them get closer, they start controlling your life too, making you just like them.

Defying the wishes of an evil person doesn’t always result in outright evil actions back to you. It may feel subtle. Not a slap to the face but a kick to the heart. The goal of the evil person is to control the way you feel on the inside, not how you feel on the outside.

3. They are habitually dishonest.

Let’s be real. Everyone lies. We all do it. Some are little lies, others are big, big lies. But while everyone lies, not everyone is a liar.

A liar is a real special breed. They lie pathologically, constantly, and sometimes without even realizing it. An evil liar will often lie so much that their lies are what form their reality. In living a life of lies, their own minds become prisoners to their own evil behaviors.

Some evil people only lie a little bit, maybe stretching the truth to make themselves seem stronger, smarter, or better. Some evil people lie about you and others. But one thing is for sure: they are liars.

The lies serve as a tool to manipulate a reality that doesn’t serve them the way they’d like. When caught in a lie, they will probably try to gaslight you. Make you question reality as it is and make you continue to look to them as a source of strength when all they really are are liars.

4. You feel strange around them.

It’s been pretty well-demonstrated that each of our bodies emit an energy field. Why that is, we’re not totally clear on. It could serve as an intuitive defense system. But in the same way that if you eat bad food, it shows on your skin; if you’re evil on the inside, it shows up in your energy field.

This might be why evil people give you a creepy feeling without them having actually done anything evil to you at all. Who they are on the inside can be picked up in their subtle energy field by your energy field.

Often times, one of the surest signs a person is evil is that you just don’t feel right around them. You get creepy feelings and can’t quite put your finger on it.

You might sound crazy to people listening to you talk about it, but don’t deny the way the evil people in our world make you feel. Trust your gut and don’t worry about it steering you wrong. If you get the wrong sense about someone, apologize. But better safe than sorry.

5. They mislead you.

Controlling reality is what gives an evil person most of their power. In doing so, they’re able to make it conform to their petty wants and desires. This is why evil people have a tell: they mislead you into thinking one way or another about them, about the people in your life already, and about yourself.

This misleading can come in many different forms, like misquoting, lying, or stretching the truth and twisting the facts. The end result is a world of their creation and a world that you have trouble understanding or believing in.

This is one way to spot an evil person, especially a sly one: look for ways they mislead others. If you see it, go the other direction right away.

6. They lack remorse.

Let’s cover what we’ve talked about so far: Evil people are controlling. They’re liars. They delight in misfortune. They make you feel weird on the inside. You know the worst part about it all? They aren’t ever sorry for the things they do and the way they make you feel. Evil people truly have no remorse.

If you press them on the fact that they’re unapologetic for their malevolent behavior, they’ll deflect, push it off onto you, and gaslight you into thinking the reality you know to be true isn’t actually true. In reality, all they want to do is maintain their current quality of life by controlling you, and an apology would indicate fallibility.

The evil ones in our world want you to see perfection to keep you wrapped around their fingers. Admission of fault would shatter that image they’ve carefully cultivated.

7. They are cruel.

So far, we’ve talked about evil people and the subtle ways they express their inner malevolent desires. Not all evil people like to be sly about it. Some choose to be outward with it. And one way they do so is through cruelty.

This can come in the form of getting into fights, hurting their loved ones — their spouses, their children, their friends, or even hurting animals. Evil people are often victims of the prisons they’ve built for themselves, which is why they take so much joy out of misfortune and pain.

It dulls the pain they each have inside of their hearts. But that doesn’t mean you justify it or stick by evil people.

If you’re with someone who expresses themselves in such cruel ways, find ways to get away as soon as you can. One day, they may push their cruelty too far and really do some serious damage.

8. They lack responsibility.

An evil person has no sort of a moral compass. They’ll do as they please and will never feel responsible for the pain they have caused to others. If they sense any sort of blame coming their way, they’ll start redirecting it immediately.

They love to shift the blame to others and have no understanding of what an apology is. They think apologizing is for the weak. They’d much rather make you apologize for THEIR mistakes.

Waoo, op continue your good job

Could this be one of the greatest Christian Songs of all time?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bNm7cbmSmCg

**NIGERIA:

*Christmas: Boko Haram burn 3 persons to death, abduct woman in Borno

*Mercy Abang: Sexual predators on the prowl, Nigeria​n kids the target

*Those who cause violence in Oyo now in APC – PDP

*NNPC, DPR uncover illegal fuel reservoirs in Abuja

*‘Sound of Music’ actress Heather Menzies-Urich, dead

*This is our worst Christmas, Nigerian laments

*Houses torched, vehicles vandalized as insurgents attack Maiduguri

*Liberian run-off: Jonathan calls foru peace, urges candidates to accept results

*Fuel Scarcity: Illegal petrol reservoir uncovered in Abuja

*Defection of former VP Atiku to PDP a futility – Masari

*Katsina ex-Speaker dumps PDP for APC

*Four killed in fresh Southern Kaduna attack, more troops deployed

*I thought I was 74 but was told I’m 75 –Buhari

*PDP Chief Asks Court To Sack Treasurer, Deputy Spokesman

*Gunmen raid Maina’s house, handcuff guard

*Peter Okoye, joins Olamide, others at Lagos music fiesta

*George Weah or Joseph Boakai: Liberians must choose new leader today

*FCTA imposes six to six indefinite curfew on Bwari township

*Buhari mourns Inuwa Dutse, condoles with govt., people of Jigawa

*2017 most difficult year for Nigeria – Buhari

*NNPC not FG bears the cost of fuel subsidy – Osinbajo

*Curfew imposed on Abuja town as three deaths confirmed

*Christmas : Church feeds 4,739 needy people in Ogun

*North-East leaders’ unity led to passage of NEDC bill-Dogara

*2019: I’ll reposition Imo as most progressive state – APC guber aspirant

*Anambra Central: Umeh confident of January 13 rerun

*Boko Haram attack on Maiduguri foiled after jihadis in pickups infiltrate civilian convoy

*The CBN non-oil export stimulation facility

*VAIDS: FIRS to offer free consultancy services to taxpayers –Fowler

*Bank debtors to undergo credit rating –CBN

*Recession downgrades Nigerian banks, eurobond in 2017

*INCDMB targets $14bn value retention for oil sector

*‘FG to plug deficit with $300m from Diaspora bond’

*Road maintenance: Funds paucity impede FERMA’s activities –Rafindad

*Air Peace takes delivery of Boeing 737 aircraft

*Bleak Xmas as ATMs, PoS machines malfunction

*SEC halts Crypto stock over manipulation concerns

*Wike advocates united political platform for Rivers development

*Fuel queues persist at Christmas, labour lambasts FG

*No plan to increase fuel price, says Osinbajo

*Banks’ Borrowing From CBN Increases By 52% In December

*Suspected ritual killer arrested with dead baby – Police

*Gunmen raid Maina’s house, handcuff guard

*PDP chief asks court to sack treasurer, deputy spokesman

*Gunmen kill three as LG officials share Christmas gifts

*Buhari fails to award national honours in two years

*Gunmen on the rampage kill six on Christmas Eve

*Hoodlums in camouflage invade Ogun community, shoot resident

*How EFCC gave free publicity to Innoson

*Oyo, Kwara residents spend Christmas at petrol stations

*Police tackle artiste Praiz over alleged harassment by SARS

*Fuel queues persist at Christmas, labour lambasts FG

*How I came out better from sickness – Buhari

* NNPC not FG bears the cost of fuel subsidy – Osinbajo

*Army aborts Boko Haram attack at checkpoint

*Lagos CP denies Praiz ‘harassment’ allegation

**AFRICA:

*Attackers torch Democratic Republic of Congo president's property

*Nigerian army says it repels suspected Boko Haram militant attack

*Nigerian military says it repels suspected Boko Haram attack

*Emirates stops flying to Tunisia in row over ban on Tunisian women

**WORLD:

*Venezuela's opposition reinvents itself with soup kitchens

*One Man’s Stand Against Junk Food as Diabetes Climbs Across India

*Liberians vote in delayed run-off poll

*1917: Americans Skate in No Man’s Land and Bait Enemy

*A Topless Protester Tried to Snatch a Baby Jesus Figure From the Vatican's Nativity Scene

*Trump to end first year as president without hosting a state dinner

*China hands down harshest sentence in multi-year rights crackdown

*New clashes in Peru over Fujimori's pardon

*Pakistan army says Indian fire kills 3 soldiers in Kashmir

*Building owner, manager arrested in South Korean fire that killed 29

*Chinese human rights activist jailed for eight years for subversion

*Duterte’s son resigns as Davao vice mayor after drug case, failed marriage

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It's a Wednesday night, and my boyfriend and I are drinking wine and making out in the back booth of a dimly lit bar. It feels like nothing else in the world exists… until my phone vibrates.

"It's my husband. The kids are in bed," I say, then put my phone in my purse and pull my boyfriend toward me. I spend half a second staring at the diamond on my engagement ring before hiding my hand from my sight line. It's not a secret that I'm married, but it's also not something I want to think about right now.



Am I a horrible person? Without context, I know I sound horrible. But in my marriage, having affairs works. My husband and I don't talk about it. But I'm certain our don't-ask-don't-tell rule is what has allowed our marriage to last as long as it has.

Notice that I didn't say we're in an open marriage — we're not. An open marriage is transparent, with agreed-upon rules and an understanding of what both parties will and will not do with others. My marriage is opaque. I recognize what Frank and Claire Underwood have in House of Cards, although I like to think my husband and I aren't as soulless as their characters. But there are similarities: We know the other has secrets, but we don't care to find out more. It's an attitude people think of as very French — the idea that you can have an affair and a healthy marriage. Quite honestly, it works. But that doesn't mean it's easy.

When Dave* and I met in our late 20s, I knew that he was a player. So was I. We also had chemistry beyond anything else I'd ever experienced. We just got each other. When I was with him, I could be myself. He was the only boyfriend I've ever told the truth to about how many men I'd slept with, because I believed that no matter what I said, he'd never judge me. He also never seemed to get jealous.

After about six months of late-night booty calls, Dave and I settled into a proper relationship and started calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend. At first, it was incredibly volatile. After not hearing from him for an evening, I'd go ballistic. He'd refuse to engage, saying he had nothing to apologize for. We yelled about cheating — he'd do it, I'd do it, we'd be furious with each other. But eventually, I realized this dynamic wouldn't change. One of us would always act out if cheating was against the rules.

But what if it wasn't? What if we both admitted that, yes, we were sometimes tempted, and that sometimes we acted on that temptation? I think I was the one who brought it up over dinner one night, just after we'd moved in together. I told him that I'd no longer ask questions, that I didn't want to know. He said he'd do the same. We reaffirmed that we loved each other, and that wouldn't change. And then, without drawing up any official rules, we embarked on our anything-but-traditional relationship.

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La Liga Echoing Messi Records

The King of Akan, located in the village of Adansi Aboabo in Ghana, Eric Manu, has returned to Canada to resume his job as a gardener in order to raise money to provide health care for his subjects.

Manu became king when his 67-year-old uncle, Dat, passed away in 2016.

After living in Canada for three years with his wife and son, he had moved back to his town in southern Ghana to take up his birthright.

He told CTV News, “It’s a huge experience. You have to embrace it with passion.

“It’s something of my heritage, my culture, and traditions.”

But now, Manu has returned to the North American country to take his old job back.

Moving back to the British Columbia area of Canada, he has returned to landscaping and gardening in the town in a bid to raise cash for his 6,000 people.

Manu said, “Sometimes, we go to the (job) site and they say, ‘You are the chief. I saw you on TV.

“Why are you doing the landscaping?’

“This is humility, you understand? Anytime I’m in Canada, I’m proud to work for my boss.”

When Manu first moved, his boss, Susan Watson, started a foundation called ‘To The Moon and Back’, which sent the young king off with a shipment full of school supplies, clothing, laptops and medical supplies.

Watson, the owner of The Landscape Consultants, travelled to Ghana for the ceremony and said, “They’re beautiful inside and out and they have absolutely nothing.

“And you (Manu) came home here and most of us are miserable and we want something more.”

https://punchng.com/west-african-monarch-works-as-gardener-in-canada/

Nawa o, it is seriously serious.... Lol

Op, must you behave like uneducated person to be heard? Why are you disgracing yourself in the public like this?