I call my man "Daddy" all the time. Some people think it's weird. I was a fatherless child, so maybe that's why? But I love it and he thinks it's sexy. Can't imagine stopping it any time soon. I think it makes him feel powerful and I like making him feel powerful.

Females I think, but I don't know because we have 3 sons. People keep saying if we have a girl, it would cost so much, and I believe them. Between the clothes, hairbows, socks, shoes, and hairdos, girls cost more than boys. We put our boys in tshirts and basketball shorts, though their shoes cost more. For a girl, she would certainly have a bigger wardrobe between clothes, shoes, and accessories. After highschool, I think they are even. Here, girls don't marry any earlier than boys though many of the girls I know have a more independent spirit. I'm willing to spend all that extra money to have a daughter. After 3 boys, I don't even think the boys would mind lavishing her in clothes and gifts.

You have a beautiful family. I think your baby looks like Daddy. She is adorable. You are all well dressed. Your wife looks genuinely happy. Great pics!

It really depends on the age, the child, and the offense. When children are smaller, they tend to need more spankings because they don't have a filter and tend to do more dangerous things. It's about saving their lives. Spankings are more effective because they don't have reasoning skills. As they get older, you can do more scolding because they understand reason, but when they do something outrageous, they still need spankings. It also depends on the child. Some children are completely unreasonable and need many spankings, especially when they have committed the same offense more than once. Finally, it depends on how serious what they did is. Lying and/or stealing automatically warrant a spanking. Things like not putting away toys or not finishing their homework usually require a scolding. We also like to take things away in our house. Last week, our second son did not finish and turn in his homework. His dad took away all screens (no tv/game/tablet) for more than a week. This hurt our son immensely. If he does it again, he will get a spanking, lose screens for a month, and get a daily scolding. Our oldest gets A LOT of spankings, though he's almost a teenager, because he's always doing something ridiculous and never seems to think it is his fault. We always follow up spankings with scoldings. Children must understand why they are getting spankings and that it is a corrective action for their benefit.

It also depends on the parent. I used to be a really, really strict, spanking parent. As my children got older, I scolded more. Their father is the same. Just tonight, while I was at the store, he spanked our youngest, who is 7, for deliberately spraying water from the shower sprayer onto their bathroom floor after I meticulously cleaned the boys' bathroom. When I got home, I scolded him. I asked him "Are you a stupid boy?" He responded "No". I said "You are right. You are not a stupid boy, so you must make good decisions. That was not a good decision". Then I told him how to clean it up properly, which he did. I think he needed both, in this situation, because we have only ever scolded about them wetting up the floor. Anyway, yes, it depends on a lot of things. Only you know your child.

@Gracious2015, my friend is a little older now (mid-twenties) and this happened a few years ago. She lives on her own, has a good job, and is persuing her education. She is very lively, and seems to really enjoy her life. She is not married, and does not have more children. I don't know how much she thinks about it though as we only speak of her daughter every couple of months. She is pretty good at hiding her feelings so for all I know she cries at night, but maybe not. I think that she would still make the same decision again if put in the same situation. The baby went to a very successful family. I know the mother is a doctor, and if I remember, the father owns a business. The family is black, as are we. She probably feels good that her baby has parents that love her very much. But, my friend does want to have children someday. Here, adoption is not frowned upon, but it still must be a heart-wrenching decision. After carrying my babies for 9 months, regardless of the situation, I couldn't have given them to someone else. Some people are stronger than me, or maybe have a more selfless love. When I had my first child, I was definitely not in a good situation. I was still in college, dependent upon my family, and his father was not stable or supportive (accept at the beginning and the very end, but only in words). However, I kept my baby, and eventually finished school though it was a long and treacherous journey. I had another son in a similarly bad situation (I have made numerous, stupid, brainless mistakes, ugh) and made the best of it. Now I have graduated, am a teacher, and am married to the best father that I could've imagined for my children. My life has turned around greatly, and I feel supremely blessed. So you see, my friend and I chose different paths, the ones that were best for us. It is all about what you can live with. Continue to lean on faith!

I'm sorry you are in such a tough situation. My best friend was in a similar situation and gave her baby girl up for adoption a few years ago. This happened before I met my friend. We talk of her daughter sometimes whom she does not see but gets updates on sometimes. It must be very, very difficult. I am in the US, but if I were near you, honestly, I would love to adopt your little girl as we are stable, have only boys, and are unable to conceive in the last several years. However, because of the distance, and the law, I am sure this is not possible. Anyway, I hope you are able to make the best decisions for your and your baby. Many blessings to you.

LOL this thread is so funny. When I was younger (and dumber), I dated based on a system I created called CBP. My first question? "Does this man have CBP?" CBP = Cute baby potential. Once I had beautiful children with a deadbeat, I decided that my system was flawed. Having a loving parent is more important. But this thread is still amusing.

Sorry, I don't know any Igbo names. I see the poster above suggested Chinyere. I have a student named Chinyere. She is pretty, athletic, and lively.

As far as English names, Andew & Alexis, Jacob and Julia, Micheal and Michelle, Tyler and Taylor, Kevin and Kali, Caleb and Charlotte. What there are you going for?

I met my spouse in 2011. At the time, I had just gotten my B.S. and was in graduate school. As a "reward" for myself, I bought my dream car (at the time). Everywhere I went, I got a lot of attention for this car, especially from men (I am a woman). One day, I was at the gas station filling up, and a guy said something about my car. I blew him off like "yeah, take a number". The gas station was close to my best friend's house.

The very next day, my best friend and I were at a nearby apartment building to visit her friend (in the area) and I saw the same guy! Again he spoke to me. We went for a ride in my car. He commented on a bible in my backseat. He said he really liked that. The rest is history! We have been together ever since.

Yes, I know this story is weird. A girl, with a cool car, who takes a guy for a ride. I'm from the US though, where people do ridiculously weird things, for no apparent reason, everyday.