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MizAijay:
Ok I'm just seeing this thread and decided to add my two cents. Like some people said, start by finding out his friends and with the help of his teachers cause a separation if them friends are a bad influence. Secondly, I'm not sure what mode of punishment you give him when he offends. If you stay in Nigeria please try some punishment that will make him feel the pain even days after. For example, my dad hardly flogged us but his punishments will reset our brains quickly. I could list them on demand if you want. Make him understand things that can earn him punishment. Also, do not threaten to punish him if you know you won't carry out your threat. If you ever threaten please make sure you carry it out. Finally, at this age you need to do more talking and less flogging(flog when you really have to). Talk, talk, talk, keep talking and don't stop talking. Make him understand that there are repercussions to every action, good or bad. On days when he acts right, he should be acknowledged and on reverse day please do not hesitate to spell it out to him that he crossed the line. This is the age you have to give in your all to moulding that child's life. Well done ma'am. The Lord is your strength.

Tanx so so much, I appreciate ur contributions. Can u list some of d purnishment.

chingynt:
Lai Mohamed.. where are they rushing to? And at what age will they enter university?

I tire oo

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wadetaw202:
Please how can I get their contacts

Why did it take u so long to decide! Presently, I don't have any of their contact again cos I have changed my fone but I will see what I can do.
Pls do well to remind me. My contact.09053973839.

emsco:
but am in lagos

Wao, will it be too much for u to send thru transport? If no I'll pay for d waybill. Thanks.

Oyinlomobambam:
This is a post from a good friend and I want nairalander to pls advice


Their was a time am financially buoyant and I think I tried my best to make everyone around me happy in one way or the other. Now all is not going on well cos I lose my job a year ago and still managing the resource I have left, but people close to me didn't believe am broke. They still want me given them like before, even my mom didn't believe I don't have money cos one of my uncle came to me to borrow money to boost his business and I told him am broke for now that I can't be of help. But to my surprise, my mom came the following day that I should pls borrow him that he'll return it later, I told her that she knew am not working for now and I don't have money but she was like "you don't work doesn't mean you don't have money"
Is it because I don't complain to them?
is it because I didn't wear one cloth?
is it because am trying to survive on my own

Please how do I make them know am very broke?

Hmmm, ur story reminds me of d drama we faced in 2011 when my husband ( a banker)lost his job. His mother requested for money and we have nothing to give her then. We have a boy, i was 7months pregnant and I haven't secured my job then do u know that his mother stopped communicating with us for close to a year- Not even when I put to bed. I cannot count d amount of money spent on her health at uch, her business, etc.

Just last month, one of my hubby's relation called his uncle to report him when we couldn't afford all they requested from us. That was d last straw that broke d camel's back. This same uncle has never call my hubby to know how he was fairing ever since 2011, buy because we have never complained to any of his relation DAT we don't have what to eat, pay d children school fees, pay all other bills,etc
Shey before I use to borrow money for them if they r in need, they still have d gut to be reporting us for a demand that is not our responsibility. I told my hubby point black that it is his fault any way.

U know why? Uptill now he has not gotten much doing, we've been living on my salary and it has not been easy at all. I expected him to have let them know this by actions- complaint, not borrowing for them.
Man wise up! God will bless u again, u will get another gud job but please invest for ur self.

Fortius:
Oops! The clothes are for newborn sizes to 6months,sorry ma.

Thanks for ur gud heart God will bless u ma.

Fortius:
Waoh!..happy to join this wonderful thread

PH: Baby girls clothes

Location: Ogun

Ma, I am interested in baby girl wears. Location is osun.
My girl is one.

emsco:
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kimbra:
Some people will say don't spank him but if you over pamper him he'll get worse. A little spanking does not kill but corrects. When he does wrong, don't overlook. It's your duty to guild him as his parent. Give him punishment like pick-pin in place of spanking at times. Go to his school and find out who his best friend is from his teacher and how behaved the child is, if the report is negative, tell him to stop playing with that child. Also look for the most behaved and brilliant child in his class and point the child to him. His teacher could be of help here while you do yours at home.

Thanks so much, I really appreciate u.

Dyt:
Plz stop beating that child
At least for now
You have tried correcting in a hard way but not working
Pls result to the loving manner
Take him out
Talk to him
Threaten him what he loves most if he misbehaves

Not all kids want to be treated like animals
Pls
Stop beating

Thanks, we shall try that. I pray it'll work.

GH: broilers, 6wks and above old, any pieces,
3litres of forceup chemical or its equivalent for my farm. Location is osun state. Pls help a sister in need if u r capable.Thanks n God bless.

AnthonioAlsaid:
GH: graduate from school 150k

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ojoj:
Try to manage him, most NOTall of them are like dat. He will change as he matures. I had a family friend sometime ago. They nearly cursed God for given them such a child but the boy changes with maturity. Just be positive. It is well!

Thanks.

elektra:
What of his father? Can you hand over your son to his dad?
My brother was stubborn like that and my dad was more than capable of treating his fvk up. My mum just handed him over to my dad and up until university my dad was watching my brother like a hawk.

My husband do give him punishment but dat does not stop him from doing another thing DAT will beat ur imagination.

sisisioge:
You see why I keep advocating for the girl child? Their wahala dey moderate biko. I honestly don't know where they get their energy from. Pele. May God bless our babies

Amen. Though he is hardworking but honestly I could have return him to his parents had it been that he is not my child.

Pidgin2:
You just have to be tough but still loving. My elder brother was like that, he broke his jaw and other parts of his body due to rough play but now that he's grown, he's such a gentleman you would never believe that he was once like that. He's your cross dear, it will get better as he grows hopefully.

There was a time he watched judge of d jungle film then did u know it was God that saved him from dying cos he actually wanted to jump from d floor to d staircase. Hw was seriously battered i cant count d number of time he has wounded himself. he carried his sister few weeks ago and put her inside drum. I asked why he did that, he said he was just playing

NairalandSARS:
@noloss. How old is he?

He is going to 8yrs

thanks for d contribution whitebread.

I don't even know where to start from. My boy do some unimmaginable things that atimes I will be speechless. For instance, if I bought him slipas, after about 3months or so he'll use scissors to cut it, the first time he does that I scolded him and talked to him that if he doesn't want d slipas again he should have told me I will buy another one for him then we'll keep it, another person may need it. I bought another slipas but to my greateat surprise he repeated the same thing. Recently, i seized all his balls because he was too playful. Then my boy used d only transparent cellotape i bought to rap their torn book to do ball. He collected some old books, moulded it like ball and used my transparent cellotape to rap it to make it ball. Last week he used a cartoon of crayon in one day to paint nothing imagine! he took d only touch and light at home and dismantled it for no reason to mention but few. Old parents in the house what is d best way to correct/mould a stubborn boy.
It pained me to see him do opposite of what I tell him, i have been praying and still praying for him a times I punish, beat and talked to him even cry atimes. My girls r not like that. Why r boys difficult to raise. Old boys in d house what method d u wish ur parents could have used to correct u then. Pls don't mind my errors. I'll appreciate ur comments. Thanks.

na wa oo. am short of word's

Nabyforce

mercichoco:
In my area, they share estimated bills. Ours, a building with 8 flat (one bedroom) was #8,528.58

Note - we are more familiar with darkness than light

It is too early abegi
Cant stop laughing @ more familiar than darkness. Dis is change era u know

This happened last week in my family and i will try to explain the scenerio to d'best of my knowledge.

Carol(not real name)born a Baby girl to james(not real name), they named the child bola but unfortunately james died when bola was 8months old. James was d d only male child of her mother, he had 3other female siblings.
When james died, carol took care of their child for about two years then one day James'. Dad approached carol for marriage and carol declined. When it was obvious that carol would not yield to their plea they took bola from her mom and refused any form of communication with carol.

Few years after, carol remarried and still maintained communication with her daughter, gives her pockets money when she was in skool, invited her to her new home,etc. Bola is now 25.

Bola took her fiancee to her mum for intro last year n they communicate regularly. Carol asked her daughter when will d'wedding come up but she was told it it is not yet time. Then last week, 3days to d'engagement Bola called her mum to inform her dat her grand parents have decided it dat way.

Carol did not attend and did not cal her daughter to congratulate her. Her reasons are:
1.Bola should have insisted her mum must grace d' ocassion.
2. the notice is too short, she could not start informing her people at dat time.
3.It is not suppose to be her daughter dat will inform her.probably an elderly family member.
4.They probably did not want her, hence the short notice.

Has carol done well?

If u r carol, would u have attended the party?
What will u do afterward? Call ur daughter to congratulate her or not?
Mature minds will be appreciated. Thanks.

Gud evening nairalanders. Let me start by apologising for any typo.and also thank u in advance for taking out of ur time to read and probably comment on dis post.

Due to economic situation in dis country now, there was a serious need for us to source for additional means of income. I got an idea of going into animal husbandry, made a survey of what will be needed to start and acquire necessary info on it but was still sourcing for fund when a friend offer to finance it but said i will be d'one to take care of (physical labour)it but we'lll share d'profit together.
Given dat i own d'land to be used what do u think shd be:
1. Formula for profit sharing
2.Terms and conditions to agree on as i have not be in partnership with anybody in bus prior to dis time and wouldn't want to be cheated nor nite bite d'finger dat fed me.
Pls, if u r in my shoes what measures will u take? Thanks.

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Post in business section.

Thanks

Truly true.thanks.

Dis is seriously serious!