Oluromantic:
What do you mean you clean cooljk for him?

Lol. Maazi get family for naija. Like 5 children weh dey here compared to the one there. If na you where you go send money go. You better begin plan for yourself and your pikin. Once residence permit/citizenship click, na you and your God go remain

He every time send money to hs sister

Hello all
Am European .My boyfrend is from Nigerian igbo,we are together and we have smal baby gurl We base in Europe
He is abusive controling and stingy He canot buy me almost notn bt send regulary money to his country He doesnt even wana provide anymore for our baby gurl He made me to remove my socuoal media acounts Last time he hit me so much that my nose bleed Wana leave him bt he says he canot live without our baby gurl He also doesnt help me about put baby gurl i feel as single mother What should i do?Let me also say i clean cooljk for him and am very good woman

1F30M4:
NONAME11223 If you ain't chasing clout here yhh... I breezed through your profile a while ago, there's just so many questions and I'm stumped for words.. Likeee wtf! Girrl, you are so unbelievable jeezz..

I honestly cannot for the life of me understand how you would be treading a very clear road path in broad daylight, with your eyes wide open yeah and consciously choose to walk right straight into a ditch.. Over and over and over again.. Why? Why would you do that to yourself? And to what end really? For love that do not care, that do not respect you, that do not support you so much so you're treated like a worthless leech.. And you're really waiting to have the marriage talk with this same person? Is this the love & life you truly want for yourself, the future you envisioned for yourself? Wow, just wow..

Aalll the while, the handwriting has been on the damn wall but you probably mistook it for some work of art that could fade off sometime, you didn't/don't want to take off the rose-colored love-shaped glasses you had/have on to see things for what they really were/are.. Just curious, do you still have those glasses on? Yeah cos after these past few years, I thought you would've snap those broken pieces stuck in your facial skin.. Or no you're waiting till you "lose your eyes"? Is that it? Why dear? Huh? Do you hate yourself that much?

Well, all I can say is this.. You do need help, serious help so please go get help as soon as you can.. And when this is all over, do see a therapist as well.

which type of help?

Olibboy:
you are trying to build the relationship. Give him distance he will surely know your worths

how can i do that?I am now with baby in country where he lives so we live together.So how can i give him distance?

Olibboy:
he is a man of his word he doesn't like to consider. Some pple marry out of pity

i dont want him to mary me out if pity...bt he has told me many times he doesnt like me or love me

Olibboy:
in short you're baby mama...knw this and knw peace

I did everything for him.I was good to him i cook clean i gave him baby now but stil he doesnt wana mary me...Why

bepositive11:


Since he is like this, you shouldn't be thinking about marriage.

It's hard for men like him to change. You will have to find a way to become financially independent and start a new life without him.

He may be treating his daughter well, but by mistreating you, he's setting a bad example for her. He may even turn abusive to her when she grows up

Do you both communicate well? If he really loves his daughter, he should treat you well and set a good example for her

I think your boyfriend lacks respect for women. I wonder how you got to this stage. Either way, stay strong. Try to become financially independent then leave. I hope he doesn't hurt you badly

Just my opinion. Think for yourself and decide what's best

I thought he wil change when i give him baby but i see i was wrong.He always insult me i am doing everything wrong not doing nothing right.He never suport me for anythigg saying I cant do nothing right..he always has something to conplain about every day.For example why dishes r not enough dry or why is spoun so so place or about my looks and i am nice woman n slim.Bt he always put me down in anything.He control witj whom i talk to he has made me block all my friends .But stil he never talk about mariage.He beat me even when i was pregnant..

GeneralPula:


Her profile doesn’t justify anything..

E fit still be say nah you be OP self..

Ah mean, I’m Just saying

i am teling truth i wil give you my whatsap so we can talk

Dear all,i am white european and my boyfriend is Nigerian Igbo.I been knowing him for long time.We are both based in Europe.He was always abusive and stingy to me.I cook and clean for him as a wife.He has beaten me up even when i was pregnant.He wont buy me even food that i want.If i ask him to buy me shampoo or comon things he wil find it dificult.Me i canot work because of my papers i am not from Europe Union country.I born baby for him thinking that he wil.change.He loves his baby he has bought for her everything but he stil insult me and making me feel as nothing.About mariage he stil doesnt talk.Pls what should I do?I am tired of being abused mentaly and phisicaly

Truvel:
Go & Work & Get Ur Own Money. Must He Do Everything 4 U?

EVERYTHING??what is that??I am talking how he does nothing!!!

BigDick70inch:


Where r u from huh??
A Nigerian??

no i am white from Europe

falcon01:
because he's stingy. but have you tried asking him for Those? like the boots and other stuffs?

yes here ia cold i need boots then he wil say he need boots for.himself too!!!

falcon01:
yes, tell him to borrow you

i canot work here...I domt wana tel him to barrow me.My question is why he give me only basic food??

Hi everyone!I been with this Nigerian guy from.igbo for 2 years but i know him.for 10 years.I am in Europe now with him where he works and i am not able to work coz of my papers.He give me only basic food and doesnt buy me no clothes as in i need boots for winter here is cold he wil not buy for me.He earns around 2000 euro per months and wil spend on food 40 or 50 euro in a months!!!I never ask him to take me to restauranta but pls ia this normal??All he does is send money to Nigeria saying he is sending to his sister.And then at end of months i dont eveb have fruits or vegetavles and even shampoo for my hair!Pls i am.not someone that wil sit at home.and expect man to pay for my needs but pls is this normal??Not to say he is very controling he doesnt talk.about marriage and he force me to work...and also he is abusive he has hit me few times

Rockyfancino:
That type of life is not a life.

On the other side too, it may be because you no longer look attractive to him, like you're big and you don't make-up. He probably doesn't want to tell you to leave because he knows he has delayed you for over 10 years. But you should try looking attractive and sexy both in appearance and on bed, afterwards,you can talk to him.
If the maltreatment continues, it'll be better you leave... Everyone deserves a peaceful and sweet life. And hope there wasn't a time you treated him badly in the past, maybe when he was broke or you trampled on his ego too much by doing things against his wishes, or you made him unhappy for too long at a point in your relationship.

If you've looked the way he wants you to look(sexy) and you've talked to him and none of the above seems to be the problem, then you should probably leave and try finding a better life.

Thank u for reply.Bt i am not big woman i am slim woman but he want me to be more slim.He want me to look like a model but doesnt wana invest in my beauty.Bt he rather want me to wash dishes clean abuse me n humiliate me i feel so worthles with him

hello to all.I have known my boyfriend for 10 years.i am now with hin for almost 2 years.He controls me anywhere i go but if he goes somewhere i am not alow to know where or to go with him.He doesnt wana invest no money on me and i am not talking about buying me house or car but all he buy me is basic food and i am in his country where he works and i dont work.He always critisizes my look and i am very good looking woman teling me i must slim down or alwaya look good but he never wana invest in me.He force me to work but i canot work in his country coz of no papers.He makes me to clean house but he never promised me mariage.I serve him clean all house cook for him stil he see me as nothing ans nevwe promised mariage.He hit me many times and i am afraid of him.After he hit me he wil.be good to me for few days and again same.What should i do

So i been with this Nigerian guy for 1 year.Coz of Corona i got stuck in my country.We didnt see eachother for 6 months.Borders were closed.He cals me every day n enjoys talking to me.But when 1 months ago borders open i told him i want to come to him.He started giving me excuses to stay in my country which he never did before.Before he use to tel me to.come to him always!Me i canot get a job in his country coz of my papers bt is not impossible.We always had argument about it coz he cant work alone.Also i noticed signs.He has 2 whatsapp acounts.Whivh he denies it.He stil cals me bt seems distracted and less interested.At weekends he says he goes to sleep very early which he never did it before so i think other woman coming that time.I have confronted him asking if he has someone tjere he said no milion times bt i know he lying.Final i have convinced him to let me.come there but what should i do.now?I think he has someone there for sure bt why then he stil keep caling me?

Afostev11:
Nooo him just dey use home advantage...

home advantage? How?

donbachi:
No.rather,his point of lay.

what u mean lay?

sylve11:



No o. You can't be the side chick. I'm pretty sure you're the corner chick.

For Lord sake... Why can't you just be patient to see how everything pans out?

corner chick??

Hi all.I met one guy few months ago.He is kind he give me atention we speak every day.I come to his place at weeekends and sleep over.But i think he is talking to someone abroad.I have noticed he has 2 phones.I am afraid he has some woman or wife abroad.Am i d side chick and what should I do?

ZINIBANKS:
Maybe your kpekus is too sweet

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lammylam:


If that's the case then pay him back in his own coin!
Be distant just like he is to you and see if he would notice and complain

I told him today i wana come there first he said ok.Then later when he saw i am serious about it he started teling me What r u coming here to do etc

Saintmary:

Calm down. Don't pick up all his calls, ignore some, start giving your attention to another person. He's not your husband naw.

but is him i want!

Saintmary:


He refuses to communicate.

A relationship is basically communication.


If he's not talking to you, darling, he's talking to someone else.

Let him date whoever he's talking to.

he is stil caling me bt yes comunication has reduced time.in comunication n he has no interest no asking me any queestions

pryme:


The truth is it goes both ways.
I was once in distance relationship, the girl was someone else.
But she never stopped calling.
People like this will swear in the name of God that they are not cheating. I told her i will no longer argue with her.

You are right, and the OP should follow her instincts.

so what at the end happened with thqt ur girl n u?

lammylam:
Haba now! See you are misleading this OP! And she is agreeing with you because that is what she wanna hear! Tell her to talk to him! It won't kill her if she tell him what she is observing! Moreover this is a one sided story! Do you even know what the guy is going through? Or you expect a relationship to be sweet sweet everytime?

I already talked to him 5 times i said i saw changes i asked him if something hapening or he has somebody bt he said no .He doesnt wana be honest.That his woman is coming to him every weekend coz every weekend he go sleep very early.He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk about future together no interess at all.He doesnt cal me to come there n he gives me always excuses why should i not come there.I just dont know why he holding me and my life like dis when obviously someone else is in d picture?

Saintmary:

You have the power to decide if you want to stay or walk away.
Find a man close to you, so that you can love him and see everything clearly.

u have whatsapp?

Saintmary:

He has other options. He is calling you just in case those girls leave him.

yes!!!this exactly my point!Bt the thing is he cant be keeping me with cals for long

Saintmary:

Most times, your mind will be telling you something, it's usually right. Always listen to your mind.
This guy is stringing you along. It didn't start today, and you won't be the last girl to experience this.

stringing me alone?Like how?What u think is realy hapening?

Anuoluwa1234:
He still calls u, u are not happy??.
Calling alone shows, he has u in mind every now and then...
So I don't see any problem here, u are the one trying to look for unnecessary trouble jare..
And if u wanna clear Ur doubt about his actions, just tell him every of your concern u listed here . Lobatan.
Shallom

He stil cals me bt he doesnt talk anymore about our future togwther he says he misses me bt doesnt invite me there or doesnt alow me to go tjere...At weeeknds he always sleeps so early by 22h which was mever like dis before.

Helo all.I am witj my Nigerian boyfriend distance relationship.I been stuck in my country because of Corona.We didnt see eachother for almost 5 months.He cals me every single day but He has changed.He has 2 whatsapp acounts he doesnt wana admit.He is always like tired at weekends and wana go sleep early...I am sure his girl is coming at weekends to him.And also before he was forcing me to come to him but now he makes any excuse for me to not go to him.He stil caling me that is confusing me...What should i do?I have confronted him but he doesnt wana admit it