₦airaland Forum

Pidgin2:
Do you see why I suspect that you don't have sense? You haven't heard from the spouse or mother in law before passing your judgement. This is why every competent court of jurisdiction must hear from all parties involved before passing judgement except one party deliberately refuses to appear before the court but they will surely be invited because one account without physical evidence is not enough to crucify the other. Use your brain small na, the wife or MIL might not be demons or useless if you hear their own side of the story

The case has been filed already and waiting for first hearing September 18.
N. B my ex is right hear on this thread and she has seen it all. If she is deeply hurt about this or I said anything that contradict what happen she should come out and state her own side of the story. She has viewed this thread multiple times and constantly reminding me of what people said. Custody hearing is already loading. You all will hear the end if it. Just sad for privacy reason I can update with pictures.

pocohantas:
...because we have terrible people nah. Terrible people make terrible in-laws. That's the best I can come up with oo

Thanks

Sometimes terrible people change but this case is a bit different.
N. B my ex is right here on this thread. She has seen this but I was waiting for her to speak up so that you all can judge. Meanwhile case already hit the court. Just waiting for first hearing September 18.

YourTerror:
Pazienza nwannem, its that terrible. We saw hell two days ago. Please who do we cry to? Nigeria has failed its citizens immeasurably.

Tell your lord nnamdi kanu and his boys. Shey una want Biafra or death. . . Your governor should learn from ambode, he is fixing federal road and asked federal government for reimbursement. Una own they sponsor miscreants in the name of Biafra.

backtosender:
keep deceiving yourselves till UN and human right commission put embargo on Nigeria and this time around the fight will reach Lagos and Abuja be ready

No be only embargo. Which kain school u attend sef. Last time I will respond to your stupidity on this forum cos you are politically too poor to deserve a response from me.
Quote me again and you will will start menstruating via your a$$

ammyluv2002:
Who even cook this lie in the first place?

Pa, Nurudeen obeito. Lai Muhammed’s grandpa. Can't you spot the similarities on the content of the lies.

backtosender:
Mr man let see how the Nigerian zoo can survive this hurricane this time around your zoo army will be divided and with video evidence the zoo will face ICC and they will Block you from getting foreign help while the war will reach Lagos and Abuja..hope you are ready

Dreamer. You have not succefully get the attention of unites nation on your fraud talk of giving video evidence to icc. You just can dream. Wake up when bullet hits you. Ôdè

backtosender:
brainless monkey

You don't deserve my attention so I will pass on this. You death is closer if you dare Nigerian army.

happening nkw. If you are in sagamu please either stay indoor or leave sagamu. Riot just broke out and hoodlums beat and stone a mobile police officer to death. Already reinforcement is on the way. Corpse of the slain office still by the sagamu express way. Please avoid that area to avert stories that touch ooo.

Who born them to stand and talk while we kill their ignorant and malnourished children. They know we are helping them to clear the waste within their landlocked region. For now Nigerian we know. Soldiers kill daily in the north to keep nigeria one. You cant call for disintegration of a country without a hefty price. That war you people so much Want will come and y'all will pay with your heads and heaven will not fall. It's not even started and you looking for wbo will help you guys make statement. Unleash your bss and watch how Nigerian army will bath with your blood. It happened before and heaven didn't fall. It will happen again and nothing more than media cry will be watched on TV and read on papers or hear from radio. Start getting use to it. When over one thousand die in Zaria massacre nothing happen so this time nothing will happen.

I don't know why you all are surprise when they claim to be Israelites. Don't forget this is how isreal grab lands ( Palestine) and build a wall and claimed it a nation within a nation. Tilll date they are still expanding to the extent of claiming the capital of their previous host which is westbank in gaza. It all started like a crazy joke like this.

sarrki:
N some morons expects us to vote this guy ?

He used state resources to acquire wealth

N the masses are suffering

Atiku No way

Are you high. This man was already so Rich before he bcame vice president. That was why he even left as adamawa governor to take VP. Check your facts right. He will win and your ilks won't even vote talk of counting your votes.

This one weak me. How can you be so passionate to analyse poverty. Yes im the kind that hayes when money comes before other things. I believe in a humble beginnings. But guy I'm not sure if you gonna sail thru except things change to your favour which I pray for.
There is a reason people keep getting poorer cos we don't think well. Among all your analysis you Forgot to include emergency medical trois to the clinic especially middle of the month when salary is exhausted already. Mind you this is no Yankee .
Your plans to get married is a good one but wrong for your income. I don't even know what to say sef. God be with you sha but remember he will not come down to give you cash. You still gat to hustle.
Did I read you planning on a mood brick. Yeah I know u already. My kaduna south brothers.
Anyway food acuff are cheap there sha. Zonkwa an co Areas

evy4ch:
kanu is simply calling for REFERADOM, Ido not know where calling for referandom has changend to calling for war.it is only in africa that it is a taboo for peaceful calling for self determination

Better spelling fall on you this sallah period.. Amen

pweetiedee:
Its that six figures that got my attention.

I need six figure job abeg. Help a sis.

Thanks in advance.

Was just lucky ooo. I don't know anybody. Let's pm. Nice dimple sha

Am on six figures same as my wife but damn I still get billed well. Infact if you add her allowances her net per annum is higher but a man gat to be responsible asio. You dont want your kids walking up on you arguing that mom ain't doing enough. That's why we men

I bin think say this guy they joke oo. Na so we think say trump they joke till e became president of USA. Anyway Na naija we they. Never ever. Well if it happen I will go for senate 2019

I don't know the op but I can reliably say that this is a different version to what we know and saw with our own eyes.
Firstly yes he was killed and his body burnt right in front the ihima square.
Secondly it's true that for sometime now he has been hiding at the government house in lokoja cos he is yahaya bello right hand executioner.
But where you fail is the reason for the manhunt that resulted to his death.
His father use to be the next in line for the ogbobanyi of ihima, something like obobaku. But in this case they dont die with the traditional euler but instead prepare the next ruler and hand the staff of office to him which if stories are to be believed, require human sacrifice, someone who knew much about the tradition and has serves in the palace, when the last ruler died, lukman, father did all the preperation but the might be was to hand over the staff, he suddenly disappeared and the following day they went ahead with the initiation and that's the last they heard of the Oldman till date. Since early 2016 this fight been on and lukman has done lots of harms to the extend he became a threat to the governor cos the people he is fight against are the spiritual fathers the governor worship. In fact the deity to which yahaya is a regular visitor to is in the custody of the ogbobayin. This cause lots of issues between the traditional rukers and the governor. He has to make a choice, either lose his assassin or lose their support. Which yahaya cant choose lukman cos in that government house there are more dreaded assisins that lukman bit he knows the territories more and more loyal that others envy him.

Lastly, no other person was killed. After the squad that took him out left, his boys went on rampage and burn the traditional rulers palace and left the shrine, They burn the commisioner's house cos of the perceived betrayal they felt from the governor cos before he died, that same day was when he returned from the government house and claim the governor wants to kill him that he rather die in his hometown than die elsewhere, cos he had information from a source that a squad from Abuja is close, less than 3hours was when he died, its an open secret for people that hang around them and they were prepared waiting for the squad as well but unfortunately he was the only one that died. The commisioner they burnt his house is very close to the governor aswel. police try to chase them away but they overpowered them and chase police down to adavi and came back to burn the police station and some cars. But everything went back to normal when soldiers came.

Next time you guys get your facts right before misleading the public. Dino has no hands in this, infact anybody from kogi state will tell you that hardened this are found in kogi central including the ones dino used for his elections.

sauceEEP:
I understand but you think say we no dey understand una.

Nope. Anybody can understand what's up there. If it's secret I won't put it up. Moving on

sauceEEP:
You wan kiss tiffanyj ba?

Huh No ooo. No kissing there at all. Just when you meet someone new that speaks your language and live where your heart was nurtured . Tiffany come and defend yourself.

sauceEEP:
Digits just rolled, OK you say you've divorced your wife? No wahala go ahead and mingle..

OMG. OK not what you think tho but it's wit you see. #Eagleeye

TiffanyJ:
Haba,ba damuwa.

Nagode. DM sent. Wannan lamari ne. Fata za ku iya lalata shi. Zero, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, biyar, takwas, zero, tara, takwas, ka samu nasarar juya maina zuwa hausa thread. Sannu da aikatawa.

TiffanyJ:
Thank you. Baba na Bajju Zonkwa (fadiya) to be precise while mama ta Adara

Bari in dm ku. Da fatan za ku iya ba ni lambar ku don mu iya magana. Yaya game da wannan. Dan Allah

TiffanyJ:
Abun ya faru ko. Ka yi kokari ka karba yaron ka. Ai mama na ta gaya mani kada in kuskura in aure wanda ba southern Kaduna ba. Wallahi kabilu nan ba su da mutunci

Wannan shawara ne mai kyau. Ku saurari ta don kauce wa labarun da ke ciwo

TiffanyJ:
I understand why our parents over here in the North always insist we marry from within our state. We have a common culture and tradition that can help to resolve issues easily.
By the way, kai dan wani gari ne a southern Kaduna?

Don haka kai ne tiffany rubuta waɗannan labarun? Na ji dadin haduwa da ku. Wane bangare na kaduna ko ku ne daga kaduna?

TiffanyJ:
I understand why our parents over here in the North always insist we marry from within our state. We have a common culture and tradition that can help to resolve issues easily.
By the way, kai dan wani gari ne a southern Kaduna?

A'a. Na zauna a lagos, duk rayuwata a lagos. Na rantse da yin aure daga kabilar na zai kasance mafi kyau amma ina son ba da latti ba tsammani.

aib is a small mda compare to what she is used to. The truth is she is bitter and this redeployment can too late in my opinion cos of you ask any Faan staff that's not from kogi they will tell you the injustice she has done in that organization. She brought in crooks, nonentities, arrogant sluts and prideful pricks from kogi village. 90% of her employment are from kogi and 95% of those are IGALAS. Serika tried for her sef.

obiksam:
Guy move on brother is late to fight. If you are a strong man take people from your village and bring your son back from that good for nothing woman. After the rigger then you can play the blues. Tradition na man get pi-kin ooh. Lawyers go chop your money leave them. Hear is naija but be strong make investigation brother you will fine out that she is finding mines to be in contact with you after her mistake. Guy grow up. Bleep that prostitute that abort your child you get time. Where are from safe.

Smiles. Am from kaduna and she is kogi.

Truth is the feelings has always be one sided. I knew very late and till now am just trying to understand her which still seem complex. Yes getting back together is a no no. I was thinking about my son and that's why I opt for a peaceful resolution at first. Not that am stupid or foolish but my son was the reason I wanted her back. I was trying and thinking that maybe I can salvage the marriage. Thanks all. I appreciate

MrBrownJay1:
@Notttty

MISTAKE #1
you met someone in october 2012 and married her 4 months later?! you barely knew anything about this stranger, thus whatever you got from her is a direct consequence of this GRAVE initial mistake... and true enough, only after marriage you discovered that she takes orders from her mom, and your words are worthless. BLAME YOURSELF!!!

MISTAKE #2
letting her mom stay with you (in YOUR house that you paid for) knowing fully well that your wifey take orders from her... what kind of foolery is this. you should have kept her mum as far as you possibly could from your union. BLAME YOURSELF!!

MISTAKE #3
knowing the above you decided to have a child with this gal, instead of FIRST making sure that YOUR WORDS matter to your wife, before those of her mum. BLAME YOURSELF!!

MISTAKE #4
when your wife left your home, thats when you should have accepted defeat and listen to your dad, and drop that mummy's girl that has no respect for her husband words. BLAME YOURSELF!

MISTAKE #5
letting her mum come back to live with you and poison your home again... didnt you learn anything at all?! were you this clueless that you didnt understand that the mum was the ONLY problem here?! BLAME YOURSELF!!

MISTAKE #6
you did good by returning the slap, any woman deserves anything she gives...if she had no respect for you then let her get the same back, BUT thats when you should have understood that this was the last straw, and be done with this violent confused woman! BLAME YOURSELF!

MISTAKE #7
she moved back in (after leaving your home again) NOT because she wanted to be with you but because she didnt want to have a baby out of wedlock. couldnt you understand that YOU were irrelevant to this move?! couldnt you put rules and regulations in place before she moved back?! couldnt you put your foot down like any man in his own home should/would?! BLAME YOURSELF!

MISTAKE #8
you let this ungrateful woman move back in with two other strangers?!? why not pull your pants down and let them d1ldo fukc you in the aass while you are at it?! BLAME YOURSELF!

MISTAKE #9
you are trying to play fair with this demon who has been using and abusing your good side for too long. this child is as good as yours than hers, so if she cant take care of the child then YOU are the fittest person to do so, NOT her mother. if she ever leaves the child in the village, go there and pick him up, THATS YOUR DAMN CHILD! her mum is a demon, and trying to play fair with the demon is a waste of time!

FINAL MISTAKE
you trying to get back with this useless woman, is no better than eating your own spit back, ARRANT NONSENSE!!!
here is a simple question: tell us all what is good about this useless woman and her mother (oh yeah, mother is part of the package) that you would want to even try to get back with her?!

Thanks alot for the Frank response. I appreciate your honesty. I think I'm gonna have to do as u say cos I can't see any option aside that. Thanks mate

Please I need a sincere advise and options please. Bashing is allowed but please take it easy as no-one is a perfect being. I made my mistakes and I have learnt from them. Just need to have access to my son anyhow I like. Thanks all

Hello nairaland
My name is zia( not real name). I got married to this pretty damsel in 2013, though we didn't date for long, we met October 2012 and got married March 2013. It was fast and we were both going. I was 26 and she was 25 but the love was great, the feelings was right and she got a good job and for me am very OK, then I use to make automobile supplies to companies and the returns are all good, I didn't bother about getting and 9-5 job cos there was more than enough money to take care of the family. Shortly after the wedding I discovered that she is the type that takes orders from her mom and I usually feel relegated but I didn't mind and went ahead with my normal business ( did I mention her mom was on and off in our home?) . We managed to pull thru for the first six months but on several occasions we have heated argument and then I'm a bit childish in some of those issues I pick on( that's was the immature side of me) after she put to bed my son fell ill and with God's miracle he healed well but my business stalled ,couldn't cope I reach out to my dad to help out, within weeks I got a job with one of the government parastatal in the aviation industry and we were got, I noticed during the time I didn't have a job and business stall I was relegated that being knocked the house seem like hell cos her mom was living with us in the house I paid for with us. In December 2013 we all decided to travel home for my family to see my son, to my utmost surprise when we went to drop her off at her home she insist that I go home first and her daughter will come over in the evening, I didn't suspect anything until I didn't see her that evening and the main issue started. Never knew she has agreed with her to dissolve the marriage that I can't be controlled and I'm rude to her just cos I don't take shut, OK fast forward to a week later I didn't contact my wife and my family decide to keep mute and watch them. We played that game for another week until they sent an uncle of her to our home and that's when we all started talking. My dad told me instantly that my marriage won't last another six months that with this kind of in-laws and that I better take the long walk now or be surprised at what's gonna happen next. After much begging and family talk we agreed to go back to Lagos together. On the day we are suppose to leave which is a day before my office resumption she said I should go ahead that she wants the baby to relax a bit before the journey back to Lagos. I left and she came a month after. When she came back we were good but the memories of everything her mom said keep coming back alive in my head that I can't just let go but to discuss with her on how her mom get to know everything about us. We talked and we were good. Until her mom return in February to our home again and the issues started over again. That week. I had a misunderstanding with her mom on how they taking care of my son which I feel is not right but my wife got to upset and violent that she hits me first, she slapped me right in the living room I was stunned and my eyes saw �. I couldn't take it. I'm not proud of my action but damn that slap deserve a return and I did my bit and let her go. The following morning she and her mom move out to her cousin place at Ikeja and they start dissolution of the marriage. Unknown to them my wife was pregnant again and a month later she discovered that she is 3months gone already. She couldn't bear the thought of having a baby outside her matrimonial home cos she is the very religious type. At least that's what she portrays. On her own she moved back in and I didn't react and her mom left Lagos to her hometown. We were good again until one more information she told me her mom is on her way to Lagos and am like again? Well it's OK. To my surprise she came with two other girls. An aunt to my wife that just left had a child outside wedlock, and another 20years old lady whom o don't know, and we leave in a two bedroom apartment with a house girl she brought earlier when we just got married. I didn't say a word, I welcome them all cos I don't want to hear zia has started again, as far as I got my room with my wife and my privacy guess I'm good cos I know it's not gonna last forever. Well to cut the long story short one faithful evening I came back and met the two girls are gone and the mom too. They didn't say a word. I was so happy that I took everyone out for dinner that day. Next I hear is that she and my mom met at a party and they exchanged words. And that's the end the daughter stop talking to my mom and we'll disrespect my dad on the phone which result to another misunderstanding. The following day I left for work and we didn't talk and when I came back she was gone. Swept everything know the house and before I know what was going on, a court summons was delivered to my dads residence. Damn OK no problem that ask me what I want to do I'm like you said it before but we can last. So the marriage was dissolved in August 2014, did I mention that in May after she moved out and left home, I was called up by a doctor at isolo general hospital that she was admitted. I rushed there to find her know pull of her own blood. She said she had a miscarriage and then was rushed there and evacuation was done on her to save her life. I stayed there with her till morning alone without anyone. That was supposed to be out second son. After everything the divorce was done and I swiftly moved on. Since then I have to fly to Abuja to see my son who will turn 4 next month. Now the problem is she was recently transferred from Abuja to Ibadan and she doesn't have a choice than to resume there cos other option has been explored to make her remain know Abuja but it was futile. Now she wants to drop my son with her mom in the village until she finds a suitable accommodation and relocate but am like instead of that why don't I take my son to Lagos with me cos am on holiday for few weeks and you told me within three weeks you will be settled in Ibadan. So lemme take him and when you settled I will bring him or you come pick him at least I will have the chance to spend alot of time with him and try bonding as men. She insisted that she will never allow that. I have asked her nicely but she refused that her mom will better take of him and I'm like I pay all his bills and more and nobody but me and you had this boy and only me will decide where he stays.i forgot to mention that lately we are trying to come back but the mom has so far frustrate all efforts.