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Hello nairaland
My name is zia( not real name). I got married to this pretty damsel in 2013, though we didn't date for long, we met October 2012 and got married March 2013. It was fast and we were both going. I was 26 and she was 25 but the love was great, the feelings was right and she got a good job and for me am very OK, then I use to make automobile supplies to companies and the returns are all good, I didn't bother about getting and 9-5 job cos there was more than enough money to take care of the family. Shortly after the wedding I discovered that she is the type that takes orders from her mom and I usually feel relegated but I didn't mind and went ahead with my normal business ( did I mention her mom was on and off in our home?) . We managed to pull thru for the first six months but on several occasions we have heated argument and then I'm a bit childish in some of those issues I pick on( that's was the immature side of me) after she put to bed my son fell ill and with God's miracle he healed well but my business stalled ,couldn't cope I reach out to my dad to help out, within weeks I got a job with one of the government parastatal in the aviation industry and we were got, I noticed during the time I didn't have a job and business stall I was relegated that being knocked the house seem like hell cos her mom was living with us in the house I paid for with us. In December 2013 we all decided to travel home for my family to see my son, to my utmost surprise when we went to drop her off at her home she insist that I go home first and her daughter will come over in the evening, I didn't suspect anything until I didn't see her that evening and the main issue started. Never knew she has agreed with her to dissolve the marriage that I can't be controlled and I'm rude to her just cos I don't take shut, OK fast forward to a week later I didn't contact my wife and my family decide to keep mute and watch them. We played that game for another week until they sent an uncle of her to our home and that's when we all started talking. My dad told me instantly that my marriage won't last another six months that with this kind of in-laws and that I better take the long walk now or be surprised at what's gonna happen next. After much begging and family talk we agreed to go back to Lagos together. On the day we are suppose to leave which is a day before my office resumption she said I should go ahead that she wants the baby to relax a bit before the journey back to Lagos. I left and she came a month after. When she came back we were good but the memories of everything her mom said keep coming back alive in my head that I can't just let go but to discuss with her on how her mom get to know everything about us. We talked and we were good. Until her mom return in February to our home again and the issues started over again. That week. I had a misunderstanding with her mom on how they taking care of my son which I feel is not right but my wife got to upset and violent that she hits me first, she slapped me right in the living room I was stunned and my eyes saw �. I couldn't take it. I'm not proud of my action but damn that slap deserve a return and I did my bit and let her go. The following morning she and her mom move out to her cousin place at Ikeja and they start dissolution of the marriage. Unknown to them my wife was pregnant again and a month later she discovered that she is 3months gone already. She couldn't bear the thought of having a baby outside her matrimonial home cos she is the very religious type. At least that's what she portrays. On her own she moved back in and I didn't react and her mom left Lagos to her hometown. We were good again until one more information she told me her mom is on her way to Lagos and am like again? Well it's OK. To my surprise she came with two other girls. An aunt to my wife that just left had a child outside wedlock, and another 20years old lady whom o don't know, and we leave in a two bedroom apartment with a house girl she brought earlier when we just got married. I didn't say a word, I welcome them all cos I don't want to hear zia has started again, as far as I got my room with my wife and my privacy guess I'm good cos I know it's not gonna last forever. Well to cut the long story short one faithful evening I came back and met the two girls are gone and the mom too. They didn't say a word. I was so happy that I took everyone out for dinner that day. Next I hear is that she and my mom met at a party and they exchanged words. And that's the end the daughter stop talking to my mom and we'll disrespect my dad on the phone which result to another misunderstanding. The following day I left for work and we didn't talk and when I came back she was gone. Swept everything know the house and before I know what was going on, a court summons was delivered to my dads residence. Damn OK no problem that ask me what I want to do I'm like you said it before but we can last. So the marriage was dissolved in August 2014, did I mention that in May after she moved out and left home, I was called up by a doctor at isolo general hospital that she was admitted. I rushed there to find her know pull of her own blood. She said she had a miscarriage and then was rushed there and evacuation was done on her to save her life. I stayed there with her till morning alone without anyone. That was supposed to be out second son. After everything the divorce was done and I swiftly moved on. Since then I have to fly to Abuja to see my son who will turn 4 next month. Now the problem is she was recently transferred from Abuja to Ibadan and she doesn't have a choice than to resume there cos other option has been explored to make her remain know Abuja but it was futile. Now she wants to drop my son with her mom in the village until she finds a suitable accommodation and relocate but am like instead of that why don't I take my son to Lagos with me cos am on holiday for few weeks and you told me within three weeks you will be settled in Ibadan. So lemme take him and when you settled I will bring him or you come pick him at least I will have the chance to spend alot of time with him and try bonding as men. She insisted that she will never allow that. I have asked her nicely but she refused that her mom will better take of him and I'm like I pay all his bills and more and nobody but me and you had this boy and only me will decide where he stays.i forgot to mention that lately we are trying to come back but the mom has so far frustrate all efforts.

Can we negotiate and if we agree on a price I will deposit then the balance will come end of September.

Did I read the commissioner said they will follow the dead to the grave to verify? Fear kogi people.

Destined2win:
90% of the times when you ask a lady the attributes she wants in a man, you will see amongst others, "he must be God fearing"! But what baffles me in actuality is that a lot of them do not act accordingly.

It leaves me wondering if they have a totally different meaning to God-fearing. I know a guy who tried to live to his dream lady's expectation of being a God-fearing young man. He goes to church always and tells the lady, he always talk about the Bible. He doesn't talk about Sex or like things. But at the end, the lady abandoned him for a guy who didn't really care much about church or related things.

Even slay queens are not left out of desiring a God-fearing man yet you see their lifestyle saying completely opposite.

Ladies maybe you can let us understand what you mean when you say, "I need a God-fearing man"!

If there is also a limit to how God-fearing your man can be, please what is it.

Thanks!

Means a man that fear God. Not all this wolf with dic

Obalende:
How can a person determine which taxi is legit at the airport please?

within the arrival hall there are several stands for taxi hire. You go outside to get a taxi then you are on your own. Better still uber or taxify. You won't wait more than 5min cos one or two are always around.

goodmorning40:
Useless country
It is only how to enslave and impoverish her citizens that they are good at
Look at somebody's hard earned money,
Look at the imported goods that would add meaning to people's lives

Children of hate at it again, lost Tribe people. How can you in you sane mind criticize this seizures. This is detriment to our economy. You stay in you landlocked state and critisize everything cos you know your brothers with criminal intent are behind this. You want to import? Be ready to pay the duty. I swear if I know you real life I will give u a dirty slap for spewing this rubbish. Enemy of the state and tomorrow you will shout hunger. Hediota

You wan know his motives? Just tell him you have been celibate for over a year that you feel you don't need sex if it's not with the right person. Watch him cum all over you like an ant chasing sugar. Men like to hear that like cos it make them Hot and will want to nack your punna

Break his rib by apologizing to his ex first, sincerely you wrong cos no man will take this except he is just out for the sex. You want your bf back? Use your original fb account to send a sincere apology to that ex, swallow your pride Sha then seat back and watch. His ex gonna tell him and I swear we will break. Don't contact him or tell him. Just do that directly to his ex and watch. I'm a guy and this worked on me. You don't need to beg with heaven and you will see him turn and if he doesn't then you should know he is the one after his ex not the other way round.

itspzpics:
Nollywood actor Segun Arinze pictures with Tonto Dikeh and Lilian was spotted with Lilian Esoro in adorable selfie.

https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-vYZA_j5gEJc/WYmrcsAZLkI/AAAAAAAAckM/KfJTvCw9XiYyInJrB_nnBxyUdpbAsD0DQCHMYCw/s1600/playground.ng-1502194247872.jpg

He wrote :
https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-vORXzmrijh4/WYmrdfCLeLI/AAAAAAAAckQ/BEjJrnbUG3EK3QEnEa71_zBBjzQle7sVgCHMYCw/s1600/IMG_20170808_131144.jpg

They look good together..

Source :: http://www.praizeblog.com/2017/08/segun-arinse-pictures-with-tonto-dikeh.html?m=0

Cc lalasticlala fynestboi

One thing they all have in common.. .. . Divorcee.. .. Married and single. Lol... Birds of same feathers abi.. .. Lmao. Mr frog eyes been helping women break marriage since 1900

SonyObsessed:
Thank you M.I

Watch the fornicators and adulterers storm this thread to tell you that their sin is different.

Hypocrites.

Modified: One idiot "Salam Rush And Die" who quoted me below thinks anyone who is against discrimination is gay.

May you rush and complete your name.

Ass driller spotted. Seriously you wan compare bring gay to adultery. Damn. You weak me. Guess you enjoy giving Steven BJ. Weldon sir.

Anyone ever wonder why IGBOSdominate the drug pushing world? (Nigerian and Asian chapter) it's simple, cos they mostly have low IQ and it's fact to know that people or group of people with low IQ are very easy to be brainwashed.. Fact is among them very few are can comprehend well, and you find them with very low self esteem that's why someone like KANU with a below average brain can brainwash an entire generation of yigbos. Check how they talk, very vulgar and uncultured, the way they eat, the way they dress, the way they brag lol this seem the funniest. I have never seen a Tribe that has little or no regards for elders and that's why where I come from we call them the LOST Tribe of the east. Am out of here

prodigy24:
Here are the history of Nnamdi KANU before he became an activist.

Kanu was born in Isiama Afara, Abia State, Nigeria. His father is HRM Eze Israel Okwu Kanu (JP) and his mother is Ugoeze Nnenne Kanu. He attended Library Avenue Primary School (now part of Government House, Umuahia) and went to Government College Umuahia for his secondary education. He later gained admission to the University of Nigeria Nsukka (UNN) but left after two years. He moved to London and studied Political Economics at London Guildhall University now called London Metropolitan University (LMU).

According to Nnamdi KANU himself, he said that he was admitted to study geology but all receive chemistry class, which according to him was not in line with what wanted. Nnamdi went home, and told his father to send him abroad to study,that he will no longer continue with UNN. He he got admitted,and studied political economics at London guildhall university.
Nnamdi KANU and his friend Luke chukuma Egemba established Alpha Phoenix consulting firm,which was incorporated in 2005.
https://www.companieslondon.com/uk/05519337/alpha-phoenix-consulting-limited

Nnamdi KANU and his wife resigned from the company and focused on the Biafra course.

https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/www.naij.com/amp/1082396-ipob-lists-8-mysterious-nnamdi-kanu.html

Any evidence he co-owned alpha Phoenix firm. Please attach so that we can believe in this struggle cos am struggling to believe what you struggling to make us belive that his struggle didn't start today that he tried to put his hands somewhere before even if it wasn't this lucrative. From a concerned NIGERIAN

smartty68:
This shows that APC government is clueless, what they are good at is criticism and blackmails

This shows your level of comprehension. For goodness sake there is a big difference between hiring to train your forces and enhance their capabilities and hiring to engage your enemies. Your hero gej did hire to engage. How clueless can you be to know there is are different in between. Hope you blame Buhari for your level of understanding

ApostleJSuleman:
I love the girl with miniskirt in the last pic... Sweet legs..

Your moniker said it all.

Igboesika:
Why was he arrested before ?.

You guys have realised your mistake but it's too late. Everything has damaged. You can never stop an ideology.(Impossible)

Thank God for radio Biafraaa Nnamdi KANU used to wake the spirits of all Igbos/Biafffrans. Indeed, Nnamdi KANU is a fighter that truly believes in his dreams, while all one Nigeria crusaders are having nightmares to stop the inevitable. It's a pity that Nigeria govt is helpless on Kanu's matter as it stands today.

God bless Ohamadike for a job well done. Ride on !!!

Meanwhile, this question came from a sincere human being probably a Northern Christian or a foreigner.................,.....

Honestly am so disappointed not on u but our generation and how nanominded we are. Point to me any country in the world where secession ever occur this way. Yes you lots wants Biafra right? Good you all have representatives from your different location representing you and your interests and unions in Nigeria, why can't you all first ginger them to vote for referendum be first included in the constitution then enacted and then we can start talking Biafra. Take UK for example. Referendum was park of their constitution and they enacted it right, check Spain and Catalonia no referendum and the struggle has been on for ages and it's still on and it's never gonna end by beating your chest and threatening a state as well as disturbing the peace of a country. My friend please read books, read histories and learn how it's done. If all your gingers end on pages of news alone and your barks on nairaland can't and won't give u Biafra. Attack your house of reps and senators with the same ginger and zeal and trust me with a month they will comply with you guys. You have your brothers and aunties in government that share in the spoils and loot but u all turn blind eye and call yourself secessionists.. . I laugh at you all calling for referendum when u lots have not taken the first rightful steps. Guys am outter here Men

It's JUST sad how micro-minded u are. Sorry Bro this disease is beyond cure. No fixing you in sight

Sterope:
I hope it is not about trying to change my mind on this subject matter

Definitely not but knowledge enhancement on both side. Like minds. Should I pm u to talk on another platform if u don't mind,??

Am tired someone please take me outter naija

Sterope:
@lukgaf

1) Most rape victims were raped by people closed to them like their mahram for starters. (Isn't that interesting?) Don't ever use that to justify or blame rape victims again. It speaks to how little you know of rape.

2) I don't know what goes on with these people that call themselves Islamic scholars but it is BS to differentiate between a free woman or a slave woman. Or are they trying to say that slavery is normal or justifiable in Islam or that her pains is lesser to that of a free woman. I think you should bin his opinion. It is trash. A woman is a woman. We should not try to lessen one woman's suffering because of her status which shouldn't be in the first place.

And no marriage will not reduce incidence of rape and denial of conjugal rights is also not a reason. I think we need more scholars who have taken time to study the psychology of rape to talk about this. These scholars are simply not fit to give an opinion on this.

quote]Islam forbids women to wear clothes that are not modest and to travel without a mahram; it forbids a woman to shake hands with a non-mahram man. Islam encourages young men and women to marry early, and many other rulings which close the door to rape

What dowry if I may ask? Is that the reason stupid countries like Morocco forces their daughters to marry their rapists?

Also what value? Is she an animal or what? I understand that men are not the common victims. The more reason why they shouldn't be talking about it at all. They should not be talking about what they don't understand.

In our view the man who rapes a woman, whether she is a virgin or not, if she is a free woman he must pay a “dowry” like that of her peers, and if she is a slave he must pay whatever has been detracted from her value. The punishment is to be carried out on the rapist and there is no punishment for the woman who has been raped, whatever the case.



3) We all know the punishment for adultery. It is very severe. Apparently, if the punishment for a consensual act can be severe, it is only logical for a non-consensual act to be leaning towards a capital punishment or the capital punishment.


There is a reason I am selective when it comes to these people and islamqa. We definitely need more female scholars.

Will like us to make contact Inshallah.. . I can't put what I will like to discuss here. (not asking u out) lessons we need to teach together. Thanks

Shubbys:
35k

35k. Deal. Lemme when u picking up

DannyJ19:
location

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I dont do hardware. Only software.
Thanks

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mrslim1991:
. Lol, sorry about that. I don't have a buyer but I'm sure you'd get one here on nairaland

Its ok jare its my loss if I can't sell it. Just angry cos every time I see it I just feel like slapping it lol

Note edge for 60k. Pick up Monday deal??!

mrslim1991:
Bro, best advice is to sell like that, T-Mobile unlock is almost 50k, add that to the cost of iCloud unlock and see what you arrive at.

Nobody to sell to. If u have a buyer Lemme know. Just wan get it off my space cos someone scammed me with it. Very angry anytime i see it