jay bee:

Nice convo's going on in here.
People are supposed to get married when they are ready not when people or society deems it right to.
Each individual to his/her own

Feeling u NubiaQ

Thank you Jay Bee,

martinosi:

hmm o.k so you are not a Born Again Christian, but a *Forming/Appearance Christian
Are you a nigerian, just curious, ?
but 4 real,  your views are a bit worrying ie "man or no man" " many ways to have kids",

SPARE ME THE BULLSHIT! yes i am a christain, not a perfect one, i accept when i sin and when i dont but i dont go round shouting jesus like a lunatic having an epileptic fit! so now stop talking , views are worrying, look at yourself and ask yourself if you are not the one worried. i just cant stand it when some of you are narrow minded. you need your head examined. all this comes from the fact that i said i was a christain, will it be better if i said i was an atheist? well here is goes, i am an Antheist, SUE ME!

martinosi:

I tire for Born Again Christian Ladies like you, talk true, what really is your problem,
you are hiding something,

Hiding what? hey, mate, did i declare born again on top of your head? yes i believe in God but i am not a fanatic. i am not perfect and i only strive to be. , save ur breath, its choking my PC,

To be honest i must say i am impressed with some of you here with your comments. i do not argue about ages to get married, my arguement is based on the fact that some people think that following some man made cultural schedule is the key to life. well in the end, i do not judge people that marry, or do not marry. i am a free thinker and i find that people in Nairaland find that hard to believe. In the End its not about getting married our not being married, i think its about your level of intelligence.

We are in a world today where women like me who are in the west have been exposed to the alot of facts about life. when i was in Naija i always thought differently, i never took most of what people regard to as culture as something i had to live my life in line with. To be honest, i wish i could say some of the silly things some people say get to me but i can't, its hard for me to accept the amount of bigots we have on here. I guess the way our life pans out speaks for itself.

I do respect the union of marriage and i have never said i did not and i do admire people that have gotten to that stage, i also admire single people who accept themselves and strive for alot of things in life. either way is fine for me.

tensor777:

See how confused, bitter and twisted you sound. Do you even know this guy personally to be talking like a psychopath?
However all sons should be able to tell their fathers home-truths regardless of the consequences. To suggest otherwise is pure nonsense. I was certainly not raised that way.

invisible!:

Are you an slowpoke?
Kids even run away from home to hurt parents!
Did they stuff tissue paper into the space your brain was supposed to be?
Children can talk to their parents except they are toddlers.
If you are too weak to confront your own dad who is a thief, just sharrrrap and sit down!

TENSOR777 AND INVINCIBLE!!! RE YOU GUYS JUST DAFT? OR ARE YOU HIGH ON CHLOROQUINE? you guys sound sooo dumb you make retards feel good, rubbish boys,

@Sagamite, pls ignore them,

@DayoKanu,

I am going to call ur lady and tell her ur plans lol

you are right though, pre-nups in the west are not a bad idea, when i see what some people lose in divorces its soo not good.

fstranger:

Nothing makes me happier than knowing that I am the reason Nigeria is still down. I didnt know I was that important,

you must hv come out of a goats vajayjay, u r soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo dumb,

m off to bed it late n i work, u claim to be married n u re here looking for me, lol, i am sure u sre very unhappily married. contact the dog pound where u found ur parnter to return it,

fstranger:

Wrong! Wrong!! Wrong!!! It wasnt a LOBOTOMY that was done on me, I underwent a NUBIANPUNANIOTOMY, and since then I ve gotten married and settled with some one my age. I need not dong ding nor ding dong kids on NL. Help me praise the lord fellow NLanders!

wow you got married, your partner really got a retard, i think they should refund the money spent, better yet your mum needs to return you to the Ogre's that had you

typical loser, asking people to thank God for your being married, you are the reason why that country is still down what has God got to do with your ignorance. typical naija calling God after talking dirty, hahaha, you are just daft sha,

you spent so much time before you replied, i am sure you spent so much time googling the meaning of lobotomy, mumu,

i am done replying you, you are wasting my time, while you are at it, inject some salt into your brain, it might help fill it up with some detail.

Sweet T:

No sweetie, leave sweet T out of this one. I'm on your side, lets rock till the wheels falls off. I also want to state here that i respect your wish.

Sweet T nothing do you oh

Jokes apart lets be honest, nairaland keeps hammering on girls getting older and it annoys me. men have biological clocks too. we all dont have much time in this world to dwell on the norm. i am sure you live abroad and you see how people live their lives trying to be happy and to find the person that completes them. i have nothing against marriage and i said it before. i do appreciate your support and yes i know i am not a young bird but lets be realistic and think about the way our culture regards marriage. i know someone who was put in a coma because she got bitten black and blue, she obeyed all the rules and i dont blame her for anything but we have to agree that happiness comes first. some of us on here pretend and talk like all marriages are fun, i think some people should go ask their parients if they are happy. i rather be alive and happy and take all the insults from some ignorant nairalanders than marry because the pre-historic way of thinking requires me to, big deal. . yes i am an old woman atleast i am alive at this age. i am happy for that. many people never got this old,

@Sagamite,

frankly speaking some men deserve to be milked , as for women who cheat,, hmmm no comment!

Prenups are not bad but i doubt we can do it in naija, in naija there is already a prenup without signing cuz once some men leave a woman that is ithe end of the womans butter

@SweetT Please define senior girl? so if someone is over 27 she is a senior girl? what do you call the 26 year olds that are shagging all over the place? na the people wey no get life dey get heart attack, i do not feel older or younger being 30 and no i wont defend it or hide it, lol, anyway Sweet T, please tell me wetin senior girl be oooo

fstranger:

Her Royal Highness Olori Emere Iya mo oshoromoniga, Please ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo. I come in peace.

his royal higness awah, ukielimi, a.ka. basket infested brain i come in peace too oooooo,

if you want to play curses, we can go on , but i have better things to do, last time i checked. the LOBOTOMY perforned on you failed, oh poor little Fstranger! chei, well make sure when you sleep tonight try to hold on to your security man's ding dong because i hear its being poking you since you were a child, your parents must be proud, wow,

Sagamite:

I would rather be damned if I do.

Most women are irrational in relationships.

Even more than these most will be [more] irrational in divorces, which itself are mostly messy due to anger/revenge or misinformation to one party that their contribution is worth more than it actually is.

So the odds are quite bad.

Better safe than sorry! Especially if you are the one with the highest probability of facing the risk.

Sagamite, to be honest the main reason why SOME women are irrational is because of the men. do you know that in some high profile divorces the women ask for alot of money because when the men leave them, they start flaunting one young girl in their faces. it brings out alot of rage! and believe me the women will fight because of that slap on the face. i think some men should relax sometimes too,

fstranger:

Ma, I am just trying to protect your interest. You should not be ding donging little kids on NL. Your set are in Asorock and Apo Villa!

A word is enough.

read your insult to me. yes i am old oh, atleast i have lived this long, you might even die before 30 so please berra start praying, you think making fun of me is what will break me, you are just dumb sha

yes i am old enough to be your grandma, go and read what you wrote about me, maggot!

fstranger:

This Nubia girl must be Animashaun. Pasitor you self wan chop from Nubia. Good, good!

@ Fstranger its your prostitute of a bukkaked mother that is an Animashaun. if them wan chop me for here what is your business? Hiding under another profile name, show yourself, RETARDED IGNORANT slowpoke, better go get your mom because she is stuck shagging all the men in your fathers village. Olodo,

fstranger:

Hello Nubian30yroldpussy-breath, be civil, ok!

Fstranger GROW A BRAIN! why are you being a dufuss? i did not call you buttbreath and then you attack me, to be honest the likes of you are just stupid. do you think calling me a 30 year old Pussy breath will get to me, please wipe the cum off your face and stop acting like a basket case, if you are possesed by ignorance go and ask your dad what he was doing with his ding dong in his mouth.

CyberG:

@Nubian. . .Haha. . .no, am no psycho. . .I dey far from that field!

cool my email is on my profile.

fstranger:

But you want some Nubian p.unani, innit? Oloshi!

LOL,

Sweet T:

Hey Buttbreath, be civil. You freaking invalid.

Chei, sweet T, thats too harsh

Sweet T:

Haba! No be fight, all i'm saying is Mother nature bell dey ring ding ding ding. And these eggs get weaker by the day, even some eggs get so weak that a Super Gorilla spermatozoa cant fertilize them.

hahaha, i will adopt if i have to, pickin na pickin

Sweet T:

Nubian,
see, u finally getting the kook-up. Hope you dont mess this one up.

hahahaha, abeg oh, hook up werin, he wants to ask me questions, well i might just answer, i hope he is not a psychologist oh! lol

dayokanu:


Good girl. Dont wait till you have a lot of money. You might suddenly strike gold while married and the dude would come for half,

If you are anywhere in Texas, Lets sign the papers right away.

well well, thats true, well , hmm i wish there was something called Mid-nuptual agreements incase i get rich lol, well in cases like that i will should stash alot of money in an account that cant be traced.

Prenups are quite tricky, because you are damned if you do and damned if you dont, thats hard though, i still do not think its fair for someone to take half of another persons hard earned money. yes it takes two to be in a relationship but if two people are reasonable they shld agree on some settlement before going to court.

Pre-nups are good! it saves alot of hassle when a relationship breaks down, if i had alot of money i will get a pre-nup, simple.

@CyberG , Ask away i dont mind

Yorisb:

Guys easy on the girl nau!

Yoris B, thank for the concern, i can deal with it let them keep throwing it to me, i am in the mood tonight, some of them barely know who they are arguing with, ;lol

CyberG:

Nubian. . .well, seems you have a good sense of humor. But seriously? I think if you really are the big three ooh then, you'd not joke about it. Anyways, most ladies get carried away until they realize that they are not getting any younger.

Where are you BTW?

CyberG, we get older everyday, YES i am older and i know it, i do not need someone to remind me. yes i am 30, its no big deal and i am not an alien, there are many people like me in the world. no i am not being carried away, i am living, why would i want to spend my days wailing and sobbing, to be honest i have not put being married aside and i am not worried about it either. believe me there are some people that are not fanatical about marriage.

Sweet T:

Shior, yeye girl. I give you 3-4 more years you go beg to marry even an Okada man. You still partially dey Shakara stage.

Finally ignorance has a face   ( you can google the meaning of ignorance lol)  can you please spare ur brain the activity?  shakara stage? you act like you know it all. spare me.

amefi:


word!

i hv come across lot of ladies dat hv vowed not to get married or hv kids. i hv also found out that it's bc of d parental influence on them. either they r frm broken homes or their mum or dad had been a bad influence on them, as such, vow to b alone in their life time.



r u male or female? pls get in touch,

well Amefi you are very right. some people are not keen. i have a friend who is a medical doctor and she has this lovely house and is doing really well. she got divorced a few years ago and she told me a few weeks ago that she never wanted to have children. i was shocked and asked if she had told her parents, she  said she had and they were disppointed but had to accept it for what it was. she has alot of neices and nephews and says they are enough for her. maybe she might change her mind one day but she is about 40 and never ever talks kids. she dates people but has clearly expressed that she can remarry a man that has kids but doesnt want to have kids, some people are different. i rather people be honest ,

Nenum:


Sense.   Just make sure you get one before ,

i know what you mean LOL, no worries about that mate. i am going to have kids, man or no man because to be honest i love kids and there are so many ways kids can come into your life. Who knows i might have an unmarried partner, i dont know but i will definately but raising some kids sooner than ever. before the big M, so i know i have a good few years to start having them,

LOL, 

Here i am old woman reporting for duty ooo,

i am the BIG THREE OHHHH,  i am sure by Nigerian Standard's  i am an old cargo,  Perfect, 

Right now i am soo desperate i will date the ignorant pre-historic men here(NO THANK YOU!)

Do some of you actually think every single woman is the causee of her being single or do you not realise that in the world we are some people like being single? Ooops i forgot,  some people are VERY ignorant! so what if a woman is over 27? whats this born again thing for husband.

I am a Christian but i am not ready to go fanatical because of some sloppy seconds,  If it happens, it happens,  i noticed that men who moan about women are the ones most rejected by women.

Yes count me among the oldies,  as long as i can breathe, hold a great job and have a fantastic life, i am good. if i get married,  Fantastic! if i don't well i will have to deal with that as well and be happy,  get over it guys

Ok now let the curses begin!

Sagamite:

This is not the first time I am seeing the guy chatting crap:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-527888.128.html#msg6909073

That day he was lucky to retract:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-527888.128.html#msg6909149

LOL, He is just wrong, anyway, some people do not get the meaning of having a normal arguement,

Mr Invincible is really what his name is, he does not exist lol

BACK TO THE TOPIC, well, in the end most of thse children get sucked inl like you said. an example is North Korea ( or it is south, i mix them up sometimes) the father has handed power to the Son, what can the boy do except go with the flow even though his dad is a complete pain in the behind to the western world, the only way that country can change is if we change the way we think on many issues. not just about money but a lesson in human interation will be good. after that, we are fine.

invisible!:

Most corrupt dads listen to their kids more than the old hags they call wives. They may even listen more to the girlfriend than brothers. Kids can get their attention most, what is his money for if the kids reject them?

Invincible, OYA!!! GO TO BED OOOOHHH, you are just yarning alot of dung! are you Nigerian? do you know what an african parent is like? you must be watching too many disney movies ( i hope you know what that means),

@Sagamite,

I do get your point however, i hope you can agree with me that the difficult relationships most Nigerian parents have with their children make it hard for hard for them to tell them home truths.

In the end. we are human and yes you are right about mohammed abacha ( oops what was i thinking , lol) you made a point, he was the devils spawn. , but i i think in some cases, there is not much the child can do.

Nigeria is a lovely country with lovely people but in the end greed creeps in slowly. some of us on here may complain about the country but i bet you some people here will
become tommorows leaders and go back on their words.

invisible!:

If your father catches you selling your body or doing crack and fails to advice you, he is a heartless father.
If you know your father is a thief and you fail to reprimand/cut him off, you are desperately wicked.

@Invincible, first of all clear the cobwebs from your brain. i aired an opinion. i get it that you are ingnorant and shallow, you do not need to tell me more. however it would have been nice if made your comments in a better way. you call me wicked without knowing me, hahaha, nairaland psycho, ok matey, here is how it will go, if you hate a comment ,you should use your brain by starting with "i disagree" instead of sounding like an out of tune donkey.

Now make your point or go to bed,

I think that the parents have nothing to do with the child. The Parents can only do what they can within their capacity as they are human. i personally do not see any shame with anyone being the child of a corrupt person and i do not believe in the "sins of the father" saying. i think as adults we come to the world for a purpose and walk on our own paths.

These people that we call corrupt are the only parents that this children have grown to love so  at the end of the day they do not have a choice but to love them as they are no matter what it is. In Abachas case, noone is denying that people where not affected by him, however, i will not judge his children until they prove otherwise.

in some cases thse children come out come and in some cases these children turn out bad. sometimes they are shunned by society and surrounded by people who do not guide them through the right path. we all will be mothers and fathers and will make mistakes the most important thing is to hope that our children are able to live their own lives uninterrupted or affected by our actions.

Hell no! SHARE PASSWORD not in this world,

i totally agree