mito:

The poster might be right since as Nigerian men, you don't know that you should never insult a woman under any circumstances. Your comments are speaking against you guys. It's never to late to start behaving like a gentleman though. Nairalanders, get your act together!

I once met a Nigerian man from a good family. He was a well-behaved young man except that he wasn't a gentleman, and didn't have refined manners at all. However, because I liked him a lot, I went to some African friends for advices.  Hmmm! I was chocked when they told me that in Africa, Nigerian men have a reputation to be unrefined, violent, abusive and fraudulent.

Your friends should not say things like that, yes they do not have to insult the poster,neither do you have to come on here to talk about Nigerian men because you met just one. i think you should ZIP it now please,

AMADIOHA DOES NOT EXIST, ITS SOME IDOL THAT NOONE SHOULD EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE, SUE ME!!!

debosky:

Hehehehe see fear!  

Hehehehe. . . .nothing of the sort will happen. How can there be a crime when there's no butt to grab? Can you touch something that's not there?  

Debosky, we have had our fights in the past but please dont tell me you support the ladies being harrassed, and stop being cheeky, we both know that some naija guys in london dont learn, i know if 4 people that have been in the slammer for things like this, i am not saying all naija men do it but alot of them throw caution to the wind abi wind to the caution, maybe the poster did not put it the way she should have but she has a point,  I AGREE WITH HER ON SOME OF HER POINTS,

tunnytox:

Spare you my foot, so the girl should blame all Nigerian men just because of one crook?

listen she said something ok, she mentioned naija men because she probably has not met a decent one, its not her fault. there are people who meet negative people of a particular group and make their conclusions, you can start by telling her not to think that way simple, i dont have a foot fetish, so i dont want your foot, hope u understand

kay177:

The inmates include your father, mother, cousins, uncles etc,
BASTAR D

what has her family got to do with this now? na you go start the rant! Kay177 abeg jo , stop being soo mean,

ALL YOU MEN WHY ARE YOU BEING ON THE DEFENSE INSTEAD OF YOU TO BE CONSTRUCTIVE YOU HAVE RESORTED TO INSULTS,

NAIJA MEN SEF UNA NEED RELAX,

steeze:

Yes, it's pagan nonsense because Amadioha is african. More specifically Nigerian. That won't stop him from punishing your philandering parents. @mrseve dont mind d postor jor. Na were she be. Frustrated slut.

so because she put a comment she is frustrated

Jeez, where are you guys from,

I left this forum for almost two years to come back to this way of thinking, if a woman says something she is a slut, can you not come up with something more constructive?

D-sense:

Moderator !!! . . .Why did u modify ma text . . i have said nothing wrong  

you are being abusive and its infair, in topics like this to be honest i can relate to the poster,

CILondon:


NubianQ,
You sound like a fair minded lady. I'm sorry if Nigerians are fed up of being classed as unruly - but the truth of the matter is a lot of the men are!
If they don't like the reputation, then they know what they have to do. Change!

Girl, i have been on the forum for a while and been called names i cant even remember, if i got a penny for every name i have been called i would build the Taj Mahal 300 million times in the end i just dont bother,

Its a forum and freedom of expression is not permitted on nairaland, yes i did call you out not to generalise but i know how you feel and i know what other women go through. let me put it this way, sexual harrasment is a joke to some societies, its going to be hard to change that. i know some guys that have been jailed for some of these things but yet some others fail to learn.

Keep an open mind, some men can be respectful if you find anyone acting funny avoid him totally. Fortunately for me  i just avoid being too friendly with some people. you have to have a thick skin, nairaland is MANLAND, so when you say anything about men, wear a bullet proof vest ,  when i see men curse out women who call them out i just wonder if they have sisters or mothers,

debosky:

Just lemme know when next you're walking by in London, I'll make sure to grab that ikebe of yours. . . .but wait, there isn't anything to grab is there?  

Y'all shouldn't pay this self confessed riff raff lover any more attention.

well please do, i cant wait to tune watch you on the news lol, she will get the pow pow on you!  

Debosky, you live abroad and we both know that some men are crazy,

@All, read between the lines, stop cursing the girl,  she felt peeed off about something and said it, if someone says Nigerian men i think we should know that she really doesnt mean all, its just that someone can actually keep meeting really annoying naija men. in naija alot of men are VERY disrespectful, not just Nigeria but Africa and alot of africans complain, Oyinbo's can be but they are closet mad sometimes.  

I am not for sexual harrasment at all, i will not support making fun of what she went through. atleast i told her generalising was unfair and i think she gets it!

tunnytox:

@Poster
You are an example of failure of the British education system, people like you thought education is just about getting degres but education is definitely more than that, so because some Nigerian crooks grabs you by the throat you are making so much noise? If you have been a 7/7 bomb victim i'm sure you would be declaring war on Pakistanis by now.

You are just lucky to be born or raised in the UK for crying out loud you could have been born and raised in Haiti or better still in Congo where it is almost certain that you'll be despoiled. Get a grip and stop generalising i was born and raised from Nigeria and to be honest I cannot say how many times I have been touched inappropriately by some british born girls, this has not made me to think they are all loose. I'm a responsible married man and so are many of my friends many of whom are professionals.

My advise to you is to stop associating yourself with crooks because if you keep associating yourself with them i'm sure you will raise a thread like this for every nationalities. BTW birds of the same feathers flock together, it easier for crooks to attract another crook

wow, so you blame the girl and not the character of the person harrasing her, please spare me!

D-sense:

I have said it ''Na Ayilala go punish'' u r*tarded son of pig!
Where is 190 sef to come and set bomb in his Hole

Dsense, no comment

I HOPE YOU ALL HAVE MOTHERS AND SISTERS OHHHHHH, FREE THE GIRL ABEG, those of you saying she making Nigeria look bad are making Nigerians look insensitive abeg.

if una like curse me, as usual  

CILondon:

Even though I was born in UK and lived the the great majority of my life in UK, I have been to Nigeria and lived there and so I know what i saw with my own eyes. A pretty girl can't walk down the road and go to the market without men grabbing and pulling one part of her body or the other - the poor girl has no police to trun to

And then thos same bush men get visa's to come into UK and try that rubbish on the women over here. Thank God for British police. He de show una pepper

Come and try your ikebe grabbing nonsense over here in UK and see what Oyinbo police will do to you

D-sense:

Op.
U must be high on Taba or Taba is high on u . . . .Jobless AZZ HOLE . . .Must u generauze . . . .I'm sure u one of those retatded banned Nairalanders that just bounced back these days with phucking thread . . . U dense pig.
We agreed this guy misbehaved nd deserved to be punished.  . . .Bt what gave u the impression,confidence nd gumption to generalize that all nigerian born male re just like this Guy? ANSWER

seriously, what is this about? there are other ways you could have put it, smh,

CILondon:

Nigerians are very sensitive. They don't take criticism well and respond with insults and abuse.

Oh well, the truth is bitter - the whole world can't be wrong about you

well i agree and disagree. in your case the guy was wrong,  but some people get upset when you generalise,  you need to cut some men some slack,

to be honest i am not the biggest fan of Nigerian men but i know that there are many decent ones.

I am Nigerian and i can relate to some things you have said. like i said the guy was completely out of order!

if you generalise, it does get people a bit angry , i guess Nigerians are fed up of being classed as unruly!

Mrs. Eve:

I might!  

dont worry i know your type,  you will give the man that even brushes your lap a dirrty slap, a kick, a punch, and a shot in the rear

,  but seriously,  the poster was only trying to express herself,  i dont know what part of the world you are but naija men are getting it hard in cuz some of them are being jailed for despoil, these are not just isolated cases. warn them ohhhh

Mrs. Eve:

What?!!!! Don't laugh at my expense, I am still struggling with the abuse!

LOL, i dont think any one can try you oh! na so u go talk, i am sure you have one AK47 stashed somewhere,

Mrs. Eve:

Yeah, He threw me down some steps and threw me against the wall! He pulled my hair and called me the N WORD, I was shocked! He told me I need to return back to my homeland and fight with the monkeys! I mean it was so horrible!

Ms Eve, be nice!!!

vivaladiva:

i concur with nubian and the poster---pls dont generalise i beg-----but walahi as i dey so----if u havent lived in the uk close to ten years----my arse dont want to be seen with u-----i dont mean ten years of workin in the underground oooo----there r a few decent men from naija in the uk------but its 10000 idiots to 1 decent man

infact i am done with the lot of them.please no tell my papa .

any woman that complains about naija men is called names,  so i am not complaining oh but observing while the prison numbers increase!

i have moved ship you know warramean, 

Wislet:

point of correction gal. Don't say DAT country. It is YOUR country. And who in de world told u an eclipse will take place in 9ja if 'your' president decides 2 visit? <talk of inferiority complex>. Talk lik a grown up my friend. De last thing on anyone's mind is such visits. Der re better issues @stake. . . . And u wonder why your post makes some laugh? Maybe u should visit yaba left first, wen u come out, u re-read your post yourself. . . Dis your thinkin-wit-de-anu.s thread had beta be a 'catchin fun' idea, cos if NOT, u might need to write to your esteemed president to check u in quickly @ de equivalent of yaba left over there. *mobo u beta get in here, your wifey awaits* smh

Wislet i think you are being too harsh, what happened to her is not acceptable, she did not like the way she was treated. maybe the generalisation ON HER PART was a bit unfair but she had an opinion its left for some of us to explain to her that some men behave alot better.  Thank God you mentioned Yaba! those traders there are just rude, i dont expect any right thinking woman to enjoy being pulled! its disgusting!!!

@Poster,

You need to relax oh Nairaland is the wrong place to air your mind , believe me!

i understand where you are coming from and no its not accpetable for the guy to hold your neck. he was wrong and you were right to have pointed this out.

As for me oh, if any perrcy pervvy comes around me hmmmmm matter go start.

I am going to have to come to the defense of the poster in some areas. Oya shoot me !!!

First of all maybe the Generalisation was unfair but she has a point. most of our men are OVER CONFIDENT! there is nothing wrong with that however we need to remember that when you are in a different place you have to conform to the way of life there.

Yes most of you on here could be described as respectable men but believe me there are loads of men that give the good ones a bad name.

Nigerian men get accused of sexual Assault alot some are guilty while some just thought they were going with the flow. when it comes to harrasing white ladies some are just under the impression that white girls are super easy and jump the gun, WRONG!

There are some men in Jail for rape simply because they took advantage of  women being drunk or in some other vulnerable position.

as a Nigerian woman myself i have had incidents with my fellow Nigerian men but the pre-historic Nigerian will say "you asked for it" i say NO I DID NOT, the PERVERT should have more self control. And yes you may want to BLOW me but some Men can be a bit too over touchy and over the top FRIENDLY.

Alot of ladies have had incidents, some very bad!

The poster was only making a point, However, its not about Nigerian men being raised abroad or at home. It just has to do with who they are on the inside. Alot of Nigerian Men have class and do not have to resort to acting silly, some others are just WRONG.

@Poster, The Nigerian men who lack class and are just crass are the ones that act stupid! Its how they perceive women, its hard to tame a wild animal, in the future nip it in the bud before it becomes something else

obehiremen

obehioye,

ehimen

Buzugee,

you are even joining to turn the fire hot pot!

you are enjoying the fight, na wa for you sef,

stop before i come and smack you and invincible!!!!

and believe me the koboko i have is bad a$$

At the of the day sooo many people have said do not regret leaving Nigeria,  some do and some dont.

everyone has a reason for everything,  i do not see some people's points on here. as you have seen, the people who have left have expressed love for the country and i will not blame the ones that dont either,

ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE STATED THAT MOVING IS A PERSONAL DECISION.

Yes oh Naija is lovely but have some of you not heard of migration? some people from other countries live in Nigeria too,

can some of you stop acting all ignorant and accept that people are different so are opinions.

you are giving me an eye ache,

rotimiland:

Invisible, eni ba da eru ni eru nto. Mo di agbado inu igo fun adiye re. Nitori ati di mi ni edidi ti agbara aye kan ko le ka. Ito ko tun ni pada si enu mo.  oun ti mo so ni pa re aro ti ro mo.  

abeg translate nah!!

na waoooooo,

can you guys let this matter go!!! its has now become the battle of the ego's!!

relax, if someone wants to live in Nigeria or Abroad it should be their business, all this country and decision bashing is just wrong, SMH

Ivynwa:

OMG!
That was way too much especially for that poor woman. How can they treat that woman like that. I really pity her.

Viva, you are such a naughty girl! You don't cease to make me laugh nowadays. The last time I heard, you referred to the kini as pencil

You should meet Viva in person, she is all laughs, there is never a dull moment with her, i avoid calling her at work because i laugh soo hard people around look at me funny.


@Vivaladiva, how was ur visit to the dentist LOL!!!!

Mrs. Eve:

Escoba,

ONCE A WOMAN IS MARRIED, LEGALLY MARRIED, SHE IS MARRIED REGARDLESS IF SHE KEEP HER FATHER'S SURNAME OR NOT,

Please tell this nairaland men ohhh!!!

These name thing taya person. name changes can be headache! as for me, if its a cool surname i am grabbing it!

you are right about the men on here, some of them will prefer if the women did not have a voice.

@Escoba,

Capricon? I am Capricon too,

now apologise for calling me a feminist! i know you still feel i am (internally!!!)

excoba101:

@NubianQ

Ok ma'am. No hard feelings.
Moreover, that would not stop me from saying it is wrong and i have never seen it happen that a lady keeps her father name and man keeps his name and they are legally married.

My mother uses both names on her bank accounts and businesses inter-changeably, but she is Mrs. my father by marriage. And she (as a Yoruba woman) has never supported what you guys are arguing about here.

I made a called to about 3 elderly people abroad and my nee in Lagos about these topic because i was surprised to see the amount of woman poring out what they feel marriage should be like here, and their answers are negative except an elderly one in Minnesota who had been there for more than 30yrs and also said it is because she feels we should let women say how they want it. Then i asked what about the tradition and she laughed.

Well, i can not speak for any man or wing shifters. As for me and those men who still have brain and little ideal about the real world, we will follow the tradition.

Cheers



Of course

you are one tough cookie


you should relax ohhhh. times are changing and there will be a time where women will conquer lol, ( dont call me feminist ohhhh )

ok seriously, I will take my husby's name If i get married but i dont have to, its no big deal.

a woman has a choice. i dont think its worth bothering about.

if its a cool name, i will grab it fast oh, my surname is even hard to pronounce sef, you should see oyibo people twisting their tongues to pronounce it!

Luckily i have an English first name so it spares them a bit of a headache,

excoba101:

1) It was rude for you to have called my apology sarcasm when you are the person being sarcastic here(maybe that is why people almost never say i am sorry these days).
2) Have you learn anything from what I posted on both forum so far?
3) When i quoted your post, i thicken some lines. Read through them and then answer my question. Is there any other English word to explain the way you see life?

Excoba,

I just think different, i respect others opinions but you seem to term any woman who doesnt think the way you think a Lesbian or a feminist. i dont think thats fair. if i was rude i apologise but you need to go back and read your response to my questions, i did find them rude, well maybe we misunderstood each other.

We are not all feminists. The world is filled with people with different ideas. everyone walks on their own path. its ok if you do not agree with me, we may agree on other issues but who knows.

As for women keeping their last names, i saw ur comments, you need to relax ok, a name doesnt change how people feel about each other. some of this things are done with a mans blessing believe it or not.

no hard feelings mate,

excoba101:

Sorry Ma'am. But YES. Should there be any other English qualification to explain your orientation of life? Please knock my point out with it.
But I it pissed you off then i am sorry for either intruding your conversation with someone else or posting here at all. 

@Excoba,

Sorry i dont do Catfights with men drop the Sarcasm or give it to someone else,  me pissed off? hell no! its a forum, we all do not have to get along,

You seem to call every woman who expresses herself a feminist,  just saw your previous posts, you put the same thing on another thread,

I am not feminist,  ,  i have my opinions about things but i do not stir up anything and i do not intend to,  i hope you can accept that not everyone would think alike.

dysfunctional,  well,  i dont know about that but experiences change people.woman or man.

As a matter of fact i do have respect for men. i have opinions some people do and do not like,  but i can always listen and learn from other people.

I am not right all the time,

excoba101:

@NubianQ




Perhaps you can see a reflection of yourself here. Also the book was written by a western writter not an African writter. I guess the white are feeling the heat of feminists like you too.
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most of the leading feminists are severely dysfunctional 'women'
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Firstly, most of the leading feminists are severely dysfunctional 'women' and/or they are a particular type of lesbian. (And, in both cases, it is quite clear from their past histories and their rhetoric that they positively hate men - in some cases, perhaps with some justification as a result of experience).

(Please note that I feel no antipathy whatsoever towards lesbians or lesbianism. Au contraire; my personal view is that people being intimate with each other is a good thing and, further, that it is nobody's business what they choose to do.)

Secondly, there are now, literally, billions of dollars, numerous empires, and millions of jobs that depend on the public swallowing the idea that women need to be defended from men in some way or other. And the feminists (together with many others) can only maintain these luxuries by continually stirring up hatred toward - and a fear of - men.

Finally, it is worth emphasizing that you can never have 'equality' between two things that are not equal by definition. And so, for example, you can have equality among 'people', but not between 'men' and 'women'.

And there is no scenario that anyone could come up with that would bring about 'equality' between 'men' and 'women' unless no distinction between 'men' and 'women' was actually being made.

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most feminists and women's groups want there to be a permanent gender war. Without such a war, they would evaporate into thin air
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[b]Indeed, most feminists and women's groups want there to be a permanent gender war. Without such a war, they would evaporate into thin air, because there would be no reason for them to exist. Most feminists and women's groups need to maintain an inter-gender war in order to generate their support and their funding, and also to maintain their positions of power as well as their jobs. And the more power, resources and jobs that they wish to cling on to, the greater must be the inter-gender war that they need to stimulate.

Indeed, anything that undermines - or makes more insecure - the special nature of close heterosexual relationships is something that feminists will always support and encourage.

Whether it is supporting same-sex marriage (to undermine traditional marriage) getting women out to work, paying women welfare to encourage relationship break-ups, forever urging women to feel abused in some way and to prosecute their partners, unjustly high alimony payouts, demonising or mocking men, encouraging lesbianism, the aim is the same. Make it as difficult as possible for men and women to have secure relationships. Disempower men within those relationships as much as possible, and ensure that when relationships break up then the men lose out the most.

In conclusion; feminism is not about equality. It is about stirring up hatred towards men; no matter what the true situation is.

And because 'equality' can never be achieved, this stirring up of hatred towards men seems set to go on and on and on; unless, that is, feminists are utterly discredited and exposed for who they really are.

And if you take the time to look very closely at what underpins, energises and unites feminists, you will find that there is only one emotion lying at the core of their beliefs -  a very strong desire to stir up hatred towards men.[/b]

Indeed, you do not even need to read the various outpourings of the feminists in order to figure out what their views will be on any given matter. Just ask yourself this simple question: "What would my views be if I hated men and if I wanted to stir up this hatred in others?" And your answer to this question will almost certainly be consistent with what most feminists are actually saying.

Finally, take a look at this short piece to see what 'benefits' feminism brings to those societies that advocate it; The Benefits of Feminism. It won't take much intelligence to make the connections for yourselves.

@Excoba, And your point is

Please explain I think you should , because i dont want to jump the gun and assume that you are calling me a feminist,

CyberG:

@Nubian. . .the ending of your last post was really funny  and the beginning only peaked my curiosity:

Ok i am going to explain,

when i say

I am what the African Culture would love to hate and i am what the West would consider as Alternative.

Well. i don't think i am alone when i say i am just one of the people that can be described as different,  i always have been,  not exceptional but different,  growing up in Nigeria, i must say i hated everything conventional ( i love my country oh!! lol) I guess i saw too many behaviours as fake and i just could not understand the way of thinking there, Nigerians are educated people and believe me i admire them for being able to stand out. i Just think alot of things and actions are Hypocritial!

not to scare u too much i am going to just say a few things, most things about me are not accepted in Africa,  I am the old mama oops  i mean girl who thinks there is absolutely nothing wrong with being different,i.e  gay, straight, bi-sexual, cross dresser, Transgendered,,  anything,  Infact i fight for rights and for any cause where i find people are not being regarded as equal, I am the person who doesnt think divorce is the biggest deal on earth,  single motherhood or adoptions are not soo bad,  i feel we shld live free. However i am not for violence of any kind.

i research on anything and my interests are weird (according to alot of people who know me(, most of my views on life do not sit well with Africans at all,  infact i have almost been CYBER MURDERED here. . there are loads of people like me, i could go on forever, I just do not think life is a complicated as well think,  it can be a beeyatch but hey we manage somehow, i dont go on a GOD FORBID rant,  i believe in God but i dont see why some people go on a God rant especially when their actions are questionable

The only buddie i have on here and outside nairaland is Vivaladiva  she agrees with me on alot of things but insists am weird lol

when i say alternative, i was a bit too broad on that,  many in the west will agree with most of my views but i always find that some people actually say how different i am in some ways,  I tend to have an interest in the old religions of the world ,  the greek and celtic mythology, i am a little Gothy on the inside,  a dark soul with a bright light, my kind of music,  lots of  things, luckily there are people like me.as crazy as some people think i am, i just think i am curious about everything and anything,  I cant seem to put ME in words lol,


2. It's fair to be attracted to any race/kind of people but tell me about what you think should be in their head? This I am VERY curious about but before I go telling you about "the quality" of things in my head or a LOT of black guys I know, please elaborate. Perhaps you are talking about something that I am not thinking about. . .so let me know before I jump the gun!


I hope you we can both agree that ALOT of black guys do not bother to learn New things and are set in their ways, i am not saying all black guys but i still havent found the ones that are different, well when i say in their heads,  i might have been a bit unfair,  but i am going to explain, I have not met an intelligent black man in a long time, the fact that some black men are able to educate themselves, some of them do seem to want to know or learn more. as long as it has nothing to do with them. Apart from thinking that holding a good job is the FAST PASS to getting chicks  most of them cannot hold a conversation. I am not saying i am the most intelligent woman in the world but i meet soo many black guys that are just DULL! , lets talk music or history, all some black men know esp your naija brodas is debanj, unfortunately i do not listen to Nigerian music, i read about these people amongst other things so that when i meet people i am able to discuss  Nigerian music and stuff with them, not because i like it, I just learn about other things,  once you start discussing other kinds of music or history,  he is LOST!, I have met only ONE Nigerian man and he was about 50, and he impressed me alot,  In short, i havent found a man i can learn from!! some men think some girls are dumb, i think some men bake the cake when it comes to dumb and NO i am not a man hater ,

my interests range from, the goth culture, New Age, Travel,Forensic Science, Alternative religion, Music (esp classical n Rock), ,  anything or anyone i can read about,  there are still more things i want to learn.


3. Kai. . .Nubian, this last set of points are one of the major issues which never seems to go away but is becoming more prominent. I speak for myself but I can confidently speak for a LOT of my male friends who have tried Nigerian girls abroad but I'd like to hear your response to (1) and (2) before making this post any longer with more text.


my dear,  no need oh,  i would just love to read your explanation defending Naija Brodas,  they are just wrong in sooo many ways! Nigerian men abroad claim to be westernised but one a naija woman is herself and opens up,  naija men start saying girls abroad are loose,  abeg jo i have heard it soo many times,  instead to go to Nigeria to marry the ones that have rubbed Alum to tighten their slack vajayjays, 

On a more serious note i think its a bit daft when some Naija guys yab Naija women abroad,  they claim that we don open eye,  an example is,  London, All i hear from naija men is that " London girls are wild" that is the most ignorant statement i have ever heard,  so living in london has now become a capital offense abi? Do they realise that most of us work hard, what time does anyone have to be loose, apart from the cobweb clearance activity but dont we all do it? abeg jo,  Nigerian men are always saying how dey want a good girl,  i am still waiting for the defination of a good girl,

I hate the word WIFE MATERIAL! OR GIRL TO TAKE HOME TO MAMA, it makes my skin crawl,

I dont even want to be associated with those descriptions, and i dont even want to be termed a good girl, i dont see it as some thing i have to acheive, what i think i am is WHO I AM, not what someone else thinks,

I am still going to smack them all for making me remain an old woman oh nothing you can say can let them of my hook

CyberG:


Nubian, would you be able to put your decision not to get married to life's experience or something? You know decisions like that never jump out of the blues. . .it has to be something that has to inform such a profound decision.

;

@Cyber G,

Well,  yeah some of my decisions are based on experiences and no these experiences do not involve being left at the altar or being promised marriage n left high n dry as most people tend to think that is what makes a woman go mad and go on a man hating spree lol,  thats really not the case. As a matter of fact, i don't do the bitter ex rant ( i manage to get over things, yeah it was tough but i did).

I am what the African Culture would love to hate and i am what the West would consider as Alternative.

I dont know but it just happened. But i respect people who marry and have kids.

Maybe when i find someone to tame me i might become desperate and propose or run around to find him in parties

I know i am going to get shot for saying this but here it goes,

If i was ever going to consider getting married, the man would definately have to think very differently,  so far all the people that i get on with are not black,  finding a black man who thinks very diffrent and acts different is as hard as finding a needle in a haystack

some of us are really not into looks or what the average woman would want,  I look for what is in the persons head,  believe me,  i meet some guys that make me want to poke my eyes out

going back to the topic,

American men are crazy! lol,  some of them,  having baby mamas is not being westernised, i think its actually very silly that some men think its a good thing,

Black American women are drama,

As for Nigerian American/british singles abroad,  i BLAME all the naija men oh,  once a girl lives abroad they start putting the girl down, instead they rather go to naija to find a wife, i wonder why some of them think that the women there are better,

i really need someone to explain why they do this, seriously

Nigerian men always become defensive about this but i find that its true, why do some men think the ones at home are better,

I blame the naija men for making women abroad desperate


so tell your fellow bordas that Aunty Nubian is coming to smack them

she can poison him, its no biggie, add it to his food, make sure she does it in little doses, then he drops dead, she just has to find poison that is non detectable in the blood,

i was sent something Similar,

since i came back on here, 

FSTRANGER HAS STALKED ME BEYOND ANYTHING,

he doesnt get banned! instead i get banned,

Fstranger comes on any topic i am on, 

I just decided to click report to moderator  whenever he rears his ugly head!

THAT FSTRANGER IS WHAT THE INTERNET CALLS A DERANGED STALKER!

armyofone:

NubiaQ, great move. i plan to do the same in the future. have mine and adopt 1 or some.
i'd love a boy too  .

Thats cool! well my plan is to do an angelina jolie and have children of different cultures.

Boys are cool to adopt, goodluck when the time comes for you!

well to be honest i dont think she is a very commited friend. she is just enjoying all the attention,

sometimes she could just be lazy, dats it!

you can stop going to see her and meet up in somewhere that is not your place or her place.

if she asks just tell her how you feel.

MsTom:

Oh my! imagine the psychological trauma. Sometimes, the law fails one. why did they give him life?!

well, it was said that he did not get a good legal representation and he was sentenced to life without parole. he has a friend that came with him that day but did not take part in the murder and his friend got life without parole too, the programme is called " When Kids Get Life",

The prosecution stated that he never complained about the attacks on him and there was no evidence, so he got the wrong end of the stick.

it was sad but there are loads of people that go through things like this,