this is hard. does guy a have any drive? do you see him making something of himself in the future? are you willing to wit that long do you have time? remeber even if he finishes you are not completely sure he will get a great job you might have to wait even longer before he is settled in the job field.
sometimes the sparks cant be compared to happiness nd beign contented.

guy 2 do you know him well enogh? remeber the devil u knw is better than the angel you dont. do a bckground chk on him wat is hes past like? is he faithful?, promiscuos? carrying any ex girlfriend baggage?, is he still hooked up on someone? are you hes first choice now?(not so important tho) finally can you see a possibility of a happy future? sometimes marriage is not always abt the spark of cours eto an extent but some other things are just as important.

gud luck gurl
by the way dnt feel guilty bout enione saying y u are fussing abt two gud guys. at the end of the day ull be the one to wake up next t them for the rest of ure life fuss all you want but remeber: tick tock. . .

yemivictor plz oh!!
u think say i nor know nairaland? i go put my age here the next thing before i one comment for another topic them go shoot me down say wetin i know abi? THANKYOU!

Thanks yall. una talk true he is perfect [sub i must really be that special [/sub]
i have to honestly say if not for nairaland i might not have ever said enything which might have caused trouble ^{u never know!} u guys can be mean but at least you say wat we have to hear.
special thnks to YOU whos reading.

. . . Ha! ^{sighs with relief} _{there goes another successfull post!}
^{leaves to go and do oversabi in other peoples post}

niraland o!!
i gave it to him just like u said. i said im not a virgin can u imagine he looked at me for a few seconds and laughed! he laughed cos he diddnt believe! can you imagine that? d-reloaded now you can see he is living in his own world! lol

he asked me why i was lying!! after finally convincing him he just looked at me in the eye and said it doesnt matter. even if i am or im not it doesnt matter. but he still didnt try to jump into bed with me! everyday we do the same thing over and over again he doesnt try anything extra even now he knows im not. what the hell is wrong with him i have come to the conclusion that on a subconscious level he still thinks im "good"and he doesnt want to "spoil" me. wat do yall think?

eniway ive done my part and im happy it doesnst matter to him im so happy!!!!

DIS YEMI VICTOR SELF e don strike me say u be palavar man

ok! ok! ok! well said!

COVER ME . . . IM GOING IN!

yemi victor my love are you happy now?

d reloaded im confused ohh i think hes living in a fantacy!!!!!!!!!!!

ok im a bit confused now. . . . .
i thought i was sure before but i dont think so now
he never iasked me outright and we never had a seroius discussion about it. . . he just used to say stuff like "see this one holy holy" and stuff like i know u havent had the experience ive had and things like i dont want to rush you or hurt u bla bla i alwyas thought like he was trully convinced.

but since nairalands repsonses i tried to ease into it by replying ohh please who told you? did i ever tell you that? even though we are now dating im not looking to jump into bed with him yet. but then i finally made it clear
{starting halfway in the conversation}

"i dont want to rush things or rush you because . . ." and i said
"because what?"
he just laughed and said "you know"
i replied "i dont know you always assume did i tell you i was a virgin?"
he said "ok no you diddnt but i dont assume it one of those things you just know . . i knew from the first time i met you because you wer shy and . . .
i interrupted but how do you know that? i never told you that thats the problem with you boys you alwys assume! so because im a "virgin" thats why you havent pounced on me yet?
he said ok[b] lets say you are really a virgin it will not still change anything.[/b]
good cos i never told you i was!
we both laughed it off. _{other conversation but cant risk putting that here just incase he comes along to nairaland!}
1) i think he was just assuming but he really wasnt sure.
2) hes wasnt taking the issue as anything and he isnt really bothered about it.
3)i think hes indifferent. nothing has changed he isnt pressuring me for sex still but he still teases me by calling me "a little kid" or stuff like "you self you havent seen anything yet" i always tease back by you havent seen anything yet either.

now that ive made it clear why is he still teasing? is that just some game hes playing or did i misunderstand hes comparison of both our experiences; for him thinking i had no experience at all?
he laughed it off does that mean he knew all along or he was just trying to figure out why i hadnt jumped into bed with him yet?

Why exactly are you here!?

Because i can see all forms of advice have been given to you on this thread of yours!

isnt it obvious? for all the forms of advice

{he called me dearie!!!} _{bashes eyelashes}

firstly are you looking for marriage? if you are then its a waist of time.
remember if your looking for mr right mr wrong might be standing inthe way.

secondly how old are you? if youre still young enough to have meaningless relationships then this is your ideaal man!
however, if you stay theres a possibility you can contract some diesease since hes cheating.

do you love him? if you do ouch!! but if not then theres no harm.
however, if you stay theres a great chance you'll fall in love with him

lastly you cant change him so dont attempt.
its basically up to you wat dyu want?

@ gamine clever pik!

oh hunni this is nairaland!! its freedom of speech if i wanted a pat on the back (trust me) i wouldn be here!!!

so FINE! drop your criticism {im indifferent anyways} and drop an answer! its how you keep the thread going!

well its about time we had some air headed replys i was beginning to think id only get insightful responses!

:oanbogga that advice take style harsh oh!

good points yallll but most[b] importnatly who told you its all girls waist that mens hand can go ALL THE WAY around?[/b]

@scarlett im looking at my options!!!

@ spoilt LOL GOOD ONE!

WOW! im back,
id like to thank d reloaded, 4him, somze and especially lady T for thier insightful responses and interesting points they have soulfully argued with and also FOR DEVIATING FROM THE TOPIC FOR A WHOLE PAGE!!!

@ enconium nice to know the first response was not insultive brief and straight to the point.

as for ure arguments 4him i havnt lied for sooooooooooooooo long its been like three months and in my defnse we werent dating yet. we have just crossed the line!
secondly as for my "lie" it was simple turning a deaf ear or an "ommision" if u must. i honestly dont think he has a right to be mad yet! on the other hand i dont think he should be mad if hes "assumption" turned out to be wrong i mean wat are guys turning into nowadays? if he doesnt pass first base in the first three months automatically ure a virgin? whatever happened to holding out 4 as long as possible

that beign said tommyex does bring a gud point i want to enjoy the fisrt tyme. if im faking i have to do the whole stoping for a break halfway and crying all night till morning for a bout a week! {scoffs}who wants to do that whn i can be having fun?

ok so i met this guy,  i really like him and he likes me too we just officially started dating. but theres one problem.

he thinks im a virgin. I KNOW I KNOW. how could i be so insensitive bla bla. but he just assumed and i just kind of played along. i guess he did maybe because of the way i act, my principles and how hard it was to woo me. he alwys says i have good morals and im so innocent (excluding the lying part obviously!) i have only been with the one guy before (who totally broke my heart by the way!) so basically i havent been with anyone else since then that was a year and a half ago. this was a bad chapter in my life because even though we had good times i still regret the relationship not because he was a bad guy but i could have waited and i could have gotten much better than him. he hurt me and i deserved better.

i havent really been interested in sex  since then he probably didnt do it right because then to me sex was like do it and get it over with! but now theres this really good guy i like who treats me like a princess and i just wish i could rewind. obviously i can't! this guy is inexperienced with virgins and wouldnt tell the diff. because its been so long, and my ex's willy was tiny, if you know were im going with this,

ever since my ex ive alwys claimed virginity. mentally, physically all in all. now theres a chance for a fresh start and to make it all right i alwys loved the pride my ex had knowing he was my first (the bastard!) and i want that again (thats my view anyway)

so now i have two choices i can play along and make it seem like i really am thats not a prob i know i can pull it off.

[b]or i can come clean and tell him but he may not think im so special anymore. im not panicking because i can just say [/b]i wanted sex to be out of the equation before we started a real relationship and the only way for me to avoid temptation was to tell him that because i knew he wouldnt attempt; but now i trust him i think its time to move the relationship to another level (which was actually the original plan)

basically its WIN WIN
[b]MY QUESTION IS DO I STICK TO THE ORIGINAL PLAN AND BE HONEST?OR DO I PLAY DUMB?
if i do will it haunt me forever? in this case can i say i shouldnt start this relationship based on a lie?
if i do lie am i justified? everything is so perfect now why should i ruin it?

i would appreciate insightful and brilliant responses please thanks. wer are the love doctors in the house?
aisha2, iice, sauce kid, drionelli, and all my other brainy nairalanders bring out the big guns!

hmmmmmmmm genivieve and dbanj are just hit and run ohhhhhhhh according to shan george sha she said wen they meet its just bang and me and u go our seperate ways.

eniways i heard tuface is in love with on model like this that he really likes her, gud luck to him sha if he can say mor than the words NOTHING THEY HAPPEN then all will be well!

i heard genivieve is afree giver ohh as long as u have money sha and ure rolling with the big dogs. hehe i know a guy who slept with geniviev withing a week of meeting her!

i swear!!!!!

a mob bosses ten year old son was asked to write a list asking jesus for what he wanted for hes birthday. so he took out a pen and a paper dear jesus i would like a, he rumples it up and throws it in the bin. he starts aagain dear jesus may i have a, he does the same thing again, dear jesus i would appreciate it if, again in the bin. this goes on for bout ten minutes. finally he gets piks up a statue of mary, puts her in the clost and locks it. he piks up the pen and paper again. dear jesus, if you ever want to see your mother again,