Mine was Check mate and Alhaji's house was my favourite scene. oooh!!!!! I miss NTA of those days.

I am still pondering on why men like sex so much. They want to explore all of God's creation to satisfy their sexual desires. I'm really curious to know why.

Recently Men have been clamoring to legalize guy rights (sex between a man and another man). The most recent saga now is to legalize trying it with children, .

Please share your views on these questions I have been asking myself lately.
1.Are ladies not good in bed any more?
2. Is it a case of insatiable sexual appetite on the part of the male specie?
3. Are they no longer interested in the two protruding things in front and behind on ladies?
....................... and lots more questions this space cann't contain

Yes, its all about grace. We cann't continue in sin and say grace will abound...GOD FORBID!!!!! The grace of God helps us to live a holy life and gives us power to overcome sin.

1 Be sexually considerate
Be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and to sustain a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

2. Forgiveness
Couples who can't make up will break up. As simple as this sounds, without forgiveness in a relationship, old hurts often resurface and neither person is truly able to let go of the past.

3. Communication
Couples need to learn how to talk through both easy and challenging issues. Disagreements are a part of every relationship. To get through them, partners have to learn to respect their different ways of communicating and "walk in their partner's shoes." This means learning how to communicate love in a way that your partner hears and feels it.

4. Revive date-night.
Going on dates, even if you've been in a relationship for years, is still important. In fact, it's especially important for couples who have been together long enough to grow comfortable. Try to go on a date at least once every month. Some couples make it a priority to go on one date every week.

5. Honesty
Honesty is one of the most basic of all elements to any healthy relationship. A deep and loving honesty between two people says, "No matter what happens, you will always know the true me." This feeling allows couples to open up and be the best they can be with each other.

I dont think there is any provisional posting outside naija. If you want to serve you can either bring your family to naija for a year and choose the state of your choice to serve. Another option is to do "arrangee", You'll make some payment and go on (AWOL) and there after you get your NYSC certificate thru DHL.

Thank you so much, that was really helpful

ferhyntorlah: For me, I like:
1. Green + Orange (Sweet Sensation colours)
2. Purple + Pink (deep/fushia pink)
3. Brown + Yellow/Cream
4. Turquoise Blue + Red/Brown/Yellow
5. Cream + Marine Blue/Lime Green
6. Gold + Green/Brown
7. Wine + Pink/Cream/Yellow
8. Red + Blue/cream/Mint Green
9. Peach + Cream/Green/Brown

Please check these links for further assistance:
1. http://www.bhg.com/wedding/color/perfect-wedding-color-combos/
2. http://aso-ebigallery..com/2010/08/wedding-colour-combination-original.html?m=1

Please naira land fashion guru, I need ideas on what matching colors will blend for aso oke wedding outfit.

tbaba1234:

The men made the choice of who to keep.

Alright, thank you very much.
In our present day if people want to make restitution as to comply with the limit of 4 wives, how would you suggest they go about it so that they don't hurt the feelings of the women concerned. Especially for new convert into Islam that already have 6 wives. Because some times these challenges face us in our every day life how to put these teachings into practice and still not bear guilt and burden of hurting women and probably the children they have had in such relationships over many years. I don't know how the women at that time handled it.

Also are the wives given a say in the matter when the man decides to marry another wife. My mother's friend once fainted when she was told that the husband has decided to take in another wife and this new lady was already pregnant at that time. Altho they latter lived at peace and they were happy together as a family cos i guess she didn't have a choice than to get over it. Things went bad again some years down the line and everyone is now apart.
No woman really would want to leave her husband's house cos of the limit when the man now embraces Islam and I also don't think any woman will willing want to share her husband with any other. What is the stake of women in all these issue of polygamy as per their feelings?

May God help us all.

Thanks alot for all the contribution and maturity.
But please may I ask a question on those with 10 or 6 wives that were asked to reduce it to 4. How was the reduction done. was it that the men had to choose who stays and who had to leave or was is that the last ones were the one to leave the marriage?

tbaba1234: Mr man, it is not ambiguous, the very next ayah talks about giving the bride gift.

Umar never had six wives at a time.

Also, up until this last century polygamy was a common practice by most people. Before Islam it was practiced by all major religions and peoples, islam put a limit.

This ayah is that restriction,

Ghailan ibn aslamah althaqafi had ten wives and the messenger asked him to reduce it to four. Altlirmidhi and ibn majar

Qais ibn al harith al asadi had eight wives, he was asked to reduce it to four. Abidawud

Nawfil ibn muawiyah had five wives, same thing.

This clearly shows the application of the ayah.The ayah limited the number of wives that can be married. Polygamy is valid in islam with the limit and a condition of justice. We follow the quran and the sunnah, and the application of this injunction is clear. If something is wrong, there will be a clear directive to stop.

Slaves were obtained primarily through war, and the privilegs a slave had in an islamic community were far greater than Imperialist communities. Muslim slaves became kings and were followed by the people .

Please read tafseers to obtain better understanding, do not interpret ayat to suit your desires.

Ronkeleads: I mean he has a good erection but has never released for once

Release money or na car keys? I beg if you sabi ur job well man go release anything for you

why dem no do am for inside palace, why na Emir back yard. Yeye people...............long hisssss

biddybee: the order was changed for selfish reasons. what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Hahaha I dont think its either good for the goose or gander.

Thanks alot for your response. It sheds more light.
Its really amazing to know some women have started using this as gender discrimination, and saying they want to marry young boys so they can take care of them financially and quoting different verses in the holy book to justify their actions just the way men justify theirs. So I was confused and to satisfy my curiosity and really know reasons behind marrying more than one wife.

NL member:

That verse is not a a license for Muslim men to marry four wives and the truth is that the verse of polygamy was directed specifically at a man who wanted to treat an orphan unfairly as is stated in this hadith where Aisha herself said that this reference was initially given to address marriages with orphans:

Narrated Aisha:
There was an orphan (girl) under the care of a man. He married her and she owned a date palm (garden). He married her just because of that and not because he loved her. So the Divine Verse came regarding his case: "If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls…" (4.3) The sub-narrator added: I think he (i.e. another sub-narrator) said, "That orphan girl was his partner in that date palm (garden) and in his property." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 6, Book 60, Number 97)

This is further buttressed by the fact that the verse says, 'treat orphans fairly and if you fear that you cannot treat them fairly then marry two wives and three wives and four wives (as opposed to treating the orphans unfairly)

Koran 4 verse 2; And give to the orphans their properties and do not substitute the defective [of your own] for the good [of theirs]. And do not consume their properties into your own. Indeed, that is ever a great sin.
Koran 4 verse 3; And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].

That verse is not a license for all Muslim men to marry four wives.

Maclatunji, please I beg you in the name of Allah to not hide this post.
May Allah reward you for not hiding it.
Amin.

tbaba1234: First of all, the injunction of multiple wives was sanctioned by Allah not the messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Every muslim knows that so cease the act.

", Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly [with them], then only one, " Q 4:3

The above verse permits a man to take more than one wife on the condition that he can deal justly with them. So justice between wives is a precondition to marry more than one, This offers a practical solution to some of the societal problems. For example, In war torn regions of Africa, there are many widows caught in tough financial conditions because they have to take care of their kids alone. The Islamic model offers them Justice in a family environment. In the African American community in the U.S., there are so many men in prisons that the ratio of men to women is unfavourably skewed. We have many women without husbands and end up being mistresses and 'baby mamas'. It is a practical solution to problems societies face.


We live in

Thanks alot for your response tbaba. I was just worried about this problem of having many wives because some of our grand parents had about 4 wives and this has led to alot of hatred between siblings and serious chaos in the family for generations. I think it is possible genuinely help widows and people suffering without having to take back anything like sexual intimacy or any kind of intimacy at all.
Then secondly I think its almost impossible to treat different women equally, even parents find it hard doing it for their children.
My biggest concern is when children of about 13 yrs and less are taken as 2nd or 3rd wives so as to help them financially or otherwise like the case of Former gov Yerima of Zamfara sometime back. I really think proper education and discretion need to be taken into consideration when taking some actions we intend to back up by religion.

biddybee: OP...God bless you.
No mind the people wey dey expect dirty things.
God have mercy on them...

Thank u my correct person.

Bobbysworld28: Ur post is totally unrelated to d heading. Ur heading should be 5 ways to be faithful in marriage

Thank you for the suggestion.

nikkyshyne: The op is at a total state of oblivion.

hahahahahha your grammar too much, u be Patrick Obahiagbon pikin?

Bobbysworld28: Op
U mean u still don't c d daftness of ur post? Ur case is truly pathetic. D dumbness is strong in this one

Bobbysworld28, Na which line of my post daft make i comot am?

foxgiovani: It was a mistake opening this thread

Yes, a good mistake. I hope it was beneficial and you learnt something from it.

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Wetin u sef wan hear

Charles Shaw: Seriously i was expecting to read something hot so i can Bookmark it for the Future, Not this Bunk.
i'M so disappointed.
What's that ur name again? OBAIYANU?
iForgive mysef for reading this Hokum.

But this post is ONLY for married people, these are the hottest ways to enjoy long lasting sex life itch free.

Table Leg :


DAFT, DIMWITTED and DUMB .... That is what you and crap you posted above is all about!
Flipping nuisance!!!

Which of the 5 sexy ways sounds dumb or daft to you. You be confirmed learner

Scofieldella: 5 ways:
1. Make out in d daytime sometimes
2. Make out in his office smtmes(if he has one to himself).
3. Try out different positions nt only missionary style.
4. Build a swing in ur backyard and make out on it(if u're d only occupants)
5. Wear sex.y lingerie for ur hussy and guy, go nake.d at home.. BE FAITHFUL TO UR SPOUSE.

Thanks for adding to the list. I like

Bobbysworld28: Op u r dumb. QED!

Na English be dis?

Temismith: Thankyou. But honestly, i felt like slaping u after i dead dis. Still tanx

Wetin I do na wey u wan slap mi?

1. Have only one sex partner
Having one sex partner is the only way to stay away from some micro organisms like HIV, Hepatitis....etc
2. Be faithful to your partner
When you drink water from one tap then you would not have to compare different water from different sources and end up having diarrhea wey dey run belle
3. How many times you can have it
You can have it as breakfast, lunch and dinner. snackings like petting, smouching can be in between these meals.
4. Talk and Learn more about how to satisfy each other
5. If you don't want your partner cheating on you then don't do it to them
Lastly, sex outside marriage gets you burnt. Proverbs 6:27&28 Can a man take fire to his bosom and his clothes will not be burnt? can one walk on coals and his feet not be seared?

I just don't understand how Nigerians can produce a good president in a rotten society.
Civil servants are stealing money, Secretaries hiding file to get tipped, Students buying exam paper and marks, Market woman adjusting weighting measures and the list goes ON and ON.....

People have the attitude of " as long as my company gives me official car and pay me well everyone employee can be slaves and be oppressed', and you don't speak out against unjust treatment to others and you are a manager God dey watch u in 3D.

We can import evrything into nigeria but we cannt import leaders, they have to come from the the rotten society. If you bring the most "righteous" man to be president things stil won't change.
SO BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN NIGERIA.
GOD BLESS OUR GREAT NATION.

Ogbeche77: how much of your tithe did you give to me?

Learner na wetin u dey talk again

make u na dey run your mouth for naira land. The learner wey open this thread, how many of your cars have you sold to feed the poor. And if u no get car ur name na sorry.

Here are the qualities of a lady you should hold tight to
1. Hard working and Diligent
2. Says NO when you ask for sex
3. Help you achieve your goal and very supportive
4. pray with you and for you
5. Fears God and conduct her self on a good manner
6. Respect you and always ready to forgive
7. showers you with gifts and not always be the asking type
8 Makes evryday valentine for you
9. Ready to go all the way in rough times
10. Most importantly loves and fear God with all of her Being.

Chei, that company will go bankrupt if they register your 4 wives. Seriously no serious business owner will do that.
The hijab thing is still okay if the nature of your job allows you.

I remember this guy said he would not contest again if he lost the last election. Sounds to me like he has no integrity if he runs again. Well as for me I don't think he deserves my vote cos i expect him by now to have young minds he has groomed to take up leadership positions like we have the late Sarakis, Tinubus and the likes that have support young minds they choose to take over affairs in their various stage.
I wish Nigerians will wake up and stop recycling all these old people that contributed to where we are now.