@vergil, I applied online few months ago. It was a form I filled. I studied mathematics and computer sc. that was why I choose infrastructure analyst server supporter. There were a lot of options/positions to choose. I even helped a friend to fill the form and he was also invited.

The positions were for trainees, no experience was required.

Nawa for some men. They can never say anything good about their partner. Why is it that people remembers bad thing easily and forget the good ones. Even describing your wife as one that has med. Just because she changes attitude.

From my observation, your wife may be a GEMINI(May or June born).That's how most of them behave change is constant in their life, if you don't understand them you may think is a med. Stuff. They play a lot,get annoy and forgive easily, hard working, energetic,lively,intelligent/smart/sharp / ,supportive etc. They always look for things that we make u guys have issues but they don't mean it. Its just only to keep the marriage or relationship moving, lively and fun.

You have to understand your lovely wife and enjoy/appreciate her. Just ignore her insulting words she can't stop it and I she doesn't know when it comes out from her mouth. If She sees way to stop it, I know she most.

Just concentrate on her positive life and leave the negative one which is only stubbornness and insulting words. Its nature and its in her.

The grass is not greener at the other side.

Op I hope you are not a Virgo b/c you guys complain a lot over unnecessary things.

Wish you success. Young marriage that's how it is. Just remembering my ex now b/c of this post.

Pls house I just received my own VI from chevron for the position of INFRASTRUCTURE ANALYST SERVER SUPPORT. Please I also need the pack. Thanks obasinora@yahoo.com

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@Gloriagee thanks for your contribution but a child is only a bastard if the mother doesn't know her child's dad. Thank God there is DNA. she most not sleep with two different men. She can date a particular guy and give birth for the guy and also let the guy know she has his baby. The reason is just for her kid to know his or her origin. It pains me whenever I see pretty rich ladies without husband or kids. I believe that one of the primary reason we are in this world is to have kids. Someone to be remembered us with when we die, they also keep the generation alive.

Please I want to know where some topics or things that has been happening in this world is written in the Holy Bible. Though me personally, I haven't come across them in the bible so does that mean God knows all this will/must happen?

1)Having a baby out of wedlock .
2)Having kids from different men.
3)A married woman having kids by another man for her husband.
Etc.

All this things happens everyday in the world. But I haven't seen where they are written in the bible. Though God said avoid fornication and adultery.

To me, if not civilization that enlighten our brains and brought pills, condom, birth control etc any woman that makes love to any man during her ovulation period must be pregnant for him.

God doesn't support abortion.*thou shall not kill*
And He still said* go to the world and multiple*
*children are the inheritance from the Lord*

Why I'm asking this ? Is b/c I see a lot of women approaching 40/45 without husband and kids. Is it not better for those ladies to have kids at least and make sure the know the biological father of their kids and also let the man know too than dying without achieving anything in this world. At least have something they will be remembered with. They joy she will get from her kids may even make her live longer than living like an island.

Please where is giving birth out of wedlock written in the Holy Bible? Thanks.

Please I want to know where some topics or things that has been happening in this world is written in the Holy Bible. Though me personally, I haven't come across them in the bible so does that mean God knows all this will/must happen?

1)Having a baby out of wedlock .
2)Having kids from different men.
3)A married woman having kids by another man for her husband.
Etc.

All this things happens everyday in the world. But I haven't seen where they are written in the bible. Though God said avoid fornication and adultery.

To me, if not civilization that enlighten our brains and brought pills, condom, birth control etc any woman that makes love to any man during her ovulation period must be pregnant for him.

God doesn't support abortion.*thou shall not kill*
And He still said* go to the world and multiple*
*children are the inheritance from the Lord*

Why I'm asking this ? Is b/c I see a lot of women approaching 40/45 without husband and kids. Is it not better for those ladies to have kids at least and make sure the know the biological father of their kids and also let the man know too than dying without achieving anything in this world. At least have something they will be remembered with. They joy she will get from her kids may even make her live longer than living like an island.

Please where is giving birth out of wedlock written in the Holy Bible? Thanks.

I just google the term ambidextrous and ambidexterity: this term is used to describe the ability to use both hands. Famous individuals like Albert Einstein, Fleming, Harry Truman, Leonardo da Vinci, and Michelangelo were said to be ambidextrous individuals. As you can see, it’s quite hard to use both hands with dexterity. The mental prowess of individuals depends on how they use their brain. It helps in using both hemisphere of the brain. if you want to achieve awareness at a much higher level, you must learn to be ambidextrous; that is, you need to use both hemispheres of your brain.

I have learnt in this post! I wouldn't stop my son again. No wonder the boy is too smart/clever. @18months he talks well and he sings most the poem they say in school and even Our Lords prayer. He is a fast learner.

my son uses both hands and I don't like it. I want him to use his right hand only but his class teacher advised me to leave him. My mind is relieved now. @OP Please is there any benefit using both hands?

Yp. Is too early but it depends on the guy. Most guys can see part of what they want in a lady first via appearance/ how the lady communicated with him and wanna go deep with her thereby asking about her past@ op how you address your past matters a lot. Don't talk too much on that with him. He has his past and everybody has past too which they can't address all. I saw your post which you said you took in, in your Jss 3. Most guys will like so @ Jss 3 you have started bleeping. Its too early for a woman. That's by the way. You can say you took in around SS2 and you don't wanna do abortion. Make it sound good to his hearing. He must ask you about her dad and why he doesn't wanna marry you. You know what to say. Address your past in a responsible way. I'm talking to you as a sister/friend b/c nobody here in N/L will marry you. You play your part well and settle down with your man. Please you don't look desperate in the guys eye. Even if he talks about marriage, tell him you don't know anything about him. Let him wait if its God's will let it be done. Don't open your mouth and say anything about marriage where you guys are.

@op please don't tell him immediately ok. Go a little bit far with him like a week or two. Let him develop love /know your worth/cherish your character first b4 you let him know. If he has seen those things he wants in a woman in you, it will be hard for him to leave you. Don't force yourself on him. Let him know that what you are trying to tell him that day will either separate you guys or keep you guys, but anyone that happens life goes on. Most important thing if you really want him to be with you, let him know that you have only him and you don't double date, I hope guys don't call you on phone always. Most men can die for a faithful woman be you single mother or single. Men, even the highest play boy don't wanna share his woman with anyone. Make him develop that trust in you and don't let him take advantage of you. Most men values you most when you don't give it to them easily and give them stress b4 the have it. I am talking out of experience. Just do it this, you see him licking your feet. Cheers!

@op , my mind tells me it may be child bearing issue! Your marriage is still very young. No matter what happened in the past is past tense. With God all things are possible. Please have courage and be happy/prayerful. God is in control.

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@op its like your friend was the one that sponsored her marriage. She now wants to be the bread winner of her husband's family. Before your mother inlaw will ask you money for visa, that means she knows your financial status.

I will advice your friend not to start what she can't finish. If she gives out that kind of hug money to her, she must be asking for big amount of money from her and any day she doesn't give out, that will be the beginning of her problem in that marriage.

Tell her to let her hubby know because he is the main actor here. But don't be surprise that her MIL has discussed/planned this with your friend's hubby and he will pretend as if he doesn't know only to extort money from you b/c they know your financial status. That's some families for you. Marriage journey has started ooooooooo just play your part with maturity/endurance/long suffering etc.

Wish you luck.

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@efemena Talking about job, I'm sure you have gone through my profile, didn't you see my picture or staff I'd card I'm putting on? Doesn't that look like an office to you? I strongly believe that you must be a jobless bitch. I was serving when I was in my ex marriage. I just passed out last year july and since I left there, I have worked in two different companies ok. I made 2:1. I don't look for job but job looks for me. God knows why everything ended in my marriage and I'm not regretting a bit of it b/c I'm the happiest person on earth.
If you don't know I'm doing my wedding on November this year with a very rich guy who loves/appreciate my beauty,intelligent,smartness,hard work etc. Infact I think my ex was a mistake/infatuation. I got married in 2010 at the age of 23, they behaved the way the did b/c God was preparing a very good place for me where I will be appreciated/cherished also I was a young girl and they thought they can intimidate me,so I have to leave the house for them b/c I'm too young to pass through that and I thank God for that. God used it to train me/ lead me to where I belong ok. Marriage is full of ups and downs, nobody's own is the best. Every married person has a story/experience to share about his/her marriage even you. I'm 100% sure you are passing through hell in that your frustrating marriage just b/c you wanna answer Mrs./ can't afford to buy a spoon for your kids.
Nothing happens to a Child of God by chance. Whatever you pass through, you grow through. If you don't know,
I made A1 in English with my poor grammar. Send me your email I will forward my WAEC result to you. I was the best student in my school/set 2004.

My fellow mothers please I'm sorry for posting this but I have to let this efemena know that she has to mind her business, drop her own advice and allow others to drop theirs. I introduced my colleagues to Nairaland but they don't like to post their advice b/c of insult from most nairalanders. Everybody is not the same, some people went to school and some didn't. Some can speak/write well while some can't. We all are from different states/counties/have different languages/went to different schools. The five fingers are of diff. Shapes/sizes. Please let's treat each other with oneness.

@efemena you must be a short girl. Not just short but too short b/c your type always seek for notice. I don't have time to exchange words with ya ok. He is my lovely handsome son and not yours so please you can feed us that's if you have any the way you want. If you see my handsome lovely son, you wouldn't even open your mouth to talk poo rather you will be asking me what I'm feeding him. So please mind your business short girl. I have already noticed you.
@cindy we are bubbling in good health thanks. Hope your big boy is bouncing too.

@efemena I too know I too sabi please my baby doesn't have a sink ok. B/c the feeding bottle's mouth is wide opened, u don't press it any more rather it pours on it's own so you feed your baby with it gradually as he cries ok. Didn't put this advice for little minded person like you. I have given my own advice on how I feed/introduced solid for my lovely handsome son after 6 months of bosom feeding and it worked for me so please just drop yours and stop interfering into other people's advice ok.

@ebose09 thanks for explaining to them the word "forcefully" how will a other choke her own baby. Feeding the baby with wide open feeding bottle doesn't mean you will pour it in his mouth till the baby chokes. As he cries, you pour it little by little, and rub his back. Its a way of making him get used to another taste of food. I used the method, it worked perfectly for me even my sister and my brother's wife used that method too and it worked for them. As a baby grows, he or she can control choke. A baby of 1day - 3months can't control choke easily, that's one of the reasons why bosom feeding till 6months is important. The advice is meant for the matured minded people. Have you seen most yoruba ladies feed their baby b4? You will run away b/c they will turn the baby's head upside down and feed him/her.
@prettycindy for the soya beans or milk, I also used it on my son its really awesome, if you can't prepare it just go to the market and buy it. Its not expensive big bottle is 300. is all about choice.

@op train up a child in the way he/she should go and when he is old he/she can't depart from it. Every child is smart it depends on how you teach them. I used my son's care giver to know. He is just 10yrs, I brought him from village. When this boy came, he doesn't know how to speak come or go. He doesn't know ABC. I have to put him in the same school with my son and I don't speak igbo to him. I speak only english to him and my son and make sure he talks to me in english any how I must correct him and I teach him ABC always and flog him most times so that he knows that I am serious. Also told him if he comes first, I will buy bicycle for him. Now this boy speaks well and he reads and writes well too. How you train your child, determines how smart he will be. Secondly, when we were small in my house, my dad always give 5000 to one with 1st position, 3000 to 2nd position and 1000 to 3rd position. You find out every term each person must come first at least 2nd in his or class. That format my dad used really helped us and it made us to read/study well both in sec/uni. It also made me to make 2:1 in university even my sister. We parents have to have time for our children and access their work always. How you make your bed, so shall you lay on it.

@prettycindy you don't have to find love here in nairaland. There are a lot of men out there that can give you the kind of love you want. Some may want to chop $ clean mouth but your action or character may impress the person thereby making him to stay, love and cherish you. Also work by God's direction. Your spirit will direct you on whom to stay with b/c a lot of guys must come your way. Just be patient and choose wisely. ( To me, I will advice you stay till a year b4 having a serious affair because of your son's health.) That's after his birthday. Though you can have just friends to hang out with once in a while and also talk to on phone. Cheers!

Less I forget, whenever you are feeding him, always give him something on his hand to distract him. Any toy it will make all his mind to be on the toy while he sucks the food. He wouldn't know when he will finish it. Me I stop breast feeding him at 10 months. Since I did exclusive on him and not with my hubby. Also always pronounce the name of anything you give to him. You can start teaching him how to talk now. I started with water. Whenever I wanna give him water to say it to his hearing, water several times, anything you wanna give him or he touches tell him the name of that thing. Cheers.

@prettycindy I also passed through this b/c I did exclusive on my son. At 6 months it was very hard for him to eat any other food but I thank God who gave me the knowledge to hand it. Buy cerelac/milk for him. Mix the normal proportion in a feeding bottle. If its milk you wanna give him, mix the normal ML for 6 months I think about 150ml-250ml. If its cerelac you also mix it properly in a feeding bottle with milk and make it watery for him. Use your teeth to open/cut the feeding bottle's mouth wide. let the feeding bottle have a big opening so that the prepared food can pour easily inside his mouth as he cries. Remember you are doing him good. Beat/pitch him small in his bommbom let him cry and open his mouth. As he does that you continue pressing the feeding bottle to pour to food in his mouth till he finishes it. B/4 2/3 days the taste of the food will master his mouth $ he will be eating it normal. Secondly you can allow him go hungry, prepare his meal and leave the house so that your sister or anyone your with can feed him. He will also eat normal. Children do shakara on what to eat whenever their mummy is around. If they are hungry and didn't see you, they can eat anything available in the house. Mine now he eats noodle two packets, rice $ beans, garri with egusi soup. Many things and he hasn't sick for a day.

@opI guess you were born either on May or June. Just take it easy ok. You haven't seen what you want in a man yet and the main person you are to love hasn't come yet. When the right person comes, I promise you, you must totally fall in love with him and you will be asking yourself if this is truly you.

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@op its a sign of respect its not a yoruba thing. Many states in Nigeria call their pastors daddy/mummy as their head. I call my pastor/elderly women mummy And elderly men daddy. Its just a sign of respect. when I was in school we do call our fellowship leader mummy despite she was young. Calling pastors daddy/mummy has nothing to do with tribe its just a sign of respect.

@denis.cla thanks for the information, I haven't gotten iv yet. I called my contact he said he will get back to me. I hope this contractors wouldn't mess up this recruitment by using there IT trainees. @calabaman you sounded like one that has a contact too. You can still call him to know whats up. I pray things works well though what matters most is to get the job as in appointment letter.

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@lagusta is a joke naa, is all about Yoruba ladies and respect/appreciation. No I'm not an air force secondary school alumnus. Cheers.

@chinexex thanks for the information. I reside in lagos. I pray the call us by God's grace.

Yoruba ladies are too respectful. Today,I saw two yoruba ladies kneeling down after collecting some amount of money from the ATM.

@op assuming you marry your ex and she doesn't conceive? (God forbid) what will you do? You will still run to nairaland to cry for help. Please be grateful to God for what you have. Some married men without kids will tell you that they for have preferred marrying an obedient wife that can bear kids for them without love or feelings than marrying one the love that will be disobedient and can't bear kids for them. Nobody can ever be satisfied in this world. That's life for you, there must always be a comma somewhere. Even your so called ex also has a comma which may be worst. Fat ke fat ni!!!!