@uchegoziem, so happy for you, you even have two, wish I had two like , for have been the happiest person, my is one, u will get a job since you r a graduate that's all I know, you can still look for any little and start with, it will help! We are human and we prone to make mistakes, some ladies b/c they still wanna ans Mrs. End up dying in marriage, or not been happy for life which is not good. bad Marriage is the easiest thing that can lead one to Hell Fire. God must bring someone that will give you connection to a great Job. Is not how far but how well.

Yep u r right!

Happy easter to you all!!!

Sorry, have already written the test, waiting for them to release result!

I dt believe this story at all, OP is looking for girls to deceive, why did he drop his no. I don laughhhhhhhhhhh still the laughhhhhh, he is a play boy 100percent or more

@seal 777 you are very correct, 3 different guys have been begging me for marriage but I said no. I am scare to make another mistake, despite all the things they do for me, I still have double mind over them, infact I have even had to go to the extent of telling them to stop calling me or coming around me b/c I really wanna be careful this time. Your advice to the op in this thread has really brought me back to myself. Maybe I have to give that a trial. But that will be went I make up my mind to enter into a relationship again, I think I feel happier been single though sometimes, I do feel like entering into another one cos the disturbance is too much.

@pretty cindy, I wll advice you to calm down first before entering into another relationship, I am also a single mum, but I got married to an ibo guy and my marriage lasted just for 1yr and some months. I also have a son but my son is 1yr and 3months now. I can feel your story and know all you r saying is true, good people always meet bad people, that is life for you. But you have to move on. My was I married out of appearance, I will be 25yrs by next month. What you have to know is that handsome guys*most* flirts and no matter how good, pretty, intelligent, romantic, caring , and even good on bed you are can make them to stop that. But me I am thanking God for everything. Because I believe on myself. Though I dt wanna enter into any relationship for now. Guys must come. That one is certain just take good care of your son and always be a good lady u r b/c I know that stuff like this happens mainly to good and decent ladies like us. The bad and wicked wives know how to do their things that's y there marriage do last. All the same we can be friends if you like.

Hi peeps, how was the test, I hope hmmmm ok, but I enjoyed the abstract most, look forward to hearing from them by God's grace, initially I thought the selection was base on 2:1 only, I had 2:1 and I was called but my friend that had 2:1 too that applied wasn't called. I pray God should grant us all success. And pls for the those that applied for CBN, any news yet, though the recruitment just closed on 20th march. God must see us through Amen!!!

@agba 1 pls can you enlighten me on the dna, you did, pls which hospital did you use and is there result or lab correct? Thanks or pls email me obasinora@yahoo.com

I have been following this thread, my advice to the POSTER is that, first you are having double mind about her now because all your mind is now on that your old school mate you met online. Do you truly. Know her? Do you know if she will be worst than your x? For her to tell her people to beg you means to loves you so much. Any girl that doesn't love a guy will feel to big to beg the guy, she will always say after all there are many fishes in the ocean. Secondly, she is a human being and you don't have to treat her so bad if you actually love her, nobody knows tomorrow, for the fact you are giving her help today in return of the sex and relationship should not make you to treat her like trash, this is a small world. I will advice you to pick her calls, tell her you wanna see her, both of you should talk one on one, I promise you. She has learnt her lessons, at least she didn't sleep with them even if at that, still forgive remember the story of mary mandalen , pls nobody is perfect even that your old classmate that has occupied your heart you think she is a saint. Pls don't do something you will do today and regret it tomorrow. And start saying had I know!!!! Thanks

@bittyend please don't you insult nigeria girls b/c there are millions of pretty nigeria girls that are better than your sisters! That's if you have one!

T ONLY STEP TO A HAPPY HOME: BUT IT HAS TO COME FROM MEN MOST b/c THEY ARE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY. I am a 25yrs girl with a son but I am divorce with my husband because he turned into something else after our marriage, he pretended to be good during courtship b/c he wants to marry me b/c of my appearance. I am pretty and tall.

Your choice in marriage can determine your happiness and how long you stand to live on earth.

Today I am going to focus on the difficulties that may arise at home when a man marries a wife that suddenly becomes disrespectful.



But first let’s talk about the prospect of living with a wife that is very respectful and deeply loves her husband.

If you have a woman you truly love and who does the same for you, your marriage becomes a bliss. You always look forward to going home to see your wife and child(ren).

And when you are going home, you get some gifts for your wife and the kids. As soon as you are home, your wife receives you with a warm embrace, plants a kiss on your lips and usher you to the bathroom to wash off the days’ ‘stickiness’. When you finish with your bath, a delicious meal is already waiting for you at the dinning table.

You finish consuming your Dinner with your wife and kid(s), you spent some time with your family watching TV and playing with them. Shortly, thereafter, you go to bed and your wife gives you a passionate and very intimate time in bed.

Feeling refreshed and full of life the next morning, you kiss your wife and kid(s) goodbye and go to work. It repeats itself every day.

And yes, there are certain times you may have a misunderstanding with your wife, but when it happens, it is resolved amicably and without a fight and without your kid(s) knowing you even have some problems.

Now why would you ALWAYS rush home from work everyday to meet your family? The answer is simple; Because your wife makes you happy.

This is a marriage many people are enjoying today.

However, what if you have a disrespectful wife who you find difficult to control, how do you handle her?

For instance, let’s say you are a young man married with a kid. Whenever you spend some time at home, you find out that your wife is always nagging, and quarrels with you over petty things. In fact she even insult you sometime and tries to dictate everything you do even with your own money. To worsen it, she doesn’t like your family and friends.

If you have a marriage like that or something similar, then it’s time to work seriously on the marriage.

I will never advise a divorce for any troubled marriage except on the ground of adultery. Hence the root cause of the problem must be identified so that it can be attacked headlong.

Here is my possible advice for such a problem with a disrespectful wife.

1. Try to get your wife to talk to you so you can list down all the complaints she has against you.

2. Find out if there are areas you have been failing as a husband.



On the first note, when you list down her complaints, do not make any of her complaints trivial, take them serious. Ask yourself, “Why would my wife be so angry and hurt by this issue?” Try to understand her reasons for behaving in a certain way and be open minded when you do so.

If she is the type that do not like your family and friends, try to find out from her what/why exactly she doesn’t feel happy seeing them. Could it be that she is retaliating to a treatment received from these people, you need to find out.

Sometimes, a woman’s behavious in the area of the man’s family may be when she feels the family of the man is having more influence over her marriage than she is, and this can be attributed to the man when he starts taking and heeding the advice of his mother or any of his relative in the marriage.

As a man, you should understand that once you are married, your responsibility falls in your own family and you have to satisfy your wife. The needs of your relatives becomes secondary. That is why the Bible says that a man and wife are one – closer than the parents of the man and wife.

Secondly, find out if there are areas you have been inadvertently failing as a man. The best way to do this is by asking your wife. Create a friendly atmosphere to allow your wife discuss the issue no matter how embarrassing it may be, let her say her mind.

I guess the secret to having a successful marriage is frequent communication, bringing every nuances and misunderstanding to the marriage table everyday and resolving them without wasting time.

Truth is, a woman’s emotion is difficult, but if you understand them, you will have a wonderful marriage. That is why a friend of mine describes a W.I.F.E as meaning (Why Isn’t Forever Easy). Marriage can be a haven of joy and peace, but there are other factors that could contribute to a healthy relationship between a man and his wife. Here they are:

Same religion

Having the same budget

Congruent goals and plans

Creating time for relaxation and vacations

Making out time to spend with each other weekly.

If you are married, using the tips above will help you to have a measure of success in your marriage.

TEN STEPS TO A HAPPY HOME: BUT IT HAS TO COME FROM MEN MOST b/c THEY ARE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY. I am a 25yrs girl with a son but I am divorce with my husband because he turned into something else after our marriage, he pretended to be good during courtship b/c he wants to marry me b/c of my appearance. I am pretty and tall.

Your choice in marriage can determine your happiness and how long you stand to live on earth.

Today I am going to focus on the difficulties that may arise at home when a man marries a wife that suddenly becomes disrespectful.



But first let’s talk about the prospect of living with a wife that is very respectful and deeply loves her husband.

If you have a woman you truly love and who does the same for you, your marriage becomes a bliss. You always look forward to going home to see your wife and child(ren).

And when you are going home, you get some gifts for your wife and the kids. As soon as you are home, your wife receives you with a warm embrace, plants a kiss on your lips and usher you to the bathroom to wash off the days’ ‘stickiness’. When you finish with your bath, a delicious meal is already waiting for you at the dinning table.

You finish consuming your Dinner with your wife and kid(s), you spent some time with your family watching TV and playing with them. Shortly, thereafter, you go to bed and your wife gives you a passionate and very intimate time in bed.

Feeling refreshed and full of life the next morning, you kiss your wife and kid(s) goodbye and go to work. It repeats itself every day.

And yes, there are certain times you may have a misunderstanding with your wife, but when it happens, it is resolved amicably and without a fight and without your kid(s) knowing you even have some problems.

Now why would you ALWAYS rush home from work everyday to meet your family? The answer is simple; Because your wife makes you happy.

This is a marriage many people are enjoying today.

However, what if you have a disrespectful wife who you find difficult to control, how do you handle her?

For instance, let’s say you are a young man married with a kid. Whenever you spend some time at home, you find out that your wife is always nagging, and quarrels with you over petty things. In fact she even insult you sometime and tries to dictate everything you do even with your own money. To worsen it, she doesn’t like your family and friends.

If you have a marriage like that or something similar, then it’s time to work seriously on the marriage.

I will never advise a divorce for any troubled marriage except on the ground of adultery. Hence the root cause of the problem must be identified so that it can be attacked headlong.

Here is my possible advice for such a problem with a disrespectful wife.

1. Try to get your wife to talk to you so you can list down all the complaints she has against you.

2. Find out if there are areas you have been failing as a husband.



On the first note, when you list down her complaints, do not make any of her complaints trivial, take them serious. Ask yourself, “Why would my wife be so angry and hurt by this issue?” Try to understand her reasons for behaving in a certain way and be open minded when you do so.

If she is the type that do not like your family and friends, try to find out from her what/why exactly she doesn’t feel happy seeing them. Could it be that she is retaliating to a treatment received from these people, you need to find out.

Sometimes, a woman’s behavious in the area of the man’s family may be when she feels the family of the man is having more influence over her marriage than she is, and this can be attributed to the man when he starts taking and heeding the advice of his mother or any of his relative in the marriage.

As a man, you should understand that once you are married, your responsibility falls in your own family and you have to satisfy your wife. The needs of your relatives becomes secondary. That is why the Bible says that a man and wife are one – closer than the parents of the man and wife.

Secondly, find out if there are areas you have been inadvertently failing as a man. The best way to do this is by asking your wife. Create a friendly atmosphere to allow your wife discuss the issue no matter how embarrassing it may be, let her say her mind.

I guess the secret to having a successful marriage is frequent communication, bringing every nuances and misunderstanding to the marriage table everyday and resolving them without wasting time.

Truth is, a woman’s emotion is difficult, but if you understand them, you will have a wonderful marriage. That is why a friend of mine describes a W.I.F.E as meaning (Why Isn’t Forever Easy). Marriage can be a haven of joy and peace, but there are other factors that could contribute to a healthy relationship between a man and his wife. Here they are:

Same religion

Having the same budget

Congruent goals and plans

Creating time for relaxation and vacations

Making out time to spend with each other weekly.

If you are married, using the tips above will help you to have a measure of success in your marriage.

But na waa for that ur email address, enjoymentgalore@..... Those it exist?

Job wahala

U all are talking trash, the poster knows the exact truth about all this! Don't be surprise that the woman you guys have been calling diff. Bad names is an angel! The husband doesn't want to stipulate the major cause of problem here, remember she left their room first, this must be a serious issue, maybe after all her suffering with her husband *how the started life* the man might have ended up paying her bad by humanizing with diff. Ladies which might have accumulated a lot of anger in her heart! And also I think her husband doesn't allow her to watch her favourite station with that tv. Maybe he is always saying I am the man, any station he likes which made her wife to be targeting that tv! The husband now again came to her new room to look for her trouble by removing the fan! I strongly believe that the husband is selfish and this woman in ? Has been living in serious pain with this man. Kicking her out, r u her God? Who told you that she can't make it tomorrow or she can't be richer than you tomorrow? Pls do ur worst. I am talking out of experience, though my own I broke the car glass! B/c when I met my x husband, he was nothing, he had nothing in his parlor, we started buying properties together, b/c then I had money, and after our marriage, I brought luck to him , even my son! When I gave birth his mum came for omugbo , that's was where my prob with him started, she was giving him all sort of advice thinking that her son bought all our stuffs alone! Next we bought a car, which I was the first person that made a deposite, without me, no car in that house. B4 the paid him salary and he completed tge payment. Man husband now started moving with diff. Girls. Even when the cousine came to live with us for his nysc, I allowed him b/c I know I am a very good woman. Since his cousine came, my hubby started treating me any how! The car we bought b/c of our son! He removed my son's car seat at the back, he drives the car alone, he doesn't allow me to drive it again. Only him and his cousin was enjoying all my sweat, sometimes b4 I will wake up, he has quitely droven out with his cousin to work around 4am without telling me. If we are going out , he will prefer his cousin to seat in front with him. A lot of things were going on and I was seriously living in deep pain at the age of 24yr (2011) . There was a day he pushed me and my son out around 12mid night over nothing, my son nearly hit his head on the floor then he was 6 months , he strongly held me and landed with my kneel which made me had bruises everywhere, b/c I have been targeting that car , with all the anger in me b/c I know I can't fight him, I deposited on the car by breaking the car glass. Though we have divorced since and I didn't pick any of all the properties I bought, I just picked my son's few cloths and my few cloths and few shoes only! And I left to festac. It wasn't upto 2 wks God gave me a job! And within 1 month I have all the properties one needs to live happily! I am living happily with my son b/c he denied him. He is my son have to give hime the best training he needs. SO MR POSTER, I think something strong resulted to that not fan, that's if you can tell the house the truth.

@poster, I have been following this thread since, I was 23 when I got married (2010) I had one baby (2011) but now I am divorced. All this u r passing through, I equally passed through the same prob, but in my own case my mind wasn't there b/c that's how their relationship was b4 we got married, My MIL lives in lagos with us, we visit her every sundays and my hubby calls her more than 20 times a day but is non of my business. Initially, she wanted to come and leave with us which I told my hubby no, and that night he cried saying that I dt love his mum which is all lies, not knowing that I was trying to secure our marriage and also their love. Till when I gave birth, though she came b4 I gave birth, that's where our problems started. The only bad side of son and mumsy relationship is that the mum will always be directing tha son on what to do in your own home which is not good. My MIL went to the extent of telling my husband not be sleeping with me *sex* the day she was telling him this, I heard it and walked inside her room so that they will know that I heard all she said. We had issues till she left the house b/c my husband did exactly all she said,he even went to the extent of sleeping in the house help room, and the house help will sleep with his mom, and I will sleep alone in our matrimonial bed! Because of her advice, my hubby started going after different girls which really broke our home. I thank God for everything. My advice for you is to make sure you call your husband and his mum together, tell them your mind together in talk in a polite manner stating and pleading with your MIL. Telling her that you love your husband so much and you love your marriage too, you are not against their relationship , you like it but mama please don't give my husband an advice that will destroy my lovely home pls. Make sure your hubby is there. This will really save your home if not the battle is still in front b/c as I am talking to you now, your hubby values his extended family more than his nuclear family which is you. If any problem arises from his people, my dear, you are on your own! OYO. I am talking out of experience. Period.

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Pls mr saji, what about those that applied for mgt trainee? Do you know when they will start calling? B/c I applied for it. Thanks!

Pls I applied for bua group mgt trainee on feb. But have not heard anything from them! Pls can someone help me out if the have started calling?
Thanks

@ tanimmola22 y r u hahaha sege didn't stapulate the exact amount to u! U just concluded on ur own, without even calculating well! I think the entry level leaves with 650000 or more that's including all allowances in a month.

There was a website site I saw the said $45000 USD!

From sege basic 200000 + housing 208,000 + clothing and other allowances which can be around 200000 or 250000. That y sege doesn't want to conclude with u maybe b/c of the oath of secrecy! It is a very good package for an entry level! Pls God grant me this cbn job! Amen!!!

What of central bank? Pls

just new in naira land! Have been following the thread! Congrats to d newest employees in cbn. I applied for that IT compiance on feb! the recruitment just ended on 20th, looking forward to be called for test! Pls all those that applied should pls keep us posted thanks!