@tobnical thanks. At least there is still hope by God's grace. Still waiting for their test invitation.

@tobnical I don't get you please. First you said no info yet and later said nextzon only used the contact of the applicants to invite them for 3months over sea training. Please can you explain better? Does that mean some people have been called or wouldn't there be any test and interview for the post? Please I need your reply. Thanks.

Please has anyone been invited for CBN test? Those that applied for IT vacancies around February. Any news on when they might start calling for test? Please house!!!

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@mrs Agiboma I wrote most and not all. I'm not generalizing but most Nigerians marry foreigners for different purposes. Thanks.

@prettycindy, I think bent penis most times may be hereditary. I was discussing this with my colleagues in the office they said is not a bad thing and that most guys have bent penis, its natural and they still use it very well. please just leave it so that you wouldn't complicate issues for him. Remember that part of guys organ is too sensitive and it can cost their life.

@op I have been following this thread, please don't you ever divorce your hubby b/c of his mother. MIL wahala is a normal stuff which every DIL must pass through. How can you allow the anger/hatred you have for your MIL which is not good to control you and ruin your happy home. She has made her home together with her hubby to raise their children and you wanna destroy your own home, you are just trying to suffer your kids, they need you and their dad to raise them together. Don't you know or understand the word compatibility? Please don't allow your MIL to ruin your home b/c she doesn't care and don't be surprise she might be doing all this for you to leave. Remember you are a foreigner and she doesn't even accept that her son is married yet. How sure are you that she is not arranging a Nigeria wife for his son. if most ladies here open up what they are or have passed through in their respective marriages you will know that yours is a very little case. Please don't take action when you are annoyed and think twice. Will the divorce favour you? If revenge is sweet why does it leave a bitter taste. Every mum more especially in Nigeria will always want to enjoy his/ her son at old age. Why do people say that they must enjoy the fruit of their labor. As you are suffering now taking care of your son now, maybe if he grows up to be a comfortable man tomorrow, how will you feel if his wife tries to hinder you from enjoying your labor . Please I'm begging you in the name of God, don't divorce your hubby. Your MIL has made her home and she is enjoying it so please make your own home and enjoy it to the fullest.

N/B: in Nigeria foreign wives are not regarded as wives, they are just regarded as ladies Nigeria men used to make money overseas. As in getting their papers and others. That's why most Nigeria men even after having a foreign wife and kids, they must still come back to Nigeria and marry a Nigeria lady and have kids too. They also know that you foreign wives can divorce them anytime and take their kids too, this is b/c most foreign wives wouldn't love to base or relocate to Nigeria with their kids.

Just bear in mind that whether you divorce your hubby or not, your MIL is not loosing anything but you loose. How sure are you that he is not building houses/investing in Nigeria. Please don't do what you will regret tomorrow.

@ johndoe, op. All you listed are part of the qualities of a good husband. That's in marriage when you guys are married already. OP is trying to know the qualities you can see in a guy in relationship or courtship for you to know that he will make a good husband in marriage ok. Pls understand a question first b4 you answer, can see you are single.

@ Op jenny has said it all !!! Above all before you settle down make sure I repeat make sure you settle down with someone that is driven by the things of God. Don't marry someone that is driven by the things of the world like, partying, clubbing, drinking, have many single friends, staying late at night, have divorce problem in their family, have many girl friends, always brag to his friend over any little achievement he made etc. Please any man that posse any of this can't and will never change even after marriage. You can't change someone.

When I said a man that is driven by the things of God I'm talking of someone that even during courtship will always tell you honey please we can't miss this bible study, we can't miss sunday service and opposite of all the qualities I listed for the things of the world.

If a man has a little fear of God in him, he will always be afraid to divorce you because he knows what the bible says about divorce. This is also applicable to what makes a good choice of wife.

@ op, have you try having sex with your wife during her period? Please if not you can try it. Some women ovulate during their menstrual circle and Most women don't know about it. Please just try and have s.ex with her it may work since the doctor said there is nothing wrong with her and you. Maybe she belongs to the class of ladies that ovulates during their period. And for those ladies looking for the fruit of womb for years, they can still try it. Some women have tried it and it worked for them. Wish you luck in your bleep.

Move on with your life then. Life is too short you have to be happy and enjoy it. For her to have dated up to 5 guys *the ones you know ooo* at 17 is incredible! I thought you were the one that dis virgined her. Please move on as you've made up your mind already and don't look back. Wish you luck in your next relationship.

@ op how did you know she cheated on you? Did your people catch her red handed? You want to forgive her only if she beg your people or mum for forgiveness. Because she doesn't wanna beg them you just finalized that she doesn't love you.

One thing you have to know is that we are all human and a girl of 23yrs will have this pride In her that she is still very young and pretty, she is the one that calls you once in a while to check on you that means that she loves you. Her text message was due to your action on her. As in your reply that she should stop calling you. *we are all human and we have pride*

Begging your family implies that even when you guys get married, she must be begging them always in every little mistake she does b/c she is a young girl.

Please even when you marry another girl please don't use that in your own home if not you will use your hand to destroy your home b/c of your family and live with the pains why your brothers, sisters and parent live happily.

Example you have seen how only begging your family has destroyed your relationship. It for have destroyed your marriage if you guys were married.

I just entered 25yrs this month and I know very well what a pretty girl of 23yrs will be acting. B/c I also acted that way in my marriage, I got married at that age.

She not begging them doesn't mean that she doesn't love you and don't be surprise that she may love you most but wouldn't love to show it so that you wouldn't break her heart which you did the last time she called you, she just strengthen herself by sending that text.

This is a civilized world and people learn everyday. Because she is young doesn't mean that your people should intimidate her. One thing about this is that if you beg once, you have started it and any day she didn't beg that will be the beginning of the end of the marriage which happened in my own case. I was always begging both when I was wrong or right b/c I started it.

Let me ask you this? What of if she is a working class rich lady of 32 yrs, will you tell her to come and plead your people? Or can they intimidate her?

Please she loves you and may even love you more than you do. If she calls you anytime that's if she will call again, pick her calls and talk to her in a matured way, ask her if she loves you and tell her you do too. Don't bring up the issue of begging your people. She will do it at her own time without even telling you and you will be surprise.

The worst mistake anybody can do is to allow a third party in his/her relationship or marriage. I am talking from experience my x hubby did it b/c he is mummy's boy and I am young, they used me as their slave. I thank God I'm free and he is a big looser in everything. He calls my people now, but don't have his time again let him go and marry his people.

Please you can still call her that's if you want and sort out issues with your babe alone. Once again her text doesn't mean that she does love you, is just to strengthen herself.
when you told her not to call you again does that mean you don't love her? You see what I mean. *you can answer that*

The ball is in your court and its your relationship so trash it out yourself.

op tell your friend to attend antenatal with her hubby, there he will learn a lot of things and also know that this is the time she needs him most. In antenantal care they we tell you to be having sex always with your hubby for some obvious reasons and when you around 8months, she will be told to tell her hubby to be sucking her breast always so that the nipples can shot out well for the baby when he or she arrives. Her hubby thinks that having sex with her will hurt his child which is a capital lie. The baby is save on his own, no style or position can ever affect the baby. Tell her to let her hubby know that his sperm is needed to lubricate his child and to make his child's head strong if not the baby may have ishi nkuwa. *in igbo language*

Hi everyone I know you all have really tried in this thread, job recruitment in Nigeria is not an easy stuff meanwhile I can see that some people are already tired of the recruitment process that's federal. government for you. I'm writing this to encourage you all not to lose hope at all. I asked my someone very close to me who works in NNPC why their recruitment is taking time, he said that a lot of things are going on in NNPC now including subsidy but the major issue is that of retirement. The want to retire many staffs but the money which is supposed to be paid to them was tampered it *fraud* so they have to sort it out first and retire those people before recruiting new staffs. Mind you that this information is from a very reliable Source. Is not everyone that works in NNPC knows what that is going on there.

To me is all about individual differences, as for me my house help is a boy of 11yrs, I treat him like my own son. I always buy the same cloth for him and my son, I love seeing them putting on the same cloth whenever we are going out. they go to the same school. He feeds at least four times a day . I make sure most times he eats whatever I'm eating. My neighbors and street people always think that he is my son. And God has been blessing me through them because they are innocent kids. They pray for me always. The way you treat your house help determine how he/she will treat your kids in your absence. Some people has passion for children while some don't and those that doesn't are they ones that maltreats their house help.

Yep that's true but the smartness of an infant depends on the mum most times. When my son was around 10 months, he can pronounce my mama, papa, water etc that's because I taught him. Now he is 15 months come and see smartness, he says things one can understand. Like ask him what is your name, he ans divine or DD, you say praise the Lord he ans hallelujah, in Jesus Name Amen. he points at stuffs and pronounce there names like water, fan, pampers, shoe, car,charger, phone, poo, tv, etc because I taught him all that always. He knows his head, mouth, noise,eyes, hand. Tell him clap for Jesus or yourself he does it. He understands every bit of anything you tell him to do and he does it well as an infant. To me that's what they call mother's tongue. If you are the type that talks to your baby always he must talk fast unless intelligence doesn't run in your family blood. Babies understand and listen to their mum very well more than a stranger.

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Op has carried his wife home any other thing you guys are saying is just for una pocket. At least he can enjoy Godly and free sex. Most guys do give prostitutes 30,000 just for a fling or whole night but Op with 30,000 has gotten till death due us apart sex. Op abeg enjoy your wife ok. Hungry doesn't kill someone. Is not the beginning that matters, what matters is the end and nobody knows tomorrow. Abraham lincoln said bag the certificate first then that enviable job must surely come. Both of you are graduates and God must bless your home soon.

@ op maybe he thought that you were a virgin, reaching there he saw something else and the stuff maybe doesn't suit him. There is guy, he love the name and the girl is a very good girl *wife material* but he said he wouldn't marry the babe only because she doesn't know how to wine on bed. Most guys have there own reason for marriage. Hope when he came, you guys were not always eating fast food. Most guys love babe that will tell them honey y waste money on fast food, get the money let me cook delicious meal for us and its more economical .There's a lot about men. Little things matter most to them. Just call him and tell him about the other guy, if he says you should move on abeg no hesitate b4 you loose both. To me I think he doesn't care again, moreover MUST YOU MARRY HIM? Abeg move ahead with your life. What you love about him is just his money and maybe b/c he doesn't base in Nigeria. What of if actually he doesn't have money wouldn't you rush to the next guy?

@ op is not that you don't fall in love. You fall in love but to an extent, love doesn't control you at all, you may like or love this particular guy, if he wants you guys to split today you are always ready and it wouldn't hurt you at all b/c love doesn't control you. You may be hanging out with a guy b/c you may be naturally good, he will be mistaking it with love thinking that you love him die not knowing that love doesn't exist where you are. I am that kind of person. Love doesn't control me at all.

@ op run ooooo how sure are you that she doesn't have HIV. She is trying to let you know that after bleeping with her you may contact HIV oooo. She has warned you first ooo Heaven and Earth must bear her witness. Don't destroy your life King.

@dare you can still practice infidelity in your marriage if you want let me see if you will ever have peace in your home or relationship. Moreover Op didn't catch his wife right handed only that she was using guys pics as her DP on there birthday which maybe that's what he does too. Someone that kills with cutlass can never allow cutlass to pass his back. Moreover he was the one that told his wife to leave. Let him carry his cross, I pray God should touch his wife to come back and also for that baby to be his biological son if not he has lost all and has to start from beginning.

No dear I'm not the girl but I'm talking out of experience. That's guys for you when the stuff back fire them they will start complaining as if the girl is the devil. They are always the bone of the contention. They innocent girl has left you so that you can have time to enjoy as many girls you wanna catch fun with. Feel free and fly.

From my own experience, I think the Op has been doing this already to his wife when she doesn't have a job. Maybe b/c he was the one bringing money for the house up keep he has been into different ladies not caring about the wife's feelings. She has made up her mind to leave the marriage with her son b/c of OP's infidelity when she doesn't have a job. Now she has one and she wants to treat you back how you were treating her when she has no job. OP please tell us the whole truth abeg. And I promise you that she wouldn't come back to you again no matter what. How can you be a loving, caring, hard working, innocent and faithful you claim to be and your wife will be discussing with her sister on how to leave her matrimonial home. Don't believe OP at all b/c I have had such experience b4. OP started using girls first as his DP, calling and answering their calls etc. That's why she started hers when she got a job. Respect is a reciprocal.

Yes you can, just go to your area police station and ask of welfare department. After explaining stuffs to them, you have to register with a sum of money and they will give you a letter to serve to the person involve so that you all will meet on a particular date and sort things over. If the person in ? Is denying the baby, they will tell you guys to go for a DNA test.

@ johndoe wizard like you! Is your kind of guy that doesn't care about your wife or girl friend's feelings. So if she is your sister you will tell her to stay in that marriage and die sheaaaa. IS MARRIAGE THE BEST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE? Abeg the hubby doesn't deserve her and her kids ok. Moreover I just answered her question. She has made up her mind and she needs a good lawyer which I provided her with one so what's your stress. I STRONGLY BELIEVE THAT YOU MUST BE AN ADULTERER.

@ op I sent a mail to you but is bouncing back. I know a very good lawyer and I've worked as a secretary in his law firm before. He is too good, his office is in festac. His no. Is 08037252752. Your hubby will be surprise when the letter will be presented to him. Divorce him and be happy for life with your children. You don't need to remarry, just have a lovely, peaceful and wonderful home with your kids. He must come back pleading. Don't be surprise that if you die in that marriage *God Forbid* he must come to your burial with his girl friend. DIVORCE HIM.

What of this face, Nigeria babe!

Really don't know, didn't get the test though I finished from FUTO. Is by slut.

@D-explorer do u think I need make up?

@D-explorer till I leave this earth. I am naturally beautiful don't need make-up. And guys admires it a lot. It good to be natural.