Speedstar7: Bro thanks for ur advice ....I also noticed the new guy is heavily spending on her.....she really showed me affection, even encouraging me to make it by starting so we could start life together ...At this point I started getting emotionally attached to her
If you want to survive anything in this life as a man, don't attach emotions. Don't get emotional about anything
Dpsychologist: I’ve been thinking about something that gets said a lot, especially in conversations around money, struggle, and success in Nigeria.
You often hear people say:
“God created some people to never lack.”
It sounds comforting, especially when life is hard. It gives a simple explanation for why things are unequal. But the more you look at real life closely, the more that explanation starts to fall apart.
Because when you look around in places like Nigeria, the differences we see between people are very clear. Some people are born into stability, good education, and access. Others are born into environments where just surviving is already a struggle.
Now the question is, did God deliberately assign all of that at birth?
Or is something else going on?
If we are being honest, a big part of what shapes people’s outcomes is not just divine assignment, but also foundation.
Some people are simply starting from a place where someone before them already laid something down. Maybe it’s land. Maybe it’s education. Maybe it’s a business. Maybe it’s just connections built over time and that advantage did not appear randomly. It was built by effort, decisions, and sometimes sacrifice from earlier generations.
On the other hand, there are people who are also working hard, but they are starting from weaker foundations. Fewer opportunities, less structure, challenging environment and sometimes systems that are already stacked against them. So even if the effort is there, the outcome is slower or harder to see.
In moments like that, people often shift to spiritual explanations. Things like curses, attacks, my village people or “it’s just my destiny.” This happens especially when someone is trying repeatedly and still not seeing results, it becomes easier to believe there is something beyond the physical blocking them.
But here is where I think we need to be careful.
If we believe in a loving God and that he is faithful and just, then the idea that He deliberately created some people to permanently suffer while others automatically succeed becomes difficult to reconcile. It raises questions that don’t have easy answers.
What makes more sense when we look at reality is that outcomes are shaped more by systems, environment, access, and decisions over time, rather than fixed divine favoritism.
In Nigeria specifically, this is even more obvious because opportunity is not evenly distributed. Where you are born, who you know, and what you are exposed to often has a huge impact on where you end up.
This does not mean prayer or faith is not important and it also does not mean effort does not matter. It just means we should be careful about replacing real-world causes with simple spiritual explanations that stop us from thinking deeper and working towards success.
Because once someone believes “this is just how God made it,” they stop asking questions, stop building, and stop looking for solutions.
But when you start to see that a lot of what we call destiny is actually shaped by structure and choices, your mindset changes. You start focusing more on what can be built, improved, or changed.
At the end of the day, what we are seeing is not random assignment. It is layered outcomes built over time and understanding that changes how you see life, responsibility, and even opportunity.
Happy Sunday Nairalanders. May be love of God be with you all.
Yes there atoms were rewarded in the past life and when it combined and recycled by earth all the favor they deserve will keep coming to them. Its called heaven.
Speedstar7: I am still a student of the university of uyo 25 years of age, I am writing this with deep pains in my heart . Our tenant ( a single mother) in our compound has a 19 year old daughter who stays with her father in another town oku iboku. She do occasionally visit her mother and spend at least a month with her mother (she's in ss3 though),Well when she do come to see her mother I normally don't talk to her because of my introvertedness untill she started asking wether I have a girlfriend, talking about sex etc it then got to a point she indirectly asked me to sex her. After the first sex we started having sex almost throughout that month last year ... I later proceeded in asking her out of which she agreed. Her mother bought a phone before she returned to the place she is schooling ( she wants to write waec) fast forward today she came two weeks ago.. she has stopped giving me attention and sex, most of the time ignores me as if I don't exist. I even overhead a guy asking wether she has seen her period on phone I am so heartbroken... This is my first ever relationship, she kinda approach me first although indirectly I was kinda thinking it will last. She left today.... Please advise me it's really tough
The guy Nak her waiting no good... Her head don burst. So you look like a riff raff right now. Ghost her too because, no amount of chase will bring her attention to you. Just get another babe as soon as possible, take all the risk of rejection but whenever she comes, invite a babe no matter how much it cost even if sex is not involved. This is for your mental health and happiness not for anything.
She is in her hoe stage and you are in your productive stage. Ghost her completely and don't simp around her.
No matter what don't masturbatee. If the konji like make him kill you. It will restore your masculinity full time. I repeat, don't masturbatee no matter the level of konji.
Step 1 - don't masturbatee
Step 2 - ghost her completely
Step 3 - try get another but don't be serious with her. You are in your productive age. Don't Joke with your 20 to 30 yrs. You will never recover it again.
Step 4 - make all the money, buy any avaliable assets... Crypto, land, stocks etc
Step 5- don't take any woman serious, the right one will start encouraging you to your direction.
Step 6 - marry the good friend by 30 when you are financially stable but don't miss any free opueh wey no carry ogbanje for body.
Mann11: They are tagged "Àbíkú". They believed those kids were possessed and their illness/death were spiritual programmed by them and their 'group' in order to punish their parents 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I know say e no go pass witchcraft and that's what tradition and religion caused.
Lovelink1991: The lovers were warn against getting married after their Genotype (AS AS) will produced children with sickle cell, they ignored the Doctor's advice and still went ahead and marry.
Watch as the nurse suggested what the govt should do to them
ClassicEvilSpir: Several times, I've watched videos where the woman (or man) would describe how they are facing poverty with their children, how they can't even find a place to stay because they can't afford it, yet proceed to have even more kids.
I am a student, I make good money (Nigerian standard), yet I can't imagine caring for 1 child with my finances. However, people who earn less than one tenth of my monthly profit continue to have kids.
What is the mindset behind this?
What exactly do humans come to earth to do?
To come and drive the latest cars or live in the latest house.
Fact is, the only assignment I can remember is go ye into the world, increase and multiply. Poverty is manmade or government made. There is abundance of everything on earth.
Why is it only humans that suffer poverty yet claim intelligence. Every other animal give birth at will and train there offspring without stress.
Lithiumite: You can post yours and lets compare....this isn't a dick measuring contest but an avenue to compare notes and see how we can improve.
LOL, waiting bring dickkk for this Tinubu shege.
Well we eat one bag of Optimum month. 70k already gone. One pot of soup minimum is 10k and it last only 2 days. Garri, I cannot quantify that one now but we eat half painter in one sitting. Means 1 paint in two days. Pepper, crayfish ogbono paints... No dey reach one month and they are nothing less 50k total. Feeding cost nothing less than 300k for here. It's not even balanced diet oo.
If you come put other wahala apart from food, I spend nothing less than 500k month and na one trouser I dey wear ooo. This Tinubu government choke.
Lithiumite: My family is on a stock up budget of 50k monthly about 20k weekly out of pocket expenses for food,soups,snacks,take outs etc that brings us to a total of about 110k or roughly 120k roughly $90 a month......if you divide that by 30days,you have 4k per day for a family of 5.
A 1/4 bag of rice will take us a whole month,beans,garri,semo,amala,yam when its surplus,pasta,noodles,sweet potatoes which us quite cheap,plantain when surplus,pepper of 10k would last 2 weeks......Ile epo market is quite close to me and I often drive through mile 12 several times in a month where pepper,onions,potatoes and yam are quite cheap.
Provisions golden morn/corn flakes,oats,custard,eggs,sugar,milk
Snacks like biscuits,shawama,meat pie,bole,puff puff or donuts.
Proteins....majorly fish,pork,eggs.....we have really reduced our beef consumption due to its high cost which I always find annoying byvthe way......goat meat and turkey on few occasions.
Minimum wage in america is about $7.95 per hour while in Nigeria its about 70k a month but based on my observation the lowest income family should be bringing home at least 200k monthly in Nigeria as dual income......I see this and I have studied this.
How do you manage... This is interesting and scary at the same time. Maybe things are cheap in your area
Billionbillion: Good morning guys abeg which country I fit apply for with 10m, note my main aim is japa, planning on going alone first then inviting my wife later, country wey economy good and what ground is the best to go with help a brother. please I really need all the information that i can get. I appreciate every input.
ElValiente: 31. I will clock 41 this month, why she will clock `0 by September, dang. Best decision of my life. my baby girl is doing fine. That evil that was whispering abort her to my hear that year. may senior devil fire you. God im grateful. Life was hard then but the joy now is muahh.
LOL, devil get senior... Better update sha. Me too 31 now 41...5 kids... E no go better for buhari and Tinubu. E reach my turn they become president.
DeclanR: People are donating to one pastor, but they ignore the hungry ones around them.
Being successful is not by hardwork, else, I would have been the richest. I don't know what to do again, I still struggle even for the basic things of life. Sometimes I feel like going to babalawo. I don tire I swr. Ordinary food sef person no fit see eat
Didijiji: Buhari that was managing the economy , we think say he no get sense. Jonathan made us live in heaven under PDP.
These Lagos dinosaurs came with their tact and skill and see where we are, every sector almost shutting down. Not a single thing is working
Massive looting everywhere and at all levels of government. Naira turning to a tissue paper
Nigerians abroad are attacked and they cant come home because APC is the worse devil at home. APC government is sooooo useless that even the complaint has left the level of those flying to those who own the flight. That is how demonic they are to attack the source
which kind life be this abeg
I didn't know we still have dinosaur in Lagos Untill 2023
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on bag of rice in a month,wetin happen,una be fowl?