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If there can be 20 Dangote in Nigeria, our economy will be massive.

Nairaland of more than 7 years ago was more "mature" so to say. Today negative vibes and insults are more rampant. There are those who argue a cause and are double standard even though they know they are glaringly wrong.

I visited Quota and came across this piece. What is your take? I hope Nairaland will become a more positive, idea engaging, non tribalistic platform.

8 Signs Someone Is Being Completely Unreasonable

1) They disregard evidence

Ever been in a conversation where no amount of logical reasoning or factual evidence seems to make a dent? Yeah, that’s a big red flag.

In the realm of psychology, this is known as confirmation bias – where a person only acknowledges information that aligns with their existing beliefs and disregards everything else.

This can be incredibly frustrating, especially when you’re trying to have a rational discussion. But, unfortunately, it’s also a classic sign of someone being completely unreasonable.

It’s like trying to convince someone the Earth is round when they’re adamant it’s flat – no matter how much scientific evidence you present, they simply won’t entertain the idea.

When confronted with this kind of behavior, it’s best to recognize it for what it is and save your breath. After all, you can’t reason with the unreasonable.

2) They’re unable to compromise

Remember that one friend who always had to have it their way? Let me share a personal example.

I used to have a buddy, let’s call him John. No matter what we were planning – be it a road trip, a dinner out, or even a simple movie night at home – John would always insist on his preferences.

If he wanted Italian food and the rest of us were craving Chinese, well, guess what? We’d end up eating pasta. No matter how much we tried to negotiate or find a middle ground, John was simply unwilling to compromise.

Psychology tells us that an inability to compromise is a surefire sign of someone being unreasonable. It’s all about their needs, their wants, and their preferences – everyone else’s opinions be damned.

In healthy relationships and productive discussions, compromise is key. But when you’re dealing with an unreasonable person like John, this give-and-take just doesn’t exist.

3) They resort to personal attacks

In the heat of a debate, it’s not uncommon for emotions to run high. However, there’s a clear line between passionate argument and personal attack – a line that unreasonable people often cross.

When someone starts attacking your character instead of addressing the argument at hand, you’re dealing with what psychologists refer to as an ad hominem fallacy. Instead of logically dismantling your argument, they try to discredit you personally.

This behavior is not only disrespectful but also an evasion tactic to avoid addressing the actual issue. Did you know that during the Lincoln-Douglas debates of 1858, Abraham Lincoln was often personally attacked by Stephen Douglas, who resorted to name-calling instead of focusing on the topic? It’s an old trick, but still widely used by those who are being unreasonable.

4) They’re constantly shifting the goalposts

Ever been in a situation where you feel like you’re playing a never-ending game of catch-up? Where the rules seem to change at the other person’s whim? That’s what psychologists call shifting the goalposts.

Unreasonable people often change their demands or expectations midway through a discussion or negotiation. One minute they want one thing, the next minute they want something entirely different.

It’s almost as if they’re setting you up for failure because no matter what you do or say, it’s never quite right or enough. This is a clear sign of them being unreasonable and can make any form of meaningful dialogue incredibly difficult.

Remember, in any rational discourse, the goalposts should remain stable. If they’re constantly moving, you might be dealing with someone utterly unreasonable.

5) They lack empathy

At the heart of every meaningful connection lies empathy – the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s what allows us to connect on a deeper level, to truly ‘get’ each other. But for some people, this crucial attribute seems to be missing.

Unreasonable people often display a lack of empathy. They’re unable or unwilling to put themselves in someone else’s shoes, to see things from a different perspective.

It’s as if they’re locked in their own world, with their own views and feelings taking center stage. This can lead to a disregard for others’ emotions and a failure to appreciate their point of view.

The absence of empathy in a person can make communication challenging and can create a barrier that’s hard to overcome. If you find yourself dealing with someone who lacks this basic human attribute, you’re likely facing someone who is being completely unreasonable.

6) They refuse to accept responsibility

There’s something incredibly frustrating about dealing with someone who never accepts responsibility for their actions.

I remember this one time when a project I was part of didn’t go as planned. There was one team member, let’s call her Lisa, who consistently missed deadlines and delivered subpar work. But instead of owning up to her mistakes, she always had an excuse ready or someone else to point the finger at.

In psychology, this is known as externalizing blame. Unreasonable people often fail to acknowledge their role in a situation and instead shift the blame onto others or external circumstances.

It’s a sign of immaturity and lack of self-awareness. And it can make any sort of productive dialogue or conflict resolution nigh on impossible. If you find yourself dealing with an eternal blame-shifter, you’re likely dealing with someone completely unreasonable.

7) They’re overly defensive

Have you ever been in a conversation where the slightest hint of criticism sends the other person into a full-blown defensive mode? That’s another sign you’re dealing with an unreasonable person.

In psychology, this is known as a defensive reaction – a knee-jerk response to protect oneself from perceived attack or criticism. But when it becomes a constant pattern, it can be a barrier to open and honest communication.

Unreasonable people often react defensively to any form of feedback or suggestion. They see it as a personal attack rather than an opportunity for growth and improvement.

This kind of defensiveness can shut down dialogue and make problem-solving almost impossible. So, if you notice someone constantly on the defensive, chances are they’re being completely unreasonable.

They’re inflexible

At the core of all the signs we’ve discussed is one fundamental trait: inflexibility. Unreasonable people are often rigid in their beliefs, opinions, and attitudes. They refuse to budge, no matter how much evidence or reason you present.

Psychologically speaking, this inflexibility can stem from deep-rooted fears or insecurities. But whatever the reason behind it, it’s a challenging trait to deal with, especially in a conversation or negotiation.

Being flexible doesn’t mean being a pushover or giving up on your beliefs. It means being open to different perspectives and willing to adjust your stance based on new information or understanding.

So if you’re dealing with someone who seems as movable as a mountain, remember that it’s not you – they’re just being completely unreasonable.

Source:Quora.com

Judolisco:
Make d rest go hide o... Una see say noise from Iran Don reduce... Since dem presido collect

No be to make noise. Iran must respect Israel. Them no be mate at all at all.

Please OP were are the pics?

You mean egg as in egg?

One morning a husband returned after several hours of fishing and decided to take a nap. Although not familiar with the lake, his wife decided to take the boat out and go for a ride. She motored out a short distance, anchored, and began to read her book.


A short time later, along comes a game warden in his boat. He pulled up alongside the woman and said, “Good morning Ma’am. What are you doing?”

“Reading a book,” she replied, (thinking, “Isn’t that obvious?”)

“You’re in a restricted fishing area,” he informed her.

“I’m sorry officer, but I’m not fishing, I’m reading.”

“Yes, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment. I’ll have to take you in and write you up.”

“If you do that, I’ll have to charge you with sexual assault,” said the woman.

“But I haven’t even touched you,” said the game warden.

“That’s true, but you have all the equipment. For all I know you could start at any moment.”

“Have a nice day ma’am,” he said and he left.

MORAL: Never argue with a woman who reads. Likely, she can also think.

Source:Quota.com

This a nice one

Many of the posts on this thread (the first page) got me laughing

years ago, Mark Zuckerberg, invited 5 people to his Harvard room.

Reason? To talk about a business opportunity. Only 2 went to meet him and listened to him and accepted the challenge!

Today, both are BILLIONAIRES! Dustin Moskovitz with over $6.5 billion and Eduardo Saverin with over $3.4 billion.

When a friend tells you about a business opportunity, listen and open your mind. Come on, you’ll never know!

Mark, what a true Legend!! 🏆

Source:https://ellianabowersspost.quora.com/15-years-ago-Mark-Zuckerberg-invited-5-people-to-his-Harvard-room-Reason-To-talk-about-a-business-opportunity-Only

Acekidc4:
Treason of the highest order, all of them should be arrested and made to pay heavy fines asap🤨

No one is stopping you. Go and arrest them na

PortHarcourtcit:
I don't support terrorism or do I support Israel or Palestine, but I must say that the man is looking healthy and strong like he was never held hostage... Maybe another media propaganda by Israel to justify the Raffa bombardment...

Please Noa is a lady, not a man.

Floky215:
Other Arabs are afraid of the so called Palestinians coming into their neighbourhood...!!
They already know they animals not fit to co-habit with sane humans..!!

Nobody want wahala so they are pushing it on isreal to help then take care of and at same time blaming Israel for doing the needful...!!

Hypocrisy at it peak...!!!

They should accept the Palestinians and have a taste of what the Israelis are facing.

American politician Nikki Haley slammed Islamic countries for not opening up their gates for civilians from Gaza who are seeking to flee their homes in the face of Israel/Hamas war.

Nikki Haley said:

We should care about the Palestinian citizens, especially the innocent ones because they didn't ask for this.

But where are the Arab countries?

Where are they?

Where is Qatar?

Where is Lebanon?

Where is Jordan?

Where is Egypt?

“Do you know we give Egypt over a billion dollars a year.”

Why aren't they opening the gates? Why aren't they taking the Palestinians?

You know why?

Because they know they can't vet them, and they don't want Hamas in their neighbourhood.

They don’t trust which ones are terrorists and which ones aren’t.

It’s a sad state of affairs, but the reality of that evil is very clear in Arab countries too.

They don’t want those terrorist proxies coming after them.

So why would Israel want them in their neighbourhood?

So let's be honest with what's going on.

“The Arab countries aren't doing anything to help the Palestinians because they don't trust who is right, who is good, who is evil, and they don't want them in their country.”

"They're going to come and blame America. They're going to come and blame Israel.

And don't fall for it, because they have the ability to fix all of this if they wanted to. They have the ability to go in and tell Hamas right now to stop what they're doing. They have the ability to tell Hamas to let those people out.

But you know what?

Qatar is going to continue to work with Hamas and their leadership.

Iran is going to continue to fund all of this and not say anything.

And who's silent?

Every one of those Arab countries are going to be silent. But expect for the finger to point to Israel, and the finger is going to point to America.

Hamas is going to do everything they can to not have them leave, because "they want them all to die".

"One, they want to use them as human shields, two, they want to blame Israel and show images of dead children and say, look at what Israel did.”

But don't ever forget what Hamas did.

Don't ever forget those girls running for their life.

Don't ever forget those babies that were killed in cribs.

Don't ever forget the people that they were dragging through the streets.

And what were they saying?

They were saying, "Death to Israel, death to America.”

Instead of letting the world put pressure on Israel, brought to its knees by the worst massacre since the Holocaust, why not talk to Egypt, Turkey, Qatar or Iran?

Why aren't they doing something to help the Palestinians?

Source:https://thingshappeningaroundtheglobe.quora.com/Pro-Hamas-countries-should-take-in-Palestinians-fleeing-war-Nikki-Haley-American-politician-Nikki-Haley-slammed-Isla

An incredible letter written by a non-Jewish Scottish professor to his students who voted to boycott Israel

It's a response from Dr. Denis MacEoin to the motion put forward by The Edinburgh Student's Association to boycott all things Israeli, in which they claim Israel is under an apartheid regime.

Denis is an expert in Middle Eastern affairs and was a senior editor of the Middle East Quarterly. Here's his letter to the students.

TO: The Committee Edinburgh University Student Association.

May I be permitted to say a few words to members of the EUSA? I am an Edinburgh graduate (MA 1975) who studied Persian, Arabic and Islamic History in Buccleuch Place under William Montgomery Watt and Laurence Elwell Sutton, two of Britain 's great Middle East experts in their day. I later went on to do a PhD at Cambridge and to teach Arabic and Islamic Studies at Newcastle University . Naturally, I am the author of several books and hundreds of articles in this field. I say all that to show that I am well informed in Middle Eastern affairs and that, for that reason, I am shocked and disheartened by the EUSA motion and vote.

I am shocked for a simple reason: there is not and has never been a system of apartheid in Israel .

That is not my opinion, that is fact that can be tested against reality by any Edinburgh student, should he or she choose to visit Israel to see for themselves. Let me spell this out, since I have the impression that those members of EUSA who voted for this motion are absolutely clueless in matters concerning Israel, and that they are, in all likelihood, the victims of extremely biased propaganda coming from the anti-Israel lobby.

Being anti-Israel is not in itself objectionable. But I'm not talking about ordinary criticism of Israel . I'm speaking of a hatred that

permits itself no boundaries in the lies and myths it pours out. Thus, Israel is repeatedly referred to as a "Nazi" state. In what sense is

this true, even as a metaphor? Where are the Israeli concentration camps? The einzatsgruppen? The SS? The Nuremberg Laws? The Final Solution? None of these things nor anything remotely resembling them exists in Israel , precisely because the Jews, more than anyone on earth, understand what Nazism stood for.

It is claimed that there has been an Israeli Holocaust in Gaza (or elsewhere). Where? When? No honest historian would treat that claim with anything but the contempt it deserves. But calling Jews Nazis and saying they have committed a Holocaust is as basic a way to subvert historical fact as anything I can think of.

Likewise apartheid. For apartheid to exist, there would have to be a situation that closely resembled how things were in South Africa under the apartheid regime. Unfortunately for those who believe this, a weekend in any part of Israel would be enough to show how ridiculous the claim is.

That a body of university students actually fell for this and voted on it is a sad comment on the state of modern education. The most obvious focus for apartheid would be the country's 20% Arab population. Under Israeli law, Arab Israelis have exactly the same rights as Jews or anyone else; Muslims have the same rights as Jews or Christians; Baha'is, severely persecuted in Iran, flourish in Israel, where they have their world center; Ahmadi Muslims, severely persecuted in Pakistan and elsewhere, are kept safe by Israel; the holy places of all religions are protected under a specific Israeli law. Arabs form 20% of the university population (an exact echo of their percentage in the general population).

In Iran , the Bahai's (the largest religious minority) are forbidden to study in any university or to run their own universities: why

aren't your members boycotting Iran ? Arabs in Israel can go anywhere they want, unlike blacks in apartheid South Africa . They use public transport, they eat in restaurants, they go to swimming pools, they use libraries, they go to cinemas alongside Jews - something no blacks were able to do in South Africa .

Israeli hospitals not only treat Jews and Arabs, they also treat Palestinians from Gaza or the West Bank.

On the same wards, in the same operating theatres.

In Israel , women have the same rights as men: there is no gender apartheid.

Gay men and women face no restrictions, and Palestinian gays often escape into Israel, knowing they may be killed at home.

It seems bizarre to me that LGBT groups call for a boycott of Israel and say nothing about countries like Iran , where gay men are hanged or stoned to death. That illustrates a mindset that beggars belief.

Intelligent students thinking it's better to be silent about regimes that kill gay people, but good to condemn the only country in the

Middle East that rescues and protects gay people. Is that supposed to be a sick joke?

University is supposed to be about learning to use your brain, to think rationally, to examine evidence, to reach conclusions based on solid evidence, to compare sources, to weigh up one view against one or more others. If the best Edinburgh can now produce are students who have no idea how to do any of these things, then the future is bleak.

I do not object to well-documented criticism of Israel . I do object when supposedly intelligent people single the Jewish state out above states that are horrific in their treatment of their populations. We are going through the biggest upheaval in the Middle East since the 7th and 8th centuries, and it's clear that Arabs and Iranians are rebelling against terrifying regimes that fight back by killing their own citizens.

Israeli citizens, Jews and Arabs alike, do not rebel (though they are free to protest). Yet Edinburgh students mount no demonstrations and call for no boycotts against Libya , Bahrain , Saudi Arabia , Yemen , and Iran . They prefer to make false accusations against one of the world's freest countries, the only country in the Middle East that has taken in Darfur refugees, the only country in the Middle East that gives refuge to gay men and women, the only country in the Middle East that

protects the Bahai's.... Need I go on?

The imbalance is perceptible, and it sheds no credit on anyone who voted for this boycott. I ask you to show some common sense. Get information from the Israeli embassy. Ask for some speakers. Listen to more than one side.

Do not make your minds up until you have given a fair hearing to both parties. You have a duty to your students, and

that is to protect them from one-sided argument.

They are not at university to be propagandized. And they are certainly not there to be tricked into anti-Semitism by punishing one country among all the countries of the world, which happens to be the only Jewish state. If there had been a single Jewish state in the 1930's (which, sadly, there was not), don't you think Adolf Hitler would have decided to boycott it?

Your generation has a duty to ensure that the perennial racism of anti-Semitism never sets down roots among you. Today, however, there are clear signs that it has done so and is putting down more. You have a chance to avert a very great evil, simply by using reason and a sense of fair play. Please tell me that this makes sense. I have given you some of the evidence.

It's up to you to find out more.

Yours sincerely,

Denis MacEoin

Source: https://trendstodays.quora.com/An-incredible-letter-written-by-a-non-Jewish-Scottish-professor-to-his-students-who-voted-to-boycott-Israel-Its-a-resp

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
NATO worst nightmare. Gradually exposing the double standard of the "Rule Based Order" in the international system.

Can we say ICC is fair? Why didn't they issue arrest warrant against the Palestine side since last October when they terrorised Israel? It's recently that they issued arrest warrant against Israel's P.M that they did against Palestine's.

Israel should deal with those that are a theat to their peaceful existence. It's the innocent Palestinian civilians I'm more concerned about. The Palestinian militants or terrorists shouldn't be operating amongst the civilian populace. It's their strategy so it will be hard for the IDF to get at them. They should face Israel directly and stop exposing the civilians to Israelis firepower.

BluntCrazeMan:
But wait..

I am still wondering why Nigerians are not paying INCOME TAX..

And then, Nigerians are not paying Commodity Taxes, and Luxury Taxes.

AND NOBODY IS SAYING ANYTHING ABOUT IT..
Many Nigerians are facing hard times, you wanna increase it

These taxes are not merely supposed to be sources of income alone,, but methods by which the Government track how much money in the system, how they get into the system,, and how they are being spent...

Then I just remembered that in Nigeria as a country, we don't even have an accurate database which contains the number of the Nigerian Citizens and Residents who are working as employees (whether for the government or for private establishments),, or the number of those who are owners of businesses (whether they work alone in the business by themselves, or whether they employed any employees)..

THERE IS NO ACCURATE DATA ANYWHERE,, NOT TO TALK ABOUT WHETHER THE DATA IS COMPLETE OR NOT..

Many Nigerians are facing hard times you wanna increase it

WizardOfNG:
I agree with you. What OP is doing is dishonest as it amounts to deliberately trying to take credit for the thoughts and utterances of others.

Guys please pardon me but I have tried crediting my source"QUORA.COM", but wasn't able to modify. Thanks for your understanding.

All the same, I think people getting to read it here is a positive contribution.

But the correction Is noted and accepted.

Money can be a pretty sweet deal; it can provide you with an exciting lifestyle, glorious things and sometimes even a little happiness. The catch? Sometimes there isn’t enough money to go around—and it can only buy you happiness to a certain extent.

And since there are no trees growing free cash and no dollar bills raining from the sky into our purses and wallets, most of us live in a world of budgets. But the good thing is, when you take control of your money, you take control of your life, too.

Here are 17 quotes to inspire you to really appreciate your hard-earned money.

$¹. Quotes About Earning Money

“There is a gigantic difference between earning a great deal of money and being rich.”

—Marlene Dietrich

“Money is usually attracted, not pursued.”

—Jim Rohn

“Money is multiplied in practical value depending on the number of W’s you control in your life: what you do, when you do it, where you do it and with whom you do it. I call this the ‘freedom multiplier.’”

—Timothy Ferriss, The 4-Hour Workweek

$². Quotes about saving money
“A simple fact that is hard to learn is that the time to save money is when you have some.”

—Joe Moore

“The habit of saving is itself an education; it fosters every virtue, teaches self-denial, cultivates the sense of order, trains to forethought and so broadens the mind.”

—T.T. Munger

“It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you and how many generations you keep it for.”

—Robert Kiyosaki

“The quickest way to double your money is to fold it in half and put it in your back pocket.”

—Will Rogers

“You must gain control over your money or the lack of it will forever control you.”

—Dave Ramsey

$³. Quotes about wealth
“It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.”

—George Horace Lorimer

“If we command our wealth, we shall be rich and free. If our wealth commands us, we are poor indeed.”

—Edmund Burke

“If you would be wealthy… think of Saving as well as of Getting…. Away then with your expensive Follies, and you will not have so much Cause to complain of hard Times, heavy Taxes and chargeable Families.”

—Benjamin Franklin, The Way to Wealth

Quotes about spending money
“Never spend your money before you have it.”

—Thomas Jefferson

“Don’t tell me where your priorities are. Show me where you spend your money and I’ll tell you what they are.”

—James W. Frick

“Many folks think they aren’t good at earning money, when what they don’t know is how to use it.”

—Frank A. Clark

“Many people take no care of their money till they come nearly to the end of it, and others do just the same with their time.”

—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“But money is only a tool. It will take you wherever you wish, but it will not replace you as the driver. It will give you the means for the satisfaction of your desires, but it will not provide you with desires.”

—Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

“A wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart.”

—Jonathan Swift


Source: Success.com

1. Stay silent. Not everything needs to be said.
Silence is better than unnecessary drama.

2. If you find someone smarter than you, work with them, don't compete. Competition is a weakness.

3. The family you create is more important than the family you come from.

4. Your current job doesn't care about you. They only pay you enough to kill your dreams.

5. Free yourself from society's advice, most of them have no idea of what they're doing.

6. Influence: Most people drift through life. They have no purpose, no direction, and zero intent. Learn their needs. Lead them.

7. You are what you think, what you eat, what you read, the visuals/audio materials you consume and those you associate with.

8. It's better to have 1 friend who's;

Happy for you
Supports your win
Encourage your dreams
Than a bunch of acquittances who are

Lazy
Self-centered
Jealous of your success

9. You'll be 10x happier if you forgive your parents and stop blaming them.

10. No one will ever come save you. Your life is 100% your responsibility.

11.Your inner circle should be more focused on money, success, and starting a family.

12.You don't need 100 self-help books. All you need is actions and self-discipline.

Believe in your heart and soul that you are capable of big things in your life.

The only thing that is standing in your way is yourself.

Remove your glass ceiling.

If Israel is given peace then they will have peace.

God1000:
Nonsense, what is their business with ICC since US is not a member


America should stop this absurdity all in the name of protecting israel, US hypocrisy is on full display this time, these are the same people that celebrated the arrest warrant against Vladimir Putin of Russia

Israel is not a member of ICC.

Elzazzi:
Even the innocent kids that are being bombed on a daily by the Israeli forces?

HAMAS should not use civilians, women and children as human shield. They should go out man to man against the Israeli Defense Forces. Let the superior force win. Shekina!!!

Thundafireseun:
Islam is the true religion

I’m a Christian…

But I have studied and researched many books… Islam is a religion of peace

Nawa for you. My question to you is that European countries like Germany that opened her door to Muslims, what was the repercussion?

They would say, ‘Why are you so slow? Why are you talking so slow? Talk like you are alive.’ And I would say, ‘You are very stupid. Are you crazy?’ I was upset all the time,” she said.
She is an introvert likely with melancholic and phlegmatic temperaments.

helinues:
Nigeria government should be held accountable

Hahaha

This man should just be quiet instead of.....

This is praiseworthy and very necessary. Health is Wealth.
OP where you drinking from the tank before now?

Someone close to me use to fall sick alot. After sometime, someone in the health industry advised her to be boiling her water before drinking. After doing so, she wasn't falling sick like before. Her health improved

Many of the water we fetch for drinking should be boiled and filtered before drinking. With this, the possibility of Typhoid Fever and other water borne diseases will drastically be reduced.

Please let's invest in our health and that of our family members and communities.
My humble submission.

Is it too hard for HAMAS to release Israeli hostages?

AareGaa:
Your stupidity is incurable.

Answer the question. Be mature don't be insultive 😃

We don hear.

How I wish there are 50 other Nigerians like Dangote and the government supporting them just as they supporting Dangote, what do you think Nigeria economy would look like?