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Laveda:
1. Is it really right to open up to a guy that I have a crush on him?

2.Why do some guys lead girls on claiming they love her when they don't? Why not tell her from the beginning shít won't work?

3. Do guys really believe in true love?

1. You don't open up directly, you either show him sign or act it. .
some guys can't really handle it when a lady ask them out so it gets into their head and they start broadcasting like radio while there are some who will handle it maturely and turn you down in a way you won't get hurt

2. Guys again are different..some know ladies love compliments and they prefer to take that route thereby lying to get etc.
A guy can love you in the beginning of a relationship and trust me, your attitude will make him call it quits..
Many gals don't take note of this and her quick to judge any guy who call it quits without knowing their attitudes or action..
What I'm saying is a guy who stop been serious in the course of the relationship or decide to call it quit doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

3. Another misconception ladies have is thinking guys don't love or we fake it. The difference is that we are stronger physically and not too emotional unlike ladies.
Guys love, we care, we get hurt etc
We have blood and water in our system and as such, we have feelings/emotions same way with ladies.

Twaci:
1. What really is the right way to a guys heart?

2. Why are most guys scared of commitment?

To answer questions one.. We guys aren't complicated like many ladies assume.. we have a heart that loves, we care we get hurt too..
Do this to a guy and if he doesn't love you back, then something is wrong.
Be loving, caring & tolerant ,open minded, willing to learn, willing to assist and help too, don't be too clingy etc

2.Guys I think are just waiting for the right time, I trust you many aren't ready

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]I mean the girl.

More often than not girls who are involved in this always see nothing bad in it. They think they can control it and that their boyfriends are unnecessarily territorial & jealous but when things happen they begin to look for excuses.[/color]

Lol .people still they argue on the top bestie and no bestie??
Anyway na ladies dey keep male bestie pass.. It's rare to see a guy with female bestie

optional1:
I dont know cos I still as myself dis question but sometime d man is at fault cos some men travel a lot nd abandon their wife who are starving in sex.

If a man gives his wife sex wen she ask of it i dont think she wil look somewere else.
If a man doesnt travel always for business trip think his wife wont go out nd look for wat she is missing.
Some women might not enjoy their husband sex.

My own opinion!

Nice response..
So can we blame men who cheat on their wives cos they were denied sex??

Can we blame men who cheat on their wives cos the wives are always traveling or should I say hardly have time for the husband??

Twaci:
True. Do not think that they are not there.

But here's what should count, we chose you guys over them. We chose to spend our time and affection on you not them. We love you not them.

Assistant boyfriend/girlfriend shouldn't even come in at first

mimzy:
No lady wants to share her man especially when she is giving her 120% . so it is only rational that she gets almost the same level of commitment back.

So what's the extent you can do when it comes to commitment in your relationship and what and what will you do to say you have given your best??

ivyy:
Before marriage these signs will show. The first indication, would be his inability to control his temper when he is angry.

There are other signs like extreme possessiveness.

Nice response though..I still think guys are in a better position to answer that..
To add to it, trust me it's never easy to tell who a wife beater is, but there are signs to know.
Among them is the inability to control is anger, and how he handles dispute/quarrel with outsiders, iF he's fond of fighting too etc etc..

donephi:
I seriously dont agree men a polygamous in nature, i take an exception to that.

Men aren't polygamous in nature.. The creator Neva made it so neither does science.
That line is been used mostly by people who justify their cheating ways and sadly, many women also agree

Omotayor123:
Yes... In as much as money isn't love, we can rule out the fact that money is necessary to spice up that love... Money helps in showing how much you love and care

lol..see talk.. so to you money help in showing how much one cares??
If a guy spend alot of it on you even though he may abhor an evil agenda, automatically he loves you??
This is interesting

safarigirl:
nice guys more often than not are shy and simply don't know how to approach ladies, so nobody is friendzoning them, they just don't want to leave the zone.

I had this very good friend if mine, nice and intelligent, I thought he was a witty fellow and he was very funny. I got the feeling he liked me a lot and this other friend of ours was always trying to pull it out of him, but he never said a thing.

We haven't spoken in years, but if he pops out of nowhere and asks me out, I won't even hesitate.....but we never were because he never asked and I wasn't sure.

He's a nice guy, could've been more, but he wasn't assertive. Being a nice guy is cool, but every girl wants an assertive man who knows what he wants and isn't shy to go for it.

You're a man for a reason, you don't get to be shy

And you didn't give him green light?

Princedapace:
I got too
Biko....the dress thing , I don't understand o...someone make it clearer
And can my local govt certificate of origin be used here for the state
Make we share info...time short o...me na 9th

You don't understand ke?? If you have been to Nysc orientation Camp you will understand. . White top and knicker.

smiliyB:
#thumbup my kind of person....any church can serve depends on location lolz...but ppl go think say we dey kolo.

Lol.. kolo ke, why?? for worshipping with other Christians like us or I don't get the reason most Christian can't worship anywhere.

cardoctor:
Gerrarrahere joor. 95% of women lose their virginity to guys whom they never married. I believe those men are the ones u may be talking about. BTW, I'm heading to my 50s nd yet to meet a virgin. Most girls lose the best part of their womanhood to hopeless guys then look for another to make a scapegoat.

This is true though for majority of females

Smh...Nothing go happen to anybody.. After all you both enjoyed each other. The earlier young ladies understand that not all relationships will lead to marriage the better.
Forget about the promises..We know this days many promises are not kept or are made from a lying tongue.


If a man leaves you as a woman, you should check yourself cause no guy will leave a good woman or the guy should go for check up.

Born a Baptist..I attend any church. For now it's TREM, CPM, WINNERS, REDEEM ETC depends on my location

STFUareyouG0d:
Exactly! But then, dudes have to change their mentality of seeing such girls as cheap.

That been said, these girls should also build strong heart to handle rejection a NO. A dude can say no due to many personal reasons same way girls turn us down. It might be that he's in a relationship, or he doesn't wanna go into one or other personal reasons

Many of them have the mentality that I love him, he must love me back..
The earlier they start developing thick skin to accept whatever comes their way, the better.

Guys too on the other way is one reason many ladies won't make the move..
Left to me, I respect ladies who are bold and go for what they want..

STFUareyouG0d:
I think it's just the society. Fear of being tagged cheap and all that.

I could see some comments by guys saying the can't love such girl and how they won't take her seriously. You see, it's not the girls fault actually. Dudes play 70% part in why most girls will rather die inside than ask a dude out

True this.. the society and their parents also have taught them not to go after what they want..
Nevertheless, there are ladies who still do and no guy expect a lady to come out direct and do the asking. There are numbers of way to do so..

STFUareyouG0d:
If it's cool for guys to ask girls out, why's it wrong for girls to ask guys out? Aren't they humans? Don't they have feelings? Can they not express their feelings?

I don't see anything wrong with that

#IMO

Pride and fear of rejection no go kill many of them

TheRealAdonye:
How I contact someone, Ideally.
1. Phone Call 2. Text Message 3. BBM, Whatsapp

Almost same as me but text messages comes last

STFUareyouG0d:
Unfortunately, we young bachelors don't want divorced ladies/women
We want ladies so fresh like Breaking news on CNN

lol.. werey

Omotayor123:
Ah ah ah.... Na today she know :*
ALL GUYS ARE SINGLE They can lie for the Nation

And all ladies are dating when we know many are single like the letter I..
so who's lying?? Lol

Dadehmola:
Danillo wouldn't exactly be an upgrade on Valencia & Darmian - i'd even pick the hard-working & "tactically obedient" Ecuadorian over him.

Despite Valencia's technical deficiencies, I think he provided some solidity to the defence towards the end of the season. he also contributed positively at the other end of the pitch.

From an attacking POV, i have actually given up on Darmian - I don't see any potential for him to improve in that regard. On the other hand, he could become our own Azpilicueta....the conservative, effecient & defensively sound full-back who could play on either flank. He has to improve though.

Even before his injury, Val was a decent makeshift RB for us.. He came back from injury and still impressed..

I will pick Val who's not a defender over Danilo over and over. The same Danilo that Carrasco Was banging right, front and center in the UCL?? The same Danilo many Madrid supporters and those around where i watched the UCL final were making jest of??

Danilo is just a waste of money and bench warmer..

We have Val who is very strong and pacy and can track back very easy evn though we know his crossings are poor.

alobright17:
committing such cheats in marriage is even different from doing it few months,weeks or days before marriage,besides for better for worse rules no dey for dating or relationship.

Lol. true. Even in marriage cheating isn't allowed..

dovelike:
Uhuh

Will drop a message for you

dovelike:
We thank God, I am on break from school now. Time to fill up my bank account

Good to know.. more money to your purse.

dovelike:
At all

Lol. the guy is bn careful... Very soon many men will take that route till they are ready for marriage..
How's studies and work??

dovelike:
All God oo. But did this guy do vasectomy?

Lol. Y??
You have never had of him in any pregnancy scandal??

Dadehmola:

This baba like quarrel pass fight.. Free Kagawa na.
Una two need sit down, drink and talk sport. You Don get padi..

alobright17:
Those talking about sitting her down,never understand how this things work,bet me if the guy go ahead and marry the lady he will then understand my point here.

very true.. I wonder who will marry someone he/she doesn't trust..
Going that path is torture to both of them..

Me I tell people, i can't Just see myself having dealings with someone I don't trust.