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See the volume of people on this thread. They want to supervise the burial of Abba Kyari!

Tithing is not a debt. Giving (tithing inclusive) to God is voluntary yet necessary and should be done willingly. Most importantly, it is an act of faith and we give in relation to our individual maturity in faith. Matured faith says I will give my tithe with the believe that God is able to provide more, little faith says I have to manage this and hold onto my cash. In the latter, you are not wrong but only needs to grow more in faith and in the grace of giving. God will not be angry with you but there are only realms in kingdom wealth, sufficiency and provision that you will not attain which makes your remain at the level 'of not been enough' (debts and more debts). It's all your choice. Remember tithing is not all about giving the cash, but the understanding that motivates the action. God bless!

Op, your patience is really a virtue and I must commend your maturity in dealing with the situation. Please you must ensure that he doesn't take you for granted but don't hold his sins against him. I feel strongly that the man is frustrated by circumstances in his life and he needs help and all the love he can get despite his attitude. Please pray for him. I noticed you didn't mention anything about his kids, I hope they are not childless. I must really commend your wife for her tolerance and maturity. She is truly a great woman and a peace loving fellow, try not to ignore her counsels, You both are a great match and your Union will go far.
All the best!!

Kudos, this post is inspiring.
I sent you a message sir

akubudejud:
HMMMM! What a life,I wrote this article when I was just a classroom teacher some years ago.Today, I am heading an International school in Abuja. To God be the Glory.

akubudejud:
HMMMM! What a life,I wrote this article when I was just a classroom teacher some years ago.Today, I am heading an International school in Abuja. To God be the Glory.

akubudejud:
HMMMM! What a life,I wrote this article when I was just a classroom teacher some years ago.Today, I am heading an International school in Abuja. To God be the Glory.

akubudejud:
HMMMM! What a life,I wrote this article when I was just a classroom teacher some years ago.Today, I am heading an International school in Abuja. To God be the Glory.

sycp, Budapest University of Technology and Economics sent messages for test already

azubix:
Those who wrote Budapest university of technology and economics exam yesterday how was it?

That exam no be beans oh seriously.

i took the exam but it was relatively okay, if you practiced the preparatory questions. has anyone seen his/her result?
I forgot to upload my id card before the exams, hope i will not be disqualified.

PLease add 07035937792

Interesting. ... keep it coming

perezski:
Well everything depends on having a plan right before you graduated. Personally, i have always loved teaching or lecturing, as in, my level of enthusiasm for teaching is quite astronomical. In fact when i was in school, during my break(s), i made sustainable cash by teaching Govt, English and even Accounting(but my strength was GOVT) at tutorial centres for WASSCE and UTME respectively. As soon as i left service i had already set a salary scale in my mind for my self, as a starter in the teaching industry. Hence, i sought for my teaching job in a perceived highbrow area in Lagos, precisely, Ajah. N as a reminder i emerged with a 2.1 in Sociology Uni of Ilorin(Mad department). I had a strategy then(2014), i wrote like 5 application letters, officially enveloped with my attached CV(This strategy is now obsolete, if u follow my story). I had it in mind to visit 5 big schools around Ajah axis n drop my stuff. My confidence level was at its climax or apogee. Consequently, the first school i stumbled across(After doing some feasibility study by asking old residents around Ajah about the highest standard schools in Ajah in terms of salary), i enquired if there was a vacancy for my subject. Luckily, there was. I remembered telling the security that the job was mine. Dude smiled at me like see this Otondo"u sabi how many people don apply for this job". Fast forward, met the Principal n he told me to drop my CV n come back in subsequently 2 hours from then. I insisted i want my interview then n now.(this was a strategy to instill confidence for the job n show my tech-know how of the job). Immediately a micro-teaching was staged for me(deep down i knew the job was mine). I nailed the interview and the Director of studies later came to discuss salary with me. We finalised at 55k for a start(My target was even 50). I knew i needed to build an experience in a big school. So, i started humbly but with an ambitious mind. Fast forward to 2018. Since my first school, i have acquired Skills, training and certifications and today i am a certified Cambridge IGCSE History and Sociology Teacher. I have taught in two schools in Lekki. But my breakthrough came when i was referred to one of the biggest schools in Abuja( Now teaching has gone Digital with massive opportunities and great remuneration even bigger dan most multi-national coys in Lagos). I now go for international training in the UK and to mention a few.......So guys, especially young graduates who are intrinsically motivated to teaching, PM me i give you tips on how to go about it and i hope my epistle helps some graduates or unemployed youth out there. It's all about the mindset. Dont give up!

Bro, I sent you a pm... we got some interests in common
Thanks

Some of the benefits of social media amongst many others are for information and advocacy(value orientation & reorientation). However some of the news being churned out beats one's creative imagination. What is the purpose of this post? So many questions: Is the news about Her UN appointment just reaching him on his hospital bed? Is it trying to update us about Mr prsident's display of emotion..? Incoherent post

Toks2008:
You are right once again but can I ask you this?

Can you love or desire a dirty,lazy,abusive adultress?

There is nothing like true love between humans but only from God to man.

Most couples who stay long in marriages will call it love and I agree but in reality it's more of tolerance.

It is that tolerance that many young people lack.

Yes I can, it is just that in marriage context love is a reciprocity (which on her part is lacking because she has not made her own decision to commitment)
How can you love without tolerance? In fact love isnt loving perfect people but loving the imperfect too. If you desire to know about love, go to the source- God. I am single and i wanted to know what true love is? "God demonstrated his love this way while we were yet sinners, christ died for us" The very foundation of true love is decision and not feeling or perfomance or attraction. Is feeling or performance not important, it is but you can not control the obeject of the attraction, what you can control is your choice. This amazing understanding has changed my love life and I can not trade it for anything. Any contrary principle from this will always produce hatred, divorce that we have always seen So amongst your family members, are there no habits you detest? Do you hate them because of that? From your conclusion, i believe we are coming close to our destination. What strikes me with this your latest post is how you want to excuse tolerance as a stand alone subject different from love. It is either you see this as an intellectual debate (its not a case of who go win) or you have a mindset which you think any other opinion can not change. I enjoyed your write up as my mind is open to learn but the one i felt is not right, i took you up on it.
I engaged you because of your interest & noble contribution in upholding the marriage institution and the large influence your write up has to alter peoples life for the better- so error must be avoided as the truth is the standard irrespective of the criticism or unpopularity. Thank you

Toks2008:
See friend,you are very very correct but you must understand that there is reality and expectations.

What you wrote is exactly how it ought to be but I write practical stuffs,realistic facts and one of them is that no one can love another without a reason..

Yes, agreed, for me, amongst the many reasons, the most outstanding should be a mutual decision to love as any other cogent reason different from this is temporal and subject to change. I believe the intention of your post is to correct misconceptions and misinformations about relationships culminating in marriage. You did justice by identifying those utopian expectations ladies anticipate. These anomalies are so rampant in our society today that they are gradually becoming the norm and standard. However, there are still exceptions though few but available.
In your submission, you dismissed the expectation of 'true love' as a wishful thinking. You hinged the essence of true love on attraction. This is the point where we diverge. You alledge that my submission is not realistic and practical. Hmmm..... It may be unpopular but they are realistic and equally practicable. As ample testimonies of successful marriages are right here with us. Unions which have lasted more than 50 years even in the midst of difficult circumstances. They could not have endured that long because of what they like about their partner. That is why divorce is on the increase in our own generation due to the prominence of the gospel of love driven by attraction. No wonder; a time comes when the weakness of the other partner, disagreements triuph over whatever you liked initially about the person.
As of old, accompanying attraction was their decision and commitment to their to make sure it works. But in our time, once you observe what you do not like in your partner, they part ways with the illusion of finding a perfect person that they will forever be attracted to. How to identify guys with this strong respect and enormous responsibility of commitment to their marriage is a topic for another day. Thanks &God bless!

paulbets:
Why will anybody decide to love anybody unflinchingly for no reason. No matter how we flog it, there is always going to be reason for loving another person. Either because of character, Christian instructions to love, physical looks and other many things. There is nothing like "love me for real". Love must be foundational and based on something else it will just be words. Do not be deceived by words of "I Love you for real" pls enquire what is that real thing or motivation, and if its just choice to love, ask what's prompting the person to make such choice. There is always a reason for everything whether consciously or subconsciously.
Scientifically speaking, the love that people feel towards opposite sex that makes them to want to date the person or be in a relationship with the person is often biologically triggered by sex hormones. The feelings you hear people talk about to whom ever thy are dating, is also biologically influenced by their sex hormones.

Nice writeup and points @ Toks2008

There is no denying the fact that it is impossible to love someone without some level of attraction base on qualities or features of interest. But what i am positing is that it is not a sufficient condition for true love. This is due to the fact that these features are not eternal. Therefore, it is safe to say that when the tides change, the only pillar that reinforces your 'real love' is the choice you have made to do so. I hope you will have a second view at this issue. Thanks!

Beamborla:
If you ask me, going after a lady because you find her sexually appealing is not even love in the first place. That's lust.

When people talk about being loved for real, they are referring to the ability of the person to see all their imperfections and accept it. They are referring to the ability of the person to see beyond their physical appearance and be aware of other treasures embedded in them.

Truth is, you'd always come across people who posses that which you find attractive in your partner and even more. You'd meet people better than your partner, people who meet your standards, who have qualites you never knew you'd find attractive. If it's all about your submission, what should one do when that happens?

I quite figure your candid question about 'real love'. The OP may not give you a satisfactory response about this because his perspective of love is attraction based. I can submit that there is true love which is solely based on a decision to do so. Attraction to a lady base on features is temporal and unreliable but when a man decides to love a lady and backed upon by an unflinching commitment to make their union work over time. Then that can be said to be true love. This is a commitment independent of emotional/feeling flunctuations.

Please Op, can you help with useful info about graduate internship awaiting Nysc, chemical engineerig living in Kaduna. Locations close to kaduna will also be appreciated. Thanks