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silibaba:
SUCKING OF BREAST IS JUST TO AWAKE THE SLEEPING GIANT IN HER(LIBIDO) For men nothing gain.

MODIFIED:

By Yetunde Arebi
The female breasts, also known as “the twins” or “the girls”, have remained the most conspicuous and attractive feature of the female sexual organ. Perhaps, its strategic positioning and function adds to its importance in the life of a woman.

Besides the age long biological function of the breasts as a source of food and nourishment for babies, the breast is also a major source of sexual attraction for the male specie, just as it is also a key sexual organ for the woman, highly sensitive to stimulation. The fact that they come in various shapes and sizes, further add to their uniqueness and endearing place in our hearts as humans.Breast-Sucking

As a sexual organ, the breasts have been known to give immense pleasure to both men and women during sexual encounters. In fact, some women have reportedly disclosed that they are capable of achieving orgasm even when thoroughly stimulated through sucking and caressing of the breasts alone. Though, because of this highly sensitive nature, some women find it very uncomfortable or even painful to submit their twin girls to constant sexual manipulation of any kind.


Interestingly, men are constantly drawn to the breasts. A lot of this attraction has been attributed to psychological composition, perception and beliefs. For, pray, why would a full grown man be obsessed with sucking some mounds of milkless breasts? I don’t often get logical answers to this question when I ask. The function of the breasts in sexual behaviour has been attributed to human Face -to -Face copulation that is unusual among other mammals. Since the breast already serves the function of mother-infant bonding, then it is also excellent for male -female bonding, says an argument. After all, it is just within reach.

For those familiar with some of the social media platforms, you would have come across a particular message that has been making the rounds for a couple of years now. Purportedly attributed to the BBC as source, this message usually springs out during the cancer awareness months and in support of cancer prevention campaign. As expected, it elicits a wide range of controversies from both men and women, from humour to disdain and sexual innuendoes, while some others believe the content hook, line and sinker. The purported message is claimed to have been issued by the Ministry of Health in the fight against breast cancer. One of the versions I have received read thus:

Very soon, women will be paying men to have their breasts sucked! According to a report on BBC website, Doctors recommend that women reduce the risk of getting breast cancer by having their breasts sucked thoroughly and vigorously. It is said that regular sucking of the breast lowers the risk level that tends to build up lumps leading to breast cancer. The breast must be sucked as often as possible. Help women fight breast cancer today. Men, please do your part and suck a breast now! And women, please endeavour to make it available regularly…… This message is from the Ministry of Health in the fight against breast cancer.



I have tried several times without success to get a confirmation for this story on the mentioned websites including cancer.org and some others in related fields. But perhaps, someone out there knows the original and authentic source of this message? Please share it with us!

As interesting as this message may be, as well as the different responses it receives anytime it is being passed around, depending on which side of the divide you find yourself, I am more worried about the health implications attached. Cancer is not something to make jokes out of as it claims millions of lives across the world every year. Again, some frightened lady who hitherto was not in favour of breast sucking may easily submit herself to torture with the belief that she is suffering for a good reason. Please, let us not confuse issues. Breast feeding is not the same as breast sucking. Breast feeding is the process of feeding new born and infants with breast milk. It is this that has been medically proven to be of immense benefit to both mother and child and can prevent breast cancer. There are no scientifically proven studies indicating that breast sucking is of any medical benefit to the the woman whose breast is being sucked or the person doing the sucking.

However, what has been scientifically proven is the fact that breast sucking when properly performed is of immense pleasure to the woman and may sometime on its own lead to orgasm or when combined with some other forms of sexual stimulation will help a woman to achieve orgasm quicker. Again, neither has any research shown that breast sucking can give a woman cancer.

So ladies, please relax and allow your guys do the job for you. if you are not enjoying the way he is doing it, tell him. I can assure you, it’s a win-win situation.

SOURCE: VANGUARD NEWSPAPER

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/05/breast-sucking-good/

saphiere:
We are living in the end time. It's time to get more closer to God.

1000angstroms:
They can kill and finish themselves, I don't care. It is karma payback time.

Thurmieee:
This is very true. I served there last year,this kidnapping has been happening for long there thank God it came to light. them dey kidnap even Igbo people for illela. because of this insecurity they didn't post any corps member this year.

humilitypays:
Nigeria can never get it right any day, stop hoping. Nigeria is a black African nation, the highest they can achieve is Lagos, Owerri, Abuja, Kano, Ibadan, Benin, Asaba level. Its their destiny.


The best you can do for yourself if you want a working nation and environment is to plan yourself and migrate out of Nigeria to your dream city where you can succeed and also give your kids a better opportunity in life.


Nigeria as a nation can only get worst than it is now as years roll by.


If you doubt me, in 2023 despite the endsars noise the youths made, they will still act as thugs that will help elect useless President and Governors and Senators.


Tinubu, another criminal minded selfish politician is warming up to become President without shame and some youths are already drumming support for him out of tribal religious sentiments and you expect to get where


Some will say Nigeria will be great again as if there was a time Nigeria was a great country Of course when a child is born, the parents and relatives always hope the child would be successful and great at the childhood stage but as adulthood sets in, the child will show what he can become...so in the 70s and 80s Nigeria was still like a newborn baby the world was expecting much from it making it look like it was doing well then, Nigeria has never done well since 1960. All the leaders from Zik to Tafawa to Buhari are all wicked criminals. Rogues and demons in power!

Quit dreaming jareh

tobechi74:
Not good news at all. Must he marry now, can't he wait and have shop first. If he is living in rivers where rain falls for seven consecutive days , no market be that children will suffer
You know this society is not working. you are managing to exist. eating from hand to mouth. struggling to make a living.

you find a partner in similar or worse situation like you and for love or other selfish reason, choose to get married and bring a child into this world.

A child that would be forced to struggle like you.
To use him as cheap labor in your farm ?
As a secondary source of income e.g bride price,child hawking
As bragging right among your peers?
So you can flex your authority and power on him/her

Why? so that when you get old you will guilt trip them into taking care of you with words like
” after ,bringing you into this world
after all I have done for you.

you think because you brought him to this miserable world,he owes you his life.
what did you do for him? you starved him, no tertiary education, no comfortable bed.

AF if it is compulsory for one to own a child.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/20/parents-why/

tobechi74:
Not good news at all. Must he marry now, can't he wait and have shop first. If he is living in rivers where rain falls for seven consecutive days , no market be that children will suffer
You know this society is not working. you are managing to exist. eating from hand to mouth. struggling to make a living.

you find a partner in similar or worse situation like you and for love or other selfish reason, choose to get married and bring a child into this world.

A child that would be forced to struggle like you.
To use him as cheap labor in your farm ?
As a secondary source of income e.g bride price,child hawking
As bragging right among your peers?
So you can flex your authority and power on him/her

Why? so that when you get old you will guilt trip them into taking care of you with words like
” after ,bringing you into this world
after all I have done for you.

you think because you brought him to this miserable world,he owes you his life.
what did you do for him? you starved him, no tertiary education, no comfortable bed.

AF if it is compulsory for one to own a child.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/20/parents-why/

tobechi74:
Not good news at all. Must he marry now, can't he wait and have shop first. If he is living in rivers where rain falls for seven consecutive days , no market be that children will suffer
You know this society is not working. you are managing to exist. eating from hand to mouth. struggling to make a living.

you find a partner in similar or worse situation like you and for love or other selfish reason, choose to get married and bring a child into this world.

A child that would be forced to struggle like you.
To use him as cheap labor in your farm ?
As a secondary source of income e.g bride price,child hawking
As bragging right among your peers?
So you can flex your authority and power on him/her

Why? so that when you get old you will guilt trip them into taking care of you with words like
” after ,bringing you into this world
after all I have done for you.

you think because you brought him to this miserable world,he owes you his life.
what did you do for him? you starved him, no tertiary education, no comfortable bed.

AF if it is compulsory for one to own a child.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/20/parents-why/

tobechi74:
Not good news at all. Must he marry now, can't he wait and have shop first. If he is living in rivers where rain falls for seven consecutive days , no market be that children will suffer
You know this society is not working. you are managing to exist. eating from hand to mouth. struggling to make a living.

you find a partner in similar or worse situation like you and for love or other selfish reason, choose to get married and bring a child into this world.

A child that would be forced to struggle like you.
To use him as cheap labor in your farm ?
As a secondary source of income e.g bride price,child hawking
As bragging right among your peers?
So you can flex your authority and power on him/her

Why? so that when you get old you will guilt trip them into taking care of you with words like
” after ,bringing you into this world
after all I have done for you.

you think because you brought him to this miserable world,he owes you his life.
what did you do for him? you starved him, no tertiary education, no comfortable bed.

AF if it is compulsory for one to own a child.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/20/parents-why/

JidennaJason:
Your wife or son should be your Next Of Kin...

lindareep:
“I am a caterer, but my husband didn’t allow me to work when he was alive. Now, I have five children to cater for and I have been reduced to begging to survive; I have been hustling and struggling."


Lesson: Allow your wife to work biko, nobody knows tomorrow

JidennaJason:
Your wife or son should be your Next Of Kin...

Shile981:
Teachers shouldn't tell their life stories to their students/pupils either good ones or bad. Do not tell them your past either to teach them morals or whatever. it's bad

Shile981:
Teachers shouldn't tell their life stories to their students/pupils either good ones or bad. Do not tell them your past either to teach them morals or whatever. it's bad

Iyoocartel:
Iyooooooo cartel

I pity my Nigerian brothers who still have anything serious to do with Nigerian ladies. They are the most lazy set of people in the world and they got the biggest entitlement mentality ever with an extremely black heart. You hardly hear of news of a man maltreating a kid or any of his house help but our Nigerian ladies can't even live with their husband own blood sister kids or husband relatives because of their evil mind and stupid entitlement mentality.
A man will struggle to put himself in a certain high class position and along the line of trying to set up his fellow brothers who were with him when he had nothing,a certain lucifer will appear from somewhere and change his mind to stop assisting his family members and only focus on her and her immediate family and the guy is likely to comply na when money finish the stupid guys eyes dey clear.
All they know how to do is eat like glutton, with stomach starting to pop out like Geepee tank, make irrelevant arguments about bb9ja and Korea movies, share sex from hotel to hotel and taking pictures everywhere like they paid for it and posting it on whatsapp with a stupid caption claiming to be a boss lady. No plans, no goals, no nothing. Just bunch of liabilities looking for a stupid guy to shoulder her and her family problems. I pity any guy who's currently in that hook,40% of your life is already gone.

I pity Nigerian guys who still get serious or his thinking of settling down with a Nigerian girl especially the ones from the low and middle class family.
Guys are getting wise everyday that's the reason for the high count of evening newspaper all over nairaland and the country
Just invite them over,login and logout and pass the liability to the next unlucky guy on the queue

pansophist:
Okafor's Law of Congodynamics (C1 + P = C∞)

It states that once a Congo has been shined once (C1 ), it can always be shined (C∞ ) provided it was shined properly ( P) the previous times. (emphasis on properly). In other words, "....a woman once knacked, superbly can be reknacked..."

You see it, that lots of women (married or not) go back to their ex, or keep their ex as a side knacking mate because he surely delivers satisfactorily unless the new partner's sexual skills supersede the predecessor.

''Okafor law'' is to women, what ''oneitis'' is to men. The cure to it is having an abundance, as with quantity, you shall find a quality, far better than what you had, or go the hard way, which is to live without sexual satisfaction, and it's harder than being in prison. It also has something to do with sexual imprinting, ubunja has miseducation on that, check it out to know more about it.

brain54:
I stand to be corrected on this but I think African tradition is gradually going to oblivion in preference for the Western style of doing things. one such example is in the area of communication were African elders were known for having a unique way of expressing themselves with words laced with wisdom. here is a compilation of my favorite African proverbs/wise saying from elders.
1. the tongue cannot claim to be ignorant of what the teeth is chewing.
2. until a woman marries twice she will not know which is better.
3. no matter the height of a camel the owner knows how to ride it.
4. if an abomination is committed for too long it becomes a tradition.
5. the Royal sculptor cannot make a mortar from plantain.
6. if the eye claims to be watching then let it narrate what the mouth said.
7. that a person is wealthy does not mean that he consumes more salt than his neighbours.
8. when the vulture takes a bath it becomes more ugly.
9. salt is never infested with worms.
10. a farm is not abandoned because it is full of weed.
11. it is other people's children that are sent on late night errands.
12. the day a debtor beats up his creditor is the day the debt is settled.
13. it is a foolish dog that barks at what the lion saw and ran away.
14. the hawk that picked the tortoise for dinner will go to be with an empty stomach.
15. a decaying plantain says it is ripening.
16. an idle person is recognized by the way he ties his wrapper.
17. sorry does not heal a wound but it can clean it.
18. a single finger cannot remove lice from the head.
19. one cannot predict the temper of the chick in the egg.
20. the meat that one forbids one cannot divide with his teeth.
21. a person that wants to tell a lie will say that his witness is in a distant town.
22. no matter how one threats a sleeping child when he wakes he would look for his mother.
23. a child is crying because his mother went to the market. what will an orphan child do?
24. if one does not eat beans he can't excrete beans.
25. it is because of the big bush meat that the hunter sews a big bag.
26. one doesn't pick his eyes same way he does his nose.
27. the nose doesn't perceive its own odour.
28. a soldier who survives a war boasts that his charm were effective.
29. it is a vain boast, a termite cannot devour or destroy a rock.
30. flies cannot support any other person if the person with sore is around.
31. it is easier to wake up a man sleeping than one pretending to sleep.
32. no matter how white the lizard's excreta may be it must have a dark spot.
33. neither the person who rushes or the person who walks slowly but steadily will sleep on the road.
34. the palm nut which ripens on a path way is for everyone to pluck.
35. an old woman who sells rotten fish recognises a blind fly.
36. a goat that keeps the company of a dog soon learns how to eat excreta.
37. one does not construct a palm oil factory simply because of one ripe palm tree.
38. a face is not washed with peppery water.
39. it is the finger that fits into the nose that is used to pick it.
40. a person should not seek to out-laugh he who lost his lips in a laughing contest.
feel free to add yours!

Justdogood:
Guy. @op.

You are just too weak for my liking.
1, let her have the children. If I am you hmmmmm. I can go all out out to defend myself once I know am innocent.
See. Time teaches all of us a lesson.
If am in your shoes, though I wouldn't wanna be. I will not call her again. As long as she is away.
I will change all the keys to that house.
I will stop sending her even if its 1kobo. Since she decided to move out and hide her location.
See, women are alwasy good at this the play card no 1, watch ur reactions and play card 2, 3, 4 and so on.
Bone her for now and dont even feel bothered. You can do it.

2. Shun her mothers words and actions its your mistake from the first time. Which is letting her come live with you guys.

3. There has to be rules and guidelines for the house if she is going to come back.
See, when the going gets tough, the tough gets going. They say when the birds have decided to fly without perching. We the hunters will learn to shoot without aiming.
The rules should include.
-Her mother can come visiting, but will not stay more than 2weeks
-sex now has to be scheduled or timed or you should be the one to initiate divorce. The sex should be at least twice weekly
-no abusive words from mum inlaw or your wife again. As long as they are under your roof. Also you
-the next time she leaves the house without your notice and not disclosing her whereabouts, that day the marriage ends. As you will file for divorce.
Cos i have noticed. Women use that which you cherish the most to threaten you cos they know you are scared to lose it.
Thats why she is always using divorce or your children. Cos she feels you are scared.
Please add as much stringent rules as u can.

Cos the way your marriage is going, if you dont get strong and tough, you will end up being turned into a simp or a sis, or a vegetable husband who has an alpha wife, or they will push you till you die or commit suicide.

Sit up father of the house,
Sit up my fellow man,
Sit up papa mmadu,
You are the man,
You are the head of that house lead that house. Dont let any mother inlaw or wife chnage this.

Finally if she decides to chnage. In all aspects
You can soft pedal on the above listed conditions.

Thanks

Bustincole:
Only God can solve all awa problem



honestly the whole world is corrupt... take it or leave it

creative11:
DON’T KILL YOUR HUSBAND. THIS IS HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
By Bisi Adewale

It was discovered that a great proportion of women who killed their husbands did so because they suspected or confirmed that their men were sleeping with other women. Technology has made adultery and fornication very common nowadays. It is easier to get connected to people you’ve never met before through social media like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
Many websites connect both single and married people for sex at a fee. Dating websites aid married people who want to cheat on their spouses to do so secretly. Even married people meet singles just for sex is very common on the internet.

Pornographic websites are said to be more than 75% of all websites on the internet. 35% of all internet downloads are related to porn. 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted pornographic content through ads, pop up ads, misdirected links or emails. It is also easier than before to keep an illicit relationship outside marriage through the use of mobile phones, chatting applications, social media, etc.

Please note that lots of women are also sleeping around, but it is more prevalent among men. However, do not generalise that all men are sleeping around.

A young executive came to me some weeks ago. His problem, a young lady was transferred to his office to work as his secretary. The lady in question was so sexy and daring. She did everything to lure the young man to bed. He wanted to know what to do to avoid sleeping with her and not to cheat on his wife. He said he had been married for 13 years and had never slept with anybody apart from his wife. Many men who are committed to their wedding vows but facing this problem still come to us for counselling. Yours may be one of them. If not, killing him is not the answer to your problem.

If you discover or suspect that your husband is sleeping with someone else apart from you, there are many things you must do quickly.
Read this piece carefully and follow the instructions given to avoid falling into the error of killing your spouse and becoming a murderer in the process:

GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT, DON’T BASE YOUR LIFE ON RUMOURS

A woman was to see a male client in a particular hotel lobby in Ikoyi. She went with one of her staff who had no business in the meeting. The staff was supposed to be on another project at that time.
I asked her, "Why are you taking your staff with you for the meeting?"
She said, "To avoid rumours. If my driver sees me coming to a hotel with a man without anyone with us, he will begin to carry rumours that are not true”

This got me thinking. Lots of women are dying today based on lies, misrepresentation, and rumours about their husbands which may not be true.

So, get your facts right. If you hear rumours, investigate it carefully but give your husband the benefit of doubt.

GET YOUR EVIDENCE RIGHT; DON’T BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SUSPICION

A young wife called our office some months ago. She told us that her husband was sleeping around. We invited both of them to our office, only to discover that her grouse was her husband not sucking her breasts ever since they got married. This made her think he was sucking someone else's breasts somewhere.
But her dear husband is a “Holy Man” who believed that sucking breasts is a sin. He asked me, “Sir, why should I suck her breasts when I'm not a baby?” We opened his eyes to Proverbs 5:15-19 and he was very shocked. He returned home to do his job right and the wife called me with great joy the second day. That ended her suspicion of infidelity.

Please never accuse your husband wrongly if you don’t have any piece of evidence, it may not be what you think. It can be so hurtful if he is not doing it but he is accused of wrongly. Even, it may make some people go ahead and do it.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTION

No matter what happens, take control of your emotion, even if you get all the pieces of evidence needed and they are watertight. Let your maturity show here. That is why marriage is for matured minds only, not babies in diapers. Cry if you feel like; please cry loudly when alone or with your counsellor. It will help your emotion; it will help you to calm down and think rationally.

REMEMBER THAT KILLING HIM WILL GET YOU INTO DEEP TROUBLE

Remember and have in mind that killing your husband will get you into hot water with the law, disrupt your life forever, put you to shame, hurt your children dearly, make you a widow and make your children fatherless. The cost is much more than having him sleep with another woman.

One woman said, “My husband is a womanizer, but I won’t kill him. At least, they release him to come back home after finishing with him. He needs to come back home to pay house rent and school fees.”

POSITION YOURSELF TO DISCOVER INFIDELITY QUICKLY

Lots of women are clueless. A woman never knew her husband had been unfaithful. She didn't know that her husband had another family outside until a woman brought three children home for her husband.

Lots of women know that their husbands are unfaithful only after his death.
A woman told us how three women came with four children to her husband's funeral. She said she was unaware of her husband's escapades with other women until that day. That is very funny and it shows the lack of knowledge and absence of insensitivity.

If a wife discovers infidelity issues early, the man can be stopped. Some of them need help as they feel trapped but don’t know what to do. You see, no man can be a perfect womanizer beside a very sensitive, Godly and smart wife. There will be clues all around beyond what you are hunting but checking his phones.

There are thirty-seven clues every womanizing man will give out cheaply as they enter into an illicit relationship outside. The infidelity will be boldly written over them no matter how smart they are. But most wives will not be able to read the language in which it is written. So they will live in total darkness despite overwhelming evidence. Everybody around the wife will know but may never tell her because they know she may never believe them.

I will suggest you quickly download my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN. In the book, I revealed the thirty-seven clues, where to get them and what to do with them. I also wrote about how to make your husband never to desire any other woman out there.

DON’T FALL INTO DEPRESSION

Some women do not kill their cheating husbands. Instead, they kill themselves by overthinking negatively, depression, high blood pressure many health challenges or suicide.
Do you want to die to make another woman happy? Don’t give her that joy, not at all. NO IMMORAL MAN IS WORTH DYING FOR. Wake up, girl! Cry if you must. Yes, do cry, it is good for your health. But take care of your thinking, take charge of your mind and don’t allow them to steal your joy. No depression. Sing aloud, dance, shout for joy. NO SORRY, NO SORROW! Don’t die for them to come and make love on your tomb, not at all. Live to fulfil your day, take charge of your emotion.

DON'T TURN IT TO A BATTLE

As a counsellor, I know that not all women who killed their husbands intended to kill them, not at all. The problem is that they allowed their emotions to take the better of them and turn their homes to a battlefield. They used any weapon that came to their mind: knives, pestle, frying pan, bottles, grinding stones and anything that could inflict injury.

They turned the battle against themselves in the process and became murderers. What a heavy burden for a woman to bear.

APPLY WISDOM

Some people may tell you not to ask your husband about your discovery. No. Ask him, confront him, but do so by applying wisdom. It is not something to handle rashly. In my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN, I devoted a whole chapter to discussing how to confront a cheating husband without losing him. It is a very technical issue; you need to know what to do. As I said, you can get the book on Familabooks.com. I will advise you to download the eBook version on your phone so that you can read it discreetly to yourself.
I think every woman needs it especially the chapters that deal with how to protect your husband from other women and how to discover if your husband is cheating on you. Click here to download the book now.

CHECK YOURSELF

Don’t just blame your husband for sleeping around, check yourself. One study shows that 80% of Nigerian married women hate sex. It also showed that sex is what causes the major crisis in Nigerian marriages as lots of wives are frigid.
Statements such as “I'm tired tonight honey” “Not again tonight honey” "But you did one the day before yesterday” “Is it food?” “Don’t you think of any other thing?" pervades many bedrooms, thus making men vulnerable to willing and ready beauty queens out there.
Most married men want sex two or three times a week. However, lots of married women want sex once a month only. One husband told me that he had not been able to sleep with his wife in the last 6 weeks because she complained of being tired.

It is wrong for any man to sleep around, nobody can justify that for any reason. But it is also wrong to deny your husband sex. Up your game, sex is legal in marriage. You said "I DO” on your wedding day, GO AND DO. If they DO it better out there, you will lose your husband to them. Don't be foolish; get Hot and sexy with your husband. Pursue your husband, give him a bed shaking sex at home and let him go to the office battered with a back issue tomorrow. You can't win a man with a hooked bra and padlocked pant. Your body belongs to him. Suffocate him with sex so that when he sees other women, they will look like trees to him.

You will also need to download my book about sex in marriage titled: THE SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE to know how to become an extraordinary bedroom expert to your husband and turn him to a lover boy.

UP YOUR GAME

Up your game in every area of wifehood. Cook right, pray rightly, dress right, talk rightly, behave right and sex him rightly. Deal with him till he forgets his surname, he is your husband. What is he looking for outside that you don’t have? But are you giving him? Check yourself and get back to bed hot and sizzling and stop wearing jeans knickers to bed or tying wrapper around your body like a woman of the 17th century.

CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE

What about your behaviour at home? An immoral man told me that his wife stresses him at home but those girls treat him with care. This can be true about lots of women. They see the ring as the right over their husbands to treat them like trash and have their ways the way they want it. Sorry girl, if you treat your king like trash, you may be enthroning a new queen in your position. (Hope I'm not being too harsh on you)

DON’T BOTTLE IT

Don’t ever bottle your discovery about your husband. No, you need to speak out but speak right. If you bottle it, one day you may burst. You may hurt yourself or husband or kill him.

PRAY ABOUT IT

One of the best solutions is prayer. Talk to God about it. Commit your emotions and the situation to God. Commit your husband to the hands of God before you speak to him.

DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME

Don’t make the mistake of leaving your home because you are angry with your husband. If you do, you will just hand over the keys of your home to these small girls. Don’t be tempted to leave.

REACH OUT TO THE GIRL

You may need to reach out to the girl sleeping with your husband in some cases. It can work if the lady never knew he was married but was deceived. However, if the lady is the “private prostitute” type, this may not work, but you can give it a try.

A young wife called the lady going out with her husband recently and introduced herself as his wife. The girl was so shocked as the guy told her he was not married and promised her marriage. The side chick apologized and broke the relationship. Before you call the girl, investigate her. Check her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Check what she is posting, you will get to know the kind of girl she is in the process.
If you must talk to the girl, please be cautious. Do not fight, do not shout and do not sound beggarly. The lady may be rude and non-cooperative. Don’t bother, just speak to her conscience. Tell her you are her sister, please emphasize the sister point. Let her see reason, talk to her soul. Let her know what you and the children are passing through at home because of her. Let her know how irresponsible your husband has become since dating her. Let her know your labour over your husband and sacrifices since you married him. Let her know that one day she will be married too; ask her how she will feel if such was done to her.

A woman got information that her husband was sleeping around and she investigated to get more details. One day, she knew her husband would likely visit the girl. She paid a bike man to trail his car to wherever he was going. The bike man did as instructed. The wife then decided to visit her husband in the girl's apartment. Lo, it was her husband who answered the door when she knocked. He was shocked but the wife did not fight (you can’t win when you fight a man's mistress. He will use your attitude as a reason for running away from the house). She spoke to the conscience of the girl. She spoke kindly to the girl and told her that the man must have been deceiving her like he has been doing to other girls of the age of his daughters. The girl was too confused to utter a word than just to say she was sorry. She told the wife her husband told her wasn't married because his wife died about three years before they met and promised to marry her.
That was the end of that relationship. The man came back home shamefully and the situation got to him because the wife never fought when he got back home. His food was ready on the table and the wife welcomed him back like a royal. The result, he learned to keep his erection at home.

TALK TO A COUNSELLOR

Before you confront your husband, you will need to see a counsellor, not your family and his family who will complicate the whole matter.
A counsellor will evaluate the whole matter and teach you what to do to get your husband back. So wherever you are, look for a counsellor quickly, don’t die in silence.

If you don’t talk to a counsellor now, you will need to talk to a lawyer later when you are in trouble.
If you want to reach me to talk on the issue of your marriage, let's talk now, don’t die in silence.
Send me a mail or call right now. I will be glad to talk to you.

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Please, share this for all women to see. Let us stop these incessant domestic killings, every life is sacred, every life is important. Don’t take any life.

@Bisi Adewale

ExAngel007:
Dear all,

According to psychologist, there are three types of intelligence. Viz:

*Intelligence Quotient (IQ)*
*Emotional Quotient (EQ)*
*Social Quotient (SQ)*

1. *Intelligence Quotient (IQ)*: this is the measure of your comprehension ability", solve maths; memorize things and recall subject matters.

*2. Emotional Quotient (EQ)*: this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others; keep to time; be responsible; be honest; respect boundaries; be humble, genuine and considerate.

3. *Social Quotient (SQ):* this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize in improving IQ level while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your character; your SQ represents your charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs but more especially your EQ and SQ.

EQ and SQ make one manage better than the other.

Pls don't teach children only to be IQ but also to be EQ and SQ.


Now there is a 4th one :

A new paradigm
4. *The Adversity Quotient (AQ)*: the measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind. AQ determines who will give up in face of troubles, who will abandon their family or who will consider suicide.

To parents.

Expose children to other areas of life than academic. They should adore manual work (never use work as a form of punishment), sport and art. Develop their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of the parents.

Finally, do not prepare the road for the children.

Prepare the children for the road.

Stay SAFE.

Observe Social Distancing.

Thank you.

lalasticlala

mcmurphy132:
if this happens In Nigeria.. it would turn to religious war

englishmart:

Victor Ikpeba and Bet9ja have been ruining more lives than they have bettered lives