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Our parents were so HARSH  in raising us bc of the silly dangerous superstitious beliefs they have/had and were raised with.

This belief is deeply rooted in the NON FACTUAL REASON that: Whatever is wrong with you is someone being jealous of your accomplishments and subsequently using JUJU to get back at u,

Parents BACK then made sure their kids never had friends, I never had friends growing up, still hard for me today to know how to choose them. I like being alone, unless I am with my siblings then I am talkative
Parents did not even want you mixing with their own relatives!

I still tell my dad "No dad your neighbour cannot give u

cancer, headache, pains, poverty, car accident{unless the neighbour physically MANIPULATED the car}vitiligo, witchcraft,
get u married/or impregnated in the spirit world, dumbness,
change the sex of a baby in the womb, make the baby premature,

or use you for money{they can kidnap u and sell u} etc"

I guess whatever they did was out of love and this DEEP SEATED CRIPPLING FEAR OF THE DIABOLICAL, OF THE SUPERSTITIOUS, of the occult, etc

I refuse to live in such bondage.

Even though my dad has these beliefs he still bought me loads of books, let me listen to all kinds of music,  maybe deep down he wanted me to be so learned that I never have the fears that had so crippled him and many other dads. I DO NOT HAVE SUCH FEARS AT ALL. For that I am grateful


My dad is immensely cruel to my mom, I often wondered why he married her, the beatings oh my god the beatings, verbal abuse, the mental and emotional agony she puts up with till today. If at this age she chooses to leave as I have beeen secretly wshing I will support and build her a house in her place but she won't leave becasue she wants to be married.

He will cane us and cane her, he will make us kneel down where the whole world will see us for nothing and make my mom kneel down too, that till today makes me cry{that messes with ur relationship as a girl, u fight all ur life not to be like ur mom, not to be so subservient, not to be so fearful of one who is supposed to love you etc] Fathers have no clue HOW MUCH THEY RUIN THEER DAUGHTERS LIVES WHEN THEY R CRUEL TO THE MOTHERS.

You know when your dad is cruel to u, u can eventually grow up and leave, which is what all 9 of us are doing , getting educated and leaving. Not ur mom, it is hard in igbo society and the generation my mom is from. One day I will bring her to America far wayyy from my dad so she can drink water and keep cup{ ka o nuo mmili togbo iko na o nwero onye o ji nke ya}

NOT BC MY DAD IS CRUEL, THIS IS NOT FOR SYMPATHY BUT I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT MY MOM is the best human being on earth, kind, loving, religious, longsuffering, generous. I can never be her or walk a minute in her shoes or else my dad will be a crippled man. she is too damn good! All her kids are almost like her in goodness without the SUBSERVIENT PARTS, absolutely not!!

I can go on and on but ,

I see nothing wrong in changing status to engaged, unless there are second thoughts, because believe this after the wedding he will request for u to change your name  to your new married name.
Will u still be reluctant cuz it is still an intimate affair?

The man is just trying to protect what "belongs" to him, unless u do not feel so.

FOR THOSE WHO R WORRIED ABOUT ENGAGEMENTS BEING CALLED OFF, MARRIAGES GET CALLED OFF TOO!



Disclaimer---the word "belong" is not used in the true Nigerian sense of possesion and jealousy

My family {My late grandmother who lived to 103 yr old. She showed me what love is by loving my mother like her own.

My younger brother, Ikechukwu for wanting so much to pass all his exams and reserving the rights to brag to me about it.

My immediate younger sister Ijeoma for being the bulldozer that she is}

The belief in something higher than me

The need and ability to help others puts a big a55 smile on my face

Life.

THE WORST KIND OF INTELLECTUAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL BONDAGE ARE THE ONES Through RELIGION
BE IT CHRISTIAN OR TRADITIONAL. YOU THINK THE PASTORS ARE RICH , WAIT TILL THE PASTOR'S NATIVE DOCTOR TELLS YOU HIS WORTH.

Most of the people who fall prey to this are the poor OR THE GREEDY, hoping that when they give SO MUCH OR SACRIFICE SO MUCH GOAT OR FOWL God will multiply it{scam}, how many times did Jesus ask for money from his followers? None!


Naija we are wiser than this SHINE YA EYES. These pastors/babalawos are thieves, they do not work for God, they are not of God.

IGBO:  Afuru m gi n'anya, ife gi asoka m, I masiri m {so many ways to say it but a nice pot of bitterleaf soup says it better alongside akpu

YORUBA:  Mo ni fe die die

HAUSA  M nasonki, kibake ba se rigia. {I love u, if not u I will jump into a well}

daysis,

I am the only hyperkarid opeke in this ilya, also known as drummigba or olori du chifee

God I miss Kegite club before some idiots made it a secret society in some college, they even banned it from my college in Pankshin.

remember the all night gyrations. to be young, free and able again. damn!

all opakas and opekes remain 4efa karid. Your descendants will waka pass Obama, work ooooo!

I cannot, repeat cannot stand those guys{ gary colemans}, however they need to earn a living and who are we to tell them how to do so legally.

NIGERIAN PARENTS SHOULD RAISE THEIR OWN KIDS, LET US NOT BE TOO AMERICANISED.

wia dem see light to dey wtach movies bikonu?!

you will also know how to treat them depending on how they treat your spouse.

You will know how to treat them depending on how they acted out on your wedding preparations and occassion.

Don't be too kind, don't be too mean, friendly distance

Draw the line on what you like and don't like, too much familiarity especially with in laws breeds contempt.
{You are not allowed to walk into my room without knocking simply because it is your brothers house, it is now fully my house, you,  in laws are just visiting.]

When you make a decision with your spouse he is not allowed to change it because his siblings wants it changed.

SOUND OF MUSIC

LIVING IN BONDAGE {NAIJA MOVIES 90'S}

FOOLS RUSH IN

HEART OF MEN {GHANA MOVIE}

ASHANTI {with Olu Jacobs, must have been inthe 60's}

Homosexuality exists and is accepted in Nigeria. Just ask anyone from the northern states what DAN DAUDU IS. They will let you know or better yet GOOGLE IT.

Nigeria is not an island it is made up of people and human nature and behavior are same irrespective of origin. We are human, therefore bound to have homosexuality within our community too. Now is it wrong or right?.  I don't know. Let God decide that.

However I fail to see why anyone would want to ascribe to a life that is hated by  LARGE NUMBER OF PEOPLE  if such a person is not born that way.