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ecomalchemistt:
That's dependent on what you have plugged to the powerbox.

It's rated 48,000mah with an output of 150w, check your device to know the specifications.

I will give you a call. I will be buying one off you.

How long does the power bank last on full charge?

franugo:
Who's Ego?

His neighbour.

mekleelex200:
Nonsense, is this where football is at now? Lookman is good player but he is lucky that there are no much African players doing much things at international stage.

If it was the modern time of Ego, Drogba, Diof,Yaya etc., who burn am to be nominated.

So they should give it to "Ego" whoever that's or Drogba because no one "burn" am well.

Receive sense, but I know you won't still use it.

Ynix:
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If you’re interested in a more detailed plan on how to execute this, feel free to reach out to me at 08089456258. I’d be happy to discuss specific strategies that could potentially yield your target profit.

I am a digital marketer and I have been for 16 years. I know SEO in and out. I like real estate but recently got scammed by someone enlisted ( I don't want to say hire because she is like a mom to me ), to build for me. Lost of over 20m. Right now I am considering oil and gas even though I am not that rich but believe I can do it with time.

Shikena:
Can you imagine? Someone came to his ancestral homeland on vacation to rest after months of hustle and should now spend the bulk of his vacation budget on family support?

What sort of mindset is that? So his own destiny is like that of a machine to just work to support others and die slowly?

I am currently battling health issues because of relatives who have mindset like that of that idiotic idiota I replied to. People are never full, they always want more and when you don't have it to give they label you.

It took me 1 year of acute depression and spending time at a psychiatric home before I stopped giving a damn. If you like blackmail me from now till tomorrow, it won't move me.

VeryWickedBro:
OP spent N3.350m on food, flexing and lodging but N500k on family support.


Come succeed for obodo oyibo make I see

Some of you are very entitled. Which of the family helped work for his month? If it is easy none of them will need the "little" he gave them.

Mad people everywhere.

My daughters. GOD, I am a blessed man with three beautiful daughters who I adore and adore me too.

pneumaticos:
Hello boss
Have you setup one
How did it turn out

Not yet. Decided to build a house, got scammed big time by a so called pastor or maybe the people he used but now I have a house of my own and finishing a second ( where I intend to leave ).

I decided to go oil and gas. Starting with a very standard cooking gas station. It will be extremely capital intensive as I need two plots but it is something my mind is made up on doing.

Next year is it for the gas station.

Zonefree:
Okocha no get any level at all. People should stop addressing him as Super eagles legend.

His only achievement is to play alongside Ronaldinho.

That man whose surname should have used pulled or used a condom and save us this embarrassment.

Kaiser20:
Did you get permission from God before taking multiple Loans from different companies, even when you know that you can not pay them
After you intentionally defrauded 5 Loan Apps that assisted you in a time of need, you want God to help.

Do you have any proof that he intentionally defaulted?

Let's stop judging other people without knowing exactly what they have had to deal with.

SilentEmma:
I am currently owing
1. Okash
2. Branch
3. New credit
4. Xcross cash
5. Fairmoney

And they are all due... Not that I am not making efforts to pay them back, I am...

The country is too hard...

Though for now I only receive calls and constant reminders from anyone of them, that if I don't pay they will report my bvn to credit bureau... Sometimes branch and Fairmoney will tell me they will take legal action...

None of my contacts have called me yet to report any form of defamation yet...

I just hope and believe that these five loan apps I am owing are part of the ones that done defame... God go help me out to pay them all...

If you can

1. Create a video showing you logging into one of the apps and your nairaland account to prove the loan actually exists

2. Allow me pay directly to them, I will assist you with a maximum of 50k.

The ball is in your court. Follow me and I will follow you back so we can DM each other.

Anyone else on this forum who contacts me is wasting his or her time, I will only help one person.

jify:
Thank you for your post. I make it a point of duty to only take up things I can do within the confines of my 9-5 job. In 9 hours of work, I get to work like only 4 hours,so I have like 5 hours to do any order thing which I fully utilize.

Why I outsource is cause, first I'm asthmatic, I do little work and I'm already drained. I explained this to him, that a normal woman would do this, but just mopping floors drains my total energy, so that's why I seek to outsource these. When these people come around, I'm always at home. I don't go anywhere weekend except church. I don't even have any friends, visit family like once a month. I'm not allowed to take my kids to any event where my family members are, so I don't attend all events, cos where do I keep them? Secondly, like I said the other things I do are mentally draining and I wake up 4am every single work day, I get back by after 6, so the children are my responsibility till 10pm when I go to bed, so naturally weekends I want to rest. Whenever he is upset with me, he stops the person who I pay to bring them home by 5pm when he is around. I have to go pick them up.

I don't browse or do anything from 6pm that I come back. I stopped watching TV shows to stop anger that was boiling in my mind (he would just come and turn off the TV asking me what kind of show am I watching). It's been 4years that I stopped watching any TV show.

Believe me, I get your point but I had factored all these into my situation.

This is so inhumane. No one should treat the other person like this. I wonder what he will do if he was GOD. Please prioritize yourself. The children will be fine. You don't have to divorce him. Take a break from the marriage, if you can't say your mind verbally, take your time and write everything then leave till he behaves.

The Bible says GOD hates divorce not separation and even if it leads to divorce, GOD wants you to live and be in good physical and mental health.

If you are saying the truth, this is just absolutely too much.

May GOD give you strength.

Ex0rrcist:
You can put up with it till your kids are old enough for university, and leave him then if you so much think you can't raise them on your own.

What if she dies before then? If what she narrated here is not friction then best bet is for her to separate from him until he matures.

Mille:
This is my own honest advice from my experience in marriage and the marriages of people around us.

First, Financial arrangements of a family are unique to that family. There shouldn't be any basis for comparison with others. Most probably, what you started with is most likely what your partner will expect to continue.

I understand that you acknowledged you can be verbally abusive. Please try as much as possible to control your tongue. Unless you both have agreed to go separate ways, hurtful words spoken will remain. I hate when spousal arguments turn physical, so make arrangements to go outside when he starts dragging you even if it's inside the compound until the matter subsides.

Parental and family abuse is where I draw the line. Personally, I wouldn't be with anyone who is disrespectful or abusive towards my family. It denotes a disrespectful and impulsive individual. That's not someone I want to be a partner with. I don't know the unpalatable words you say though, maybe you abuse his family too. In that case, it would be hard to advise. But does he actually picks up the phone and call your mother to actually abuse her on the phone? If so, unbelievable.

Why is your brother saying that to your husband? Your brother's advise should have been to you and not him. I believe he said that due to what you have told your family about him. When you report your spouse to your family, you might forgive and forget, but your family wouldn't.

Finance is what causes majority of the arguments in marriage. Have a talk on the current realities and have him talk about what he wants to do financially. You can find someone he respects to have him talk to him if you cannot reach an agreement on your own. But like I said, you already started on the wrong foot by showing you were capable. I'll be surprised if there is a way out for you.

About the phone call harassment in the office, put your phone on airplane mode or disable the sim. No calls, no problem. But I wonder how long you'll be able to keep up with it.

Maybe it's due to my own upbringing, but I believe your mum's mantra is a little bit wrong.
It should only be followed if there is a major factor that causes a change in circumstances, if not, it will encourage irresponsibility and laziness in men. Like for example, I take care of 100% in my household. The only month in my marriage that my wife took care of like half of the bills due to medical reasons, I noticed how complacent I was. Have his family speak to him again, get financial commitments and make sure you don't bail him out, except he lost his job, a major expense or health reasons. You must also show strength in your resolve. For example, if he says he will pay the children school fees, have the children sit at home with him on the first day of resumption if the fees have not been paid by then. I hope you have neighbors who will ask him why his children have not resumed yet.

I do not understand this husband locking wives out of a thing. I never saw something like this growing up but I can't believe how common it is since I became an adult. It shows a lack of care about the safety of your spouse. This is why I strongly dislike impulsive people. If anything were to happen to you out in the cold, does he know he will take the blame for it. If such were to happen to my daughter, I'm certain it will be the last time it ever happens.

I wish I can meet you. May the GOOD LORD bless you. As a man,I am so proud of this write up of yours. GOD bless you real GOOD.

Esthered:
Make me understand a good father and a non loving spouse in one person.

Exactly my thought when I read that part.

Neptunium:
Divorce. The man does not like you let alone loves you. You're married to a demon. Three years ago he locked you out - of a house you rented o, three years later same issue on top of other issues. Marriage is not a do or die affair. You can't keep punishing yourself that you'll stay for the kids over a man who hates you. You're actually doing them more harm than good. And for your family including brother to not like him speaks volume. Imagine him insulting you parents and siblings, picking up his phone to insult your mother. What a fagg0t. Good thing no joint account with him. Leave for your peace of mind and health. You can make visitation arrangements for him to see the kids. You're doing them more harm than good staying in this awful marriage.

I don't support divorce but your comment is the most sensible so far. That man doesn't love her ( if she is saying the truth ). You are a man, leaving your manly duties to a woman and still manipulating her. The op needs to temporarily leave at the very least. The children she claims she is protecting will be better off without such a toxic man.

capnies:
LET US HEAR THE MANS SIDE OF THE STORY. TO ME YOU'RE GUILTY

YOU CAN'T INSULT A MAN YOUR LIVING WITH, THAT'S CAPITAL SIN TO MEN

If what the OP wrote is true then he deserves the insults. You can't neglect the role that makes you the head of the family and then expect submission.

I am a man with 8+ years marriage experience. Men like the OP's husband ( if she is saying the truth ) deserves no respect. There is a borderline to everything. You can't keep pushing people and expect angelic behaviour.

Please find it unacceptable but for me, when a woman says a man beats her I first ask what led to it, and same when a man complains of abuses from his wife.

The moment you neglect your roles and then even become toxic you deserve whatever comes your way.

Nairaland is very toxic. I can't believe fellow men read this and they are all blaming you? It is shameful and unacceptable.

Your husband is a manipulator and it is high time you considered yourself first. I am just reunited with my wife after one year, I was always saying my kids this my kids that until it got to a point where my work was being affected and the children started to manage and adapt to lifestyles I didn't want for them. I had to leave and it was the best decision ever.

I feel your pain, if you are saying the truth, and I feel your pain even more seeing how people ( the first few comments were so judgmental it is disgusting ) people's comment. Consider yourself first. The only way you can care for those kids is when you are alive and in good physical and mental health.

Missroyalluv:
@op, you're very correct.

Take for example, buying things in bulk like a whole seller and buying little as a retailers.
Also, Enrolling your children in a good school closer to your house but expensive and enrolling them in a cheap school with poor academic standards and very far from your house.
The transport, risk of constantly on the highway on every school day, the poor academic performance. It doesn't make any sense.

I recently met this two young students who spent 21k on tp to and fro to school in a week.
Calculate 21k by 4, then by 4months. Add it to their current school fees. That's cra.zy

Thank you for this. Many people don't know they are making themselves poorer even when they think they are smart.

I pray GOD gives me the grace to do more than this. I am deeply impressed. May GOD bless Don Jazz the more.

emmyN:
What's your average electricity tariff cost during this time?

120k-150k.

bdon123:
Which kind talk be this....how many places are band A in d whole Nigeria?even d band A dey struggle to see 20hrs

I am on band A and I get on average 23 hours per day, for 4 months now.

However, I am not sure up to 10% not to talk of 40% of Nigeria homes get up to 20 hours per day. Adelabu just lied.

You are invading people's privacy and causing pollution. Don't sugar coat it.

Street preaching in residential areas is breakage of the laws of the land and Jesus Christ didn't teach us so.

Have you wondered what if someone is hypertensive and trying to sleep and your noise is disturbing him? We Nigerians always try to whip up religious sentimentalities to suit ourselves even when clearly the action is wrong.

Obakoolex:
Sorry to hear about your case.
070107431zerofive text me.
There's a soup you can make yourself and I promise you it works.
I paid to get the solution for my wife but am giving it out freely.

Not interested. But thank you.

Beremx:
Ulcer medicine 65k. God will help us with this ulcer matter o! The thing is now like a national sickness after malaria.

It is well o!!

I swear. A state of emergency needs to be declared and it definitely has nothing to do with starvation. When this shit starts with me I bleed ( passing blood as poo ) like a menstruating woman and holding my stomach like I am having menstrual cramps.

I will gladly forfeit one kidney to get rid of that shit permanently.

Nice2023:
Poor people would not understand this wonderful analysis.

They will only see it as attacked on their personality.

Well,poverty is a thing of the mind.

Some will see it like one is bragging, on a faceless forum. But for me, it is an opportunity to educate. Being broke is quiet very expensive, it is a fact.

bluepreek:
What's the reason behind this post.

To educate especially men.

Being poor is very very expensive. Recently I discovered I was prediabetic, how? Cos I do comprehensive checks every 3 months.

I started doing it cos I have been suffering from arthritis ( which should not be cos of my age ), I started getting worried for my kidneys and decided not to mind the cos and be checking everything every 3 months. Expensive it seems but it saved me big time. I could have been full blown and that would have been way more expensive.

My recent result made me think of everything included what I have narrated in this thread.

Poverty is freaking expensive. It is fact that can only been seen when a proper analysis is done.

No matter what you do in life, ensure you are not poor. Yes, it is not really, totally in your power, but ( and this is me speaking as Christian ) GOD has given us the power to make wealth.

Recently I did calculations and discovered being poor is very expensive. Very very expensive.

Last year I I had to live in an environment where power supply was good ( the first 4 months ), then in December, Nepa changed and I was burning a minimum of 15 litres of fuel. Many atimes as much as 25 litres ( I work from home as a digital marketer with my workers working in the same flat, my family in another place ). When fuel was 620-650 per litre, I was spending about 300k on fuel, plus another 15-20k on Nepa, another 15k-25k for oil and generator repairs.

I chose to leave that area and go to a band A area. Three months ago at the thick of the fuel scarcity. My rent in the new place is *2.5 times more ( from 470 to 1.5m per year ). In this new place I spend 100-130k on Nepa with little to no need for fuel ( my total on fuel in the 3 months is less than 30k ).

This means from over 300k when fuel was 620-650 to just 130k maximum now that fuel is 1200.

If I was still in the same area and spend 15-25 litres per day, I will be spending over 500k on fuel per month.

Let's do the maths

My new rent is 1.5m per year from 470k per year. Difference is 1.030m per year.

Fuel differential

500k to 15k per month ( remember in 3 months I have spent less than 45k in total in this new place ). Differential 485k per month.

In one year that will be 485k *12

That's 5,820,000 saves from fuel per year.

Now let's remove the differential from rent.

5,820,000 - 1,030,000

Total saving per year ( without factoring cost of generator repairs and maintenance).

Savings - 4,790,000 per year.

Total savings from Nepa from the previous place ( I spend between 15-20k a month in the previous place on Nepa ) but we will use 15k. That's another 180k saved per month.

Total - 4,970,000

Imagine I can't afford that rent, I will be making myself broker and will be struggling to keep up.

I am paying more in rent but saving more than 2 times more from fuel and this is before factoring the cost of me having to drive 45-60 minutes to get a good store ( I use GB or Jendol ) to buy my stuffs ( fruits and co ). And the cost of maintaining my car due to terrible road.

This thread may be meaningless to some people but I am pretty sure some people will find it useful. No matter what you do, work hard, make money. Being rich is easy, the real issue is leaving the third class level and moving to middle class from where accumulating wealth becomes a lot more easier.

I just asked my wife to pack so I can buy this. Wonderful coincidence.

Olachase:
That was how two grown up men approached me 6 months ago, telling me they just arrived from cotonu they have some cotonu currency they needed to convert to Naira if I can please follow they since they were new in Lagos, I pretend like I have interest,

On our way going luckily a police van was passing I quickly stop the police and reported those guys as arm rubbers, come and see beating 😆😆

A lot of people had been victim to those guys once you fall to their trick they would take you to one empty building around Mile 2, collect your phone and everything you have

I don't want to mention the region those two guys came from 🚶🚶

For this Lagos na God day save MUMU

This happened to me some years back too but the fool didn't realise I am half Beninese and speak french. Immediately, I spoke French to him he started walking fast. Some boys almost bounced on him but I beg them not to kill someone on my behalf.

Idiots everywhere.

SpaceX:
How is it possible being scammed for 50 years

It is fake. If is a skit.