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Newborn27:
If this your post and budget is not clout chasing.... I'd definitely give you a big kudos for being the real man and father.


This is an indication that there are still responsible men out there whom knows their rights and responsibilities in life.


I pray God continue to bless you and make those kids grow up to fulfill destiny and make you proud.



I would've loved to suggest gifts for them but my thoughts had been wired lowly... I pray God change my status someday.

I'm sure they'd appreciate whatever you end up getting.

Thumbs up Sir!

Clout chasing on a faceless forum. I work at least 12 hours a day, I have no time for such nonsense.

Vickyeze:
I would suggest you take them out to a gift shop, allow them make their pick, then you as the adult will determine if they can handle what they can keep, seeing as they are children, their wants will outgrow as they age, so since you already have the permanents terms sorted out for them, get them temporary stuffs then. And don't stop healing too, you will be the best gift they will have.

Awesome advise. Thank you.

DeAnonymousGuy:
Goodluck bro.
Merry xmas in advance to your lovely daughters

Thank you bro. Merry Christmas in advance to you too.

skybeauty:
Buy Land for them with Adron Homes and Properties, buy the Product called young landlord and thank me later

They already have one plot each with adrons and I plan to buy more for them but I want some other things for them for Christmas, they always get gifts and I want this year not to be different, if different should be different in a better way for them.

Rinoxy:
I feel this. My own daughters are 6 and 4 years old respectively. Separated with their mum who didn't want to stay married. She relocated abroad n it's just me n my girls here. It's well with all well-meaning responsible men out there treated badly by their women.

It is well with you bro. I bloody wish she can just do the same as your wife so I can have my kids. I want resolution but not without change and if change is not going to come then I want mt daughters. I prayed to have 2 girls since I was a teenager GOD chose to give me three then I can only see them once in a while. Life is f*cking cruel.

EZENDIZUOGU:
Your best gift to them is to bring back their mother home, nothing pleases a child like the meal and love of a mother. you cant play that role better than their mum, no matter the amount of gift you buy for them. My 10k advice

They are with their mom, I am the one away which is something I hate but having suffered depression for 4 years, I think it is better to stay sane for them and to do that it means staying away.

Vickyeze:
I think you should sit with your girls and ask them what they want, they may have outrageous responses but it will give you an idea of what they would like, that is if you can't ask their mum.

I did this morning before starting this thread. They have been ringing it into my ears that their christmas clothes this christmas clothes that, I decided to sort that today but I feel me and their mom have not been fair on them ( I insist not my fault but their mother's ) and want to try to make them happy by buying them gifts. Unfortunately, their mom has obviously instructed them to say money.

femi4:
That's where their mother comes in. Ask their mother, don't ask us. She is closer to them than you or any nairalander

And you think I would not have tried this first?

DeAnonymousGuy:
Different strokes for different folks.
I have a daughter who will be 6 month by December. It hasn't even occurred to me that i have to make plans for her Christmas clothes as i am still tasked or concerned with pampers and baby foods.

How bout you get them desktop computers so they can learn other things aside being on their tablets.

I thought of computers but that would have worked better with me being around to teach them. I work online which would have made it even more interesting.

I will strongly consider this.

bassdow:
No matter how EXPENSIVE the GIFTs are, it could never fill the void your ABSENCE creates. Spend more time with them, and give them reason to always want you around.

Hopefully they're with you, and not with their mom, OR the situation of things between You annd their Mom, isn't so bad because Women have a way of turning KIDs away from their DAD, and it's always often a success, because She SPENDs more time with them.

Your own TASK should bbe ensuring that no matter how HARD she might TRY, She never succeeds.

Thank you. I am doing the best I can.

McLizbae:
Hmmm... Despite the loud Sapa in the land, you dare come out with such narration as this!? You are even seeking advice from a people, majority of who are not certain of 50k for Christmas&newyear celebrations for their entire family!

This you post and everything attributed is kind of insensitive. I for say show off, but this nah faceless forum.

Noy everyone is myopic.

captainamiedi1:
i feel your pains and the love for your kids. i suggest you look at spending time with them in ur current location for some days. they miss their dad. they might be coping well but deep down they miss u and you seems to miss them so much. you 100% right to the kids. it must not be with the mom you can be the dad and mom for some days.

They were with me for midterm and will be back for Easter. I doubt I can have them for Christmas as I am not willing to force anything but my kids will always be in my life, I work hard and try my best to stay healthy for them so that posterity will be kind on me and I have zero intention of changing regardless.

betshopagent:
dont trust lands investment only. Sticking it in One Direction is not wise. Try buying USDT and keeping it in their names too. If the federal government were to declare that no one should own lands again; the land becomes worthless. It's very possible bro. Just channel your investments in different areas. My 2 dollar!

Thank you for this. I have big plans for them unfortunately most of them involves their mom who I firmly believe will be mine forever, just a matter of time.

LordReed:
Get them the thing most girls of their age want: Toy sets. It could be dolls and dollhouse sets, Lego sets or any other playsets depending on individual preference. If you want them to be more active you could get them bicycles or musical instruments.

They have bicycles but I like your ideas and may be using them. Thanks.

SavageResponse:
You mean your wife is so bad she made you kolo?

Get some education, not everyone who is at the pyscharitic hospital is mad. I was badly depressed and forgetful.

PinkNature:
Waiting for your wife to be remorseful isn't the best idea sir. People like her don't get to be genuinely remorseful.

You don not deserve to stay under the same roof with a woman who made you spend a month in a mental asylum.

Once your kids get to reasonable age, please try to move them out from the manipulative and toxic reach of their mother until they are mature enough to handle narcissism and toxicity.

Take this advice for someone who stayed with a toxic woman (mother) for 17 years

I'll be glad sir, If I can obtain favour and get financial assistance from you sir.

I will be glad to help. I see you sent emails, drop your phone number.

And re my wife, I am a firm believer that she will change but until then I will stay away. Na she lose not me.

Farrason:
Make this Christmas a complete family by uniting with their mother and spending the Christmas as a family. It's not about money all the time. This Christmas can be about happiness, love, family values and strength in unity. Every other thing is secondary here!

If you know the story you won't give me this advise. I spent a month at the pyscharitic hospital two years ago because of a toxic and very manipulative wife who sadly I love. However, this time I am sticking to my guns until she changed, it has been 8 months I left home and have zero intention of return back until she shows remorseful and makes effort to change.

However, my duty as a father will never be neglected. I understand it is not always about money and I have never taken it to be about money but right now, the only thing I can do is spend money whilst hoping there will be a change.

Stevenbright:
Do those kids have a savings bank account each that you are saving into for their future use? If yes, how often are you funding the accounts and if no, that is what you should do.

My way of saving for them is buying lands for keeps for them. I intend to buy another plot of land in their names before end of June and they already have one each in good locations which I plan to develop for them and save the rent from there but this doesn't stop me from buying them a gift for Christmas. The future should not affect the now.

VerifiedGadgets:
Kiddies Tabs available ✓

I already mentioned that they have tablets.

My daughters ( 3 of them ) have been through a lot this year. They are not used to daddy not being around ( Me and their mother are currently separated but I am hoping she would change and we would be back together ), so far the seem to be coping fine but I want to make this Christmas an awesome one for them and need gift ideas.

Please give me gift ideas.

I have a budget of 200k for each of them. This includes 100k each for their clothes and shoes for Christmas and New year.

And another 100k to buy them gifts they will like. They all have ulesson tablets so tablets are not options.

They are 7, 4 and 3.

Women have started planting stories like this to cover their behind. Una well done.

No one will believe you. I am going through the issue and if you are not careful you will be so blackmailed to the point that you will consider suicide.

Just look away and let GOD do the exposing.

Lastmankc:
Ground the economy by force

Some of you people are just senseless. Ground the economy and you think you and your poor family won't be affected?

1TrippleCee:
I was travelling from abuka to oyo driver was sleeping. Straight i told some assengerss. We scoped him we wanted to urinate.

Once he stopped, we told him we werent hurrying and he should rest thirty minutes.


Nigerians are overworked. And need to work four times extra to maintain their living

Thank you for being so considerate. People are going through a lot of shiit in this country. I was once admitted in a general hospital and people legit could not afford 1500 naira to eat per day. I had to self discharge as I could not bare seeing people suffering and in that particular ward, helping people is restricted which made it even more difficult.

We should try to help as many people as people, it is the only thing we can do.

master69:
Yes oo, the first deduction was 1600, followed by 2400 then 3400 I had to transfer the remaining balance to a different account.. funny enough the reasons for the money could not be achieved again because of their dubious act...is really painful sha in this January.

How much did you borrow?

samwillyco1:
Please read before commenting, he was removed by the court because of the error made by INEC. INEC made a mistake of not including his name on the result sheet.

This is not the case, you should read well before lecturing others.

What happened was fraud by Labour party. Someone else in LP won, they replaced him with Okereke and got what they deserve as a result.

I don't pay tithes anymore ( because I was forced into doing so before ) but I am the firm believer in the fact that 99% if not 100% of what GOD asks us to do is for our own good.

Praise him, it is you who will be energized. I took my prayer life a bit more serious this year and somehow my productivity in other aspects increased too.

Worship him, it is you who will discover that your situation is not half as bad as you make it to be. I am happy I know my GOD and I am discovering him better and better by the day.

Amicable24:
So in essence, you dey pray for Dangote refinery to fail ba??

I don't do those APC vs PDP shiit with you guys. I am pro Nigeria. Whether good or bad, I will make money regardless, I am a very high intelligent person who has GOD on his side so regardless of what happens, I will ALWAYS HAVE MORE THAN ENOUGH ( mind the caps ).

PoliteActivist:
Wow, same Emefiele that as we speak is locked up, or another one?
And how do you reconcile all this with this below in terms of long term prognosis

Open another thread on inflation and tag me and I will response. What we are talking about here is how dangote refinery will impact the naira. Dumb ass.

PoliteActivist:
You are the one desperate. I only state reality. Someone didn't have agreement to hire Nigerians but had agreement to sell in Naira - currency that FG can print as they wish. Receive sense

Me desperate? Whether they sell in naira or dollar I gain regardless. I earn my cool dollars unlike you rely on polithievians to pay you stipends.

PoliteActivist:
Which agreement? Funny guy. See below

You are just one of those retards who are desperate for Nigeria to fail for their own agenda. Where in the images you sent showed dangote will sell in dollars? You are just making a fool of yourself.